FabSwingers.com forum: Sex after menopause-advice needed

By *uzzardballs OP Man
over a year ago

lancaster

Hello. My sex life has completely dried up (literally) and my beautiful wife has totally lost interest. This is most frustrating and hence why I’m on here getting my thrills. Have any women on here got any advice or tips for us to recover from this? Or perhaps it’s just me!?

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Difficult for strangers to give you advice, it depends on many things.

Did your wife enjoy a good sex life before the menopause?

Did she need to use lubrication before many women find they require additional lubrication after menopause.

Has she attempted to have sex since, tried and found it painful or just gone off the idea.

There are so many issues involved that really first the two of you need to talk to each other to find out how you both actually feel, what you both want and possibly do you feel you need to talk to a professional about your problem.

Note this is a problem for both of you not just your wife.

One thing we are sure of is if you resort to finding sex elsewhere that is not going to help the situation and may drive a wedge between the two of you.

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By *uzzardballs OP Man
over a year ago

lancaster

I’m just here for the thrills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just here for the thrills!"

Get rid of her. What use is she if she won't fuck.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Wife is going through it due to having ovaries removed during cancer treatment we use lubricant she hasn't lost the desire for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to talk to her OP not us.

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By *uzzardballs OP Man
over a year ago

lancaster

We’ve tried talking. She’s lost all desire emotionally and physically. She isn’t really prepared to do anything more. So I guess that’s it?

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Til death do us part.... shit happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard to give advice to people you don't know, but when I woman goes into the menapuase she has a rush of hormones so her body is all over the place, I needed to know my husband still found me attractive and was turned on by me, but at the same time need patience from him when I wasn't in the mood, it can be dangerous ground but what got us through it was communication, ask her what she needs from you don't sit back and wait for her to ask, it shows you care to make the first move, also herbal tablets can help to balance the hormones, sex can also hurt for woman as they dry up quicker due to the hormones so always have lube near by.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Let me get this straight.... your wife’s menopause and sex drive has driven you here.

Sure I’ll give her advice. If she asks for it.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've noticed a decline, the opposite in fact. Probably better her going to a well woman clinic for advice rather than here

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I highly recommend you go to see a relationship counsellor or a sex therapist. A third party experienced in these matters is likely to give you a very important outsider's perspective.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"We’ve tried talking. She’s lost all desire emotionally and physically. She isn’t really prepared to do anything more. So I guess that’s it?"

What are you prepared to do, have you tried to understand what she needs?

Have you tried to give her the emotional encouragement she needs, do you give her the time and encouragement to find herself again. Don't you think what has happened to her is a huge change in her life. This is perhaps the one time in her life she really needs you to show her attention and love by giving her the emotional support and comfort she needs.

This is the woman you loved enough to marry, now is when you can show her you are worth the investment she has put in you by giving her the support and understanding she needs.

When she does find herself again which she will, you will not be able to keep up

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