FabSwingers.com forum: Now you know, have you changed?

By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

I've been here a loooong time, I'm mainly a lurker, occasional poster but an avid reader of the forums.

Because of that, there are things I do now that I didn't before, like hiding my dirty washing if I've got workmen over and being a little extra vigilant in quiet supermarkets.

Has anything like that crossed your mind before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope... ive always been a knob head... and I intend to stay that way

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Nope... ive always been a knob head... and I intend to stay that way

I was thinking more along the lines of now I've read many, many posts of flashing in public places and workmen sniffing worn underwear, It's made me wary of things I wasn't wary of before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s mostly fantasy - I am deeply suspicious of what’s posted here having actually happened in reality so no.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I think it’s mostly fantasy - I am deeply suspicious of what’s posted here having actually happened in reality so no."

There are thousands of pictures of women flashing in supermarkets and the sniffing worn underwear does happen.

There was a thread this morning dedicated to sexually objectifying women on the school run for example.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think it’s mostly fantasy - I am deeply suspicious of what’s posted here having actually happened in reality so no."

I'm gonna have to agree. People's "hilarious" stories and confessions tend to read like the letters page in Razzle. Only without the benefit of a sub-editor proof reading and correcting the punctuation and grammar.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fair point about the public flash pictures, mind you. I've seen a good few of those. Parks/countryside, pubs and car parks (and indeed pub car parks) are generally what I've come across, though.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Just been reminded of another...

Not wearing anything decorative round my ankle in case some twat thinks it's a signal for them to get creepy and chat me up in the hope of a shag.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Just been reminded of another...

Not wearing anything decorative round my ankle in case some twat thinks it's a signal for them to get creepy and chat me up in the hope of a shag."

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Surely, your dirty nics can't be that bad. Just let said workguy have a quick sniff. Where's the harm in that.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Surely, your dirty nics can't be that bad. Just let said workguy have a quick sniff. Where's the harm in that.

It's vile, creepy, degrading and hugely disrespectful.

I'm paying to get work done, not to feel unsafe in my own home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely, your dirty nics can't be that bad. Just let said workguy have a quick sniff. Where's the harm in that.

It's vile, creepy, degrading and hugely disrespectful.

I'm paying to get work done, not to feel unsafe in my own home."

Well said

Threads like this are a great filter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's put me off the majority of people but especially men.

People are meat for fucking. Friendships, relationships, all boil down to whether the other person can perve on them or fuck them.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"[Removed by poster at 18/09/20 09:45:34]"

Errr, twas a joke!

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"[Removed by poster at 18/09/20 09:45:34]

Errr, twas a joke!

That you thought it was a joke demonstrates to me you don't get it.

In my own home I go to lengths to stop behaviours I see men bragging about all the time. Fantasy or not, it's incredibly frightening to feel that abused in my safe place.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"[Removed by poster at 18/09/20 09:45:34]

Errr, twas a joke!

That you thought it was a joke demonstrates to me you don't get it.

In my own home I go to lengths to stop behaviours I see men bragging about all the time. Fantasy or not, it's incredibly frightening to feel that abused in my safe place."

I apologise if any upset has been caused. It really wasn't intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the thought a workman might being have a sniff of my wife's dirty knickers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know if this is relevant but one thing being on here has done has made me wary of accepting friends requests.

I've lost count of the amount of times Ive met up with someone from the site socially, and they have logged on to the app and offered me to see their friends private photos

seemingly oblivious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh God yes Op I'm exactly like you,I hide dirty washing etc if I know that I have workmen calling,I wouldn't have giving it a though if it wasn't for fab

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Don't know if this is relevant but one thing being on here has done has made me wary of accepting friends requests.

I've lost count of the amount of times Ive met up with someone from the site socially, and they have logged on to the app and offered me to see their friends private photos

seemingly oblivious.

Quite aside from the obvious enormos disrespect for a "friend's" privacy, this seems like a really weird thing to do.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"[Removed by poster at 18/09/20 09:45:34]

Errr, twas a joke!

That you thought it was a joke demonstrates to me you don't get it.

In my own home I go to lengths to stop behaviours I see men bragging about all the time. Fantasy or not, it's incredibly frightening to feel that abused in my safe place.

I apologise if any upset has been caused. It really wasn't intended.

I appreciate that apology, I really do.

Thank you.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I love the thought a workman might being have a sniff of my wife's dirty knickers."

Does your wife?

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Oh God yes Op I'm exactly like you,I hide dirty washing etc if I know that I have workmen calling,I wouldn't have giving it a though if it wasn't for fab "

Sad state of affairs isnt it, women having to moderate their behaviours in order to prevent negative behaviour from others.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

You'd think having them in a laundry basket would be enough.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

You'd think having them in a laundry basket would be enough. "

Yeah, shame on us for encouraging creepy behaviour by living in my home the way I choose to.

I hope you don't wear short skirts and show cleavage either, poor things can't keep themselves in check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know if this is relevant but one thing being on here has done has made me wary of accepting friends requests.

I've lost count of the amount of times Ive met up with someone from the site socially, and they have logged on to the app and offered me to see their friends private photos

seemingly oblivious.

Or they show them to their mates down the pub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't know if this is relevant but one thing being on here has done has made me wary of accepting friends requests.

I've lost count of the amount of times Ive met up with someone from the site socially, and they have logged on to the app and offered me to see their friends private photos

seemingly oblivious.

Or they show them to their mates down the pub!"

Yes, I have been at Fab group socials and seen it done...and not just once. The people doing it seen unaware of what they are doing, just showing them round like they were showing dog photos to family.

I only have 5 friends on here now as it made me very very uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot wife anklets

Kettle on a barge top.

Looking for eye contact

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

You'd think having them in a laundry basket would be enough.

Yeah, shame on us for encouraging creepy behaviour by living in my home the way I choose to.

I hope you don't wear short skirts and show cleavage either, poor things can't keep themselves in check."

I stay away from windows lest the guy opposite thinks I'm up for it if he can see me from 150 meters away in my underwear.

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By *opsy Rogers OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

You'd think having them in a laundry basket would be enough.

Yeah, shame on us for encouraging creepy behaviour by living in my home the way I choose to.

I hope you don't wear short skirts and show cleavage either, poor things can't keep themselves in check.

I stay away from windows lest the guy opposite thinks I'm up for it if he can see me from 150 meters away in my underwear. "

You should be hiding behind curtains!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope... ive always been a knob head... and I intend to stay that way

I was thinking more along the lines of now I've read many, many posts of flashing in public places and workmen sniffing worn underwear, It's made me wary of things I wasn't wary of before."

Who's been sniffing dirty underwear?! Name and shame

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If you had strangers round your house for any reason, including workmen, wouldn’t you be keeping your dirty underwear out of sight as a matter of consideration for them anyway?

You'd think having them in a laundry basket would be enough.

Yeah, shame on us for encouraging creepy behaviour by living in my home the way I choose to.

I hope you don't wear short skirts and show cleavage either, poor things can't keep themselves in check.

I stay away from windows lest the guy opposite thinks I'm up for it if he can see me from 150 meters away in my underwear.

You should be hiding behind curtains! "

I should!

I've been told many times throughout my life, mostly by women, that I will get "myself" into trouble. God knows what they meant by that but I know it wasn't good and anything a man did would be entirely my fault for being too friendly, having breasts and not hiding them in a baggy top, walking alone after dark or drinking more than two glasses of wind. Until women stop thinking like this I don't think we'll see much change.

I do have to say though that the majority of men I know would never go through a woman's laundry or be anything other than respectful, it's just that we have to guard against the few.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Wine not wind lol

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I haven't changed my ways at all, but perhaps that's because I'm male! A couple of people have said they recognise me but can't think from where. That's made me think, but I tend to rely on others discretion. So far, so good.

As to workmen sniffing underwear etc, I've always thought that was a lot of bravado by guys that aren't brave enough to actually meet. If it does go on, it says more about them. Just wankers basically, a good filter for you ladies.

I suppose it does show the divide between male and female, I can't imagine any female plumbers/electricians etc doing similar, especially with some guys crusty cacks.

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