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How to get my wife back into scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Advice needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her, perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time."

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she doesn't wanna return to the scene, you may be out of luck.

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By *anshee99Woman
over a year ago

all over


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me "

Then leave her the fuck alone!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me "

If she doesn't want to then you can't really get her back on the scene. Is she happy for you to go solo? Perhaps it's her kink that you do, can't really say too much as I don't know your dynamic as a couple. Good luck whatever you both decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed "

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Will be very difficult to make the scene work when your married you both need to be enthusiastic and excited i can't see how it will work with reluctance from either partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her."

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore. "

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore. "

How would she react if she found out you were on here... would she still be ‘very happy’ with you then...??

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore. "

Respect her wishes and leave it alone.

If she agrees it will be just to keep her happy and she will end up resenting you for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two? "

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

How would she react if she found out you were on here... would she still be ‘very happy’ with you then...??"

I really don't know, it will end up god know how

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean "

I know what you mean, but I do this with my Mrs... not behind her back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean "

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

How would she react if she found out you were on here... would she still be ‘very happy’ with you then...??

I really don't know, it will end up god know how "

Is finding out worth risking your relationship for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

I know what you mean, but I do this with my Mrs... not behind her back!"

Well done you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??"

I think that’s what he means!

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me "

There is your answer then

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Maybe she doesn't want to go back on the scene.

I've met a few couples on here under my previous Fab profile and a couple of the women who I really got to know, quite frankly hated it.

They were only doing it to please their husband.

Swinging clearly isn't for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

I know what you mean, but I do this with my Mrs... not behind her back!

Well done you!

"

We agree, well done him!!

At least he has respect for his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In fairness to the guy, he is asking how to get his wife back into the scene with him.

If she's not interested, though, she's not interested.

Is it possible she'd give you permission to play in the scene, though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??

I think that’s what he means!"

You guys don't know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??

I think that’s what he means!

You guys don't know what I mean "

What do you mean then!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??

I think that’s what he means!

You guys don't know what I mean

What do you mean then!?"

You are happy couple do what you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean

We know what you mean.

You are not bothered about cheating on your wife.

Is that what you mean??

I think that’s what he means!

You guys don't know what I mean

What do you mean then!?

You are happy couple do what you like "

I think we are all trying to get you to remain a happy couple too...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me "

Then what's the issue? She doesn't want to. Sorry if that doesn't suit you but you shouldn't think she ought to be doing anything sexually to keep you happy. It's her body and mind, not yours.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

You *need* more? What absolutely crap. Stop abusing her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm understanding this correctly...

You were both on the scene.

She no longer wants to be part of the scene.

She is happy with you alone.

You are not happy with her alone.

You remain on the scene...

You're real questions to yourself should probably be:

"If what my wife gives me isn't enough for me, is she the wife for me?"

"What I have may not satisfy me entirely, but can it satisfy me sufficiently?"

If you are not looking to leave the marriage, then you really need to take a long hard look at what you're options actually are. As others have said, trying to coerce your wife back onto the scene is not just a recipe for disaster, but more like sexual abuse. Yes, I know it's a strong term to use, but think about it...

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Reading this makes me appreciate my husband ,who if knew i didnt want to be here would respect that choice and leave too ,not feeling much respect or care for the "wife" who is in the dark to all this ...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Advice needed

Does she know that you are in the scene?

The meets you have had can start a discussion with her.

No she doesn't. She is not interested anymore.

Not interested in sex with others, just you or a combination of the two?

We have great sex. I need little bit more, hope you know what I mean "

Probably not a good idea to do things behind her back tbh,as this type of behaviour often has a nasty habit of backfiring. Maybe try talking to her. Maybe counselling?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

As a relationship between you both i should say you come across as selfish , only because she been in the scene before that don't means she should back because you fancy that . Not really fair your behaviour cheating on her at all , i bet you wouldn't be happy founding that she was doind same you are doing on your back , right?

If you have great sex with her the only litle bit more you need really , is having respect for her, because she is not an object she have feeling. Note if the day , Be respectful to your wife every days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me

Then leave her the fuck alone! "

This!!!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Advice needed "

You can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice needed

You can't.

"

Likely that one, she has to want to do it or it'll likely be a no-go.

Well, unless you find a scenario ::she:: wants but thats still a her thing.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

OP if your wife is not interested in returning to the scene.How would she feel if you returned alone as a single guy which looking at your profile it looks like you have returned as a single guy.Is she ok with this , does she know.If she is ok with all of this fair enough.If she is not ok with this how will she react is it worth ruining your relationship with your wife.Also by bringing a third person in will you tell them your are single or will you tell them you have your wife’s approval.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP if your wife is not interested in returning to the scene.How would she feel if you returned alone as a single guy which looking at your profile it looks like you have returned as a single guy.Is she ok with this , does she know.If she is ok with all of this fair enough.If she is not ok with this how will she react is it worth ruining your relationship with your wife.Also by bringing a third person in will you tell them your are single or will you tell them you have your wife’s approval."

It's all sorted, no need to worry about it cheers buddy

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP if your wife is not interested in returning to the scene.How would she feel if you returned alone as a single guy which looking at your profile it looks like you have returned as a single guy.Is she ok with this , does she know.If she is ok with all of this fair enough.If she is not ok with this how will she react is it worth ruining your relationship with your wife.Also by bringing a third person in will you tell them your are single or will you tell them you have your wife’s approval.

It's all sorted, no need to worry about it cheers buddy

"

That was quick!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I salute you for making this thread

You came here asking for honest advice and now you are being attacked by the morality police.....

Most guys on here would have set up a couples profile knowing the wife has no interest in swinging... so thank you for not wasting anyone’s time....

My advice to you is to ask your wife to accompany you to clubs when they open...

Make it clear she doesn’t have to do anything, but you would like her company... Sorta like a wingman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP if your wife is not interested in returning to the scene.How would she feel if you returned alone as a single guy which looking at your profile it looks like you have returned as a single guy.Is she ok with this , does she know.If she is ok with all of this fair enough.If she is not ok with this how will she react is it worth ruining your relationship with your wife.Also by bringing a third person in will you tell them your are single or will you tell them you have your wife’s approval.

It's all sorted, no need to worry about it cheers buddy

That was quick!! "

2hrs start to finish

Pleased its all sorted OP

She's a lucky lady

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Op I salute you for making this thread

You came here asking for honest advice and now you are being attacked by the morality police.....

Most guys on here would have set up a couples profile knowing the wife has no interest in swinging... so thank you for not wasting anyone’s time....

My advice to you is to ask your wife to accompany you to clubs when they open...

Make it clear she doesn’t have to do anything, but you would like her company... Sorta like a wingman "

I didn't see the morality Police. I saw people offering common sense and experience.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Op I salute you for making this thread

You came here asking for honest advice and now you are being attacked by the morality police.....

Most guys on here would have set up a couples profile knowing the wife has no interest in swinging... so thank you for not wasting anyone’s time....

My advice to you is to ask your wife to accompany you to clubs when they open...

Make it clear she doesn’t have to do anything, but you would like her company... Sorta like a wingman

I didn't see the morality Police. I saw people offering common sense and experience. "

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By *unnymadridMan
over a year ago

warfield

Each of us has a different idea of what the scene is. Hopefully in a couple it’s the same image.

Truth is honesty and being open to talk.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"OP if your wife is not interested in returning to the scene.How would she feel if you returned alone as a single guy which looking at your profile it looks like you have returned as a single guy.Is she ok with this , does she know.If she is ok with all of this fair enough.If she is not ok with this how will she react is it worth ruining your relationship with your wife.Also by bringing a third person in will you tell them your are single or will you tell them you have your wife’s approval.

It's all sorted, no need to worry about it cheers buddy

"
. I am pleased to see that everything is now sorted best of luck with everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just talk to her openly and honestly.

You've got a good starting point if she's been in the scene before. You know she's been interested before. Just see if she could be interested again. And see if you can talk out any issue that stopped her playing the last time.

She doesn't want to and is very happy with me

Then leave her the fuck alone! "

Ditto

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