FabSwingers.com forum: Is there something wrong with me?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why is it that over 50% of social meets with men that I arrange cancel at the last minute? This happened to me again this morning...

Am I scary? Or just a mug?

Does this happen to many people on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

alot of single guys like the idea but are afraid to meet for real, we have had this alot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just5 checked your profile and pics. If 50% of guys are letting you down then its them that are the MUGS.

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

"just5 checked your profile and pics. If 50% of guys are letting you down then its them that are the MUGS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that over 50% of social meets with men that I arrange cancel at the last minute? This happened to me again this morning...

Am I scary? Or just a mug?

Does this happen to many people on here?"

Just concentrate on the 50% that do turn up and stop bloody moaning woman lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume guys you chose are blind as your stunning x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You are gorgeous honey, so they may have had issues, and don't know whether they all told you any reason or not, but it may not have been their actual reason.

Seems a lot of guys are married, some of them play during work time, some of them get issues with their partners, get work commitments that conflict and call them away. Then others are not as experienced as swingers as they may try to pass themselves off as.

Overall - my experience is that the better I get at filtering people, the more I become selective and ensure that what they want is what I really want, what I offer is what they need, and we don't rush too fast into things, it usually works better.

Where I break my own rules, or don't follow my gut instinct, it often goes wrong more frequently.

Speaking on the phone is a must, as is discussing what you're all needing. Arrange the right meeting place, and ensure that your safety is paramount. As your hubby is involved, this adds some extra protection, and sure you've realised all this, and keep yourself safe.

That said, there are a lot of fantasists about and had 2 today that suddenly can't afford to travel or don't have time for over a month... so it's not high enough priority for them, probably now for me either.

Good luck, and feel free to chat anytime you need to let off steam, get support etc.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Some people, not just men, see social meets as a bit of a hassle if all they are looking for is casual sex. If a shag is on the cards elsewhere a soacil is likely to get bumped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I shat myself when I checked ur profile pic OP!!!!-but i'd be up for a shag defo!hehehe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrrgggghhh my eyes, my eyes!! Just looked at your profile and Damn woman you are really scary!! I bet you can make kids cry with just a look, and grown men too!

I am joking of course but come on, you are very attractive indeed but of course you are going to get some time wasters as well as some that have genuine reasons to bail out. Dont let it get to you, I am sure you will have no shortages of willing guys to come along for a social. Unfortunately there are some that knowing it is just a social and there is no chance of anything more will cancel on you and for those I think you are better off not meeting them.

Now go and take some more pictures with a bag on your head please, my heart is too weak for another shock...

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By *onybloMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I agree with the others, a lot of guys seem to think that a social meet is a 5 minute chat before getting a shag and or a BJ and when they realise that isn't happening they can't be bothered and I think you are better off without them

Shame I am too old and can't accommodate as I would definitely turn up for a social meeting with you.

Good luck

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By *tensonSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Stenson Fields

I reckon its cos they get nervous and reach for a cigarette after they have quit for the previous 24 hours hoping you wont notice it on their breath.

God I detest non-smokers, most of them have halitosis that would strip the gun-metal grey paint off a type 42 destroyer anyway....but thats another thread...carry on, as you were!

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

I reckon a lot get in touch while they are horny but the next morning, after they've had a wank, they just aren't as motivated.

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

We've not yet a single fem (plenty of bi guys though). Judging by the fact that you are really pretty i wonder if those men who fail to appear fail to do so because they think you are just pulling their legs... They're probably really regretting now too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont give out any filthy pics or send much in the way of dirty talk to people that I intend on meeting, just because, for a lot of people, it's the online fantasy talk they are after (which is fine, each to their own) and so anyone who is just after that, tends to give up on me when they realise im only after real meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too many are in a fantasey world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I can't see anything wrong with you,what I can see is pleasing on the eye

There's always a reason why they don't turn up,maybe he's married n something popped up,maybe he's a player n someone popped up closer to home. Maybe he bottled out coz your hubby would be there,was he verified?

How long had you been chatting n as he been in touch or just not turned up?

As ppl have said he's the mug to let you slip from his fingers. Concentrate on the other 50% there's lots that do n would want you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure they are just afraid.

You pic is fine and you always reply in a very nice way

I remember messaging you one day and was amazed by your polite rejection and mentioned my age.

You are not like some ladies here who will just ignore or block without even reading.

What if you were too nice? Some time guys like a though woman. I am not saying that you are soft as you know how to say NO

Dont worry lot of guys will give their left hand away just to have a coffee with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he bottled out coz your hubby would be there"
I'm never there if it's a meet arranged through Elfin's single profile.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"Why is it that over 50% of social meets with men that I arrange cancel at the last minute? This happened to me again this morning...

Am I scary? Or just a mug?

Nope your not on either counts.

Some men are fanasists, some just bottle it when the reality of meeting a "REAL WOMAN" happens - just leave them to their cam wanks.

It is a shame I'm out outside your range of reqs cos i definatly would

if i was up your way. So dont feel bad ! Just concentrate on those who do show as others have already said.

Does this happen to many people on here?"

Ive not met anyone from this site so i cannot comment, but their are many who can.

Take care.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I won't I'm quite attached to my left hand it's all in the wrist

I'd want both my hands to caress the gawjus elf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that over 50% of social meets with men that I arrange cancel at the last minute? This happened to me again this morning...

Am I scary? Or just a mug?

Does this happen to many people on here?"

i say it does happen quite a bit yes, sadly.

i think because some guys on here, not all of them, are after no strings sex and frankly dont want to put in the time and effort to meet socially first.

i think its just the nature of the site we are on. some guys just see it as a sex site for one off short notice shags..

sad i know , but sadly true..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Cant really say as i dont know how you go about meeting people. Do you arrange to meet them straight away or do you take time getting to know someone. What works for one might not work for another. But i always take time to get to know someone first and never had a let down yet

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

"Maybe he bottled out coz your hubby would be thereI'm never there if it's a meet arranged through Elfin's single profile. "

I dint know that buddy,I was just giving my thoughts on why he hadn't turned up. It's hard when i/we don't have all the details.

I've only met one cpl n the hubby was present for his wifes safety

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Rise above the letdowns I had another last night but as someone said on here

I'll believe it's true when we're stood naked with each other lol

Lots are talkers,but there's lots of genuine peeps too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I might move to Leics and cheer you up. I certainly wouldnt say no unless you have green teeth and hairy chin

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Hun its called utter bad manners and ignorance .The truth is it is reflection of them and not you .You really must not take it to heart focus on the positives such as you are stunning .having plenty of interest and 50.% do turn up hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he bottled out coz your hubby would be thereI'm never there if it's a meet arranged through Elfin's single profile.

I dint know that buddy,I was just giving my thoughts on why he hadn't turned up. It's hard when i/we don't have all the details.

I've only met one cpl n the hubby was present for his wifes safety

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No problem. I was just adding extra info.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I reckon its cos they get nervous and reach for a cigarette after they have quit for the previous 24 hours hoping you wont notice it on their breath.

God I detest non-smokers, most of them have halitosis that would strip the gun-metal grey paint off a type 42 destroyer anyway....but thats another thread...carry on, as you were!"

Haahaahaahaa @ strip gun-metal grey paint off a type 42 destroyer. Tickled me no end.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I always meet socially first. In four years I've never had a no show.

Also, if they cancel for whatever reason they don't get a second chance. Too many men to waste time on the dreamers.

Why do people assume it's them or they're "ugly" if they've been let down? Obviously they know what you look like. Is this a form of ego massaging?

Just asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just5 checked your profile and pics. If 50% of guys are letting you down then its them that are the MUGS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block delete and dont answer the texts.

Laugh at their _iews on your profile and when they make a new account, tell them where to buy tittues, because thats all they're capable of doing it with.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Why is it that over 50% of social meets with men that I arrange cancel at the last minute? This happened to me again this morning...

Am I scary? Or just a mug?

Does this happen to many people on here?"

It happens. I just delete and move on. Although it has affected who I meet - I am less likely to arrange one on ones with single guys now. I am more likely to get fun at a club, so meet people there instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What your agenda here?? Are you doing the poor me thing? are you playing the victim role here? and of course people are just going to come and rescue you!!

Sorry I'm not playing this game! Look it up in the internet it's called the drama triangle, It's kind of interesting!

Just accept that this is how it is! you women do not hold all the power all of the time. You will be let down, just like we all will at some stage!

Just accept and grow!!

Andy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What your agenda here?? Are you doing the poor me thing? are you playing the victim role here? and of course people are just going to come and rescue you!!

Sorry I'm not playing this game! Look it up in the internet it's called the drama triangle, It's kind of interesting!

Just accept that this is how it is! you women do not hold all the power all of the time. You will be let down, just like we all will at some stage!

Just accept and grow!!

Andy x"

and I thought Sting was a nice guy

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"What your agenda here?? Are you doing the poor me thing? are you playing the victim role here? and of course people are just going to come and rescue you!!

Sorry I'm not playing this game! Look it up in the internet it's called the drama triangle, It's kind of interesting!

Just accept that this is how it is! you women do not hold all the power all of the time. You will be let down, just like we all will at some stage!

Just accept and grow!!

Andy x

and I thought Sting was a nice guy"

According to Stewart Copeland, Sting was a grade A git when they were both in the Police.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What your agenda here?? Are you doing the poor me thing? are you playing the victim role here? and of course people are just going to come and rescue you!!

Sorry I'm not playing this game! Look it up in the internet it's called the drama triangle, It's kind of interesting!

Just accept that this is how it is! you women do not hold all the power all of the time. You will be let down, just like we all will at some stage!

Just accept and grow!!

Andy x"
That's funnier than you'll ever know.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Can I reserve judgement until I know whether or not the OP owns a cat?

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I shat myself when I checked ur profile pic OP!!!!-but i'd be up for a shag defo!hehehe x"

LOVIN yr new avitar Mr Keen...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I reserve judgement until I know whether or not the OP owns a cat?"

show her ur beaver....maybe we can watch a pussy beaver fight.mMMM nature(al)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I reserve judgement until I know whether or not the OP owns a cat?"
She doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I shat myself when I checked ur profile pic OP!!!!-but i'd be up for a shag defo!hehehe x

LOVIN yr new avitar Mr Keen...

why thankya Lush, its abstract filth xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I reserve judgement until I know whether or not the OP owns a cat?She doesn't."

may its a cheshire cat

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes, you may need to re_iew your selection criteria.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the support and advice. It's good to know I'm not alone.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Our pleasure I hope it helped some

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I agree with this guy...

"I assume guys you chose are blind as your stunning x"

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