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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dishonesty

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

That’s exactly how we feel, so many listed as straight but message saying there bi. Why hide it thought we all love doing this to be our true selves and embrace it. We would love to find a local bi couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an incredibly common occurrence for us. There does seems to be something a bit wrong about it

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The majority of straight guys who message me, I’ll tell them I’m not interested as I had a bad experience with a ‘straight’ guy in the past. The answer is normally ‘but I’m not like that’ as if they’d admit that they could be abusive, after they feel a bit guilty over the sex act they’ve just had.

I understand their reasoning as they could miss out with couples or women, who aren’t interested in bi guys but it’s being dishonest no matter what your excuse is.

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

There's quite a few women who won't meet bi guys. Each to their own I guess though.

What I do is put bi on my profile and then message saying I'm secretly straight....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh I'm kind of the other way around, I've put myself as 'bi' but prefer to play straight.

But I'm open minded to things 'happening' if playing with a couple...

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"dishonesty"

Yes potentially, but so many people seem to presume that listing as bi means they insist on it. Maybe there are situations where guys take those liberties in the bedroom though. Given we only want bi guys, it's not a dynamic we'll ever find out about if true.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Ooh I'm kind of the other way around, I've put myself as 'bi' but prefer to play straight.

But I'm open minded to things 'happening' if playing with a couple..."

Shame, we'd have been interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh I'm kind of the other way around, I've put myself as 'bi' but prefer to play straight.

But I'm open minded to things 'happening' if playing with a couple...

Shame, we'd have been interested!"

I'll let you know next time that I'm in Birmingham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them.

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By *EloveMan
over a year ago

Pool of Life

We all tell small lies daily we just dont realise.I try to generate an environment of honesty but it isn't always easy.

With bi and gay it's not just scaring off people but I think its roots are in a conditioned homophobia were denial is the root cause of anger.."I could actually song another bloke?...euw no" unable to cope with the inner struggle it gets externalised. We are all abit prejudice but not on a pathological level,so there may be conditioned shame or something.

I'm waffling of course, on our profile we are "straight- but fab straight" so how I've rationalized that is we fancy the opposite sex - but will try variation for fun. Is that curious?

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By *atexbisexTV/TS
over a year ago

Central London


"Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them."

Amen to that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them."

Makes sense to me, if people are in the closet their in the closet. No point judging people especially on a site like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listed as bi leads to 100s of messages off guys saying want your cock sucked now.... Listed as straight leads to no messages of guys, personally I enjoy mmf meets there a lot of fun and there is a lot more variables to enjoy. I'm not looking for a mm meet it doesn't apeal to me at all and isn't what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them.

Amen to that!"

Lol. People meet in clubs and play with random single guys without knowing that they are married ,gay ,bi or smokers or played bareback with other people .

And whatever written on Fab profile ,we take it with a pinch of salt .

Many profiles says that they are friendly and down to earth but in reality they can be an ass and full of drama with arrogance . We have experienced some knobs here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met lots of guys and sadly have never been truly impressed by a straight one who claims to be bi yet. The most fun is always with the ones who accept who they are. It would be easy enough to have a straight and a seperate bi profile for those who really want the best of both

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Guys are ashamed of admitting they are bi. Even on gay dating apps guys won’t show their face pics or ask for discretion. It’s 2020 yet people still fear discrimination.

However it does seem odd on a site for enhancing your sex life that people aren’t more open. I can to a degree understand in the outside world where friends may not be as accepting . But the women who don’t meet bi guys on here are less common then women who will .

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex


"Listed as bi leads to 100s of messages off guys saying want your cock sucked now.... Listed as straight leads to no messages of guys, personally I enjoy mmf meets there a lot of fun and there is a lot more variables to enjoy. I'm not looking for a mm meet it doesn't apeal to me at all and isn't what I'm looking for. "

Y'know there are filters you can apply to reduce the unwelcome messages....

Or just set up another profile with different pictures to appeal to your 'target' membership....

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

This is why i have 3 profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had L listed as straight up until recently. He is straight in the aspect of not fancying men or will ever have full sex with a man. However he is very comfortable with other men and their cocks so thought honesty is the best policy and changed our profile to bi-curious. Does that make sense? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would consider myself as straight but but have had wank mates in the past and i go as far as hj or bj from guys but would never take things further. So do i put bi or straight on my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our main concern, once we have established that guys are in fact bi is "are they bi enough?" Its a very broad spectrum and just calling themselves bi still doesn't actually mean that they are what we are looking for. I did once offer free bisexuality tests to those who were still finding their feet but sadly nobody was brave enough to sign up for one hahaha Xx

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By *yintotryCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

We get this regularly, we reply, yet it says straight on your profile, and block. We have couples/fems that won't meet because m has bi curious and thats their choice. Can understand why guys do it but its not playing fair lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get this regularly, we reply, yet it says straight on your profile, and block. We have couples/fems that won't meet because m has bi curious and thats their choice. Can understand why guys do it but its not playing fair lol."

It's their loss ,not yours.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We get this regularly, we reply, yet it says straight on your profile, and block. We have couples/fems that won't meet because m has bi curious and thats their choice. Can understand why guys do it but its not playing fair lol."

Ah yes, before lockdown I had the joy of a very long heated debate about a couple who wouldn't meet with couples where he had ever so much as thought about looking at a dick pic... But oh no... no homophobia at all.... uh huh...

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By *eed a changeMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I would say alot of guys are worried about people finding out they have a secret liking for dick. But in all honesty ive just told all my close friends im bi and not one of them gave a toss. It's 2020 get a grip (of that big dick ??????)

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I had a similar discussion with two friends recently. They asked me was I bi or straight l, in which l laughed and said are you lesbian or bi!!!!!

As we carried on the chat, they were asking me did I consider myself straight as i have sex with a couple and I said yes as I don’t touch the guy and I don’t want to be touched (They are both lesbian but kinda vanilla as they are not swingers).

Have I played with bi couples, yes but there has been no guy on guy play, as we had set the boundaries. I know a few guys in the scene that are straight but happily play with guys in a sexual scenario but won’t look for guys

For me there is a huge stigma still on scene regarding bi men, and if you looo compared to bi women, it’s like chalk and cheese

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had L listed as straight up until recently. He is straight in the aspect of not fancying men or will ever have full sex with a man. However he is very comfortable with other men and their cocks so thought honesty is the best policy and changed our profile to bi-curious. Does that make sense? Lol"

This is exactly me! Kiss a guy or bum stuff Wank and suck a guy if he has a nice cock

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We had L listed as straight up until recently. He is straight in the aspect of not fancying men or will ever have full sex with a man. However he is very comfortable with other men and their cocks so thought honesty is the best policy and changed our profile to bi-curious. Does that make sense? Lol

This is exactly me! Kiss a guy or bum stuff Wank and suck a guy if he has a nice cock "

There's certainly a lot more "scary" stuff for bi guys to do than bi gals.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

To follow that up I have more female friends that are bi, than male (well who have told me). Sometimes I think my vanilla friends (esp in football world) that I would be judgemental.

As a lot of vanilla friends (They used to swing) know my sexuality and what I like sexually it doesn’t lead to that many awkward questions if I say if I am going to a club or a certain part or the country - normally a private message on social media will normally happen.

The football world is very much top heavy with masculine guys and lesbian ladies. For me it has never been a problem if my friends are gay straight or bi. Though in my group chat I would say most of the lads are straight, maybe one or two exceptions l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word 'disingenuous' springs to mind. In this day and age there is nothing detrimental about saying you are bi if in fact you are bi. In my case I tend to say 'partially bi' or orally bi as this is the most accurate placing of what I like to be involved with

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"The word 'disingenuous' springs to mind. In this day and age there is nothing detrimental about saying you are bi if in fact you are bi. In my case I tend to say 'partially bi' or orally bi as this is the most accurate placing of what I like to be involved with "

bi-curious even...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would consider myself as straight but but have had wank mates in the past and i go as far as hj or bj from guys but would never take things further. So do i put bi or straight on my profile?"

If you have sexual intimacy with members of the opposite sex only, then you are straight. If you have sexual intimacy with members of the same sex only, then you are gay / homosexual / lesbian (use which ever term you wish to identify with). If you have sexual intimacy with members of either sex, then you're bisexual.

Some women will not play with bi men (their body, their choice) and the reasons for this are many and to me at least very understandable. I'm guessing that's one reason why some would hide it, although then they lose out on those who want bi guys.

On fab, you can be the person you are, or the person you think others are looking for. Each to their own, but I find it's best to be yourself, and be the best self you can be.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I would consider myself as straight but but have had wank mates in the past and i go as far as hj or bj from guys but would never take things further. So do i put bi or straight on my profile?

If you have sexual intimacy with members of the opposite sex only, then you are straight. If you have sexual intimacy with members of the same sex only, then you are gay / homosexual / lesbian (use which ever term you wish to identify with). If you have sexual intimacy with members of either sex, then you're bisexual.

Some women will not play with bi men (their body, their choice) and the reasons for this are many and to me at least very understandable. I'm guessing that's one reason why some would hide it, although then they lose out on those who want bi guys.

On fab, you can be the person you are, or the person you think others are looking for. Each to their own, but I find it's best to be yourself, and be the best self you can be."

As someone who plays with couples what does that make me

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Our main concern, once we have established that guys are in fact bi is "are they bi enough?" Its a very broad spectrum and just calling themselves bi still doesn't actually mean that they are what we are looking for. I did once offer free bisexuality tests to those who were still finding their feet but sadly nobody was brave enough to sign up for one hahaha Xx"
This is our issue when i point out they straight ,its usually"i can wank hubby " thats not enough

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Some women will not play with bi men (their body, their choice) and the reasons for this are many and to me at least very understandable."

What are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our main concern, once we have established that guys are in fact bi is "are they bi enough?" Its a very broad spectrum and just calling themselves bi still doesn't actually mean that they are what we are looking for. I did once offer free bisexuality tests to those who were still finding their feet but sadly nobody was brave enough to sign up for one hahaha XxThis is our issue when i point out they straight ,its usually"i can wank hubby " thats not enough "

Can wank hubby are definitely not bi enough for us . Lol

They must trying their luck then

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Our main concern, once we have established that guys are in fact bi is "are they bi enough?" Its a very broad spectrum and just calling themselves bi still doesn't actually mean that they are what we are looking for. I did once offer free bisexuality tests to those who were still finding their feet but sadly nobody was brave enough to sign up for one hahaha XxThis is our issue when i point out they straight ,its usually"i can wank hubby " thats not enough

Can wank hubby are definitely not bi enough for us . Lol

They must trying their luck then "
Every day i get that from "straight" guys even bi curious say the same and want us to teach them,NO we want to enjoy not teach ,time is precious so cant waste a minute especially at our age ..

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think a lot of bi guys see that certain people don't want to meet bi guys and think they are perfectly happy not give any indication of being bi as a meet. I think the think if you don't know how would it affect somebody? So they keep it quiet and only bring out the information when it's useful to do so.

Incidentally, it also happens with women, but for different reasons. We have chatted to a few single women whose profile says they are straight but have told us that's to stop getting propositioned by the many couples looking for a unicorn, and have suggested we might be a couple they would consider exploring with. Would you think that is dishonest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some women will not play with bi men (their body, their choice) and the reasons for this are many and to me at least very understandable.

What are they?"

Well, I know one reason will relate to sexual health. Another can be that they won't be enough for the person. But ask them... my point is if they have a reason, it's theirs, and as it's their body then can decide.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

Hi untrepid

I think in some cases it's dishonesty and disingenuity even, as when some people 'admit' they are bi on a public forum thread and then proceed to explain that they put 'straight' on their profile for whatever excuse...that's probably why some people think it's shitty. Also some people may think the shittiness lies in the fact that men want to 'score' with as many people as possible...

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

I think bi guys can get a rough deal on fab. It's enough for some people to rule you out (often rather rudely too) without even knowing the facts.

Hubby is bi, but much prefers women and would rather be pegged than play with a guy. However, as he is bi, the option is there for the right person should he come along. We are not looking for men, but not completely opposed to them should *we* find one we like.

Listing Hubby as straight would not be honest or accurate to how he sees himself. We've found a lot of guys message saying they are actually bi when it says straight, but they all get deleted if they can't be open about it.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I think bi guys can get a rough deal on fab. It's enough for some people to rule you out (often rather rudely too) without even knowing the facts.

Hubby is bi, but much prefers women and would rather be pegged than play with a guy. However, as he is bi, the option is there for the right person should he come along. We are not looking for men, but not completely opposed to them should *we* find one we like.

Listing Hubby as straight would not be honest or accurate to how he sees himself. We've found a lot of guys message saying they are actually bi when it says straight, but they all get deleted if they can't be open about it. "

Im pretty much the same as he is, I won't play with men alone but if they are part of a couple and we all click then im happy to play in a limited capacity with both of them.

No way would I say I'm straight as im simply not but its also not as cut and dried as being 50/50 bi either.

Yes it may rule me out to some people but I value honesty over pretty much everything.

Also just because someone says they are bi, it doesn't mean that is the only way they play so it shouldn't be taken that a bi guy always wants to play with a guy too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have a preference for bi guys but wouldnt entertain a guy with straight on his profile then told me he was bi. I like confident guys that own their sexuality

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"I think bi guys can get a rough deal on fab. It's enough for some people to rule you out (often rather rudely too) without even knowing the facts.

Hubby is bi, but much prefers women and would rather be pegged than play with a guy. However, as he is bi, the option is there for the right person should he come along. We are not looking for men, but not completely opposed to them should *we* find one we like.

Listing Hubby as straight would not be honest or accurate to how he sees himself. We've found a lot of guys message saying they are actually bi when it says straight, but they all get deleted if they can't be open about it.

Im pretty much the same as he is, I won't play with men alone but if they are part of a couple and we all click then im happy to play in a limited capacity with both of them.

No way would I say I'm straight as im simply not but its also not as cut and dried as being 50/50 bi either.

Yes it may rule me out to some people but I value honesty over pretty much everything.

Also just because someone says they are bi, it doesn't mean that is the only way they play so it shouldn't be taken that a bi guy always wants to play with a guy too.

"

I'm not ruling out playing with a guy privately. It's just not my preferred way to play. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to find a guy to play alone with, but only when I really want it.

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"I have a preference for bi guys but wouldnt entertain a guy with straight on his profile then told me he was bi. I like confident guys that own their sexuality"

You're a minority from our/my experience here. Would love to meet more women like you x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I think bi guys can get a rough deal on fab. It's enough for some people to rule you out (often rather rudely too) without even knowing the facts.

Hubby is bi, but much prefers women and would rather be pegged than play with a guy. However, as he is bi, the option is there for the right person should he come along. We are not looking for men, but not completely opposed to them should *we* find one we like.

Listing Hubby as straight would not be honest or accurate to how he sees himself. We've found a lot of guys message saying they are actually bi when it says straight, but they all get deleted if they can't be open about it.

Im pretty much the same as he is, I won't play with men alone but if they are part of a couple and we all click then im happy to play in a limited capacity with both of them.

No way would I say I'm straight as im simply not but its also not as cut and dried as being 50/50 bi either.

Yes it may rule me out to some people but I value honesty over pretty much everything.

Also just because someone says they are bi, it doesn't mean that is the only way they play so it shouldn't be taken that a bi guy always wants to play with a guy too.

I'm not ruling out playing with a guy privately. It's just not my preferred way to play. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy to find a guy to play alone with, but only when I really want it. "

A way I describe this is bi playful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a preference for bi guys but wouldnt entertain a guy with straight on his profile then told me he was bi. I like confident guys that own their sexuality"

Thanks for providing the new tag line for our profile.. that last sentance says it all for us Xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I have a preference for bi guys but wouldnt entertain a guy with straight on his profile then told me he was bi. I like confident guys that own their sexuality

Thanks for providing the new tag line for our profile.. that last sentance says it all for us Xx"
your welcome. There the only guys i go for but they have to be quietly confident not obnoxious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gonna be awkward when one of these "I'm really bi but cant have it on the profile" guys that's saying it just to get to meet Mrs gets a cock in their arse

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By *r99mr99Man
over a year ago

Ealing


"Gonna be awkward when one of these "I'm really bi but cant have it on the profile" guys that's saying it just to get to meet Mrs gets a cock in their arse "

So if I want a cock in my arse I should change to straight on my profile and message you....

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"Gonna be awkward when one of these "I'm really bi but cant have it on the profile" guys that's saying it just to get to meet Mrs gets a cock in their arse "

Having my cock on a Mrs as her Mr slips it in me sounds perfect actually...

Hubby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if I want a cock in my arse I should change to straight on my profile and message you.... "

Not at all, we normally dont give them the time of day unless mrs liked what she saw

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By *nozcumberMan
over a year ago

Honiton


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

What is Bi is more my question. In the height of passion the male side of the couple asked if he could share my dick with his wife and they both knelt before me. Nothing more occurred and I had no problem with it at all. I play straight and always have done but am happy to oblige certain things. Does that actually make me Bi???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who have any sort of bi curiosity or history have a choice.

Deny it in their profile, and close off that part of their personality.

Or admit it but accept that this will cut out about 70% of the already limited number of potential playmates on the site.

Unless they are very very bi, as in enjoy manlove as much as heterosexual activity, then the numbers don't really add up for being honest, and it's a somewhat victimless lie since it doesn't affect their playmates worth a damn, especially if the guy hasn't actually done anything with a guy.

People can call it dishonesty if they want, it kind of is, but sometimes it's necessary in the face of prejudice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having my cock on a Mrs as her Mr slips it in me sounds perfect actually...

Hubby x"

Something we have yet to try but looking forward to it

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

It’s massively frustrating, and a symptom of bi erasure and bi invisibility! Really grinds our gears!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think bi guys can get a rough deal on fab. It's enough for some people to rule you out (often rather rudely too) without even knowing the facts.

Hubby is bi, but much prefers women and would rather be pegged than play with a guy. However, as he is bi, the option is there for the right person should he come along. We are not looking for men, but not completely opposed to them should *we* find one we like.

Listing Hubby as straight would not be honest or accurate to how he sees himself. We've found a lot of guys message saying they are actually bi when it says straight, but they all get deleted if they can't be open about it.

Im pretty much the same as he is, I won't play with men alone but if they are part of a couple and we all click then im happy to play in a limited capacity with both of them.

No way would I say I'm straight as im simply not but its also not as cut and dried as being 50/50 bi either.

Yes it may rule me out to some people but I value honesty over pretty much everything.

Also just because someone says they are bi, it doesn't mean that is the only way they play so it shouldn't be taken that a bi guy always wants to play with a guy too.

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Same here

when I had a male profile, I was only interested in TV/CD or a little play with a couple, but putting Bi on the profile meant daily emails from gay guys, who couldn't understand I wasn't interested in them.

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East


"Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them.

Amen to that!

Lol. People meet in clubs and play with random single guys without knowing that they are married ,gay ,bi or smokers or played bareback with other people .

And whatever written on Fab profile ,we take it with a pinch of salt .

Many profiles says that they are friendly and down to earth but in reality they can be an ass and full of drama with arrogance . We have experienced some knobs here lol "

I'm with you. It's about the moment in swinging, I mean if I was talking to a woman with whom I had an connection who enjoyed golden showers I wouldn't just cut of the conversation off because I didn't enjoy the thought of it.

For example, what happened if a guy has been experimented with bi play once, didn't enjoy it and decided not to persue it. Does that still make him bi? Does that make him dishonest if he doesn't disclose it to you?

Personally I began exploring with bi play and for a long time (a couple of years) I was working out what they meant for me, and yes I think it does have an affect when some couples and single females bash you for it.

But then again, I've been in group scenarios' where men have said they are okay playing in the presence of a bi guys and they really are not.

I'd call that the fragility of toxic masculinity and its never very comfortable for anyone.

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By *r99mr99Man
over a year ago

Ealing

Is there not an argument for there being more room then the black and white gsy/bi/bi curious/straight then?

Heteexible, bi in certain situations, queer etc

Not to mention that ts/TV are in one filter and are vastly different things

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Doesn't bother us.

If he agrees to play the way we want then we don't judge them.

Amen to that!

Lol. People meet in clubs and play with random single guys without knowing that they are married ,gay ,bi or smokers or played bareback with other people .

And whatever written on Fab profile ,we take it with a pinch of salt .

Many profiles says that they are friendly and down to earth but in reality they can be an ass and full of drama with arrogance . We have experienced some knobs here lol

I'm with you. It's about the moment in swinging, I mean if I was talking to a woman with whom I had an connection who enjoyed golden showers I wouldn't just cut of the conversation off because I didn't enjoy the thought of it.

For example, what happened if a guy has been experimented with bi play once, didn't enjoy it and decided not to persue it. Does that still make him bi? Does that make him dishonest if he doesn't disclose it to you?

Personally I began exploring with bi play and for a long time (a couple of years) I was working out what they meant for me, and yes I think it does have an affect when some couples and single females bash you for it.

But then again, I've been in group scenarios' where men have said they are okay playing in the presence of a bi guys and they really are not.

I'd call that the fragility of toxic masculinity and its never very comfortable for anyone.

"

What kind of effect does it have? What’s the worst thing that could happen? In my case, the worst thing that could happen to me if I approach a MF couple or a woman would be to be called effeminate or a poofter...Yeah it would annoy me for a bit but I would soon get over it. I was, as a matter of fact, told once that I was “too gay” for the wife of a MF couple....it still hasn’t stopped the few MF couples who still like me, from liking me...

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I have been on a glorious journey of discovery. Profile said straight when I joined Fab, which I was. Then curious when I had my first exciting experience of a bi threesome. Now Proudly bisexual and love playing with no couples and groups

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

I battled it for years, denying to myself I was. Was also straight when I joined fab, but last year admitted to myself and the wife I was Bi and its opened doors for us.

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

I think when I was trying to figure out whats going on with me. It effected my confidence.

Thats what I'm talking about.

It also made me feel really uncomfortable when people called me deceitful and a lair.

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By *ustCantGetEnough1000Man
over a year ago

stevenage

Why does it matter, people are allowed to have some things that they want private and if they message you privately and they are willing to play bi then what's the issue. Too many people like to make an issue out of nothing.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"Why does it matter, people are allowed to have some things that they want private and if they message you privately and they are willing to play bi then what's the issue. Too many people like to make an issue out of nothing."

It does matter to people who look at profiles and prefer straight/curious/bisexual people and then subsequently find the description on the profile is not a true reflection of the person.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

I had had encounters with str8 guys. Thay ain't gay or nothing, they just want a blow job. They are not sure, feel guilty and uncomfortable with their sexuality, but still want to define their orientation as str8. That's OK with me. I was there myself once.

There are bi guys who hide it because it might reduce their opportunities with ladies and couples who won't meet any guy who is bi. They are usually very seedy characters who I would hope most people can out anyway.

I have come across a number of people who are against meeting bi guys because they assume that all bi guys are hanging around public toilets spreading their disgusting diseases. Bless them.

There are others who worry a bi guy won't be able to control himself and launch some sort of sexual assault on their male member. Bi means very happy to concentrate on the lady and your gentleman sausage would be quite safe from man attention.

Str8 guys watching their female enjoying a good fucking from another guy and seeing his hard cock pound into her is a perfectly normal thing to enjoy and get turned on by. I spent years happily enjoying just that and that has not changed since I made the choice to try something different.

Any guys out there who are not sure how to define themselves... If your a guy and you like sucking cock and eating pussay, your bi. If you like having your cock sucked by a guy while eating pussay, your bi. If you like watching cock sliding in and out of your woman's gob and plop it's splodge on her nose, your str8. But remember Bi guys like that too.

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"I had had encounters with str8 guys. Thay ain't gay or nothing, they just want a blow job. They are not sure, feel guilty and uncomfortable with their sexuality, but still want to define their orientation as str8. That's OK with me. I was there myself once.

There are bi guys who hide it because it might reduce their opportunities with ladies and couples who won't meet any guy who is bi. They are usually very seedy characters who I would hope most people can out anyway.

I have come across a number of people who are against meeting bi guys because they assume that all bi guys are hanging around public toilets spreading their disgusting diseases. Bless them.

There are others who worry a bi guy won't be able to control himself and launch some sort of sexual assault on their male member. Bi means very happy to concentrate on the lady and your gentleman sausage would be quite safe from man attention.

Str8 guys watching their female enjoying a good fucking from another guy and seeing his hard cock pound into her is a perfectly normal thing to enjoy and get turned on by. I spent years happily enjoying just that and that has not changed since I made the choice to try something different.

Any guys out there who are not sure how to define themselves... If your a guy and you like sucking cock and eating pussay, your bi. If you like having your cock sucked by a guy while eating pussay, your bi. If you like watching cock sliding in and out of your woman's gob and plop it's splodge on her nose, your str8. But remember Bi guys like that too. "

What about gay guys who like fanny?

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By *EloveMan
over a year ago

Pool of Life


"Is there not an argument for there being more room then the black and white gsy/bi/bi curious/straight then?

Heteexible, bi in certain situations, queer etc

Not to mention that ts/TV are in one filter and are vastly different things "

Well said

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Even today im still getting messages from straight ,bi curious who cant convince myself or hubby they tick our bi boxes so to speak ....

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock


"Listed as bi leads to 100s of messages off guys saying want your cock sucked now.... Listed as straight leads to no messages of guys, personally I enjoy mmf meets there a lot of fun and there is a lot more variables to enjoy. I'm not looking for a mm meet it doesn't apeal to me at all and isn't what I'm looking for. "

Listed as Straight still means younger loads of messages asking if you want your cock sucked...

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Listed as bi leads to 100s of messages off guys saying want your cock sucked now.... Listed as straight leads to no messages of guys, personally I enjoy mmf meets there a lot of fun and there is a lot more variables to enjoy. I'm not looking for a mm meet it doesn't apeal to me at all and isn't what I'm looking for. "

Listed as bi and getting 100s of messages off guys saying want your cock sucked now just suggests you're inept at using a website properly IMHO!

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

90 percent of messages we get asking for bi meets are listed as straight on here it is dishonest but we make s judgement call

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By *idnight_Express69Man
over a year ago

Rochdale


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

If I had a pound for every ‘straight’ guy on here who has messaged me asking for a blowjob i’d be a rich man lol

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By *b1976Man
over a year ago

North East


"Even today im still getting messages from straight ,bi curious who cant convince myself or hubby they tick our bi boxes so to speak .... "

I’d love to tick Your box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone at sometime in their life is dishonest.

if you are genuinely interested in meeting someone it wont matter whats on the profile.

its how they interact with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does it matter, people are allowed to have some things that they want private and if they message you privately and they are willing to play bi then what's the issue. Too many people like to make an issue out of nothing."

Have to agree. Some people love to judge.

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By *ethRyanCouple
over a year ago

Preston

For us whereas we understand the societal pressures that make some guys feel like they need to hide their sexuality it about being comfortable in who you are.

We find people who are comfortable and confident in their own sexuality are more confident and comfortable is play. The same is true for couples and if their comfortable and confident in their relationship.

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By *ntrepid Explorers OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"For us whereas we understand the societal pressures that make some guys feel like they need to hide their sexuality it about being comfortable in who you are.

We find people who are comfortable and confident in their own sexuality are more confident and comfortable is play. The same is true for couples and if their comfortable and confident in their relationship."

This seems the right line to me. I just try and take it on a case by case basis, and if a "straight" guy seems good, and we're getting on, I don't see a reason to get hung up on a technicality.

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By *xpressionistMan
over a year ago

ST. ALBANS

Most of the limited amount of messages/fabs etc always seem to come from straight guys. I find it difficult to understand the myriad of reasons they give if I reply and ask if they really meant to contact me. At least I know that I'd be unlikely to receive a verification from them, and haven't, just in case it gives them away.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?

If I had a pound for every ‘straight’ guy on here who has messaged me asking for a blowjob i’d be a rich man lol"

So why not filter out single makes?

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"For us whereas we understand the societal pressures that make some guys feel like they need to hide their sexuality it about being comfortable in who you are.

We find people who are comfortable and confident in their own sexuality are more confident and comfortable is play. The same is true for couples and if their comfortable and confident in their relationship.

This seems the right line to me. I just try and take it on a case by case basis, and if a "straight" guy seems good, and we're getting on, I don't see a reason to get hung up on a technicality."

—————

We block “straight” guys who go on to say “but I’m bi really”

Why?

We want to play openly with people who know who they are and what they want. A guy who will “put up” with having his cock sucked by another guy just so he has a crack at the female is not for us. You’re being used IMO.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"A little bit of received wisdom I've picked up is that if a single guy is listed as Straight, but then says / admits / boasts that he's bi In a private message then that makes him shitty somehow. It can seem a little dishonest, and an attempt to not have 100% straight couples scared on bumping winkies write them off, but I'm not sure what's really meant to be so wrong about it?"

We just assume they are really straight but prepared to pretend they are bi to get their leg over.

Otherwise they would own their bi-sexuality wouldn't they?

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By *m CuriousMan
over a year ago

herts essex border

Very interesting. Im Curious looking to explore my sexuality I'm interested in sucking cock when In a mfm threesome and tend to be more adventurous too try things out more not sure whether Id continues being this curiosity or not ?

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By *RayMan
over a year ago

essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m straight but being on Fab has made me a little curious. There’s not enough labels on here to accurately say what you’re looking for. Putting ‘bi’ or ‘bi curious’ would also be dishonest as that doesn’t describe me or what i’m looking for. Surely that’s what the messaging option is for, to get to know people and what they are looking for?

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"I’m straight but being on Fab has made me a little curious. There’s not enough labels on here to accurately say what you’re looking for. Putting ‘bi’ or ‘bi curious’ would also be dishonest as that doesn’t describe me or what i’m looking for. Surely that’s what the messaging option is for, to get to know people and what they are looking for?"

Profiles are for describing who you are and what you are looking for. Yet most only write a few sentences. There’s nothing on yours about you having any curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine says bi just not sure how far yet

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

We like the "I know my Bio says I am Bi but i also play Straight"

It makes us wonder if a Fire Engine, likes to be a Police Car every other Wednesday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this does my head in. When am trying to meet a 100% straight man.it may state he is straight but then he wants tv's.as if wearing women's clothes somehow makes the men think they are still straight. (yeah rite) then they are them who are 'gay' on fab guys,and 'straight' on here. Just be honest please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re very right

It’s very much scenario based for me and I guess I just didn’t think about going into that much detail. Looks like i’ll have to update my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then they are the Straight guys who message men wanting to suck cock. Answer this? Would a gay man pretend to be straight to meet women when he wants men really?

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