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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good Evening everyone, I’m looking for some advice on how to get my girlfriend in to the idea of swinging for the first time, we have never spoke about the idea at all.

Looking for advice from MF couples both new and experienced, married and in a relationship?

Thanks

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Just ask her, she'll let you know. It can't be because you've lost a bit of interest or there's problems in your relationship, swinging will end it for sure. A solid base trust wise and the ability to separate swinging sex from feelings apart from between yourselves during the act is a key factor. Good luck, op, if it's a no from her respect her wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about trust. If you don't both have it, as said above it will destroy what you had. And there's no coming back from it if it goes wrong. I started with small talk in the bedroom, added a toy and said mmmm if only it was a real one...and talked from there. Her first experience was going to a club. all on her terms. Not happy not playing that was it. Was rocky till we met a good guy who convinced her that there's a difference to fucking and making love. Sex can just be enjoyable and not always an intimate act. But don't ruin trust over a bit of fun. And don't rush things.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Talk to her op, discuss your fantasies and maybe talk about a club and see how she reacts

It's not for everyone, so if she says no, then leave it at that, you can't get her into swinging of she doesn't like the Idea

But honest open communication is the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting mine round to idea. Since she recently tried a toy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ide be very varfull. This lifestyle isnt for everybody.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Good Evening everyone, I’m looking for some advice on how to get my girlfriend in to the idea of swinging for the first time, we have never spoke about the idea at all.

Looking for advice from MF couples both new and experienced, married and in a relationship?

Thanks "
How long have you been together? We would only recommend it's something to get into if you've been together for a long time, are both sexually adventurous, and already have a great sex life. If so, watch Swingers on Channel 4 next Monday together, ask her if she'd fancy it

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Good Evening everyone, I’m looking for some advice on how to get my girlfriend in to the idea of swinging for the first time, we have never spoke about the idea at all.

Looking for advice from MF couples both new and experienced, married and in a relationship?

Thanks How long have you been together? We would only recommend it's something to get into if you've been together for a long time, are both sexually adventurous, and already have a great sex life. If so, watch Swingers on Channel 4 next Monday together, ask her if she'd fancy it "

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

The only way is to talk to her. Tell her your thoughts and feelings, and listen to hers.

You could start by baby steps and build up to full swinging. She may enjoy this site and the sexy chat and flirting with others, then build on that.

She may also say no, which in that case you may need to give her time and discuss it more.

It isn't for everyone though and like others have said, you need a very solid marriage/relationship to enter into swinging.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good Evening everyone, I’m looking for some advice on how to get my girlfriend in to the idea of swinging for the first time, we have never spoke about the idea at all.

Looking for advice from MF couples both new and experienced, married and in a relationship?

Thanks How long have you been together? We would only recommend it's something to get into if you've been together for a long time, are both sexually adventurous, and already have a great sex life. If so, watch Swingers on Channel 4 next Monday together, ask her if she'd fancy it "

Think i will watch this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good Evening everyone, I’m looking for some advice on how to get my girlfriend in to the idea of swinging for the first time, we have never spoke about the idea at all.

Looking for advice from MF couples both new and experienced, married and in a relationship?

Don't agree with only getting involved if you've been together a long time.

We've been together 3 years are solid and just starting out!

Thanks How long have you been together? We would only recommend it's something to get into if you've been together for a long time, are both sexually adventurous, and already have a great sex life. If so, watch Swingers on Channel 4 next Monday together, ask her if she'd fancy it "

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

What are you doing on Fab if you've never discussed swinging? Isn't she going to be a bit surprised you have been involved in this already without her knowledge?

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

Just show her your profile and see if she likes it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just show her your profile and see if she likes it. "

There is always one!

I guess I'll do the follow up...

She's already into it... check out my verification

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

For us it started with swinging Porn, strip clubs and then attending a party (as observers only but dabbled in soft play) until we eventually fully swapped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just talk to her honestly about things you'd like to try. She'll either agree or she won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen loads of posts about meetings people on here and talking it further than just meets. That's my ideal: if I meet someone already in this lifestyle, then that would make these awkward conversations must easier. Good luck, glad you are ready to have the conversation and not doing it behind her back.

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