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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys.

I've been on the site for around 3 weeks and I'm interested in swinging but very new to it.

I have a girlfriend and we have talked at length about a shared fantasy for a sexy bi female to join us in the bedroom (that was the initial reason I found this site). She is very unsure at the minute but the idea really turns her on! I would like any advice you can give or just what you think because I'm on here without her knowing atm and I don't know how to play it. Thanks in advance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be honist and get a couples profile

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

May be she needs to spend some time on the site chatting to people herself..... and she'll have far more luck pulling a fem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are your meet todays intended for the both of you or just for you?

I know it's really not my business, but if you're in the early stages of discussing if it's for you as a couple, even a sniff of the fact that you might have been looking to do this alone while she makes her decision will probably put her off for life. By which I mean swinging and probably you...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"May be she needs to spend some time on the site chatting to people herself..... and she'll have far more luck pulling a fem."

....sound advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?"

If Sexi and me had been talking about a threesome and then he just randomly brought someone home I'd go mad.

It should be a decision you make together - whether to join the scene or not and then who to play with. Unless she specifically says she gets off on the idea of you bringing home a stranger.

I would feel pimped out and that it was all about your choices if you did that.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?"

Yeah go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?"

sexy to you or sexy to your gf? do you really know what kind of women turns on your gf? (her)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think your right...I probably knew it all along but needed to hear it from someone else outside of the scenario. I have mentioned bringing someone back once before and she said she didn't know if it would be a good idea but I think the true reaction could be different. Thanks

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

My advice would be totally honest not only with her but with us! Your profile suggests your single and no mention Of your partner or your/her desires. I'd delete your profile then mention you've heard of a site where you could maybe fullfil your fantasy, see how she reacts then go from there. The chances are if she finds out about your profile as it is now you will indeed be single. Is she not worth been honest and faithful to?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I don't normally go for people playing away behind their partner's back, but I actually find the thought of you taking me home to your girlfriend and saying "Surprise!" quite an appealling one.

I promise not to mention the 7 weeks you have been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it "

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)"

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I didn't want to be in here with a couples profile when she knew nothing of it and I was doing it by myself, I think that would be harder to explain if I was chatting to someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao "

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?"

no no no no no no no no no and if you didnt get it NO.......

get a couples profile and explain in the text the situation..

and also ask for a social meet first..

it may be a fantasy but not everyone can go through with it.. and be sure that it is what you BOTH want.

i have met 2 couples where it was obvious that only one was up for it. once the guy and once the woman. didnt play in either occasion and told them both to think hard about what they were doing.

maybe go to a club together first to just see what goes on.

but good luck.. cos FFM is ace..

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Group 1:

There are people who come on this site genuinely looking for advice for themselves and their partner. They don't want to do anything their partner wouldn't approve of, but they do want to seek the experiences of others to help them decide how to progress into a swinging relationship.

Group 2:

There are also people who come onto this site looking for a bit of extra sex on the side with no intention of ever getting their partner involved. When they find it harder than they thought it would be or want to oil the wheels as it were, they get to thinking and may be realise:

a)I might have more luck if I were part of a couple... shit... how do I get my partner involved who knows feck all about this.

b)I might have more luck if I hint another woman is involved... bait the hook with something more than a worm.

My advice would be.... don't give the impression you are in group 2.

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!"

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I didn't want to be in here with a couples profile when she knew nothing of it and I was doing it by myself, I think that would be harder to explain if I was chatting to someone. "

Might also be hard to explain why youre here with a single male profile too though...

If youre genuinely here to find out more about exploring things with your wife then Id say delete your profile and suggest to her that you go onto a website as a couple to just have a look around and see what goes on and take it from there.

If youre really looking to sort yourself out with something, and then maybe bring your wife into it later, then Id say youre playing with fire and it might now work out exactly like it does in your fantasies...

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I didn't want to be in here with a couples profile when she knew nothing of it and I was doing it by myself, I think that would be harder to explain if I was chatting to someone.

Might also be hard to explain why youre here with a single male profile too though...

If youre genuinely here to find out more about exploring things with your wife then Id say delete your profile and suggest to her that you go onto a website as a couple to just have a look around and see what goes on and take it from there.

If youre really looking to sort yourself out with something, and then maybe bring your wife into it later, then Id say youre playing with fire and it might now work out exactly like it does in your fantasies..."

*not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else "

well thats fair enough but it still has fuck all to do with the help he was lookin for, he's new to the scene and i'm sure he'll find out all that shit from the folks that just want to expose everyone as cheaters and fakes! some of us remember how hard it is to bring your other half into this way of life and are happy to help others! Pauline Xx

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else

well thats fair enough but it still has fuck all to do with the help he was lookin for, he's new to the scene and i'm sure he'll find out all that shit from the folks that just want to expose everyone as cheaters and fakes! some of us remember how hard it is to bring your other half into this way of life and are happy to help others! Pauline Xx"

And being new to it myself I know how it feels, I wasn't having a dig at him and if I'm honest there is other comments that are but I guess if your on my back your giving someone else a break, thank you for sharing your view of my innocent question Sj

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I was unsure about wether to maybe just look for a sexy fem and take her home?

Yeah go for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Thanks very much. I realise iv probably done a few things wrong in this scenario but its quite a touchy subject to start with and I figured I'd just go for it! (wrongly)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else

well thats fair enough but it still has fuck all to do with the help he was lookin for, he's new to the scene and i'm sure he'll find out all that shit from the folks that just want to expose everyone as cheaters and fakes! some of us remember how hard it is to bring your other half into this way of life and are happy to help others! Pauline Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else

well thats fair enough but it still has fuck all to do with the help he was lookin for, he's new to the scene and i'm sure he'll find out all that shit from the folks that just want to expose everyone as cheaters and fakes! some of us remember how hard it is to bring your other half into this way of life and are happy to help others! Pauline Xx

And being new to it myself I know how it feels, I wasn't having a dig at him and if I'm honest there is other comments that are but I guess if your on my back your giving someone else a break, thank you for sharing your view of my innocent question Sj "

sorry you feel i'm on yer back, yer comment still sounds like a dig to me, but either way...i dont really give a shit!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the people giving genuine advice x

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"If you were thinking of taking a stranger home why in your meets does it not say meeting at your house or have I misread it

oh shit watch out!!!!! the profile police are out and about! haha! (her)

Oh yes forgot can't ask the op a question without someone jumping on you, will sit in the corner and wait for you to give the op advice first lmao

i did not give advice, i asked if he knew his gf type, i didn't make a smart remark on his "cannot accom" status!!!!

Nor did I, I asked an inoccent question pure and simple, and it was not about him having cant accom on his profile as I never looked there and still havent looked so will have to take your word that he has down cant accom lmao I only looked at meetings cos of an earlier comment on here from someone else

well thats fair enough but it still has fuck all to do with the help he was lookin for, he's new to the scene and i'm sure he'll find out all that shit from the folks that just want to expose everyone as cheaters and fakes! some of us remember how hard it is to bring your other half into this way of life and are happy to help others! Pauline Xx

And being new to it myself I know how it feels, I wasn't having a dig at him and if I'm honest there is other comments that are but I guess if your on my back your giving someone else a break, thank you for sharing your view of my innocent question Sj

sorry you feel i'm on yer back, yer comment still sounds like a dig to me, but either way...i dont really give a shit! "

Yes I can clearly see that, I don't take digs at people I don't know and feel no need to do that in public, it is not my style, I hope you have a good day and weekend take care Sj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner!

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner! "

I don't believe there is any need to behave in that way purely cos I wished you a good day and weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner!

I don't believe there is any need to behave in that way purely cos I wished you a good day and weekend "

dont worry hypo

its obviously from reading the profile who is the arrogant one......

i certainly dont think you original comment warranted someone going off on one... ignore them

i certainly know who i prefer to meet out the 2 of you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i do, you dont know me, your well wishing comes across as very fake and it does not seem genuine.

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner!

I don't believe there is any need to behave in that way purely cos I wished you a good day and weekend

dont worry hypo

its obviously from reading the profile who is the arrogant one......

i certainly dont think you original comment warranted someone going off on one... ignore them

i certainly know who i prefer to meet out the 2 of you..."

Thank you kenny, the last thing I wanted was to start a fight, just asked about something that confused me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner!

I don't believe there is any need to behave in that way purely cos I wished you a good day and weekend

dont worry hypo

its obviously from reading the profile who is the arrogant one......

i certainly dont think you original comment warranted someone going off on one... ignore them

i certainly know who i prefer to meet out the 2 of you..."

just out of interest.. why am i arrogant?

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By *ypnoprincessCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"well i do, you dont know me, your well wishing comes across as very fake and it does not seem genuine."

Then I am sorry you feel that way I was purely being polite as that is how I was rised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging is all about trust...from all parties involved,without it it can not work...delete single profile,talf to partner,maybe get her to chat to ladies on the forum so she can make a informed decision...then maybe go together to swingers club where,as we did,you can observe the scene,talk to other swingers and not feel obligated to play...we only played by ourselves first few times,but as our confidence as a couple grew,so did the experiences.....none of this could of been done without total trust in one another ... so leave sight and certainly dont bring strangers home...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was raised the same way,

i am an extemely polite person but there is no room for politeness when you are having a debate with someone.

i just cant stand people picking at others profiles, going on about what they have on it or not got on it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh you are such an innocent wee fkn angel aren't you sweetheart? get back in yer corner!

I don't believe there is any need to behave in that way purely cos I wished you a good day and weekend

dont worry hypo

its obviously from reading the profile who is the arrogant one......

i certainly dont think you original comment warranted someone going off on one... ignore them

i certainly know who i prefer to meet out the 2 of you...

just out of interest.. why am i arrogant?

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just a vibe i get from your profile.

we want this!!

we like that!!!

we dont do that!!

we only meet this type!!

we dont fuck fat chicks!!!

we we we we ...

nothing in there about what you can offer others..

just my opinion and i am entitled to it

just as hypno was entitled to comment on the OP, certainly didnt deserve to be slagged off by you...

anyway... to quote a phrase..' i dont give a shit'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos for us its about what we want!!!

not what yous want from us,

there are always compromises that we reach.

still dont see how knowing what we want makes me arrogant??

i did not slag anyone...

i am entitled to post my views just the same as yous!!

and if you dont give a shit why post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laughs at the thought of you managing to find a sexy bi fem on the site who believe you've got a partner and it's for the two of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i dont think any of your examples of our profile are actualy on our profile... maybe you should go to spec savers, i hear they've got a shit hot deal on at the mo!! (her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cos for us its about what we want!!!

not what yous want from us,

there are always compromises that we reach.

still dont see how knowing what we want makes me arrogant??

i did not slag anyone...

i am entitled to post my views just the same as yous!!

and if you dont give a shit why post? "

could ask the same question..

IN MY OPINION. she asked a simple question,

IN MY OPINION you attacked that with a sarcastic comment, which IN MY OPINION had fuck all to do with you are the original post, and IN MY OPINION had fuck all to do with you..

and IN MY OPINION, coupled with reading your profile makes you . TO ME, sound arrogant...

but there you go. what the fuck do i know eh...

BYE.....

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

People! take you personal issues off the forum and into private messaging if you feel the need to continue the arguement

To the OP you have been given some good advice in this thread somewhere before it went off track and even i got lost

Use some of it if you think it may be helpful

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