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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who's married or seeing someone and having fun behind their partners back on here and do they feel guilty x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 26/06/12 18:48:31]"

yes or a no then lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I cheated on someone I didnt feel guilty.. it was just a need I had..

btw I couldnt cheat now.. it would just be wrong.. but then, I cheated before because there was just always something missing.. now there isnt.

When I play with married or attached now, I don't feel guilty.

*putting on hard hat and flak jacket for this thread.

cali

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"[Removed by poster at 26/06/12 18:48:31]

yes or a no then lol x"

No, im not cheating on my innocent other half while they have no knowledge of me getting my end away cause i cant be bothered to sort out my marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I cheated on someone I didnt feel guilty.. it was just a need I had..

btw I couldnt cheat now.. it would just be wrong.. but then, I cheated before because there was just always something missing.. now there isnt.

When I play with married or attached now, I don't feel guilty.

*putting on hard hat and flak jacket for this thread.

cali "

But that's with consent isn't it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me and I don't care as I not gettin any oats at home

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If people want to cheat far dos, the one thing i cant stand is those that smirk about it like its some fucking trophy their carrying around

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If people want to cheat far dos, the one thing i cant stand is those that smirk about it like its some fucking trophy their carrying around"

No ones smirking here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make sure I don't play with married or attached people who don't have their partner's permission to play. If they don't know then I see it as cheating which isn't swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abbie I'd cheet wit u any day xxxxx Tia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Abbie I'd cheet wit u any day xxxxx Tia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... yes I am ... to fulfill my own needs ... no I don't feel guilty because he still gets his needs met ... he just has different needs now and I'm not one of them.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If people want to cheat far dos, the one thing i cant stand is those that smirk about it like its some fucking trophy their carrying around"

I must admit I too find that galling. Along with those that contact me asking what's my problem not meeting married men. It's NSA, I accommodate.

Then again why would I expect anything less?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't meet attached folk. Most couples in here it isn't cheating as have partners consent. But what if didn't have a partner who was into swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But that's with consent isn't it now "

Not to sure what you mean but I don't count what I do now as cheating with consent. And I've been in open relationships in the past.. but even though I had others I still cheated.

Now I wouldn't dream of it.. in fact I love it when we stop playing and just share in each other for a bit... I can happily say that if master said tmw.. that's it. Monogamous relationship for us.. it would be no hardship..

And everything I do now is together in some way.

Cali

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"If people want to cheat far dos, the one thing i cant stand is those that smirk about it like its some fucking trophy their carrying around

No ones smirking here "

dont say your not smirking with that profile pic, lol

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not cheating on anyone... I'm single

I also choose not to meet married / attached people.

They are free to do whatever they want, but not with me...

I have a bit more respect for those who are open about it and say on their profile that they're cheating.... But those who claim to be single when in fact they're not... They're the lowest of the low in my opinion. Everyone should be allowed to have the choice of who they want to meet and who they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is phone sex behind a partners back cheating ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is phone sex behind a partners back cheating ???"

depends some people think it would be others not cos yr not touching one another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is phone sex behind a partners back cheating ???"

Nah I wouldn't say so. No more harm that watching porn.

I'd say more a physical act.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Not cheating on anyone... I'm single

I also choose not to meet married / attached people.

They are free to do whatever they want, but not with me...

I have a bit more respect for those who are open about it and say on their profile that they're cheating.... But those who claim to be single when in fact they're not... They're the lowest of the low in my opinion. Everyone should be allowed to have the choice of who they want to meet and who they don't. "

hae no respect for anyone cheating, full stop, whether they tell people on here or not.

IF, however, they have the scars from telling their partner what they are doing, THEN, and only with a phone number for the other party, are we going to consider them.

have said before, we have each been on the receiving end of it, and it aint nice, so arent going to facilitate someone elses ability to do such

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Is phone sex behind a partners back cheating ???"

depends if you are doing it to a detriment to sexual contact with your partner.

if so then, yes, just as watching porn instead of actually having sex with your OH would be cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't agree, that's not cheating that is just pleasuring yourself. A whole different thing!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Your smirking in your avator, i play on this site as a single woman, i have a wonderful boyfriend and guess what he knows everything i do. Why cant you just write it on your profile your married and be done with it without having to draw attention to yourself

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

and dont take the piss

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Can't agree, that's not cheating that is just pleasuring yourself. A whole different thing!"

i agree, IF it is not to the detriment of a physical relationship with your OH (as i stated)

but if you are pulling off to some fake bit on a tv screen INSTEAD of going to bed and having sex with your wife/gf then YES it IS cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't agree, that's not cheating that is just pleasuring yourself. A whole different thing!

i agree, IF it is not to the detriment of a physical relationship with your OH (as i stated)

but if you are pulling off to some fake bit on a tv screen INSTEAD of going to bed and having sex with your wife/gf then YES it IS cheating."

Sorry but watching porn is not cheating...

Cali

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Can't agree, that's not cheating that is just pleasuring yourself. A whole different thing!

i agree, IF it is not to the detriment of a physical relationship with your OH (as i stated)

but if you are pulling off to some fake bit on a tv screen INSTEAD of going to bed and having sex with your wife/gf then YES it IS cheating.

Sorry but watching porn is not cheating...

Cali"

once again, and not sure if people are seeing the whole thing or not, but porn on its own, no it isnt.

but, if you are watching it, and jerking off to it, instead of being in the arms of the one you love, and actually having sex (as in replacing one for the other, NOT using it alongside) then it MUST be cheating.

you are getting your sexual jollies from someone other than your partner, just because the other party isnt there only lends itself to making it sadder that you would prefer to watch rather than partake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but having a wank instead of having sex doesnt count as cheating.. its not deceitful...

Although some women seem to think so.. I used to work in that area.. and I lost count of the amount of women that had gone of sex.. and rather than go elsewhere or bother the partner, in desperation they had started to stop up, watch porn or live shows and wank off..

The women would be all " why does he need porn when he has me".. but after a few sessions normally they came to realise that it was not because they didnt want them. Although I normally suggested that maybe they found a style of porn to watch together and explored each other..

I can't ever see how watching porn and wanking is cheating.. for either male or female.

Cali

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Sorry but having a wank instead of having sex doesnt count as cheating.. its not deceitful...

Although some women seem to think so.. I used to work in that area.. and I lost count of the amount of women that had gone of sex.. and rather than go elsewhere or bother the partner, in desperation they had started to stop up, watch porn or live shows and wank off..

The women would be all " why does he need porn when he has me".. but after a few sessions normally they came to realise that it was not because they didnt want them. Although I normally suggested that maybe they found a style of porn to watch together and explored each other..

I can't ever see how watching porn and wanking is cheating.. for either male or female.

Cali "

this is the male half, so not just women with that attitude, im afraid.

yes, i watched porn when i was single.

but why would i want to thrash one out when i have a perfectly sexy, and sexual, woman waiting for me in bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some men like to.. some peoples sexual needs are not the same as their partners..

Watching porn isnt cheating.. no matter what the reason for doing it.. if its done with partner watching, not watching.. or even done secretly.. because its self pleasuring.. and not involving anyone else.

Women tend not to do it as much as womens imaginations can be better.. but I bet lots of married and attached women if totally honest will admit that they have used a fantasy to get off over.. Watching porn is the same.

Cali

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By *odka n CokeCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"Is phone sex behind a partners back cheating ???"

Yes it is. Having a sexual encounter with another person, even if they're not physically there, is definitely cheating if you're doing it behind your partners back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that it could be just a lazy way of cumming, just laying there and wanking with no physical contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People shouldnt feel guilty for cheating on their partners.

Because they maybe have a need to.

If they do feel guilty, then they should not be with their partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of folk have great sex lives and still watch porn. I don't think it's cheating unless your having relations whether physical or emotional with a person who is also physical or emotional with you. Not a leggy porn star on a computer screen half way round the world x if anything porn can be good for couples who are having probs with sex. I know myself after watching porn I wanna jump on my OH bones. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Abbie I'd cheet wit u any day xxxxx Tia "

Awwwww bless u lovely xxx

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

No, I just couldn't do it. I couldn't knowingly meet with a cheat, nowing there is a spouse at home who has no clue what is going on. What if it was the other way round. I think people think there is a grey airier to swinging and cheating well for me is black and White a cheat is a cheat no matter what situation they are in.

Saying this when you meet in a club and have a play sometimes you could be with men or women who are cheating. That's why I say I couldn't do it knowingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never cheated ever; I am able to speak, so have always told my partner about swinging. If it's not an honest trusting relationship, why would I be in it?

I dont think watching porn is cheating either, should my future 'hubby-wife-other label' decide to watch a bit of tv or online porn and 'knock one out' it really wouldn't bother me in the slightest, we all fancy different things at different times

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

No need to cheat (not that i'd want too) we have best of both worlds ..we meet together and seperately with full knowledge and approval

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

My partner and I meet together and alone withe full permission and when the mood takes us watch porn together too. None of that affects our relationship in a negative way. In fact the trust and sexual openness is, we find, part of what makes us so close.

Neither of us would meet a cheating person, firstly out of sympathy to the person being deceived but also as it shows the cheating person to be untrustworthy.

Trust and permission count for a lot and if you can't get these things without deception you're in a failing relationship

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