FabSwingers.com forum: Poly wants a cracker

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Soooooo.......we are seriously deciding to go poly. So C has a real ladyfriend, that is involved with our relationship.

Were both in this legit but for gods sake, how do we get into this?, how do we find the right lady for us that we are right for her? And how do we avoid the obvious issues!?

SandC

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Soooooo.......we are seriously deciding to go poly. So C has a real ladyfriend, that is involved with our relationship.

Were both in this legit but for gods sake, how do we get into this?, how do we find the right lady for us that we are right for her? And how do we avoid the obvious issues!?

SandC"

Easy just choose me

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Remember this hypothetical third person is a human being, with their own needs and desires.

Try reading More Than Two (websites and book), look for your local poly group if there is one... Join poly groups on Facebook and learn from those of us who have been poly for some time.

I'm always open to questions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Remember this hypothetical third person is a human being, with their own needs and desires.

Try reading More Than Two (websites and book), look for your local poly group if there is one... Join poly groups on Facebook and learn from those of us who have been poly for some time.

I'm always open to questions. "

Yeah, this is the thing, we want comfort and honesty all round, we arnt after the obligitory "unicorn". We want more of a long term, friend and eventually, a third person, an equal, with us

Sandc

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

That's a decent place to start off from.

Have you read More Than Two or The Ethical Slut?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No, but we can deffinately give them a look. It is new to us but weve been discussing for quite some time now, and want to do this properly, so all involved know where we all stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C/we are looking for a poly relationship too, male or female

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

You have a lady friend already involved and yet you want to find another one wow peeps find it hard finding one let alone two good luck x

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"You have a lady friend already involved and yet you want to find another one wow peeps find it hard finding one let alone two good luck x"

Some of us are just not wired for monogamous relationships. It's not that I specifically go looking for more women....I simply cannot turn off my capacity to have to have loving feelings for more than one.

It's certainly not easy. But hopefully nobody ever claimed it was.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

Two words: Google Calendar

I was solo poly for a while before meeting my bf and it can work fine as long as everyone is on board with basics like condoms and testing.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Two words: Google Calendar

I was solo poly for a while before meeting my bf and it can work fine as long as everyone is on board with basics like condoms and testing. "

Yup. Google calendar is every poly person's friend. Plus were generally good at discussing sexual safety and risk assessment.

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By *oxychick35Couple
over a year ago

thornaby

It’s worked for us as a 3 fmf for 5 yrs now

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