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By *ame-room-no-swap OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton

I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The "Not looking for single guys" message comes up when you use that filter (which is why my profile says I'm both not looking for single guys and looking for men, lol)

Apart from that, don't know.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We just have the filter on. We’re open to meeting a guy in a club (when they open fully), however we don’t want to be bombarded with messages. So we just take the filter off sometimes.

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By *ame-room-no-swap OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton


"The "Not looking for single guys" message comes up when you use that filter (which is why my profile says I'm both not looking for single guys and looking for men, lol)

Apart from that, don't know. "

Yes. The point I’m making is that instead of using that filter, couples seem write it in the text of their profiles, often repeated in capitals , because they keep getting messages from single males.

I would genuinely like to know why they do this

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"The "Not looking for single guys" message comes up when you use that filter (which is why my profile says I'm both not looking for single guys and looking for men, lol)

Apart from that, don't know.

Yes. The point I’m making is that instead of using that filter, couples seem write it in the text of their profiles, often repeated in capitals , because they keep getting messages from single males.

I would genuinely like to know why they do this"

There’s quite a few like that. Think they just like getting messages, boosts their ego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln


"The "Not looking for single guys" message comes up when you use that filter (which is why my profile says I'm both not looking for single guys and looking for men, lol)

Apart from that, don't know.

Yes. The point I’m making is that instead of using that filter, couples seem write it in the text of their profiles, often repeated in capitals , because they keep getting messages from single males.

I would genuinely like to know why they do this"

A lot of people don’t even realise the filters are there. It’s not overly easy to find .

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Maybe they don’t know about the filters?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior."

Charming. You don't sound bitter at all.

In our case it's actually because we are aware there are some men who we can have interesting conversations with. We don't want to block good chats with anybody. We're just not looking for sexual encounters with single men, or if we were to in the future, we'd do the searching ourselves because most men who contact us are not people we would want to meet for that.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"The "Not looking for single guys" message comes up when you use that filter (which is why my profile says I'm both not looking for single guys and looking for men, lol)

Apart from that, don't know.

Yes. The point I’m making is that instead of using that filter, couples seem write it in the text of their profiles, often repeated in capitals , because they keep getting messages from single males.

I would genuinely like to know why they do this"

I imagine it's so that it excludes 99 per cent which can be deleted with little effort, but if George Clooney / Harry styles should happen to message, they can have a bit of fun. But what do I know..... George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Charming. You don't sound bitter at all.

In our case it's actually because we are aware there are some men who we can have interesting conversations with. We don't want to block good chats with anybody. We're just not looking for sexual encounters with single men, or if we were to in the future, we'd do the searching ourselves because most men who contact us are not people we would want to meet for that. "

not bitter at all.couldnt be happier with my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?"

Because single men are bottom run of the ladder on here and some couples like to think they’re top, I think it’s probably the man Of the couple on some kind of power trip or something, but yeah I’ve always thought the same, it’s like rubbing men’s noses in it, heaven forbid they should just block men instead of making it a big deal.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Charming. You don't sound bitter at all.

In our case it's actually because we are aware there are some men who we can have interesting conversations with. We don't want to block good chats with anybody. We're just not looking for sexual encounters with single men, or if we were to in the future, we'd do the searching ourselves because most men who contact us are not people we would want to meet for that. "

Exactly this! Can't believe the previous crass reply either.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior."

Some may do think like that, however it's their profile and their way they want to do things..

Equally others choose not to receive banal, inappropriate poorly worded responses from some entitled guys who think this aspect is #instashag ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior."

This.

Absolutely this.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Charming. You don't sound bitter at all.

In our case it's actually because we are aware there are some men who we can have interesting conversations with. We don't want to block good chats with anybody. We're just not looking for sexual encounters with single men, or if we were to in the future, we'd do the searching ourselves because most men who contact us are not people we would want to meet for that. "

There’s also not actively looking and staying open to the right kinds of opportunities, not everything is binary

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Some may do think like that, however it's their profile and their way they want to do things..

Equally others choose not to receive banal, inappropriate poorly worded responses from some entitled guys who think this aspect is #instashag ..

"

Hey 'Happy as I am', there's your superiority complex argument confirmed right there!

Hook.

Line.

Sinker.

You couldn't make it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?"

It's probably because they get too many messages from single men, a lot of which are only interested in the female.

They may wish to search for single men who fit their desires themselves. They may not want to filter block for whatever reason. At the end of the day, it's their profile and they can say whatever they like within Fab rules x

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Some may do think like that, however it's their profile and their way they want to do things..

Equally others choose not to receive banal, inappropriate poorly worded responses from some entitled guys who think this aspect is #instashag ..

Hey 'Happy as I am', there's your superiority complex argument confirmed right there!

Hook.

Line.

Sinker.

You couldn't make it up. "

You'll note I agreed with the sentiment that some may do think like that yet if your saying that it's the experience of some/many couples and single females on here that some entitled guys don't send messages that are banal etc.. then you might want to look at some of the threads sadly too frequentlydiscuss such things..

Telling people who won't meet you that they are a fat cow/dog ugly is

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Some may do think like that, however it's their profile and their way they want to do things..

Equally others choose not to receive banal, inappropriate poorly worded responses from some entitled guys who think this aspect is #instashag ..

Hey 'Happy as I am', there's your superiority complex argument confirmed right there!

Hook.

Line.

Sinker.

You couldn't make it up.

You'll note I agreed with the sentiment that some may do think like that yet if your saying that it's the experience of some/many couples and single females on here that some entitled guys don't send messages that are banal etc.. then you might want to look at some of the threads sadly too frequentlydiscuss such things..

Telling people who won't meet you that they are a fat cow/dog ugly is "

Sadly par for the course with and again I'll emphasise some, even as far as hope you get cancer has been the vile responses from again some..

Essentially if the cap fits etc ..

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Some may do think like that, however it's their profile and their way they want to do things..

Equally others choose not to receive banal, inappropriate poorly worded responses from some entitled guys who think this aspect is #instashag ..

Hey 'Happy as I am', there's your superiority complex argument confirmed right there!

Hook.

Line.

Sinker.

You couldn't make it up. "

What are you talking about? They merely mentioned some of the banal comments received. Sadly Fabs does attract high numbers of people (not just single guy's) who think it's a shagfest. Because it is a free site chancers who don't get what swinging is about come on and spoil it for the genuine people.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"...What are you talking about? ... "

I was merely siding with his comment. As you are theirs.

That's what I'm talking about.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"...What are you talking about? ...

I was merely siding with his comment. As you are theirs.

That's what I'm talking about."

Oops my bad, apologies..

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"...What are you talking about? ...

I was merely siding with his comment. As you are theirs.

That's what I'm talking about."

You've never had single line messages like 'in your area, fancy a fuck?' on a regular basis then from people you wouldn't want to associate with. I'm sure they don't mind the odd well thought out charming message from guys. It's the people that send the crass messages that make it harder and give a more negative perception for the genuine guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here to meet men, I dont have them filtered.

I have had great conversations with guys off the forums etc...

Let's be honest there is a large group of people on this site who need things put in CAPS and repeated several times before it sinks in

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"...You've never had single line messages like 'in your area, fancy a fuck?' on a regular basis then from people you wouldn't want to associate with. I'm sure they don't mind the odd well thought out charming message from guys. It's the people that send the crass messages that make it harder and give a more negative perception for the genuine guys. "

I have news for you...

I have had those messages. I do get those messages. I get them regularly from guys. I state clearly on my profile that I don't want them and this helps me know who hasn't read my profile.

As I'm only here for a bit of fun I don't take it too seriously so I'm not too perturbed by the ignorant.

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By *ame-room-no-swap OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton


"because they like having the upper hand and think they are gods gift when they are bombarded with messages..gives them something to moan about while feeling superior.

Charming. You don't sound bitter at all.

In our case it's actually because we are aware there are some men who we can have interesting conversations with. We don't want to block good chats with anybody. We're just not looking for sexual encounters with single men, or if we were to in the future, we'd do the searching ourselves because most men who contact us are not people we would want to meet for that. "

That's a very well explained answer to my question.

In your case , you have explained it very clearly in your profile, rather than put "NO SINGLE MEN , repeat NO SINGLE MEN", with no other explanation , which is more the case that baffles me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see a problem with it people can put what they like on their profile as long as its within the site rules. People fret too much about other peoples profiles just use the block button its easy.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?"

I'm always amazed by the number of threads "not understanding" or criticizing other people's profiles. The answer is simple: it's their profile. Let them run it as they want.

In the case of single guys, some people enjoy the banter with single guys on Fab but don't want to meet them (outside a club) so blocking them is a step too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?"

If they did that then they'd have nothing to moan about.

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By *ame-room-no-swap OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton


"I genuinely don’t understand why couples often have this on their profiles, sometimes repeated several times.

Why not just filter out single males on your settings so they can’t message you ?

I'm always amazed by the number of threads "not understanding" or criticizing other people's profiles. The answer is simple: it's their profile. Let them run it as they want.

In the case of single guys, some people enjoy the banter with single guys on Fab but don't want to meet them (outside a club) so blocking them is a step too far."

Thanks for explaining. I'm certainly not telling them how to run it, but I was just curious .. no harm in that ( except for cats )

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