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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hi all,

so fairly new on the site as i haven't been here much until very recently and i'm only after bi guys. got an email from a lady saying she thinks her husband has been sleeping with me and she joined the site just to find out because she really needs to know and they have a 4 month old baby at home.

what do i do in this situation? i havent even met the quy in question but i feel bad for her if she wasn't aware what he gets up to. so do i comfirm he's contacted me or just ignore her and let it go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all,

so fairly new on the site as i haven't been here much until very recently and i'm only after bi guys. got an email from a lady saying she thinks her husband has been sleeping with me and she joined the site just to find out because she really needs to know and they have a 4 month old baby at home.

what do i do in this situation? i havent even met the quy in question but i feel bad for her if she wasn't aware what he gets up to. so do i comfirm he's contacted me or just ignore her and let it go?

"

Not sure if you have or have not met him, because last sentance seems to indicate opposits lol..

Persoanlly has someone who was stalked on another site - i say send her message saying " not got a clue what your on about- i dont play with married men etc" and then leave well alone and dont touch with a barge pole form there on - and if she contacts you again just ignor her.

Good luck

Pete climbs down from soap box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you had met him - she shouldn't be putting you in the position, if she thinks her fella is shagging men behind her back she needs to ask him out right or find proof on the internet history,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if you had met him - she shouldn't be putting you in the position, if she thinks her fella is shagging men behind her back she needs to ask him out right or find proof on the internet history, "

Busty is a Bi women - unless i missed something lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id suggest you block the profile, ignore, dont fuel the fire, its not your problem even if you had met him. Its his

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sorry if there was any confusion in what i wrote, i havent met him,only chatted on here and i'm a woman interested in bi men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even if you had met him - she shouldn't be putting you in the position, if she thinks her fella is shagging men behind her back she needs to ask him out right or find proof on the internet history, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep that's what confused me lol doesn't take much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had an irate partner contact me on a bdsm website. Me and him had only exchanged messages but she'd apparantly found them and was engaged to him, unbeknownst to me.

In all fairness she was mad at him not me, so I just told her that yes he had messaged me and blocked her.

I assume that since then, he has had his dick bitten off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, i'd say, a person with that profile name contacted me, i didn't want anything to do with them, i would never knowingly play with a married man and i'm sorry for your husbands obvious problems but i want no more to do with this situation.

But I guess that my experience having been the jilted woman at one time. you just want someone to tell you the truth.

(i would also then block her profile that she contacted you with and his profile)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"sorry if there was any confusion in what i wrote, i havent met him,only chatted on here and i'm a woman interested in bi men x"

well then tell her what you just told us.... simple as that...

heck if you want point her in the direction of this thread....

if he didn't tell you he was with someone I don't see why you should bail him out of a situation he created.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My suggestion would be to let honesty rule. Fine, reply that you have not been with the womans fellah (if you haven't) but then offer her some advice (in a sympathetic fasion, if you prefer).

Suggest to the lady that she ought realy speak to her hb/partner as it obvioulsy bothers her, she seems to have found him on this site. If she wants to finish with him, I would suspect that being on a swinging site and looking for it is unfaithfull enough even without 'consumating'.

If she thinks she can forgive him (or even join in........) she can have that conversation with him too.

Having given that advice, refer her to this thread and then block her (for to avoid fear of an abusive response.......)

Only my £0.02 though......... good luck

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I value discretion - so I would never divulge anything and would be as non-commital as I could be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks everyone, i asked for your advice because i'm not one to tell on another person but as a woman and one who's been cheated on in the past, u just want some honest answers. anyways i guess best thing is to block them both and wish them luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he is bi

he is in manchester

is he cute ?

please pass him my number

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If it was me I would tell the mailer the truth as I wouldn't have done anything wrong.

Send a mail saying yes I have spoken to him....I would then block and let them go sort it out themselves.

On the other hand, the person mailing you might not be his wife and could well be someone from the site who is jealous he is speaking to someone else ( it does happen ) so either way, I would report the mails too.

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By *indylou47Woman
over a year ago

BOLTON

A similar thing happened to me when I first joined the site. A guy from a couples profile (there were pics of both of them on it) contacted me wanting to meet. When I asked for a phone conversation with his OH there was always an excuse for her not being available, which set alarm bells ringing. I then got a message from his OH via another profile asking if we'd met. I said we hadn't but we had exchanged messages. She wasn't blaming me and I felt for her. They had a young baby and he'd apparently played away before and promised her he wouldn't do it again. Needless to say his profile disappeared from the site and I wouldnt be surprised if she ripped his balls off as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry if there was any confusion in what i wrote, i havent met him,only chatted on here and i'm a woman interested in bi men x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry if there was any confusion in what i wrote, i havent met him,only chatted on here and i'm a woman interested in bi men x"

personally i think you just tell her that you have never met him.. if she asks if he has chatted, then you just say that you chat to lots of guys on here and you wouldnt know if you have chatted to her hubby because you dont know who he is.

if she persists then just back off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he is bi

he is in manchester

is he cute ?

please pass him my number

"

never miss an opportunity!

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not saying as a bloke im saying this as a person, i wouldnt personally tell her anything its not your problem if he is cheating regardless if its happened to you or not, i would just delete both profiles and thats the end of it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"he is bi

he is in manchester

is he cute ?

please pass him my number

never miss an opportunity!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up."

thanks

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

[Removed by poster at 28/06/12 11:01:35]

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

I read it yesterday obviously had a recent revamp. It's great isn't it.

Back to topic, do what you feel is right but if you cannot be certain you have chatted don't add fuel to the fire. Bear in mind though if she's joined as a single fem she may have 714 messages to sift through since 0612 am.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up.

thanks "

Having read ClubPartyPeeps comment, caused me to read Bussy's profile. I have to admit if there was a prize for the most humerous profile on FAB, this one would surely win...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up.

thanks "

For those who want to read a dead funny profile you gotta read BUSSY's by far the funiest i have ever read --- thanks mate for bringing a smile to my face today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up.

thanks

For those who want to read a dead funny profile you gotta read BUSSY's by far the funiest i have ever read --- thanks mate for bringing a smile to my face today "

Aww thanks guys. I really am grateful, but please don't make this thread about my profile.

The lady has an issue / problem, that she asked for advice on.

Let's concentrate on that

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Lol very original and humorous you do realise you have broken the male secret code and revealed what we men are really like Bussy.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

tell her all you know.

you spoke

nothing has come of it

you werent interested in meeting anyway as you are looking for bi men, and unless she knows something you dont, her hubby isnt bi.

then, as said, block them both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask her if she fancy a 3 some when possible...that way she will leave you alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up."

bussy's profile is proper funny, the best profile i've seen on here. ..jane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id suggest you block the profile, ignore, dont fuel the fire, its not your problem even if you had met him. Its his "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it was me I would tell the mailer the truth as I wouldn't have done anything wrong.

Send a mail saying yes I have spoken to him....I would then block and let them go sort it out themselves.

On the other hand, the person mailing you might not be his wife and could well be someone from the site who is jealous he is speaking to someone else ( it does happen ) so either way, I would report the mails too."

I agree with the first bit of that, and as other people have said.

Not sure about the second bit. Blocking the mailer would be a good idea, but why report? Surely she should only report the mailer if she is being abusive? Can't remember the OP's exact words but I got the impression the mail was just asking if the OP had contacted the bloke in question. That's a fair question. Why the need to report the mail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reading Bussy's profile cracked us up."

omg how funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None issue.tell her to FF...at least you havent done anything wrong

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"If it was me I would tell the mailer the truth as I wouldn't have done anything wrong.

Send a mail saying yes I have spoken to him....I would then block and let them go sort it out themselves.

On the other hand, the person mailing you might not be his wife and could well be someone from the site who is jealous he is speaking to someone else ( it does happen ) so either way, I would report the mails too.

I agree with the first bit of that, and as other people have said.

Not sure about the second bit. Blocking the mailer would be a good idea, but why report? Surely she should only report the mailer if she is being abusive? Can't remember the OP's exact words but I got the impression the mail was just asking if the OP had contacted the bloke in question. That's a fair question. Why the need to report the mail?"

In case the person is trying to cause trouble on a second account.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys but she's now left the site. just wish people would be honest sometimes. as much as i wanna have fun, i do not wanna cause offence to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had three partners contact me in the past year. all of men I had not had sex with so I just said, I am sorry I have no idea who you are talking about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are accountable only to yourself. No obligation to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hi all,

so fairly new on the site as i haven't been here much until very recently and i'm only after bi guys. got an email from a lady saying she thinks her husband has been sleeping with me and she joined the site just to find out because she really needs to know and they have a 4 month old baby at home.

what do i do in this situation? i havent even met the quy in question but i feel bad for her if she wasn't aware what he gets up to. so do i comfirm he's contacted me or just ignore her and let it go?

"

Tell her to sort it out with him and not involve you as you take what people tell you as face value.

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