FabSwingers.com forum: Single ladies...what do you prefer in a first message?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on here a while (I had another profile before this one). I wouldnt consider myself ugly by any means, and I do alright with members of the opposite sex in general (on nights out etc), but on here, i pretty much seem to get nowhere. Now i'm not sure if this is due to messages I'm sending or what. I always try to write a nice, polite message and always include a clear face pic. It's also sometimes hard to write a decent message to someone when they have very little on their profile for you to go off. I am aware that at the minute, I have very little on my profile, but from experience, women very rarely go out of their way to message men on here anyway, so I usually just include any info in my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We blokes just need to think like a lady

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Hi im rich, single, 99 with a dicky heart do you fancy a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love it, Diamonds ha ha Dee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi im rich, single, 99 with a dicky heart do you fancy a shag"

wtf...haaaaa

that will go straight on the blocked list if i were a lady and got that

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

PIN number and account details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on here a while (I had another profile before this one). I wouldnt consider myself ugly by any means, and I do alright with members of the opposite sex in general (on nights out etc), but on here, i pretty much seem to get nowhere. Now i'm not sure if this is due to messages I'm sending or what. I always try to write a nice, polite message and always include a clear face pic. It's also sometimes hard to write a decent message to someone when they have very little on their profile for you to go off. I am aware that at the minute, I have very little on my profile, but from experience, women very rarely go out of their way to message men on here anyway, so I usually just include any info in my messages."

As an ice breaker they usually like you to send them just a picture of your cock and some witty remark like "I bet you (Or, if adressing a couple, your Mrs.) would love to get this inside 'em!"

Give it a whirl, youll be fighting em off with a shitty stick by this time tomorrow

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

Just write something normal and nice! Fancy a shag (ill be thinking not really) wana meet up ( no who are you- unless I was desperate which most couples are not )

If a couple or single girl wrote that to us I'd still ignore them

- hope that's helps

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I always look at a profile before reading the message. Going by your profile op I would delete your message without reading it.

There's no information to go on. It would take a barrage of questions to find out whether we were compatible or not. Who has time for that when other men have all the information on their profile I need?

Just because you fancy someone it doesn't mean they're looking for your age group say, and with a one line profile you already know it's not working, so improve it!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so what sort of information would you be looking for on a profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so what sort of information would you be looking for on a profile?"

i see your previous comment about your profile but i think if you dont put anything people will just think you cant be bothered.

if you have a better profile then i think people will be more interested. just my opinion of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell us about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a photo.. I want to see that they have read my profile and see that they are not excluding Master.

Messages addressed just to me get ignored.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pic, face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so what sort of information would you be looking for on a profile?"

Whatever you write it should demonstrate your ability to make a woman laugh, empathise a little and explain what you'd like to find/experience on here. Just don't take it all too seriously.

Oh, and don't forget your bank account details

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok, ive now updated my profile with a bit about myself. Did my best with it, so hopefully it's ok x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like your profile, and think you've put quite a lot extra into it.

Quick thoughts - maybe drop the personal interests, like music, lower down, as that's probably not of interest to everyone, and could deflect/deter the right people you could have a great time with. Also, the wilder fun you love - again, this might be worth making this less emphasised, unless you really need this most of the meets that you have, in which case, its prominence is cool.

Overall, whatever's of secondary interest/importance, then emphasise the rest, rather than these things, if they even need to be mentioned at all.

Try and get clearer on which women you love, as even though you have catholic tastes, it may be so generalised, that no-one could feel it related to them personally.

Overall, you'd be a great friend and fb I think, so you deserve to succeed. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks a lot for your feedback sophie, and i've tried to amend it the best i can with your advice in mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when sending mail to a cpl or who ever, make sure u put their name on the message.

then it dont just look like a mail shot that has been sent to lots of others.

good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im going to be honest if they dont send a pic i dont reply, if they send a pic but i dont fancy them i dont reply

You could send me a message that simply said hi, if you send a pic with it and i like the look of you i will reply

I have pics on my profile so people can see what i look like before talking to me, i like to have the same option, im not willing to talk to someone for a hour only to be send a pic and find out i dont fancy him, how many guys would mail me and ask me to meet without seeing me? so why should i talk to a faceless person

shallow? maybe lol

but as a single working mum my time to meet is limited

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i do always send a clear face pic with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not babe or hun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"not babe or hun.

goes without saying. i can't stand that in real life, and the same goes for on here! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read their profile and construct a personalised message based on what you have read...there is nothing worse than a guy firing questions at you that are already answered within the profile...i used to be polite to everyone and respond to all...but after the numptys who been messaging me today asking for a daytime meet, weekday evening meet, and who were married or asian, then my blocking finger is working overtime and politeness has fecked off and left me lol!

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