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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone. I recently planned a meet with a couple who we had met with before. We liked the creampie scenario so I decided I would abstain from any sexual release for the 9 days running up.

I found this such a massive turn on, to be saving my cum for the event and knowing that only she could release my cum was one of the most sexualy arousing things I have ever experienced..

It was very difficult and took alot of disapline, I was getting hard just from washing my cock but was very rewarding..

Has anyone else experienced this type of thing and what is your thoughts on this please lady's?

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

I always 'save myself' for at least a week before a meet, to ensure that I've plenty of cum for my playmate - generally 'quantity' first, followed by less quantity but more 'quality' a little later...

....and for her hubby's beneefit too, especially if they enjoy him 'cleaning' her, and/or adding his cum to mine afterwards!

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We have had guys save it up for us we usually play bare so guys like leaving a big load sometimes inside sometimes on wife

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK

I used to save it generally between meets, club visits and parties (gangbang, bukkake and general adult).

The ladies love a big load, to feast on or wear, so why deny them.

The only issue with saving compared to not is if I save there tends to be a longer recovery after I've cum til I can next cum and if I haven't saved it I am more likely to repeat more often and more swiftly.

I've found that the volume can differ depending on who the lady is ie if I'm visually attracted to and how technically skilled she is too.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Leaving it to build up is a myth... and especially over more than 3 days. I'd always suggest guys having a wank before meeting. For a start abstinence doesnt help with performance

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Leaving it to build up is a myth... and especially over more than 3 days. I'd always suggest guys having a wank before meeting. For a start abstinence doesnt help with performance "

Very true. 2-3 days max is good, I’ll do this regularly out of respect for her, to make sure I’m on fire and because it works but any longer is counter productive , you stop producing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why? Just stop yourself during then let it build up again, 2 loads in the chamber, long passionate session followed by a heightened orgasm and a generous load.

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

A few years ago I abstained for about 5 days before a meet. We were meeting a young couple from Dundalk,Ireland, that we had met before. Previous meet was brilliant. He was very well endowed, and her pussy tasted amazing !

Was a disaster. I got excited very quickly , and struggled not to shoot my load. I didn't, not quickly anyway, but will not be abstaining again, ever.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I do save myself before a meet.

It can be such a turn on knowing those balls are full and near bursting

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

with pre planned meets I don't masterbate for in day before.

But otherwise I don't think about it.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

9 days would be a bit much but personally I like to have not had an orgasm for a few days prior to sex so I'm extra horny. It's fun.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

The longer my Mr go's and let's it build up in terms of days the more sensitive his head and cock becomes.

So I'd rather keep him relatively relived so he stays at peak performance

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By *oonmale33Man
over a year ago

Alfreton

Think its better to just edge during a meet. Much more controlled then the orgasm is stronger. I would never put off playing or having sex, just do it whenever I fancy!

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By *hecitycplCouple
over a year ago

London

A guy from here who we met a couple of times saves up for a week before. We are very appreciative of the sacrifice!

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By *ecret glasgow doggerMan
over a year ago

irvine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"The longer my Mr go's and let's it build up in terms of days the more sensitive his head and cock becomes.

So I'd rather keep him relatively relived so he stays at peak performance "

This

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK


"I used to save it generally between meets, club visits and parties (gangbang, bukkake and general adult).

The ladies love a big load, to feast on or wear, so why deny them.

The only issue with saving compared to not is if I save there tends to be a longer recovery after I've cum til I can next cum and if I haven't saved it I am more likely to repeat more often and more swiftly.

I've found that the volume can differ depending on who the lady is ie if I'm visually attracted to and how technically skilled she is too. "

This is purely safe penetrative sex anally or vaginally and not bareback personally. Each to their own but bareback is not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely if you abstain for too long you just have a lot wet dreams?

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK

Realistically, you should be full after a day or so but the density/consistency thickens the longer you leave it. It depends what the lady, if its a specific lady, wants. Personally, I prefer the first load to be thick and heavy. The second is usually lesser and more normal consistency whilst the third is usually less volume and more fluid again.

Absinence doesn't necessarily mean poor performance. You can learn to control when you blow as its as much a mental thing as its a physical thing.

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK


"Surely if you abstain for too long you just have a lot wet dreams?"

Not at all. I have had one my entire life so its not related unless you are susceptible to wet dreams in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leaving it to build up is a myth... and especially over more than 3 days. I'd always suggest guys having a wank before meeting. For a start abstinence doesnt help with performance "

Hear hear on that. They are mad. He he

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?"

I actually found it took longer to cum than normal, it was like my system had been slower to respond which was really good. I came really heavily then after we had a short break I came within a few minutes again and quite heavily again. I found myself very horney for the next few days, it really revived my sex drive..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?

I actually found it took longer to cum than normal, it was like my system had been slower to respond which was really good. I came really heavily then after we had a short break I came within a few minutes again and quite heavily again. I found myself very horney for the next few days, it really revived my sex drive.."

Interesting, I guess the annoying thing is that every guy is different. Wish there was some kind of help guide on what is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Realistically, you should be full after a day or so but the density/consistency thickens the longer you leave it. It depends what the lady, if its a specific lady, wants. Personally, I prefer the first load to be thick and heavy. The second is usually lesser and more normal consistency whilst the third is usually less volume and more fluid again.

Absinence doesn't necessarily mean poor performance. You can learn to control when you blow as its as much a mental thing as its a physical thing. "

I take daily multivitamin and also 45mg of zinc. I find the zinc gives my cum a very good white consistency and even when not abstaining it helps with the volume/colour.

Plus zinc is great for the immune system as the body cannot store zinc so can only use what is in your diet..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?

I actually found it took longer to cum than normal, it was like my system had been slower to respond which was really good. I came really heavily then after we had a short break I came within a few minutes again and quite heavily again. I found myself very horney for the next few days, it really revived my sex drive..

Interesting, I guess the annoying thing is that every guy is different. Wish there was some kind of help guide on what is best "

My last post was about dietary supplements with zinc. Kegel exercise and general good health has as much to do with it I think. Getting enough sleep is very important too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?

I actually found it took longer to cum than normal, it was like my system had been slower to respond which was really good. I came really heavily then after we had a short break I came within a few minutes again and quite heavily again. I found myself very horney for the next few days, it really revived my sex drive..

Interesting, I guess the annoying thing is that every guy is different. Wish there was some kind of help guide on what is best

My last post was about dietary supplements with zinc. Kegel exercise and general good health has as much to do with it I think. Getting enough sleep is very important too.."

I do kegel exercises, might need to research those supplements though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've always been confused by this. How would you stop yourself from shooting too quickly during the meet? Would it be stop, start?

I actually found it took longer to cum than normal, it was like my system had been slower to respond which was really good. I came really heavily then after we had a short break I came within a few minutes again and quite heavily again. I found myself very horney for the next few days, it really revived my sex drive..

Interesting, I guess the annoying thing is that every guy is different. Wish there was some kind of help guide on what is best

My last post was about dietary supplements with zinc. Kegel exercise and general good health has as much to do with it I think. Getting enough sleep is very important too..

I do kegel exercises, might need to research those supplements though!"

Just be careful with what you read on line. I read a thread on one site called the Holly grail of cum and bought all kinds of suppliments and found just the zinc to be enough.. Hydration is key..

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK


"Realistically, you should be full after a day or so but the density/consistency thickens the longer you leave it. It depends what the lady, if its a specific lady, wants. Personally, I prefer the first load to be thick and heavy. The second is usually lesser and more normal consistency whilst the third is usually less volume and more fluid again.

Absinence doesn't necessarily mean poor performance. You can learn to control when you blow as its as much a mental thing as its a physical thing.

I take daily multivitamin and also 45mg of zinc. I find the zinc gives my cum a very good white consistency and even when not abstaining it helps with the volume/colour.

Plus zinc is great for the immune system as the body cannot store zinc so can only use what is in your diet.."

I don't take additional vitamin supplements and my zinc levels tend to be elevated as my diet includes plenty of foods with good zinc levels. Being diabetic I'm monitored regularly so any deficit would be caught. I had heard zinc was good for this previously but seldom have a problem with producing or quality and tend to be in control of when unless obviously it goes too long between the opportunity to play when I need to take matters into my own hands. Hopefully, I can finally resolve the regularity issue when I get my own place and can, at long last, accommodate.

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