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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Ok so been on fab a few years now. But recently it seems to be harder to get actual genuine meets so what are people looking for in a first message? All feed back appreciated

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I would imagine different people will be looking for different things. Its possible the pool is getting smaller. Good luck in your adventures.

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice "

Thank you for your non helpful message. I'm a frontline worker so yes thanks i have heard of it. X

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I would imagine different people will be looking for different things. Its possible the pool is getting smaller. Good luck in your

adventures."

Yes you may be right thanks for the input and good luck to you also

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice "

Sorry maybe i should have clarified a little more. What I'm asking about is i must send quite a few messages daily well though out with face pics attached and always respectful over half never get opened x

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice

Thank you for your non helpful message. I'm a frontline worker so yes thanks i have heard of it. X"

Yes I'm a frontline worker too, in a hospital, and wasn't meaning to be unhelpful but obviously the current situation has made it harder to meet people. Was just trying to help with your question.

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By *ruckingscouser69Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yeah I get where you're coming from, you get loads of profiles saying "messages with 'hi' or 'how are you' or 'fancy a fuck' will be deleted" so you type a carefully worded message, trying hard not to fall into any of the aforementioned traps, only to be totally blanked, or worse, left unread ??

I've read on other threads that (rightly, of course) nobody is entitled to a reply, just take a deleted post as a polite 'no thanks' but it's very frustrating and demoralising ??

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice

Thank you for your non helpful message. I'm a frontline worker so yes thanks i have heard of it. X

Yes I'm a frontline worker too, in a hospital, and wasn't meaning to be unhelpful but obviously the current situation has made it harder to meet people. Was just trying to help with your question. "

Sorry lets start again. Thank you for your reply. I think this high lights a point it's got so difficult on here and not just duribg covid period x

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Yeah I get where you're coming from, you get loads of profiles saying "messages with 'hi' or 'how are you' or 'fancy a fuck' will be deleted" so you type a carefully worded message, trying hard not to fall into any of the aforementioned traps, only to be totally blanked, or worse, left unread ??

I've read on other threads that (rightly, of course) nobody is entitled to a reply, just take a deleted post as a polite 'no thanks' but it's very frustrating and demoralising ??"

Yeah i hear you out of lets say 20 messages maybe 3/4 get opened with no reply and i take that as a no thank you and respect that. Maybe 1 reply actually saying thanks but no thanks and i always reply saying thanks anyway the rest unopened

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice

Thank you for your non helpful message. I'm a frontline worker so yes thanks i have heard of it. X

Yes I'm a frontline worker too, in a hospital, and wasn't meaning to be unhelpful but obviously the current situation has made it harder to meet people. Was just trying to help with your question.

Sorry lets start again. Thank you for your reply. I think this high lights a point it's got so difficult on here and not just duribg covid period x"

Thanks actually you have a great profile, nice veris and despite no public pics I assume you send some with your messages, it's just harder to meet or get replies generally now because of the lockdowns etc don't take it personally, best place is the clubs when they open again.

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"It may be to do with the virus. Have you heard of it? It's been on the news once or twice

Thank you for your non helpful message. I'm a frontline worker so yes thanks i have heard of it. X

Yes I'm a frontline worker too, in a hospital, and wasn't meaning to be unhelpful but obviously the current situation has made it harder to meet people. Was just trying to help with your question.

Sorry lets start again. Thank you for your reply. I think this high lights a point it's got so difficult on here and not just duribg covid period x

Thanks actually you have a great profile, nice veris and despite no public pics I assume you send some with your messages, it's just harder to meet or get replies generally now because of the lockdowns etc don't take it personally, best place is the clubs when they open again. "

Thank you lisa you've restored some of my faith x

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We're new to things but our guess from what we've learnt is that single Men are a lot less desired. Sorry if that comes across as stating the obvious.

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"We're new to things but our guess from what we've learnt is that single Men are a lot less desired. Sorry if that comes across as stating the obvious."

No not at all yes i understand we are at a loss as there are lits off us. I always put effort in to messages but i guess I'm just looking for some feedback IE - Things people like/look for in a first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't open half of what comes through my inbox. I'm not trying to be nasty or demoralising but if I opened every message, I'd spend all day in my inbox especially if I them replied with a thanks but no thanks to them all too.

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I don't open half of what comes through my inbox. I'm not trying to be nasty or demoralising but if I opened every message, I'd spend all day in my inbox especially if I them replied with a thanks but no thanks to them all too.

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I hear you and yes i understand that if your get lots of messages which you undoubtedly will be you can't possibly reply to all. I generally take an opened one with no reply as a no. Thanks for your input x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read a post earlier where the woman stated she had 964 messages in a single day i imagine majority were deleted straight away.

Yes this covid isn't helping anyone because people aren't meeting but also I maybe wrong here but because less people are meeting the guys are sending more messages in the hope of a meet to people they wouldn't normally message in blunt terminology more supply than there is demand for single guys and even more so now.

Make your intro maybe a little different if a woman receives a 100 messages and 80 start with the intro hi,how are you,nice pics she will probably assume that all the messages will be like for like and either not read or just mass delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us men are very hard cause most of them are only interested in looks nothing else..and even if you write a proper message even with face pictures you still get no response..I know I know people get thousands per day..but let's be honest if it's a brad Pitt picture people dont even bother to read they reply straight away..that's a fact..but everyone's opinion change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us men are very hard cause most of them are only interested in looks nothing else..and even if you write a proper message even with face pictures you still get no response..I know I know people get thousands per day..but let's be honest if it's a brad Pitt picture people dont even bother to read they reply straight away..that's a fact..but everyone's opinion change."

That's not a fact at all unless you can provide a source? Everyone is different and while some may go for looks (totally their right) not everyone does. Some would like a decent message which are few and far between, some like myself just come on here for the forum and have a tendancy to ignore their inboxes. Please don't tar us all with that "their all shallow" brush.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think Lisa had it bang on to be honest OP for 6 months now the idea of "meeting" has been off the table for the vast majority of the site - so if you're looking to meet then it really should be no surprise that you're finding it harder to find.

If you'd said finding it harder to strike up a conversation then that would be different - but again may be impacted by COVID, I have no idea how many people have joined since lockdown, but I know a lot who have gone quiet as their focus shifts elsewhere - so that may come into it.

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By *llesmere OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think Lisa had it bang on to be honest OP for 6 months now the idea of "meeting" has been off the table for the vast majority of the site - so if you're looking to meet then it really should be no surprise that you're finding it harder to find.

If you'd said finding it harder to strike up a conversation then that would be different - but again may be impacted by COVID, I have no idea how many people have joined since lockdown, but I know a lot who have gone quiet as their focus shifts elsewhere - so that may come into it."

Yes harder to strike up a conversation

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