FabSwingers.com forum: hidden verifcations?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

however i am always suspicious when there are none visible to read. is it because they may only have one (like me at moment) or is it that maybe they have never met but only cammed or spoken on phone??

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want everyone knowing the naughties I get up to so only show social ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else. "

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all"

it'll be like asking before a meet i need to know names and addresses of everyone you've slept with and when. don't need to know your sexual history and if they don't want to tell you it's up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just MY little theory before I get lynched, just an opinion guys not saying its the right one by any means -

I think in some cases single Men displaying straight on their profiles hide verifications from other Men they have met for bi sex because they may feel it could ruin their chances of getting a meet with a straight woman or couple.

I Could be wrong and sure someone will put me right but as said just my thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just MY little theory before I get lynched, just an opinion guys not saying its the right one by any means -

I Could be wrong and sure someone will put me right but as said just my thoughts!

sure that's not wishfull thinking? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this will happen when any bloke verifies another bloke tbh, doesn't have to be for sex. Say if a chap recommends fab to his mate, then verifies him when he joins.

Only to a lot of prospective meets this doesn't count as a veri as it shows no sign of his sexual prowess, so the verified guy reckons he's best off hiding it....just a theory.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't now because

I no longer meet so I have no need to

I don't wear them like a badge of honour

I used to but have not for a long time as you will get people looking for less than honourable reasons.

I found people would write to some and using the fact they may have met me socially to help befriend them

I think it is no one else's business

I think they are often used like 'dogs marking their territory' by some and warning others off.

I don't need to show off that I have had loads of meets

and a load of other reasons.

now I used to show them for some of the above reasons, I grew up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just MY little theory before I get lynched, just an opinion guys not saying its the right one by any means -

I Could be wrong and sure someone will put me right but as said just my thoughts!

sure that's not wishfull thinking? lol"

Nope! I am bi and it says so on my profile and my verification is shown!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't now because

I no longer meet so I have no need to

I don't wear them like a badge of honour

I used to but have not for a long time as you will get people looking for less than honourable reasons.

I found people would write to some and using the fact they may have met me socially to help befriend them

I think it is no one else's business

I think they are often used like 'dogs marking their territory' by some and warning others off.

I don't need to show off that I have had loads of meets

and a load of other reasons.

now I used to show them for some of the above reasons, I grew up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Because we actually think they are tacky. But they are something that is valued to show the reality. Honestly, when some numpty writes something like "Mmmmmmmm so sexy" then fucking hell, it's sex, not a cake.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

There are many reasons why people don't show them, and they are welcome to do this. However, I too, am sceptical when all veri's are hidden. I have found the most common reason, is that the veri is phone/webcam, or from a man, when guy is listed as straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

ok but what about members who have say 60 veries but one show 1 or 2... they dont really help then do they.

its just me thinking thats all, i just get a little suspicious if none are shown at all because to me they may as well not have them..

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By *urreyloverMan
over a year ago

Guildford

some verifications may not be visible because the originator is no longer on the site but the tick remains valid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if someone has been verified they have been verified if they want people to know what happened then so be it but if they don't who's is anyone else to say they have to !

Also just because they meet doesn't mean everyone on fab should know their business some might like kinky things and iv read some veries and there are some real blabber mouths “fucked her good came up her nose she was sick felt fucking great fuck you again baby“

Why would anyone want that on their profile lol be discreet people leave them wanting more

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

I disagree with you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough "

sadly not as it means nothing. you may have just spoken on phone or been on cam, which doesnt tell me you are genuine meeter.

been let down too many times sadly..

not saying you arnt genuine but hiding veries does not convince me.

just my opinion of course..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Well if someone has been verified they have been verified if they want people to know what happened then so be it but if they don't who's is anyone else to say they have to !

Why would anyone want that on their profile lol be discreet people leave them wanting more

Crude...

...but spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough "

In theory, yes. But I've come across small groups of profiles who have verified each other, starting with a phone/webcam veri. These groups, I have found to be timewasters. I like to see a person verified by someone I KNOW to be genuine, as it saves me wasting time messaging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

i wouldnt just use veries as my decison maker just a guide. sadly been let dont too many times... time is precious for me as i am very busy and i have driven countless miles only to be let down. i jut sprefer as mush info as possible to help me make my decisions.. thanks for your input though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

sadly not as it means nothing. you may have just spoken on phone or been on cam, which doesnt tell me you are genuine meeter.

been let down too many times sadly..

not saying you arnt genuine but hiding veries does not convince me.

just my opinion of course.."

you (and I ) are of course entitled to our opinions. sadly I've been let down by time wasters who "have" been verified so it's not just those who keep them hidden

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

my point entirely.. well said

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

sadly not as it means nothing. you may have just spoken on phone or been on cam, which doesnt tell me you are genuine meeter.

been let down too many times sadly..

not saying you arnt genuine but hiding veries does not convince me.

just my opinion of course.."

There's one forumite that always makes me giggle when she posts on threads like this. She's been let down by someone she verified, so if you think verifications mean a person will turn up 100% of the time you're going to be bitterly disappointed.

Ignore the unverified ones, hardly rocket science is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

sadly not as it means nothing. you may have just spoken on phone or been on cam, which doesnt tell me you are genuine meeter.

been let down too many times sadly..

not saying you arnt genuine but hiding veries does not convince me.

just my opinion of course..

Ignore the unverified ones, hardly rocket science is it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

I disagree with you. "

So if you meet more than 60 people you,re plain nasty????

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

OMG......verifications about having lots of sex on a swinging site....whatever next!!!!!

Everyone has the choice to show or hide their verifications...the site provides the facililty for this, and people should be able to use the facility without reference to others.

I have well over 60 verifications...I just don't choose to display them all....and not because in any way do I think it looks "nasty". I've been on the site for almost 4 years and have had some lovely fun times with quite a few people during that time.....but I haven't shagged everyone who has sent me a verification. Of the 15 I have displayed at the moment, 10 are purely social veri's. Fabswingers has been active since 2006, so someone who has been here from the get go could easily have 60 veri's but it doesn't mean "they have no regard who they fuck", and if someone has only been here for a year or less and has a lot of veri's it still doesn't mean they have no regard for who they fuck - but it does mean that they have got lots of energy, lol. I think it's a bit out of order to make derogatory comments about the number of verifications a user chooses to show on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too, have been let down by people I've verified. Things do crop up, but if I am not prior warned, or belatedly apologised to, they too are blocked & no longer a contact of mine.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

May I suggest you don't drive countless miles. Personally I don't understand why people do that and are then surprised when it's a timewaster.

I know my way won't work for everyone, but I'll share it again. In four years I've never had a no show.

I always meet for a coffee/drink during my lunch hour. I meet outside Marks where I'd be going any way for a sarnie. If they can't meet at lunchtime then 5.15 at the station. My train is at 5.30, if they're not there, I'm going home anyway.

When we arrange a play meet I book the day off. I'll either be working from home, going to sort through my knicker draw or check the batteries in my toys. That way, should they not turn up or one of my adult children turn up, that's happened more than once, my day is not wasted.

Oh, and I meet unverified men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if their hidden, its either coz they want to hide them or the people on the site dont exist.

you just got to be a judge of character with verifications, if they are hidden i'd take it with a pinch of salt, but they are plenty of other things you can do to test the waters before you decide if to meet or not

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

I disagree with you.

So if you meet more than 60 people you,re plain nasty????

I really do wonder some days the comments I read on here.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

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Why is there a patronising assumption that anyone would 'take the word of total strangers' as the only criteria for a meet...verifications are merely extra information to be used in conjunction with, talking, meeting, chatting before considering a meet, and as such have value..Show them..don't show them, it's entirely a matter of choice, and let us respect that.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I only have cam ones .. No one I met wants to admit to it ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to show mine

1. i dont think everyone needs to know who ive shagged

2. i dont appreciate people asking why i wont meet them when ive meet "joe bloggs"

3. im discreet

4. the site allows me to

I have a green verification tick, im photo verified to. I use the site how i wish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

May I suggest you don't drive countless miles. Personally I don't understand why people do that and are then surprised when it's a timewaster.

I know my way won't work for everyone, but I'll share it again. In four years I've never had a no show.

Oh, and I meet unverified men.

i have driven countless miles. i agreed to drive 90 miles for a meet after many mails and 2 phone calls. one with the guy and one with the woman and i booked a day off and i drove about 80 of the miles when i had a text saying they had a family emergency and had to go to hospital. strangely they were still on the site 20 minutes later advertising a 'meet today' and they blocked me!! absolutely no need. they are still on here too and they still have no veries!!! that has happened in very similar situations twice.

need i say more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

Why is there a patronising assumption that anyone would 'take the word of total strangers' as the only criteria for a meet...verifications are merely extra information to be used in conjunction with, talking, meeting, chatting before considering a meet, and as such have value..Show them..don't show them, it's entirely a matter of choice, and let us respect that."

i fully respect peoples choice to do that i just interested to know why, when so many people insist on verified members only.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

need i say more."

Why havent you reported them ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

need i say more.

Why havent you reported them ???

aahhh now dont start me on reporting people... i have in past reported 3 profiles in the early days and frankly it made no difference..

so dont bother now.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Are they the only reasons you can think of? Really? Really really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all"

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not ebay feedback! a meet with you may be a very different experiance with very different expectations than the last verification they got. am sure if you asked a verified memeber to display them for you to see they might......

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

Having lots of sex on a swinging site? How very dare I!!

Don't worry hun. You won't ever have to meet this 'nasty' woman. I am obviously not worthy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made the decision to hide mine from Day 1, including the Friends List, and do not appear to have suffered any harm.

They are for my personal enjoyment.

If people want to meet me, then they can contact me and find out what I am like themselves, without having to rely on other people's hearsay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

They dont in the main because they dont NEED to show them to get a meet. Some swingers like to keep who they meet as private you may be surprised to hear.

You will learn after a while verifications dont mean jack shit for future meets they only say they have in the past. Best advice to get past your one vari is to concentrate on fitting peoples bills rather than worrying about others profile details.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

It's a "patronising assumption" because someone is posting they find it suspicious people hide their verifications as they must be fake.

Therefore, if you need to read chapter and verse of what total strangers get up to to decide for yourself...well!

It's easy really, if you find them suspicious...look for those that have them displayed and not question those that don't wish to.

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By *ouple1234Couple
over a year ago

BELFAST UK

few of ours are hidden as our real names is in them and dont want people to know our names unless we know them or going to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one point does stick out n this post about having lots of veris...what gets me is that I dont know who others meet...or their frequency of meets..none of my business and not in my interest to judge.

However if I'm meeting someone I take it at face value they are genuine, verified or not...but I'm not a fucking idiot with some of the recent 'fake' 'person' who's been at me to book a hotel lol...without even a phone conversation with 'her''them'it'

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

i fully respect peoples choice to do that i just interested to know why, when so many people insist on verified members only."
I assume, and I have no idea of knowing, that they feel safer meeting shown verified because there is an element of independent cross referencing..of course, as experience tells us, there is no foolproof methodology when it comes to identifying viable meets, but if they feel comfortable with how they choose that's their prerogative

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"do you *need* to know what a guy has said about a meet with me? or who I've met and when?

knowing I've been verified should be enough

A couple of the rare timewasters I have encountered were verified by someone I trust 100%..... me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

to be honest i would be happy if there was a way the site could differentiate between the veries. ie. cam, phone, meet.

not really bothered about the content just the type. i think maybe it could say ; this member has verified meets' or webcam or phone etc..

however your point about asking a member to show them shortly to read is a good one. i shall consider that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

to be honest i would be happy if there was a way the site could differentiate between the veries. ie. cam, phone, meet.

not really bothered about the content just the type. i think maybe it could say ; this member has verified meets' or webcam or phone etc..

however your point about asking a member to show them shortly to read is a good one. i shall consider that.

use advanced search option...... you can search by verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. Also, if its a M-M meet, would like to see that they have had one before.

As a female on here, your experience of the site is completely different than that of a male.

Your profile is quite good, but if it said 'Fill in later', with no pics & a green tick, and male, it would be quickly passed over by many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

So basically you're saying 'look at my verification!'

We don't disclose who we have met because of a thing called discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some dont show them as like to keep others sweet and like them to feel only ones .... Some dont show as nothing to do with other people . Some dont show as feel thay are not the sort of people thay would like on there profile ...Some dont show as dont wish there mates to meet same people. Theres all sorts why people dont show.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Again It's just personal choice. The people that demand veris probably do show their own. But it is each to their own, you can't please everyone.

However, if you want to make your decision wether to meet someone based on some unknown person stating "mmm mmm mmm treat with respect and don't pass by" then more fool you.

That will be the next scandal , copy and paste meaningless verifications lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. Also, if its a M-M meet, would like to see that they have had one before.

As a female on here, your experience of the site is completely different than that of a male.

Your profile is quite good, but if it said 'Fill in later', with no pics & a green tick, and male, it would be quickly passed over by many."

Now, I think a meet for a coffee verification is perfectly acceptable. I will not play with everyone I meet but if they have turned up and I have enjoyed their company I am letting people know they are a real person who turns up. Someone else might find them sexually attractive. All it meant was that I didn't find him sexually appealing or vice versa.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

We all use the sites tools to our advantage. We also read people's profiles and decide whether we wish to meet them or not.

Bi? Not for me, on to the next one.

Short? Not for me, on to the next one.

Married? Not for me, on to the next one.

Hidden verifications? Not for me...see how it works?

There's no need to question how others conduct their business. If you need to take the words of total strangers to decide whether you'll fuck another total stranger then, well...not much I can say.

i fully respect peoples choice to do that i just interested to know why, when so many people insist on verified members only.I assume, and I have no idea of knowing, that they feel safer meeting shown verified because there is an element of independent cross referencing..of course, as experience tells us, there is no foolproof methodology when it comes to identifying viable meets, but if they feel comfortable with how they choose that's their prerogative "

I agree 100%. The choice is there and plenty are happy to show them so why not concentrate on those instead of worrying about those you deem suspicious?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. ."

I always believed the whole purpose of the verification system was to prove the person was actually who they said they were. So unless I am wrong (sure someone will let me know pretty quickly) why would a meet for coffee mean nothing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said!

I hide mine cos they are too explicit and I dont want everyone knowing what I get up to!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. .

You're right a coffee meet isn't nothing, the person turned up, some people only see play meets as valid.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. .

You're right a coffee meet isn't nothing, the person turned up, some people only see play meets as valid. "

Maybe we. Need another verified category then -Ability to Play lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. .

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over a year ago

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. .

am up fuc'offee sassyflirt anytime hehehehe xxx

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

What do you want a verification to tell you? how good their bj's are? how they fuck like a porn star?

Its not the wording of the veri, its the fact that its not a web-cam/phone, or 'met for a coffee' one, as these mean nothing. .

am up fuc'offee sassyflirt anytime hehehehe xxx"

Been told that a few times you can fuckoffee lol

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We don't show many of our verifications - nothing shady, just don't feel the need to show every one! I love it when people think that people have verifications for every meet! They don't! If others want to hide their veris - so what? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like verifications... We find them useful as part of the process. If someone is prepared to travel the verifications show they have traveled. The actual content is pretty meaningless! Just our thoughts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right a coffee meet isn't nothing, the person turned up, some people only see play meets as valid.

Maybe we. Need another verified category then -Ability to Play lol"

In my opinion, a coffee meet (ie non-play meet) is not a valid verification.

Would you verify someone who turned up to play, 'forgot' something, & went to get it from their car, never to be seen again? Why not, they turned up? There isn't a need for further verified categories, only remove those which mean nothing, such as 'photo-verified', web-cam & non-play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right a coffee meet isn't nothing, the person turned up, some people only see play meets as valid.

Maybe we. Need another verified category then -Ability to Play lol

In my opinion, a coffee meet (ie non-play meet) is not a valid verification.

I dont think you understand what a verification is............

no, if someone turned up then did a runner you wouldnt verify.....

but if you met them for a coffee and didnt find them attractive n want to meet again to play, you could still verify that they were friendly, polite, good humoured ect......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use verifications to see who's fucked who. On a slow day on the forums it's good to pick someone and using their veri's see who they've met.... And who they've met... Etc.... And see if they lead to anyone I know.

Also good to find anyone that sounds like they are an amazing shag. Verification roulette. Like Farmville only more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else.

thx for answer.

its just that so much is said about peopel only meeting verified members but hidden ones, for me, dont tell me anything. just a thought thats all"

In the search/advanced search, there is the facility to search on 'Members with at least one verification by meeting'. We ALWAYS check that box, so that we know that even someone who does not want to display what others have said about them, has at least met with another verified member on at least one occasion. The experience of the person who verified them may not be the same as your experience with the same person. Each should be taken on its own merits imho....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Like Farmville only more fun.

Sticking pins in your eyes is more fun than Farmville!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think you understand what a verification is............

no, if someone turned up then did a runner you wouldnt verify.....

but if you met them for a coffee and didnt find them attractive n want to meet again to play, you could still verify that they were friendly, polite, good humoured ect......"

But, I do understand..................

What I am saying, is that such a meet should not warrant a 'green tick', then be hidden, giving the impression of an 'active' site member. I would not verify someone who I had a 'crap' encounter with, never mind someone who I had no encounter with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't see what they've got to do with anyone else. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think you understand what a verification is............

no, if someone turned up then did a runner you wouldnt verify.....

but if you met them for a coffee and didnt find them attractive n want to meet again to play, you could still verify that they were friendly, polite, good humoured ect......

But, I do understand..................

if i met someone and i didnt want to play with them that does not make either of us not an active member its just ment the meet wasnt right for us two

does not make you any less genuine if you meet and dont play

I have verified someone who ive only had a social meet with

If i arrange to meet someone for a drink at 7pm and they turn up at 7pm, looking as their pics do and stayed for a drink and a chat but for whatever reason i/they/we decided not to play as far as im concerned they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

On the subject of non playing meets we recently met someone for a drink,brand new on the site,last minute arrangement

He was lovely,polite,easy to talk to and good company for the couple of hours we spent with him

No physical attraction at all from my side of things but I verifed him as he was who he said he was,he travelled a fair bit to meet us,he was punctual,he behaved in a manner that I feel genuine people do on here

The next person to meet him may want to tear his clothes off and fuck him immediately,because I did'nt I don't believe he did'nt deserve to be verified

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I dont think you understand what a verification is............

no, if someone turned up then did a runner you wouldnt verify.....

but if you met them for a coffee and didnt find them attractive n want to meet again to play, you could still verify that they were friendly, polite, good humoured ect......

But, I do understand..................

if i met someone and i didnt want to play with them that does not make either of us not an active member its just ment the meet wasnt right for us two

does not make you any less genuine if you meet and dont play

I have verified someone who ive only had a social meet with

Indeed!

I suppose all the verifications people receive from meeting at Fab socials don't count either then, so it's pointless telling newbies to go to socials, get themselves known and verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the subject of non playing meets we recently met someone for a drink,brand new on the site,last minute arrangement

He was lovely,polite,easy to talk to and good company for the couple of hours we spent with him

The next person to meet him may want to tear his clothes off and fuck him immediately,because I did'nt I don't believe he did'nt deserve to be verified"

+1 - remember what we are talking about is a VERIFICATION - ie. is the person you have met the one in the photo, as far as you can tell then person they say they are, and that they appear - as far as you can tell - genuine. It is NOT a 'Performance Report'. If you click and play, and the person(s) writing the verification want to 'sing your praises', then that is a bonus - no more, no less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i met someone and i didnt want to play with them that does not make either of us not an active member its just ment the meet wasnt right for us two

does not make you any less genuine if you meet and dont play

I have verified someone who ive only had a social meet with

Again, I say it should not carry the same weight as an actual meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose all the verifications people receive from meeting at Fab socials don't count either then, so it's pointless telling newbies to go to socials, get themselves known and verified.

To me, no they don't actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i met someone and i didnt want to play with them that does not make either of us not an active member its just ment the meet wasnt right for us two

does not make you any less genuine if you meet and dont play

I have verified someone who ive only had a social meet with

Again, I say it should not carry the same weight as an actual meet."

it is an actual meet lol

if someone turns up to meet you and you decide you dont like them and dont play how does that mean they should be seen as any less genuine than if you did shag them?

to me a verification means, this person was who they said they was, looked like their pics and turned up as arranged, what happens after that is upto the people who meet and does not make you any more or less genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If you go down that route next thing people will be asking for is extra special verifications for various sex acts peformed on the meet

The more acts you perform on a meet the more gold stars you get on your profile

Bit like a Macdonalds badge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that verified swingers on here should leave a few feedback notes to prove that they actually meet... I don't like it when it just says "verified genuine profile".... I have many verifications over the two years I've been on here and definitely didn't show every one!

not every meet is a success besides what others say to me on here

a lot say "oooh all my meets were brilliant"

er right... .who're they kidding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose all the verifications people receive from meeting at Fab socials don't count either then, so it's pointless telling newbies to go to socials, get themselves known and verified.

To me, no they don't actually."

so to you only people who shag on every meet are genuine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you go down that route next thing people will be asking for is extra special verifications for various sex acts peformed on the meet

The more acts you perform on a meet the more gold stars you get on your profile

Bit like a Macdonalds badge

Actually, you know full well you are talking rubbish. Its the difference between talk & actions, and the verification system should identify and seperate this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you go down that route next thing people will be asking for is extra special verifications for various sex acts peformed on the meet

The more acts you perform on a meet the more gold stars you get on your profile

Bit like a Macdonalds badge

Actually, you know full well you are talking rubbish. Its the difference between talk & actions, and the verification system should identify and seperate this."

I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you go down that route next thing people will be asking for is extra special verifications for various sex acts peformed on the meet

The more acts you perform on a meet the more gold stars you get on your profile

Bit like a Macdonalds badge

verification: Met honeypot last nite and I poked her with a billywitch stick.She's a cracing shag, 8/10 and takes it up the arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

Hi, Im MissDeMena, and really dont give a monkeys uncle whether im seen as Nasty or not...I happen to be very good at it...so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

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over a year ago

"If you go down that route next thing people will be asking for is extra special verifications for various sex acts peformed on the meet

The more acts you perform on a meet the more gold stars you get on your profile

Bit like a Macdonalds badge

Actually, you know full well you are talking rubbish. Its the difference between talk & actions, and the verification system should identify and seperate this."

whatever!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

Hi, Im MissDeMena, and really dont give a monkeys uncle whether im seen as Nasty or not...I happen to be very good at it...so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

its a swingers site you know your not here to fuck loads of random men your supposed to meet just one and stick with him you floosey

dont some poeple make you piss lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

Hi, Im MissDeMena, and really dont give a monkeys uncle whether im seen as Nasty or not...I happen to be very good at it...so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

its a swingers site you know your not here to fuck loads of random men your supposed to meet just one and stick with him you floosey

dont some poeple make you piss lol"

some people stick to goldenshowers n fetishes sites NN xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

Everyone will have different opinions, based on how they use the site. A coffee-meet beats web-cam beats phone. As a 'non-out' male, socials etc are a no-no, discretion is absolute. Verifications are a major part of my arsenal, to filter timewasters & those who just want to know who you are. Allowing them for 'trivial' things, and allowing them to be hidden, (even say 2 visible would be much better), does a great disservice to the credbility of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

Hi, Im MissDeMena, and really dont give a monkeys uncle whether im seen as Nasty or not...I happen to be very good at it...so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

its a swingers site you know your not here to fuck loads of random men your supposed to meet just one and stick with him you floosey

dont some poeple make you piss lol"

oh feck...should have read the small print rules then eh...can i un-fuck them all and start again??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people stick to goldenshowers n fetishes sites NN xxxx"

take me to these sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" does a great disservice to the credbility of the site."

In your opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" does a great disservice to the credbility of the site.

In your opinion

I'm sorry, I forgot that opinions were invalid, if not from the 'Forum Club'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thing is a meets a meet, its got nothing to do with anyone else what happens on a meet and i dont see why people should feel the need to tell others if they played or not, even if they do play on a meet theres no guarantee they will play with you so it carries no weight at all really, all because they had sex with the last person they met what does that prove to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thing is a meets a meet, its got nothing to do with anyone else what happens on a meet and i dont see why people should feel the need to tell others if they played or not, even if they do play on a meet theres no guarantee they will play with you so it carries no weight at all really, all because they had sex with the last person they met what does that prove to you?"

that u'll do anal when told...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My flabber has never been so gasted at some opinions on this thread but as the saying goes we have been given the tools to use the site the best way we want and I will continue to hide my veris and use my own discretion when choosing people to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My flabber has never been so gasted at some opinions on this thread but as the saying goes we have been given the tools to use the site the best way we want and I will continue to hide my veris and use my own discretion when choosing people to meet

you have evidently had more than one coffee now !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have evidently had more than one coffee now !"

How did you guess

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Allowing them for 'trivial' things, and allowing them to be hidden, (even say 2 visible would be much better), does a great disservice to the credbility of the site."

Yet for most people, the site does exactly what they want. There is no 'loss of credibility' apart from with people who aren't very successful. The rest are doing fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that u'll do anal when told..."

bend over then i'll just get my strap on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Fake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fake!

I'm doomed I tell ya doomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet for most people, the site does exactly what they want. There is no 'loss of credibility' apart from with people who aren't very successful. The rest are doing fine."

I would disagree that it does 'exactly' what they want, and from previous posts, I think you would agree. However, as you pick your opponents, rather than your arguments, you usually follow the 'club' line.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

If a profile has all their veris hidden - how do you know if there is 1 or 100? I do check them just to see if there's anything very untoward - ie. safe sex profile being verified by 'we only play bb' I have seen that a few times! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want everyone knowing the naughties I get up to so only show social ones. "

Spot on.

Kat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that u'll do anal when told...

bend over then i'll just get my strap on

just dont mention my anal warts in my veri please xxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Yet for most people, the site does exactly what they want. There is no 'loss of credibility' apart from with people who aren't very successful. The rest are doing fine.

Ooooh, fighting talk! Just let me get into my 'forum fight' pants.

Yes, I've had some disappointments on this site, but none of them have been caused by lack of, or hidden, verifications. I don't use veris to arrange meets - they have to be what I am after physically and mentally, and I often have better meets with people not verified or who have hidden them.

Sure, I enjoy reading them, but the profile and pics are more important to me. I am sure some people cannot meet someone unless they have read exactly what everyone else they have met have said about them, but I am not one of them.

Dunno what you mean about the 'club' line, unless you are one of those people who believes there is a 'clique' on here. I can assure you that if there is, I have certainly never been in it. The amount of ignored posts and 'killed' posts to my name will attest to that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

*sigh*

So OK a profile shows 4 verifications spead over a few months.

How do you know there aren't 40 other people this person has messed about, no-showed and chuckled their socks off at?

What comfort can you really take from the verifications on show?

What about the people who have been verified and then the singles and couples who did verify them leave, and the account holder is left with a green tick and no verifications they can show?

They could very well be far less of a twunt than the person with 4 verifications showing who has a mob of pissed off people hitting the block button and wishing they'd not bothered shaving their crotch.

Really, what value are verifications at the end of the day?

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over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty."

But how would you know if they had hidden 59 of them away in a Harry Rednapp like account? Surely its flawed foor this reason.

Personally I've got 7,994 verifications but i hide most of em so that prospective females dont realise that my cock is about to drop off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

But how would you know if they had hidden 59 of them away in a Harry Rednapp like account? Surely its flawed foor this reason.

Personally I've got 7,994 verifications but i hide most of em so that prospective females dont realise that my cock is about to drop off

Your soooo nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

But how would you know if they had hidden 59 of them away in a Harry Rednapp like account? Surely its flawed foor this reason.

Personally I've got 7,994 verifications but i hide most of em so that prospective females dont realise that my cock is about to drop off

Your soooo nasty

Shut up and keep sucking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

*sigh*

So OK a profile shows 4 verifications spead over a few months.

How do you know there aren't 40 other people this person has messed about, no-showed and chuckled their socks off at?

What comfort can you really take from the verifications on show?

What about the people who have been verified and then the singles and couples who did verify them leave, and the account holder is left with a green tick and no verifications they can show?

Really, what value are verifications at the end of the day?

I always try to put y point across as this:

I'd rather meet someone who has a few experiences with others, most of the time I will be thinking a swinging experience.As I network with some of my meets, and possibly introduce people to eachother..I like to know that the person hasnt been known to be offensive,harassing etc etc to others.As swinging isnt exactly an intimate encounter, I think its sometimes less a solitary act(of meeting 1on1's for regularness), so to me, verifications are an example of the swingmunity(new word), , they dont have to be graphic representations of what acts might have happened.

I'd hate to invite someone who had no social skills to my friends who ends up talking pish etc etc , whatever sex they are.

so verifications CAN help...stress the can part..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

*sigh*

So OK a profile shows 4 verifications spead over a few months.

How do you know there aren't 40 other people this person has messed about, no-showed and chuckled their socks off at?

What comfort can you really take from the verifications on show?

What about the people who have been verified and then the singles and couples who did verify them leave, and the account holder is left with a green tick and no verifications they can show?

Really, what value are verifications at the end of the day?

I always try to put y point across as this:

I'd hate to invite someone who had no social skills to my friends who ends up talking pish etc etc , whatever sex they are.

so verifications CAN help...stress the can part..

Horses for courses. You network and share, it wouldn't cross my mind to discuss with others who I've met. However, neither of us are questioning how the other uses the site...like some people on this thread!

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over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

Not to mention when you see someone with 60 veris and they clearly have no regard about who they fuck, that just looks plain nasty.

But how would you know if they had hidden 59 of them away in a Harry Rednapp like account? Surely its flawed foor this reason.

Personally I've got 7,994 verifications but i hide most of em so that prospective females dont realise that my cock is about to drop off

Your soooo nasty

Shut up and keep sucking!

Do you want your cock back now I have finished sucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we are all gonna have to agree to disagree

*sigh*

So OK a profile shows 4 verifications spead over a few months.

How do you know there aren't 40 other people this person has messed about, no-showed and chuckled their socks off at?

What comfort can you really take from the verifications on show?

What about the people who have been verified and then the singles and couples who did verify them leave, and the account holder is left with a green tick and no verifications they can show?

Really, what value are verifications at the end of the day?

I always try to put y point across as this:

I'd hate to invite someone who had no social skills to my friends who ends up talking pish etc etc , whatever sex they are.

so verifications CAN help...stress the can part..

discuss would be something like:

"him/her/they are really nice"- I dont try networking everyone, but when u see matches for people who may be similar it can help others reduce the search for others.If I hadnt networked on a few meets theres n way I'dve managed as a single guy to get to many parties etc.Again, its a needs be approach, when it suits and of course suits others.I'm very unlikely to ask someone to come to a meet with others specifically if I cant see that they have some nice feedback..unless I've met them myself and the other parties would be interested.Finally...its nothing to do with how 'great' the sexual performances are etc etc, its about having people in common interest sharing fun times.

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By *ubbliciousWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I only show one verification but I have plenty more. I just don't like the world and his dog knowing exactly who I have been fucking. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone who verifies you deletes their account their verification note vanishes but you retain the verification tick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to show my verifications but hid them when I discovered one of them had messaged the others to warn them off. He became a little possessive and weird so, now, I'd rather not leave any of my meets open to that again.

It's a pity though, most of them make me sound like a goddess (I'm most definitely not).

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

I've recently discovered that a man who was on my friends list had been messaging single ladies that had verified me asking for a meet saying he was a friend of mine. A couple refused and so he messaged them again saying that he had been chatting to me and I'd said that they slags and no good. One of them believed him and has now blocked me. I've blocked him now but tempted to hide some of my verifications. My friends list is hidden for the same reason as I am sure it was him that was messaging my friends a couple of months ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just take them like this myself

1) fuck re_iew, take with pinch of salt - too many are you say your amazing bed and i'll do the same

2) comments about the person and what they are like personally and how they carry themselves and act around others, if i see quite a few of them then i take the verifications more seriousily, they kinda tell me that they are a good person to meet,

personal verfications tell me much more about a potential meet or friend, than reading about how they took someones load

and people saying you shouldnt take the word of strangers to decide on a meet, well if you get involved and out there and meet plenty of people and make friends, quite often you will see people on verifications who arnt strangers

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"..........

Indeed... swinging is a small world. I like reading the verifications of people I actually know... and by that I mean I knew them beofre they joined the website.

One guy I have known for getting on 30 years... he only shows a max of 4 verifiactions at any one time and they are always the "I consider him to be a real friend, he's such a genuine guy" type. I happen to know he isn't the age he says, isn't the height he says, doesn't do the job he says and his GF working nights on a regular basis works well for overnighters so people think he's single.

In fact there are a few who I know their details are wrong.

Another guy I have known for 20+ years gave my best (vanilla) mate gonorrhea.... never told her even though he knew. He's got some lovely verifications.

I really do wish verifications meant something.... but you just can't be sure they do.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

i just take them like this myself

1) fuck re_iew, take with pinch of salt - too many are you say your amazing bed and i'll do the same

personal verfications tell me much more about a potential meet or friend, than reading about how they took someones load

Again, horses for courses.

Personally I have absolutely no desire to attend socials, clubs, parties etc or discuss with potential meets who I or they have met, and I certainly don't want or seek advice on who to invite into my home or bed. That works for me.

How other people find their playmates is not my concern or business. It's people who want to dictate we all follow their blueprint that grates on my nerves.

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

I was asked to hide my verifications by the two men who verified me.

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

Just because someone has been verified as reliable, it doesn't guarantee that they will turn up to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Just because someone has been verified as reliable, it doesn't guarantee that they will turn up to meet you"

Oh do stop being so logical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the answer to your question is exactly the same reason we don't show our veris..its none of your business.if that causes someone concern.easy,move on to the next profile. if someone thinks we're fake because we don't show them,fine. we'd struggle to quantify the size of the fuck we couldn't give

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

If people dont want to show verifications they shouldnt accept them in the first place..

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"If people dont want to show verifications they shouldnt accept them in the first place.."

I know some people struggle understanding others have the right to use the site and conduct their profiles how they wish. It is therefore pointless trying to explain you can't control if others want to SEND you a verification, but you can choose not to SHOW it!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"If people dont want to show verifications they shouldnt accept them in the first place.."

Still shows on their profile that they are verified. You can't delete them, so what are they supposed to do?

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over a year ago

I leave them for others but chose to keep mine private.

I don't think I'm hindered by this, primarily because I don't come across as a time waster; they're quite obvious from the offset.

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over a year ago

I am verified by a person who is no longer on this site, so I can't show that one anymore even if I wished to.

I take the 'verification' to mean that you are at least the gender that you have on your profile and that you are reliable enough to have shown up for that meet, whether sex took place or not. It's like an MOT certificate. Really only good for the day it was issued, even though it's valid for a year, lol! SO much can happen in a year!

I have also been asked not to verify others or expect a veri from a meet due to the fact that they were not being entirely honest with their partners. Not for me to judge on that issue and each to their own.

Personally all I want to see in a veri is that the person displaying it is who they describe themselves as in their profile. The rest, I like to find out for myself

Not showing my veri or my Friends list has not impacted negatively on me.

I like discretion and I also like a little mystery and I feel confident enough in what I have to offer (when I AM looking for some fun) that I don't need someone else to blow my trumpet for me via a veri. It hasn't slowed up the traffic coming in my direction, lol!

For me, if someone were to be agitated over a lack of _iewable veris on my profile, then that person wouldn't be for me in the first place.

I will however say this. When I do read veris, quite often their lack of good grammar and spelling is something that I do notice and if that amounts to more than the odd typo, then I determine that that person would also not be my cup of tea too. Yes, I am Shallow when it comes to things like that. So, they are good tool for me in that respect. As are reading the forum posts of those that have caught my eye. You can tell a lot from the manner in which a person responds in the Forums. To me, it's a better indicator of a person's personality than a veri, but that's just me.

Hippo x

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over a year ago

"the answer to your question is exactly the same reason we don't show our veris..its none of your business.if that causes someone concern.easy,move on to the next profile. if someone thinks we're fake because we don't show them,fine. we'd struggle to quantify the size of the fuck we couldn't give"

lol

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over a year ago

"I've recently discovered that a man who was on my friends list had been messaging single ladies that had verified me asking for a meet saying he was a friend of mine. A couple refused and so he messaged them again saying that he had been chatting to me and I'd said that they slags and no good. One of them believed him and has now blocked me. I've blocked him now but tempted to hide some of my verifications. My friends list is hidden for the same reason as I am sure it was him that was messaging my friends a couple of months ago."

Our friends list has been hidden from day one to make sure the above does not happen.

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over a year ago

"I am verified by a person who is no longer on this site, so I can't show that one anymore even if I wished to.

Personally all I want to see in a veri is that the person displaying it is who they describe themselves as in their profile. The rest, I like to find out for myself

Not showing my veri or my Friends list has not impacted negatively on me.

For me, if someone were to be agitated over a lack of _iewable veris on my profile, then that person wouldn't be for me in the first place.

Hippo x"

I agree with every single word of that! Are you me?

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over a year ago

Some people don't show them as they feel too many puts people off or to stop people going through each verification author to abuse the member because, perhaps they turned them down and are not happy. My friend only shows the last one, for me I just show those where I have met but not the 'play' verifications. Whilst I like to see the verifications as I like to see if they have met someone I know and are therefore trustworthy, if they don't show them, its no big deal but I am not bothered if they haven't been verified either.

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over a year ago

"I am verified by a person who is no longer on this site, so I can't show that one anymore even if I wished to.

Personally all I want to see in a veri is that the person displaying it is who they describe themselves as in their profile. The rest, I like to find out for myself

Not showing my veri or my Friends list has not impacted negatively on me.

For me, if someone were to be agitated over a lack of _iewable veris on my profile, then that person wouldn't be for me in the first place.

Hippo x

I agree with every single word of that! Are you me?

The final paragraph encompasses my thoughts exactly too. It's suddenly starting to feel a little crowded in the shallow end

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I will however say this. When I do read veris, quite often their lack of good grammar and spelling is something that I do notice and if that amounts to more than the odd typo, then I determine that that person would also not be my cup of tea too. Yes, I am Shallow when it comes to things like that. So, they are good tool for me in that respect. As are reading the forum posts of those that have caught my eye. You can tell a lot from the manner in which a person responds in the Forums. To me, it's a better indicator of a person's personality than a veri, but that's just me.

Hippo x

I agree with every single word of that! Are you me?

The final paragraph encompasses my thoughts exactly too. It's suddenly starting to feel a little crowded in the shallow end

So because the guys who verify me have a problem with spelling, you wouldn't meet me? That seems a tad odd.

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over a year ago

"I am verified by a person who is no longer on this site, so I can't show that one anymore even if I wished to.

Personally all I want to see in a veri is that the person displaying it is who they describe themselves as in their profile. The rest, I like to find out for myself

Not showing my veri or my Friends list has not impacted negatively on me.

For me, if someone were to be agitated over a lack of _iewable veris on my profile, then that person wouldn't be for me in the first place.

Hippo x"

A good point but you forget that some people struggle with the English language and some are dyslexic therefore you could be missing out on some that might be just what you are looking for all because of a few typos

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By *dventurous PhotographerMan
over a year ago

Central Beds

I used to have a long list verifications.

One by one they have dissapeared as members have left the site.

I use to enjoy reading them as I do with other members.

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By *leasing_to_the_thighsMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

If someone chooses to hide there veris i suppose it there choice its not a rule u have to show them but i do always find myself a bit weary of the profiles. Especially when it is a very short rushed profile with a few very low quality pics as i just think wats stoppin somebody just makin two profiles and verifying each other to look genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just MY little theory before I get lynched, just an opinion guys not saying its the right one by any means -

I Could be wrong and sure someone will put me right but as said just my thoughts!

spot on mate, i've had my cock sucked by many a "straight" guy

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over a year ago

I can in all honesty say that I don't go on verifications when I decide to meet a person. I get to know them through the site and then take it from there. So whether a person has none or a hundred, it's my own decision if I will meet with them. There's been many a 'newbie' I've met and had the greatest of times with and would have missed out on that great time if I'd waited till they had a magic tick.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I am verified by a person who is no longer on this site, so I can't show that one anymore even if I wished to.

Personally all I want to see in a veri is that the person displaying it is who they describe themselves as in their profile. The rest, I like to find out for myself

Not showing my veri or my Friends list has not impacted negatively on me.

For me, if someone were to be agitated over a lack of _iewable veris on my profile, then that person wouldn't be for me in the first place.

Hippo x

But that could be true for anything.

Everyone has their own way of sifting. One of mine is must accommodate even though 99.9% of meets are at mine. I'm not missing out on anything as I don't think Hippo is by her own selection process.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

WoW !! I got my first meet up veri at last ..

smiles. Someone has actually admitted they met me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WoW !! I got my first meet up veri at last ..

smiles. Someone has actually admitted they met me

Torment !

You can't post that and then hide your profile

You know we are all nosey beggars in here

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

All you need to see is the verified tick!

Personal choice as to showing them or not, it's probable the other party asked for one and gave one in return

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"WoW !! I got my first meet up veri at last ..

smiles. Someone has actually admitted they met me

Torment !

You can't post that and then hide your profile

You know we are all nosey beggars in here

Smiles ..sorry bussy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hippo x

But that could be true for anything.

Everyone has their own way of sifting. One of mine is must accommodate even though 99.9% of meets are at mine. I'm not missing out on anything as I don't think Hippo is by her own selection process. "

I do appreciate that some people struggle with spelling etc. but that is not the only thing I go on. The manner in which a person responds either in the forums or to a message is an indicator for me. It's not a hard and fast rule, by any stretch, just a guide.

I, personally, find eloquence damn sexy and it's one skill I like to be on the receiving end of, amongst others!!!!!!

Hippo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So because the guys who verify me have a problem with spelling, you wouldn't meet me? That seems a tad odd.

Not at all! I just wouldn't meet them!!!!!

Hippo x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

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over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

u started it..we'll finish it.Right! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

u started it..we'll finish it.Right! lol"

I didn't think we were fighting! I thought this was an interesting and well discussed post with members sharing their honest thoughts.

Silly me, lol!

Hippo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

u started it..we'll finish it.Right! lol

I didn't think we were fighting! I thought this was an interesting and well discussed post with members sharing their honest thoughts.

Silly me, lol!

Hippo x"

lets spitroast the Op hippo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

u started it..we'll finish it.Right! lol

I didn't think we were fighting! I thought this was an interesting and well discussed post with members sharing their honest thoughts.

Silly me, lol!

Hippo x

lets spitroast the Op hippo"

Now where DID I put my strap-on!!!!!!?????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"question for people who hide all their verifications.

i though the idea was to show others that people are genuine swingers.

just interested to know why some people who have them, dont show them.

bloody hell.. is this thread still going????

is there any way the OP can stop the thread.

you ask a simple question and expect a simple answer... lol. not on here.. its just an media for starting a fight....

u started it..we'll finish it.Right! lol

I didn't think we were fighting! I thought this was an interesting and well discussed post with members sharing their honest thoughts.

Silly me, lol!

Hippo x

lets spitroast the Op hippo

Now where DID I put my strap-on!!!!!!?????

oh no not today please.. i had a curry last night....

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"If people dont want to show verifications they shouldnt accept them in the first place..

Still shows on their profile that they are verified. You can't delete them, so what are they supposed to do?"

Apologies...I didnt know that..I thought you could refuse them..

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over a year ago

"If people dont want to show verifications they shouldnt accept them in the first place..

Still shows on their profile that they are verified. You can't delete them, so what are they supposed to do?

Apologies...I didnt know that..I thought you could refuse them.."

hope my veri's still there from last year then!

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