FabSwingers.com forum: Where have all the genuine swingers gone ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well after a barrage of fuck me, suck me and meet me now messages I'm getting totally fed up of most of the guys on here. Where has the respect gone. I love this lifestyle, the social side as much as the fun side, but it seems we have been invaded by guys looking for a quick fuck. Is it just me or is anyone else feeling the same ?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

i'ts certainly not great at the moment...I'm guessing i'ts just with lockdown easing frustration is the main driver.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

There are still some reliable and respectful guys on here honest who can be trusted to treat you ladies and couples well.

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

The site has become more and more like this in recent years, and lockdown hasn’t helped.

All I’ll say is there are many, many lovely and genuine people on this site and they’re still quite easy to find so don’t lose hope!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if your fed up with guys and the message you get do this.

Block them.

I'm sure the guys will get over it.

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

"Well if your fed up with guys and the message you get do this.

Block them.

I'm sure the guys will get over it."

It used to be a swingers site now it’s a sex site . When I first joint many years ago it was mostly only couples and single women . And people met for socials and parties . But then it got popular through articles in newspapers and online. And with that it brought the quick fuck brigade and the undateables.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm kinda new to the site, although I signed up last year, only really using it now.

I know what you mean OP, it's a tad bit thirsty, no manners no respect. For what it's worth there some genuine guys out there to swing.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

What's a genuine swinger? I'm pretty sure I don't qualify.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are finding the same too, lots of people unreliable and just rude, we have kinda stopped coming on here as much x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks its good to know there are some genuine people about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Again we are finding excatly the same. There are plenty of genuine swingers out there. But the wanna suck wanna fuck messgaes are taking over. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Applause for this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the same here .

Some of them want to meet for a fuck straight away, no chat,no drinks or social .

First message itself is " Are you free this evening for play ?"

Fuck No . We are not sex machines here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Ban all the single people and let's get back to swinging

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By *ngelShare18Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think we need to do something proactive about this, we suggest all the couples pop around to ours and we shall do a naked protest!

That'll teach em

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Maybe the decent ones just got bored of messaging with out much response and don't bother.

Enjoy

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Oh we're still here but can't be heard over the noise...

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Well after a barrage of fuck me, suck me and meet me now messages I'm getting totally fed up of most of the guys on here. Where has the respect gone. I love this lifestyle, the social side as much as the fun side, but it seems we have been invaded by guys looking for a quick fuck. Is it just me or is anyone else feeling the same ? "

Not much respect because ‘some’ guys on here think it’s a sex site and they aren’t actual Swingers, just guys looking for a f^^k....!

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We're seeing the same problem. Can't even pull them on it because you just get the same reply of "this is a sex site, why be so uptight" because I'm not a darn toy that's why.

We're constantly being told that I need to chill because apparently these guys don't seem to like it when a woman demands basic respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not everyone guys and girls

there are still genuine swingers on here, not all male singletons are after the quick fuck and chuck some of us are actually still rather polite and respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site has changed totally from when I was first on here 10 odd years ago. It has become a sex site. The same thing happened with adult friend finder. Sadly its what happens when a site suddenly massively accelerates its single men membership. Then there is also lockdown which has taken away the club options and particularly the couples only nights. It was at the old AbFabs that I was told about Fab by a woman I met there. Its the club scene and private parties that drive what swinging is about.

Perhaps we all just need to be a little more patient.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

We have now been on this site for quite a few years and it has now become over run by men pretending to be couples/single females or men maintaining profile where the female no longer plays or has left the relationship. All very sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a genuine swinger?

I haven't noticed any change in the messages over the last 11 years. There have always been some men wanting a suck or fuck now. And some wanting a chat and to know me as a person before anything else.

One type I'm compatible with and one type I'm not. Doesn't mean me-or they- are wrong though.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I still here join me

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I always treat lady’s and couples with respect.

Taking time and enjoying each other.

Always looking for ladies and couples

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I always treat lady’s and couples with respect.

Taking time and enjoying each other.

Always looking for ladies and couples "

That word ‘looking’!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we’re still here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we need to do something proactive about this, we suggest all the couples pop around to ours and we shall do a naked protest!

That'll teach em"

Lol , let us know the date

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

Seems to be a daily barrage of new singke male profiles popping up in our area all looking for the quick and easy meet of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here for a chat and see where it leads us. I’d love a relationship tbh but if not I’ll settle for more good friends x

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

"Seems to be a daily barrage of new singke male profiles popping up in our area all looking for the quick and easy meet of course. "

Same in all areas. Simple answer is to use message filters and if you want a single guy you have to do the looking.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

I have also been polite.

I do ask about the number of messages and I hear and read here those numbers and have no idea how Ladies can cope with such inboxes. I know this makes my bespoke message difficult to stand out from the noise.

There are gems in the rough to be found Ladies and Couples.

I am based in Germany and the frustrations are everywhere from the Lockdown. The ever so pragmatic Dutch reccomended early on to find one FWB and stick with them for the duration. This I think helps the frustrations.... I hope.

Till I learned about the quantity and types of messages received I used to be annoyed by non reading or replying of messages when I started on FAB years ago. The Social side has been great as I learned a lot from a diverse bunch of people. Open from the start and learning things I would not have done.

Anyway I keep interacting as I would in Real life which has meant improved online skills.

Stay safe and enjoy yourselves folks.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

"Seems to be a daily barrage of new singke male profiles popping up in our area all looking for the quick and easy meet of course.

Same in all areas. Simple answer is to use message filters and if you want a single guy you have to do the looking."

That's a good approach.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

You only have to visit the fab chat rooms to see that this site is overrun with single men's profiles. It used to be that you would get half a dozen men in a

chat room at a time and the rest of the room was made up of couples and one or two genuine single fems. This is no longer the case and 90 percent of the rooms consists of single men. All very sad.This has ruined the chatrooms on fab as it has done on simpler sites such as swinging heaven and SDC.

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"Seems to be a daily barrage of new singke male profiles popping up in our area all looking for the quick and easy meet of course.

Same in all areas. Simple answer is to use message filters and if you want a single guy you have to do the looking.

That's a good approach."
But does not filter out the single men pretending to be couples or single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady friend of mine on here suggested that it makes the genuine guys stand out more... not all of us are rude "fuck me now" types... i like to get to know someone too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just thinking I’ll wait til the clubs open again and go back to basics. Go back to where I started.

Meeting people in the flesh. Chatting. Seeing if we click and then good old fashioned ‘let’s go to a room’.

I miss that.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Seems after swinging for over 30 years we are not real swingers as we like to meet and fuck, we have a busy life and rarely have time just to socialise.

Why do people try to redefine what we are?

If men want to message us to meet and fuck that is fine by us others may not like it, that is their choice, but we as established swinger prefer to know from the start we are going to enjoy sex rather than waste time chatting all night

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"A lady friend of mine on here suggested that it makes the genuine guys stand out more... not all of us are rude "fuck me now" types... i like to get to know someone too xx"

This.

And it's pretty easy to spot the fake dreaming pretenders.

Starting points: No photo verification as a couple? No photo verification as a female? On for a year and no meets? Unable to verify on cam?

The issue is not exclusive to couples - my block list runs into the hundreds.

Stay safe.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

The proves it then we are definitely not real swingers then,

We are not photo verified as a couple, B is not photo verified as a single, and we never cam others. Seems all those we have met have been in a trance during the meets they have had with us and just imagined they were having sex with B.

Perhaps the people who think the men on Fab are too blunt need to look at themselves, rather than complaining about the men on here. We have never had anyone message us being anything but polite. Yes many say they want to meet for sex but there is nothing wrong with that, we want that as well. Every man that we have met has been polite and respectful and a person we would happily meet again.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Ive seen it for myself as a guy, guys just messaging thinking they gonna get what they want, but im always up for talking having a laugh before all this play and fuck stuff. Drop me a bell if ya fancy a chat love to have a laugh

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"A lady friend of mine on here suggested that it makes the genuine guys stand out more... not all of us are rude "fuck me now" types... i like to get to know someone too xx"

This is why I’m more chatting on the forums than messaging people.

Social side is difficult just how. In fact everything is difficult just now!

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I think everyone that isnt veries in person should be reviewed or even people that have an account over a certain age with no veries should be removed

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

"A lady friend of mine on here suggested that it makes the genuine guys stand out more... not all of us are rude "fuck me now" types... i like to get to know someone too xx

This is why I’m more chatting on the forums than messaging people.

Social side is difficult just how. In fact everything is difficult just now!"
true mate, i use the chatrooms to talk but you even get the fuck boys in there which i will say stuff too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much respect because ‘some’ guys on here think it’s a sex site and they aren’t actual Swingers, just guys looking for a f^^k....! "

this in spades unfortunatly

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I hate to say it, but obviously the 'fancy a fuck' messages must work, if only 1% of the time, or the guys would give up and try writing real messages.

But apart from the evil 'single men',

I've seen plenty of status updates, from women and couples stating that they are free now, and asking whose interested.

There's a lot of impatient people on this site.

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By *ustfulmusingCouple
over a year ago

ilpseich

I wonder if some of the couples and genuine guys are taking a slightly ‘step back ‘ approach at the moment because of how things are.

Therefore there seems a far greater proportion of the types of messages you’re talking about from these guys.

We have chatted and met some very lovely couples and singles guys having said that On this site ,who are genuinely into the lifestyle .

But we agree with your point though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate to say it, but obviously the 'fancy a fuck' messages must work, if only 1% of the time, or the guys would give up and try writing real messages.

But apart from the evil 'single men',

I've seen plenty of status updates, from women and couples stating that they are free now, and asking whose interested.

There's a lot of impatient people on this site."

swinging is not all socials and clubs ?? these forums account for a very very very small part of the site let alone the scene ... alot of swingers play ''on the day'' or unplanned ...swinging is not one way and certainty not run by a forum thats as small as this one ...swinging is a much much bigger fish than that ....

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