FabSwingers.com forum: Lone swinger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im a happily married man, who’s sex life with the wife dried up years ago, her choice, not mine. For years I satisfied myself, but am now getting more adventurous, without my wife’s knowledge.

I hoping to meet ladies or couples who can hopefully bring some fun in my direction.

What are your thoughts on my going behind my wife’s back to satisfy my needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Incoming .....

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Lots of folk are on here behind their partners backs.

Credit given for your honesty, there will be some who will play with married/attached folk & some who won't. Good luck OP

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You do what you need to do.

My thoughts are it's none of my business but I wish that you wouldn't mention your wife when she has no chance to put her side of the story.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

It's a good start that u are honest here then at least people can make their own mind up weather or not to meet u! difficult one as to how u feel about your partner! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s your life .... your choice ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of couples and great deal of single women on here are dead set against married men, not sure why but not sure honesty will always be rewarded with much action

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do you. As long as you accept when people reject your advances because you’re married then you’ll be fine.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"You do what you need to do.

My thoughts are it's none of my business but I wish that you wouldn't mention your wife when she has no chance to put her side of the story. "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"A lot of couples and great deal of single women on here are dead set against married men, not sure why but not sure honesty will always be rewarded with much action"

For me personally wont meet attached as wont b part of the deceit if she doesn't know x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"A lot of couples and great deal of single women on here are dead set against married men, not sure why but not sure honesty will always be rewarded with much action"

You're not sure why? Because they are married

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

Can't you be honest with your wife and explain how you have needs that you need to satisfy? If you could swing with her approval there will be no need for lies and sneaking around.

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By *yphodMan
over a year ago

London

There are sites that specifically cater for this kind of thing but they do cost a fortune.

Once lockdown is over obviously clubs are the place to go, as often questions are often not asked, especially in greedy girl type sessions.

It depends what you want. A an affair or just a sex with strangers experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do what you need to do.

My thoughts are it's none of my business but I wish that you wouldn't mention your wife when she has no chance to put her side of the story.

Me to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My wife is not the issue, my lack of sexual satisfaction for the last ten years + is however.

We used to have a great sex life, but all of a sudden, she just lost interest, no amount of affection could change it.

Yes, she would horrified if she found out about my other life, so life at home is the same when I’m with her.

So, am I so wrong to want my needs met?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My wife is not the issue, my lack of sexual satisfaction for the last ten years + is however.

We used to have a great sex life, but all of a sudden, she just lost interest, no amount of affection could change it.

Yes, she would horrified if she found out about my other life, so life at home is the same when I’m with her.

So, am I so wrong to want my needs met?"

No, you're not wrong. I don't know your exact situation, I don't want or need to.

You're making your wife part of the issue by mentioning her here.

The most successful married men (and women) on fab are those who mention it but don't justify it and those who don't mention it at all.

If you're after either an argument or validation it's likely you'll get the former rather than the latter.

Good luck on fab

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I don’t meet attached people..

But a lady told me a while ago that meeting off here for no strings fun actually saves her marriage..

She gets the excitement she needs, so won’t be having an affair or leaving her hubby ..

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

What the eye don't see.....

Who's worried if the guy is married or single??? It's sex we are looking for not marriage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I understand what your saying.

So what your saying, is say nothing. Am I right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough one this, I don't like seeing people hurt.. Having the conversation could end your marriage, don't have the conversation and it could end your marriage...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I understand what your saying.

So what your saying, is say nothing. Am I right?"

Who are you talking to?

Reply+quote under the post you're answering will quote that post

I'm not saying say nothing. I would say write on your profile that you're married and your wife is unaware. Then leave it.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

"Im a happily married man, who’s sex life with the wife dried up years ago, her choice, not mine. For years I satisfied myself, but am now getting more adventurous, without my wife’s knowledge.

I hoping to meet ladies or couples who can hopefully bring some fun in my direction.

What are your thoughts on my going behind my wife’s back to satisfy my needs."

Are you really seeking justification for your guilty conscience with opinions of strangers here?

If everyone says sure go for it, do you see that as satisfying your moral values.

The only validity you need is yours. By essence of asking, you know it is wrong, the consequences of which, will be your sole responsibility.

ie. Do whatever you want to do. It's your choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a happily married man, who’s sex life with the wife dried up years ago, her choice, not mine. For years I satisfied myself, but am now getting more adventurous, without my wife’s knowledge.

I hoping to meet ladies or couples who can hopefully bring some fun in my direction.

What are your thoughts on my going behind my wife’s back to satisfy my needs."

Our thoughts are that what you are doing is dishonest and disrespectful.

If she doesn't want sex and you are looking elsewhere then if you love her you should at least tell her.

Otherwise it is simply cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I understand what your saying.

So what your saying, is say nothing. Am I right?"

Yes. No one needs to know. Don’t over complicate things.

If you’re ok with it then that’s what matters. Just don’t tell anyone. It save them preaching or judging you.

Many people on

here do lie ! Have fun !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

One thing I will say is that I'd recognise you in the street. Would it be OK with you if someone local did?

There are regular threads on here from people saying they've seen their friend's partner in fab and asking if they should tell them. The overwhelming majority say they should. I always say they shouldn't but I'm always outnumbered

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"What the eye don't see.....

Who's worried if the guy is married or single??? It's sex we are looking for not marriage.

Because it's a morale thing I for one would not b a part in the deception of another which is what it would b of course there are those that would b fine with it and no deffo not looking for marriage lol or even snacking up! X

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I try to avoid married men, whether their wives know or not, there have been a few exceptions, such as a friends husbands/partners.

I'd be absolutely livid if I found out someone was married and didn't tell me.

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