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"We do chat and i know she likes black guys - i have no problem with that in this day and age, but combined with the music it makes me uncomfortable. " Why does it make you uncomfortable ? | |||
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"If this wasn't true i'd put it in the fantasy section. I know the reality of this situation - just need the kick up my pants to keep me on track - there are boundaries i have to respect. I'm mid 50's and i have been teaching my 19 year old neighbour to drive for about 6 months. She's a nice girl but has had boy problems in the past - i would say she is a good looking girl who knows how to show her figure off - why wouldn't she - hot teenager rather than tarty. When teaching her the theory in the summer she would come round in a crop top, braless. Every so often she might straighten her hair, at which point the top would ride up and i would see the curve of her breast. On one occasion i saw her nipple for a couple of seconds. We started driving and she plays a lot of D&B and Drill music - if you haven't heard Drill its pretty hardcore black street music. We do chat and i know she likes black guys - i have no problem with that in this day and age, but combined with the music it makes me uncomfortable. I'm there to help her learn to drive but i can't help but get turned on at the thought of her. I've seen her grow up and i'm the trusted neighbour and i'm not going to cross boundaries and make an idiot of myself. So i guess this is a bit of self therapy. " Sorry I’m lost. What has her liking for black guys got to do with anything ? | |||
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"If this wasn't true i'd put it in the fantasy section. I know the reality of this situation - just need the kick up my pants to keep me on track - there are boundaries i have to respect. I'm mid 50's and i have been teaching my 19 year old neighbour to drive for about 6 months. She's a nice girl but has had boy problems in the past - i would say she is a good looking girl who knows how to show her figure off - why wouldn't she - hot teenager rather than tarty. When teaching her the theory in the summer she would come round in a crop top, braless. Every so often she might straighten her hair, at which point the top would ride up and i would see the curve of her breast. On one occasion i saw her nipple for a couple of seconds. We started driving and she plays a lot of D&B and Drill music - if you haven't heard Drill its pretty hardcore black street music. We do chat and i know she likes black guys - i have no problem with that in this day and age, but combined with the music it makes me uncomfortable. I'm there to help her learn to drive but i can't help but get turned on at the thought of her. I've seen her grow up and i'm the trusted neighbour and i'm not going to cross boundaries and make an idiot of myself. So i guess this is a bit of self therapy. Sorry I’m lost. What has her liking for black guys got to do with anything ? " It gets him off. | |||
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"We do chat and i know she likes black guys - i have no problem with that in this day and age, but combined with the music it makes me uncomfortable. Why does it make you uncomfortable ?" The “lyrics” are fairly basic and gritty. Using women without much care for them. I think she is probably wiser than I give her credit for but I would be more comfortable if she listened to Barry Manilow ! I’ve forgotten what it’s like to be young ! | |||
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"How did you come to be teaching her to drive?" During lockdown ? | |||
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"I think it's a bit pervy tbh "i can't help but get turned on at the thought of her". " Not sure how to reply to that. I have said it turns me on which makes me a bit pervy in your view, and i can see why. Just reinforces the point that i'm a fool and mustn't do anything daft !" | |||
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"Aren't driving lessons normally taken without listening to distracting D+B and drill music ? To fail a theory test 11 times in two years is quite an achievement !" she is a lovely girl but not the brightest- she just needed a bit of focus. Regarding the driving my approach is two fold - learning to drive safely (which she will do with music blaring away) and learning to pass the test - the two are not mutually exclusive. | |||
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"If her listening D & B and Drill Music makes you uncomfortable, maybe switch over to Magic FM" bizarrely some of it i quite like now ! "Secrets" DJ Khalid and Lil Nas x are new to my ipad ! The Drill is a bit more of an acquired taste ! | |||
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"Next time say to her 'i nearly saw your boob then' she might be that thick she hasn't realised, then see what her reply is, you will know from her reaction what her intentions are ........ and no music whilst learning, full focus should be on the driving, no wonder she's failed 11 times !!!!" i'm not sure which one of us would be more mortified if i said that ! I think discretion is probably the better part of valour in this case ! | |||
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"if it makes you uncomfortable, stop doing it " i want to get her to pass, bit of a mission i guess. Just need the reality check this thread is giving. Q. What does a 19 year old girl see in a 50year old man ? A. Nothing more than the help he is giving her to learn to drive. | |||
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"if it makes you uncomfortable, stop doing it i want to get her to pass, bit of a mission i guess. Just need the reality check this thread is giving. Q. What does a 19 year old girl see in a 50year old man ? A. Nothing more than the help he is giving her to learn to drive." Don't assume that she's naive or innocent though. Remain the mature adult in this situation | |||
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"if it makes you uncomfortable, stop doing it i want to get her to pass, bit of a mission i guess. Just need the reality check this thread is giving. Q. What does a 19 year old girl see in a 50year old man ? A. Nothing more than the help he is giving her to learn to drive. Don't assume that she's naive or innocent though. Remain the mature adult in this situation" i will do. Thanks for everyone's input | |||
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"This is just my opinion not right or wrong but it comes from personal experience. Do not act on this she is 19 what she wears or music she listens to does not give anyone the right to think they can have her. I was 17 and my driving instructor was a much older man, he took advantage of me being being much younger and well I’ve never gotten over it. He blamed me for wearing clothing th at excited him and lead me to believe it was my fault. ( as an adult now I realise that it was never my fault.) if as an older man where this girl has not expressed an interest in you in words or physical behaviour ie touching you too must not do anything. If it is too much to control your feelings ( understandable you find her attractive no crime in that) then perhaps to step down from the situation maybe best.... this is not porn but real life.... please take what I say with the respect it is ment with xxx" thank you, you summed it up very eloquently. I know what is right and wrong, and even in the highly unlikely event she made a move i would be panic stricken ! I will report back periodically (test is early november). I will behave - i know its the only thing to do. | |||
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"No wounder she cannot pass her test, if she is listening to that crap instead of the lessons " no it was the theory she failed. She hasn't taken the practical yet. She's actually a very competent / positive driver. | |||
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