FabSwingers.com forum: Straight women joining MF couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I remember this being discussed before and just wondered if people had become more enlightened since last time...

Why is it that when men join a MF couple, unless he specifically states that he is bi, nobody expects the guys to lube up and get fucking. But when couples approach a straight female to join them, they always expect you to be bi. Even when you state that you are straight, there is always the "But what if it's just kissing/you just receive" etc.

Why is a man's sexuality more respected than a woman's? Especially considering that the women on here are generally more honest about their sexual orientation than the men are...

So has this dynamic ever worked for you?

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldn't presume that at all. Same way when couples swap wouldn't expect FF if someone said they were straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't presume that at all. Same way when couples swap wouldn't expect FF if someone said they were straight "

Sadly from my experience of people contacting me and the previous time I posted about it, you are in the minority

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By *nya888Woman
over a year ago

London

Often get it the other way round. I'm bi and asked to join the mff even if the f is not bi. If it was to share the man, then might be alright. But it's still mostly to 'please the female'. Not really into fem play if it's not the fem 's thing..

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Put us in the minority box too then.

Because we prefer our meets to not be just sexual, we are happy to play with straight people and never make assumptions or demands on them to bend their limits.

If the person we were going to play with did not want the same sex partner to spank, tease or torment them then so be it. What we wouldn't want is one person being left out completely as thats not fun.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We play on equal terms - everyone's boundaries respected. Is there any other way?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I remember this being discussed before and just wondered if people had become more enlightened since last time...

Why is a man's sexuality more respected than a woman's? Especially considering that the women on here are generally more honest about their sexual orientation than the men are...

So has this dynamic ever worked for you?"

This is why i will not meet couples.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

We would never want to play with someone of our likes are not compatible, so we wouldn’t even approach a straight lady! We want to both play with a girl fully so would only look for bi lady’s. Asking someone to be bi when they aren’t sucks.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

A straight FmF is fun, which doesn't always have to be with a couple either. Generally events like this are planned with everyone's boundaries very clearly discussed beforehand and I would never join them without it

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I remember this being discussed before and just wondered if people had become more enlightened since last time...

Why is a man's sexuality more respected than a woman's? Especially considering that the women on here are generally more honest about their sexual orientation than the men are...

So has this dynamic ever worked for you?

This is why i will not meet couples."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just don't understand why it is deemed so controversial. Single men join couples all the time - nobody thinks it's weird or asks what's the point as he's only playing with one half of the couple. But when a single woman is open to joining a couple and playing with the man only, suddenly it's weird.

Plenty of men like to watch their female partners with a new man - we all accept it yet we don't apply the same logic and standards to a woman who enjoys watching her male partner with a new woman. Why?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I actually would quite like to join a couple but all the couples with a straight female are looking for a male.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I just don't understand why it is deemed so controversial. Single men join couples all the time - nobody thinks it's weird or asks what's the point as he's only playing with one half of the couple. But when a single woman is open to joining a couple and playing with the man only, suddenly it's weird.

Again as this is one of my fantasies that’s probably why I’m struggling to understand other people who don’t accept that. I’m Bi but would happily play straight with another woman for a FMF.

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By *herubCheeksWoman
over a year ago

seaside

I am bi curious but had too many mails from couples so put straight

but still get a few nails not many since wishing hoping but no thanks

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By *cooby_PinkySECouple
over a year ago

brighton

Something we would never do. Plain wrong, rude, uncaring. One must always respect others wishes.

If others likes do not align with yours why try playing games? What good can come of it? Eww, makes us mad.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Personally, if someone says they’re straight, I believe them (unless it’s clearly shown that they’re not really). So if, as often happens, I’m contacted by a couple who say the woman is straight, I don’t pursue it. Because if I’m meeting a couple, I want to play with them both. I don’t want to join them to only play with one while the other watches, whichever way round that is.

By extension, if I’m on my couple profile looking for a woman, I won’t even consider anyone who says they’re straight, because I assume they’re telling the truth and I wouldn’t dream of trying to convince anyone to do something they’re not into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't play with straight women. We prefer to play in situations where everyone is involved, comfortable and keen.

A straight lady simply isn't what we're looking for.

When meeting people at clubs, we always discuss dynamics before playing so wouldn't ever happen to us personally.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Happily in the minority box too,

Everyone has their own version of what they are comfortable with, we would always respect others boundaries and sexuality. We wouldn't want to play to please.

Being wanted is part of the turn on, I'd be dry as the desert if the fem wasn't into me anyway lol.. Mrs.

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

This is why we have a social before any meet. Everyone has to agree on limits before play or it just doesn't work. If you are straight then you are straight. No one should put caviates on that. If the try then the meet is over. Rhiannon only likes to kiss girls and play above the waist because she hasn't found anyone she wants to go further with. It limits us a little but that's her choice and needs to be respected.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"A straight FmF is fun, which doesn't always have to be with a couple either. Generally events like this are planned with everyone's boundaries very clearly discussed beforehand and I would never join them without it"

Agreed as long as its fMf not FmF, that’s just pure torture....

We are straight and rarely play together with a single female but when we have done it’s fMf and no ff play expected.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I have done it, mainly the lady enjoyed seeing her man with another woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't approach a straight female. Mrs loves the bi experience in an mff. Bizzare that someone who writes 'straight' in their profile would be expected to play with the female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both bi. We've played with straight people before. It's never been an issue to us. So long as everyone is on the same page, I'd have zero problem sharing hubby with a straight lady... I'm pretty sure he wouldn't either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can definitely see your frustration OP.

I have tried to verbalise the best I can for why we would only look for a bi lady:

When a M joins us , and is straight; That is fine as (like many other couples- not all), mr P is straight. He has no desire to be played with. The end goal is probably to play with female and satisfy her. Mr P May have an image in his head and I certainly enjoy being filled and lots of hands. I have lots of holes to stick things for them both to be satisfied.

When we have the pleasure of a female; the dynamics change because I am bi. So; if we welcome a female we are hoping all of us can play. If she is straight only; then boundaries then have to be set and I at times are left out (let’s face it- there is therefore only one tool to play with then isn’t there). Although mr P May enjoy us both for a bit, I can guarantee I would probably be left unsatisfied and excluded.

I hope that gives our honest opinion. It’s not meant to be judgemental.

If we got approached by a lady who only played straight we would offer mr P solo - as really what’s the point of a 3some in our eyes?

Please do correct me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually would quite like to join a couple but all the couples with a straight female are looking for a male."
feel free to join us

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Same as many of the others in the thread. Honey is bi curious and does enjoy the company of a female playmate is the chemistry is there but is much more cock centric. It's purely about respecting someone elses sexuality and being happy with the status quo.

For us, we'd prefer a straight mff to never be a quickie so both ladies can be enjoyed properly before collapsing into an exhausted pile of arms and legs

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