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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im seeing more an more profiles with this, males, females and couples. Out of curiosity (when we can obviously) how do people meet when this is the case? To me it seems like whoever's got that on there profile needs to be picked up,taken back to the other persons and then dropped off again!? Basically one person does all the travel/ work and one person gets to just play? As if it's a privilege for the other person sort of? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've often wondered too...

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Im seeing more an more profiles with this, males, females and couples. Out of curiosity (when we can obviously) how do people meet when this is the case? To me it seems like whoever's got that on there profile needs to be picked up,taken back to the other persons and then dropped off again!? Basically one person does all the travel/ work and one person gets to just play? As if it's a privilege for the other person sort of? x "

Jump through those hoops fella

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It may mean someones not meeting now. Or when allowed it may mean they'll meet at clubs only.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

They may only meet at clubs, socials and parties OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I cannot accommodate and I won't travel outside of my locality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't ever want to invite a fab meet (even regular) to my home and although I ticked 'don't travel', in reality i do go hundreds of miles... But it helps me to manage the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a conundrum for sure. But it filters out those unable to work it out

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

I don't understand it either. I've questioned it in the past but funnily enough, never got an answer.

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By *ebauchery DivineWoman
over a year ago

Down in Dickleburgh Drive

Mine is set like that because I only meet at chameleons.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

If you don't tick either can accom or travel, the settings automatically show you can't do either.

I wish there was a sitting for "can accommodate but won't until I know you." SO many guys assume that can accommodate means I'm willing to let them into my home at any time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They may only meet at clubs, socials and parties OP. "

Sorry I should have clarified, AND they dont do clubs or parties lol

Fully get when people only meet at clubs I've spoken to quite a few people who do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All very good answers so far guys

And not too far from what my thoughts were already, as well as hotel meets and outdoor play

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"They may only meet at clubs, socials and parties OP.

Sorry I should have clarified, AND they dont do clubs or parties lol

Fully get when people only meet at clubs I've spoken to quite a few people who do that "

Do they even meet then?

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

It means I'm anti social

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Some people *don't* meet. They're here for photos and the forums.

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

we can't accomadateas we son at home, travel we don't drive so meet and fuck outdoors local in the summer, we also meet when we are on weekend holidays.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

I suppose you can still cam, I can understand people not being able to Accommodate for a number of reasons, but cant travel ? just lazy perhaps ?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I suppose you can still cam, I can understand people not being able to Accommodate for a number of reasons, but cant travel ? just lazy perhaps ? "

Or don't drive and have anxiety around public transport?

Lazy thinking.

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Speaking from experience. I fully understand the 'can't accomodate' for single ladies as some guys will just assume they can turn up anytime they've had a few drinks and take advantage of the facilities despite the fact that there could be family,children around? When I was in a swinging relationship a few years ago my lady friend had this problem with a guy we'd previously met who she'd hosted at her home. (Lesson learnt there?) And surely it's up to the person wishing to meet if they wish to 'jump through hoops'? I can't see any guys getting away with it though?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Speaking from experience. I fully understand the 'can't accomodate' for single ladies as some guys will just assume they can turn up anytime they've had a few drinks and take advantage of the facilities despite the fact that there could be family,children around? When I was in a swinging relationship a few years ago my lady friend had this problem with a guy we'd previously met who she'd hosted at her home. (Lesson learnt there?) And surely it's up to the person wishing to meet if they wish to 'jump through hoops'? I can't see any guys getting away with it though?"

I've actually had this with two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am. Presumably one that I had accommodated thought it would be ok to turn up unannounced with his mate. I ended up locking myself in my bedroom unable to sleep for the rest of the night as I was living alone at the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Locally, at theirs... Duh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have ponderd this, and assume they dont want to meet, so pass them by and move on with life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't drive... And live with someone... I don't play without him in our bed... I can still meet, either at theirs or a hotel, locally... It's not really rocket science!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Speaking from experience. I fully understand the 'can't accomodate' for single ladies as some guys will just assume they can turn up anytime they've had a few drinks and take advantage of the facilities despite the fact that there could be family,children around? When I was in a swinging relationship a few years ago my lady friend had this problem with a guy we'd previously met who she'd hosted at her home. (Lesson learnt there?) And surely it's up to the person wishing to meet if they wish to 'jump through hoops'? I can't see any guys getting away with it though?

I've actually had this with two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am. Presumably one that I had accommodated thought it would be ok to turn up unannounced with his mate. I ended up locking myself in my bedroom unable to sleep for the rest of the night as I was living alone at the time. "

Wtaff!?!?!the mind boggles at some people on here seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't drive... And live with someone... I don't play without him in our bed... I can still meet, either at theirs or a hotel, locally... It's not really rocket science! "

Good job I never claimed to be a rocket scientist then

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden


"Im seeing more an more profiles with this, males, females and couples. Out of curiosity (when we can obviously) how do people meet when this is the case? To me it seems like whoever's got that on there profile needs to be picked up,taken back to the other persons and then dropped off again!? Basically one person does all the travel/ work and one person gets to just play? As if it's a privilege for the other person sort of? x "

I meet at clubs, others houses. I can accommodate however I have four kids do need to find someone willing to have them all

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Speaking from experience. I fully understand the 'can't accomodate' for single ladies as some guys will just assume they can turn up anytime they've had a few drinks and take advantage of the facilities despite the fact that there could be family,children around? When I was in a swinging relationship a few years ago my lady friend had this problem with a guy we'd previously met who she'd hosted at her home. (Lesson learnt there?) And surely it's up to the person wishing to meet if they wish to 'jump through hoops'? I can't see any guys getting away with it though?

I've actually had this with two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am. Presumably one that I had accommodated thought it would be ok to turn up unannounced with his mate. I ended up locking myself in my bedroom unable to sleep for the rest of the night as I was living alone at the time.

Wtaff!?!?!the mind boggles at some people on here seriously "

Just a bit off putting tbh.

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"Im seeing more an more profiles with this, males, females and couples. Out of curiosity (when we can obviously) how do people meet when this is the case? To me it seems like whoever's got that on there profile needs to be picked up,taken back to the other persons and then dropped off again!? Basically one person does all the travel/ work and one person gets to just play? As if it's a privilege for the other person sort of? x "
yep thats about sums it up....i have lover who is like that....but its worth its she is soo good xx...she has kids at home, a partner and travels to work by train..so cant accommodate or travel

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By *actileGent69Man
over a year ago

East Cheshire

Usually implies they expect to meet you somewhere local to them or you pick them up near to where they live.... Had lots of meets like that over the years . Don't read too much into the accom flags, we have been known to accommodate if everything is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do this when I am pissed off and close my profile off a little.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Im seeing more an more profiles with this, males, females and couples. Out of curiosity (when we can obviously) how do people meet when this is the case? To me it seems like whoever's got that on there profile needs to be picked up,taken back to the other persons and then dropped off again!? Basically one person does all the travel/ work and one person gets to just play? As if it's a privilege for the other person sort of? x "

I don’t accommodate or travel.

I don’t want strangers in my house, especially men from Fab.

I will travel 10 miles but I have a phobia of motorways and don’t like driving distance for anyone, no matter how important they think they are.

At end of the day it’s my choice and not for men on Fab to query as that’s pressure. Pass me by if you don’t like my terms.

Think this OP. Would you like your sister being pressured by men on here about travelling distance or the issue of having random Fab men turning up at her house uninvited? I rest my case!

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I put cannot accommodate, cannot travel. I also explain it in my profile. What it means for me is cannot and will not under any circumstances accommodate, but will travel up to 30 minutes drive. I’m not driving more than an hour’s round trip unless I already know the sex is going to be epic! I found that when I put “can travel”, what happened was that men all over the country expected me to travel for hours to them - sorry boys, your dick ain’t that exceptional.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'm sure some of them can walk down the road. They may just mean they don't have transport so you either have to help or be near because travelling half an hour by car isn't an option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't host and I am only looking for meets in my home town...I don't drive and getting the bus for sex is not my scene x

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

Other one is couples looking for single men but they block all single males. I get they may approach them direct but with a list as long as your arm to meet requirements.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over

Maybe it means they don't want to meet at the moment. Stops them coming up in searches maybe

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Other one is couples looking for single men but they block all single males. I get they may approach them direct but with a list as long as your arm to meet requirements."

It’s up to them how they run their profile, not you.

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