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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We’re pretty new to the swinging scene and very much enjoying it so far. We’re a solid, happy couple but have very different interests normally so this was something we felt we could enjoy together and would add to our relationship...

So established swinging couples or people who used to swing as a couple but now don’t.... Has it made you stronger or has it caused issues and adversely affected your relationship in any way? Just looking for insights ...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi and welcome guys

I am half a couple, we met here almost 5 years ago. We meet separately and together.

It hasn't caused issues for us, we communicate about it all and never do something the other isnt happy with.

Make sure to save something for yourselves only too and set your boundaries.

Hope you have lots of fun here x

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Definitely made us stronger, more open about desires and a trust to be able to explore those desires. Made love making more passionate and pure animal fucking more intense even when just us. Also, we made some amazing friends in similar circumstances to us, whic Bbc normalized things for us and made everything comfortable

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Hi and welcome guys

I am half a couple, we met here almost 5 years ago. We meet separately and together.

It hasn't caused issues for us, we communicate about it all and never do something the other isnt happy with.

Make sure to save something for yourselves only too and set your boundaries.

Hope you have lots of fun here x"
Agree with most here ...for us made us even tighter /closer ...we are dead honest with each other and open ..we can talk about anything...swing life can be so rewarding if your both on the same page

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I don’t think either of us had considered the social aspect before joining but already forming friendships so that’s an added bonus!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not sure swinging made our relationship stronger, it's just one aspect of a developing relationship for us . I think if you're not strong sex with other people will find any cracks or vulnerabilities and widen them.

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By *moretwoCouple
over a year ago

Feltham

We wouldn't say swinging or meeting on our own made our relationship stronger.

We would say it adds to the excitement of life.

To be honest if we didn't have a strong relationship to start with we would of never started.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes. Can see how it could only make a poor relationship worse. Bit like crazy folk who have a baby because they think it will fix them and bring them closer together

It’s definitely about adding an extra dimension for us and giving us a shared interest rather than “fixing” anything

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes. Can see how it could only make a poor relationship worse. Bit like crazy folk who have a baby because they think it will fix them and bring them closer together

It’s definitely about adding an extra dimension for us and giving us a shared interest rather than “fixing” anything "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. Can see how it could only make a poor relationship worse. Bit like crazy folk who have a baby because they think it will fix them and bring them closer together

It’s definitely about adding an extra dimension for us and giving us a shared interest rather than “fixing” anything

Friendly tip

There's a "reply +quote" button under each post. If you click on it you can see who you're replying to "

Thank you

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Agree as above ,its not a glue to fixed a cracked relationship ,we are slightly different as hubby is bi and im straight so we meet guys only ,i know and freely admit i couldnt handle another woman in the mix ,but have found it easier than i imagined having hubby share another guy with me but we are a team and work well together and certain positions etc are for us first ,it adds to our close partnership which after nearly 30 years is just as strong ,Enjoy and choose your meets carefully to suit both your needs ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Agree as above ,its not a glue to fixed a cracked relationship ,we are slightly different as hubby is bi and im straight so we meet guys only ,i know and freely admit i couldnt handle another woman in the mix ,but have found it easier than i imagined having hubby share another guy with me but we are a team and work well together and certain positions etc are for us first ,it adds to our close partnership which after nearly 30 years is just as strong ,Enjoy and choose your meets carefully to suit both your needs ... "

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "we are a team".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree as above ,its not a glue to fixed a cracked relationship ,we are slightly different as hubby is bi and im straight so we meet guys only ,i know and freely admit i couldnt handle another woman in the mix ,but have found it easier than i imagined having hubby share another guy with me but we are a team and work well together and certain positions etc are for us first ,it adds to our close partnership which after nearly 30 years is just as strong ,Enjoy and choose your meets carefully to suit both your needs ... "

Thank you

Our boundaries are changing as we go on. When we first discussed it, I wasn’t sure I could see him with another woman so we only arranged meets with men. Then I started to feel slightly selfish and greedy and am now good to meet other couples. It’s all very exciting

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We're definitely strong with our lifestyle. Plus there is zero concern about infidelity. If one of us wants to play with someone else then there's a discussion rather than hiding it.

Also, makes nights out people watching much more fun

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already "

May sound like a weird analogy - but for couples, I think swinging is akin to having a baby.

If you do it for the right reasons it’ll bring you even closer and enhance your relationship - do it to ‘save’ your relationship and it’s a car-crash waiting to happen! Xx

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already

May sound like a weird analogy - but for couples, I think swinging is akin to having a baby.

If you do it for the right reasons it’ll bring you even closer and enhance your relationship - do it to ‘save’ your relationship and it’s a car-crash waiting to happen! Xx"
Yep

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already

May sound like a weird analogy - but for couples, I think swinging is akin to having a baby.

If you do it for the right reasons it’ll bring you even closer and enhance your relationship - do it to ‘save’ your relationship and it’s a car-crash waiting to happen! Xx"

You can stop swinging any time, you can't send a baby back

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already

May sound like a weird analogy - but for couples, I think swinging is akin to having a baby.

If you do it for the right reasons it’ll bring you even closer and enhance your relationship - do it to ‘save’ your relationship and it’s a car-crash waiting to happen! Xx

You can stop swinging any time, you can't send a baby back "

You can if you’re rich! I believe they call it boarding school!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks both

Think we’re good with boundaries (although they’re already changing as we explore). Keeping something just for us is a good tip. But yes. Definitely made our sex together hotter already

May sound like a weird analogy - but for couples, I think swinging is akin to having a baby.

If you do it for the right reasons it’ll bring you even closer and enhance your relationship - do it to ‘save’ your relationship and it’s a car-crash waiting to happen! Xx

You can stop swinging any time, you can't send a baby back

You can if you’re rich! I believe they call it boarding school! "

Lol! Yes having a baby is way more extreme and long term than swinging but I get the analogy of either being a very bad idea if you’re just using it to fix a crap relationship

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Agree as above ,its not a glue to fixed a cracked relationship ,we are slightly different as hubby is bi and im straight so we meet guys only ,i know and freely admit i couldnt handle another woman in the mix ,but have found it easier than i imagined having hubby share another guy with me but we are a team and work well together and certain positions etc are for us first ,it adds to our close partnership which after nearly 30 years is just as strong ,Enjoy and choose your meets carefully to suit both your needs ...

Thank you

Our boundaries are changing as we go on. When we first discussed it, I wasn’t sure I could see him with another woman so we only arranged meets with men. Then I started to feel slightly selfish and greedy and am now good to meet other couples. It’s all very exciting"
I hope it stays exciting for you it can have ups and downs like anything in life and as for another woman afraid hubby is happy with me so men only which is great as im greedy for 2 cocks ...

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"We’re pretty new to the swinging scene and very much enjoying it so far. We’re a solid, happy couple but have very different interests normally so this was something we felt we could enjoy together and would add to our relationship...

So established swinging couples or people who used to swing as a couple but now don’t.... Has it made you stronger or has it caused issues and adversely affected your relationship in any way? Just looking for insights ... "

Hey, welcome x

We are pretty new to the scene and so far only enjoying the social aspects of it (dont mention the pandemic) we've been together 19 years almost and have some different tastes we'd love to explore. We know our fountain is solid so this can (and already has) only bring us closer.

Good luck, happy fabbing x

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’re pretty new to the swinging scene and very much enjoying it so far. We’re a solid, happy couple but have very different interests normally so this was something we felt we could enjoy together and would add to our relationship...

So established swinging couples or people who used to swing as a couple but now don’t.... Has it made you stronger or has it caused issues and adversely affected your relationship in any way? Just looking for insights ...

Hey, welcome x

We are pretty new to the scene and so far only enjoying the social aspects of it (dont mention the pandemic) we've been together 19 years almost and have some different tastes we'd love to explore. We know our fountain is solid so this can (and already has) only bring us closer.

Good luck, happy fabbing x

Mrs x"

Thanks for the welcome. And yes. Our timing sucks But enjoying it so far! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree as above ,its not a glue to fixed a cracked relationship ,we are slightly different as hubby is bi and im straight so we meet guys only ,i know and freely admit i couldnt handle another woman in the mix ,but have found it easier than i imagined having hubby share another guy with me but we are a team and work well together and certain positions etc are for us first ,it adds to our close partnership which after nearly 30 years is just as strong ,Enjoy and choose your meets carefully to suit both your needs ...

Thank you

Our boundaries are changing as we go on. When we first discussed it, I wasn’t sure I could see him with another woman so we only arranged meets with men. Then I started to feel slightly selfish and greedy and am now good to meet other couples. It’s all very excitingI hope it stays exciting for you it can have ups and downs like anything in life and as for another woman afraid hubby is happy with me so men only which is great as im greedy for 2 cocks ... "

Yes. You and me both

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We married in 1981 and have been swinging together since then,we don't know if swinging together has made our marriage stronger but is certainly has not caused any problems. We both enjoy seeing the other enjoy themselves which we definitely do when we swing.

The main thing is to talk and listen to each other.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We see people mention boundaries, we don't have boundaries, we can do one thing one day but the following day or even with another person the next minute that thing is a step too far and with the next partner it could be just the starting point.

I suppose you could say our boundaries are when something does not appeal to us at that moment in time.

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By *horley GirlWoman
over a year ago

Local-ish

I've seen it break couples, but also know couples who it totally 'is right' for (slight envy lol).

However I believe you have to have a strong foundation built on trust. Delving into this world as a sticking plaster I agree with others, will just cause the cracks to get bigger eventually.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

If you are truly solid you will be fine , if anything it will make you stronger as sex with others won’t be a threat to your relationship. We know a lot of swinging couples and the ones with the jealousy issues are always same room only couples

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By *msurreyCouple
over a year ago

Twickenham

Not sure it made us stronger but it certainly injected huge excitement into our relationship and we are more open than we have ever been - think you need to start from a stable base though!!

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