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"Ask him what he likes. He might just mean he likes the woman on top. " That ! He may have hidden ideas that he doesn't know how to voice. Feel him out ( so to speak ) what he has seen watched or heard that planted the seed! Just be confident with it . Have fun . | |||
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"Ask him what he likes. He might just mean he likes the woman on top. " I've tried asking but he's being a bit cryptic, I think he's shy | |||
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"Maybe wait until the pandemic is over" Don't recall saying I was meeting him in the near future. | |||
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"Facesitting. Kissing your feet. Calling you mistress. Tie-up and tickle. Tell him when and how to pleasure you." Good ideas, thank you | |||
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"Ask him what he likes. He might just mean he likes the woman on top. I've tried asking but he's being a bit cryptic, I think he's shy " Google mojo upgrade. Someone on here once mentioned it. I found it very useful. Maybe search for domme women porn. Find some things that you like or wouldn't mind doing, and send him the links. Tell him to let you know which ones he likes. Good luck | |||
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"Ask him what he likes. He might just mean he likes the woman on top. I've tried asking but he's being a bit cryptic, I think he's shy " Maybe ask if he is interested in cross dressing? Many men are but won’t bring it up in case it scares you off. | |||
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"I'm talking to a guy who told me he likes to be submissive in bed. I'm up for trying out being domme but I wouldn't be into the whole "latex, dominatrix, whips and chains etc" kind of vibe. When I think of dominant men I have been with I think throatfucking, choking, hair pulling, rough sex. What are some ways for women to show that same kind of natural dominance in bed? " Hey, it's Charlotte here... Just start by taking charge of the moment... Leading him.. Grabbing his throat a bit.. Not too much, just in a passionate way.... Tease him.. You have to almost trick him with being a bit sub, but switch it quickly back in the moment, so the shock factor triggers him.. It's all psychological the dom\sub thing tying him up with his hands above his head and a blind fold can help too.. Build a bit of trust xx | |||
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"Google mojo upgrade. Someone on here once mentioned it. I found it very useful. " That's the 2nd time I've seen that site mentioned this week! The first was in a book on swinging I've just finished reading. | |||
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"Some great advice on here, thank you guys Doesn't seem as scary as I thought anymore. I like the idea of teasing and edging without allowing him to touch me. Not sure about facesitting though as I'm not trying to suffocate him haha. But lots of other good ideas " I like to call it pussifocation Tell him to tap your ass for air | |||
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"I'm a switch but the way I dominate a guy is totally different to both the way I dominate a woman and the way I like to be dominated by men. Men are horny little creatures ruled by their cocks. Their much more fun to tease to the point of insanity and to make them work hard and adore me in order to get what they want. It's fun to exploit their personal desires. Men who love eating pussy are fun. Make them beg for it, let them taste it on your fingers, straddle their face and play with yourself. Really its all a personal thing though. You need to find what scratches your itch about it or it just feels like an act and that's hard to keep up. " Outstanding pics | |||
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"Soooo the guy ended up ghosting me and then disappearing out of nowhere so never mind haha. Still good to know these things though, a lot of it sounds fun and totally not what my misconceptions were about dommes " Just out of curiosity, which parts sound fun and what were your misconceptions? | |||
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"Soooo the guy ended up ghosting me and then disappearing out of nowhere so never mind haha. Still good to know these things though, a lot of it sounds fun and totally not what my misconceptions were about dommes Just out of curiosity, which parts sound fun and what were your misconceptions? " The teasing and denial is what appeals to me most, it's like being in control but subtly. I think I struggle a little with the dynamics of extreme power play. And my misconceptions were that there is a lot of pain, humiliation and giving out orders involved. Which, from reading the responses, there can be to a degree but it can be a lot more sensual too. | |||
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"Soooo the guy ended up ghosting me and then disappearing out of nowhere so never mind haha. Still good to know these things though, a lot of it sounds fun and totally not what my misconceptions were about dommes Just out of curiosity, which parts sound fun and what were your misconceptions? The teasing and denial is what appeals to me most, it's like being in control but subtly. I think I struggle a little with the dynamics of extreme power play. And my misconceptions were that there is a lot of pain, humiliation and giving out orders involved. Which, from reading the responses, there can be to a degree but it can be a lot more sensual too. " It's my favourite part . Such a power trip. Yes they're quite common misconceptions on both sides. I've heard people say before they thought they were submissive because they didn't like pain or humiliation. Domination and submission are about power and control and exactly how that looke is totally individual to different people, hence why negotiation is so important. | |||
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"A common misconception about BDSM of Dom/sub is that its all about whips, canes and pain. Its power play. Not all submissives are masochists and not all masochists are submissive. While we can happily play in ways that would pit some off, we spend a lot of our time doing sensation play, teasing, edging, orgasm denial, CBT, massage, blindfolds, wax and ice, tickling etc. As long as we get a reaction, thats what we care about. But every dynamic is different, there is no “one true way” in kink. Forge your own path, and as long as you play safe (not safe sex but understand some aspects of BDSM play can cause injuries), ignore anyone who suggests you are doing it wrong. " This! | |||
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"You wonderful ladies! I screen shotted a bunch of posts earlier, thinking I could probably do some of it and could certainly use some for inspiration. I'm not used to being dominant so I struggle with confidence and knowing what to try. Thanks to the above advice, I have just given Mr Sprite a lovely time, which culminated with him coming so hard his face went all tingly and he couldn't get up for aaaaages! I started by kissing him, and teasing him, while not letting him touch me. Spent ages slowly teasing around his cock before touching him. Used a couple of vibrators on him to amp him up a little more. Then blindfolded him, and tied his hands. Gave him a blow job, and then switched to wanking him, and back and forth, with plenty of edging. Got out some more toys, and put in his new p spot vibrator while using our male wand attachment to bring him close... And then bringing him back down. I finally climbed on top, but first used his dick to rub my clit, and only let him put the very tip of his cock inside me until he'd begged me to fuck him. Telling him to beg me was hot as fuck. Then I rode him while pushing on the P spot vibe and covering his mouth, until he came. Fucking bucket loads of it! Thank you, thank you, thank you ladies. And a huge thank you from Mr Sprite too! C (her) " That sounds unbelievably hot. Glad you both had a good time! | |||
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"Thank you! Yours was one of the posts I used as inspiration! Next time, I'm planning to do as you mentioned with straddling his face and playing until he's begging for a taste... " Aww glad to help! I hope you enjoy that just as much as I did | |||
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"A common misconception about BDSM of Dom/sub is that its all about whips, canes and pain. Its power play. Not all submissives are masochists and not all masochists are submissive. While we can happily play in ways that would pit some off, we spend a lot of our time doing sensation play, teasing, edging, orgasm denial, CBT, massage, blindfolds, wax and ice, tickling etc. As long as we get a reaction, thats what we care about. But every dynamic is different, there is no “one true way” in kink. Forge your own path, and as long as you play safe (not safe sex but understand some aspects of BDSM play can cause injuries), ignore anyone who suggests you are doing it wrong. " | |||
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"You wonderful ladies! I screen shotted a bunch of posts earlier, thinking I could probably do some of it and could certainly use some for inspiration. I'm not used to being dominant so I struggle with confidence and knowing what to try. Thanks to the above advice, I have just given Mr Sprite a lovely time, which culminated with him coming so hard his face went all tingly and he couldn't get up for aaaaages! I started by kissing him, and teasing him, while not letting him touch me. Spent ages slowly teasing around his cock before touching him. Used a couple of vibrators on him to amp him up a little more. Then blindfolded him, and tied his hands. Gave him a blow job, and then switched to wanking him, and back and forth, with plenty of edging. Got out some more toys, and put in his new p spot vibrator while using our male wand attachment to bring him close... And then bringing him back down. I finally climbed on top, but first used his dick to rub my clit, and only let him put the very tip of his cock inside me until he'd begged me to fuck him. Telling him to beg me was hot as fuck. Then I rode him while pushing on the P spot vibe and covering his mouth, until he came. Fucking bucket loads of it! Thank you, thank you, thank you ladies. And a huge thank you from Mr Sprite too! C (her) " | |||
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"I'm talking to a guy who told me he likes to be submissive in bed. I'm up for trying out being domme but I wouldn't be into the whole "latex, dominatrix, whips and chains etc" kind of vibe. When I think of dominant men I have been with I think throatfucking, choking, hair pulling, rough sex. What are some ways for women to show that same kind of natural dominance in bed? " Personally I find restraint to be a massive turn in, eg tie and tease. To be sexually controlled by another is an amazing feeling | |||
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