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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds

This has probably been done before I’m sure, but what’s everyone’s ideas on the perfect opening message? I get the odd reply but in comparison to the messages I send it’s next to nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A picture of a twix with the phrase : it ain't gonna eat itself

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"A picture of a twix with the phrase : it ain't gonna eat itself"

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds

Surely you’ve not done that?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Hello (name)

Having read your profile I identify xxx (ask question about it) or comment on status.

Do not include dick pic.

Send.

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Hello (name)

Having read your profile I identify xxx (ask question about it) or comment on status.

Do not include dick pic.

Send. "

I never include a dick pic I’m always complimenting their profile and pictures too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely you’ve not done that? "
you will be surprised what hes done to get a reply

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Surely you’ve not done that? you will be surprised what hes done to get a reply "

I’m not confident enough that would work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely you’ve not done that? you will be surprised what hes done to get a reply

I’m not confident enough that would work "
only one way to find out

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Surely you’ve not done that? you will be surprised what hes done to get a reply

I’m not confident enough that would work only one way to find out "

That’s really not my style lol

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Start with "Hello". I'm astonished at how many people bypass that and just go straight to how much they want to have sex with us.

Follow the hello with the name(s) of the recipient(s) as given on the profile.

Those are two very basic, obvious that will set anybody apart from the masses.

Then the golden rule is:

***Have something to say.***

Maybe it's related to something in our profile text, or our gallery, or something on the forums, or something else. Just make it relevant. You have to give somebody a reason to want to talk to you. It's not an automatic right.

The majority of messages we get are from people who clearly have absolutely nothing to say, and appear to want us to lead the conversation. "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not amount to a worthwhile conversation. I am not going to do your work for you unless I fancy the absolute pants off you.

The other thing is don't come on too strong. Don't talk about sex, fantasies, meeting, or anything along those lines. Just chat, like you might if you had just been introduced to your mate's sister or friend, maybe at a dinner party. Would you start off with "What's your favourite position?" I certainly hope not. Don't do it here either.

Fab is about the long game with a lot of people. They want to form connections, build trust and build rapport before considering anything further. That's certainly us anyway. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. If you don't treat us with respect and/or go at our pace, then bye bye.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"A picture of a twix with the phrase : it ain't gonna eat itself"

To be honest Op, it’s a great opening message. If it’s then followed up with more about that persons profile and what they find, enticing or exciting I’m sure more would appreciate it, than the usual are you meeting messages

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Start with "Hello". I'm astonished at how many people bypass that and just go straight to how much they want to have sex with us.

Follow the hello with the name(s) of the recipient(s) as given on the profile.

Those are two very basic, obvious that will set anybody apart from the masses.

Then the golden rule is:

***Have something to say.***

Maybe it's related to something in our profile text, or our gallery, or something on the forums, or something else. Just make it relevant. You have to give somebody a reason to want to talk to you. It's not an automatic right.

The majority of messages we get are from people who clearly have absolutely nothing to say, and appear to want us to lead the conversation. "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not amount to a worthwhile conversation. I am not going to do your work for you unless I fancy the absolute pants off you.

The other thing is don't come on too strong. Don't talk about sex, fantasies, meeting, or anything along those lines. Just chat, like you might if you had just been introduced to your mate's sister or friend, maybe at a dinner party. Would you start off with "What's your favourite position?" I certainly hope not. Don't do it here either.

Fab is about the long game with a lot of people. They want to form connections, build trust and build rapport before considering anything further. That's certainly us anyway. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. If you don't treat us with respect and/or go at our pace, then bye bye. "

And this

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hello (name)

Having read your profile I identify xxx (ask question about it) or comment on status.

Do not include dick pic.

Send.

I never include a dick pic I’m always complimenting their profile and pictures too "

It's not about compliments, it's about connecting. Look at the advice from _partharmony. It's obvious that someone thinks the photos are nice, that's why they're messaging. Look for connections instead.

Good luck

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Start with "Hello". I'm astonished at how many people bypass that and just go straight to how much they want to have sex with us.

Follow the hello with the name(s) of the recipient(s) as given on the profile.

Those are two very basic, obvious that will set anybody apart from the masses.

Then the golden rule is:

***Have something to say.***

Maybe it's related to something in our profile text, or our gallery, or something on the forums, or something else. Just make it relevant. You have to give somebody a reason to want to talk to you. It's not an automatic right.

The majority of messages we get are from people who clearly have absolutely nothing to say, and appear to want us to lead the conversation. "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not amount to a worthwhile conversation. I am not going to do your work for you unless I fancy the absolute pants off you.

The other thing is don't come on too strong. Don't talk about sex, fantasies, meeting, or anything along those lines. Just chat, like you might if you had just been introduced to your mate's sister or friend, maybe at a dinner party. Would you start off with "What's your favourite position?" I certainly hope not. Don't do it here either.

Fab is about the long game with a lot of people. They want to form connections, build trust and build rapport before considering anything further. That's certainly us anyway. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. If you don't treat us with respect and/or go at our pace, then bye bye. "

Brilliant advice and in depth thank you so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has probably been done before I’m sure, but what’s everyone’s ideas on the perfect opening message? I get the odd reply but in comparison to the messages I send it’s next to nothing. "

There isn't a perfect message! Women aren't all sheep that want the same message they are individuals so message them as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check my profile for a link to an in depth forum post I wrote about this

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"A picture of a twix with the phrase : it ain't gonna eat itself"

We’d definitely reply to that!

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Check my profile for a link to an in depth forum post I wrote about this "

Thank you for the advice

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh


"Start with "Hello". I'm astonished at how many people bypass that and just go straight to how much they want to have sex with us.

Follow the hello with the name(s) of the recipient(s) as given on the profile.

Those are two very basic, obvious that will set anybody apart from the masses.

Then the golden rule is:

***Have something to say.***

Maybe it's related to something in our profile text, or our gallery, or something on the forums, or something else. Just make it relevant. You have to give somebody a reason to want to talk to you. It's not an automatic right.

The majority of messages we get are from people who clearly have absolutely nothing to say, and appear to want us to lead the conversation. "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not amount to a worthwhile conversation. I am not going to do your work for you unless I fancy the absolute pants off you.

The other thing is don't come on too strong. Don't talk about sex, fantasies, meeting, or anything along those lines. Just chat, like you might if you had just been introduced to your mate's sister or friend, maybe at a dinner party. Would you start off with "What's your favourite position?" I certainly hope not. Don't do it here either.

Fab is about the long game with a lot of people. They want to form connections, build trust and build rapport before considering anything further. That's certainly us anyway. Slowly slowly catchy monkey. If you don't treat us with respect and/or go at our pace, then bye bye. "

Wow! Thank you _partharmony. You have demonstrated that there are similar thinking couples on here. First impressions count so initial messages are key to demonstrating a link. Friendship and trust is built over time through fun conversation. Your lengthy reply was spot on with advice and support, just what Fab, to us, is all about. Mrs SW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything whimsical about Kim Kardashian usually gets a reply from myself.

The unoriginal ---

"Hi, How are you?, What you up to?"

type messages will get an instant delete unless I like the look of your profile and I feel like entertaining someone with no imagination.

Good luck though OP. Everyone is different so probably my actual advice would be to PROPERLY read someone's profile/bio and then read it again a second time to see if you're compatible, share the same interests and more importantly aren't likely to be sending a pointless message that isn't curated to their needs and wants.

GK

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By *illywonka76 OP   Man
over a year ago

Glos/Wales/West Midlajds


"Anything whimsical about Kim Kardashian usually gets a reply from myself.

The unoriginal ---

"Hi, How are you?, What you up to?"

type messages will get an instant delete unless I like the look of your profile and I feel like entertaining someone with no imagination.

Good luck though OP. Everyone is different so probably my actual advice would be to PROPERLY read someone's profile/bio and then read it again a second time to see if you're compatible, share the same interests and more importantly aren't likely to be sending a pointless message that isn't curated to their needs and wants.

GK"

Thanks mate much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello (name)

Having read your profile I identify xxx (ask question about it) or comment on status.

Do not include dick pic.

Send. "

I thought you enjoyed my dick pics? Ha ha

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