FabSwingers.com forum: Safety on meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Naturally i know we cant meet at the moment but I'm curious to know what others do to ensure their safety on meets? Males/females/couples anyone really.

Personally I ask for a photo of their ID shortly before the meet. I also send mine!

If I'm getting in their car I ask for the reg in advance or take a photo before entering.

Ask for location in advance so if going to a house ect.

I then send the ID and reg to my bestie so that should I go missing the police have a good start. She also has the location and I give her a time to be concerned and another to phone the police haha. If its going well I can text or call or adjust the times.

I also share my snap location with my bestie so that should I end up somewhere and I cant get a hold of anyone she can easily find me.

Am I paranoid? I figure anyone that doesnt agree to this doesnt really care for my safety so not worth meeting?

Has anyone had any bad meets or been in dicey situations? How did you get out of it?

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Very sensible..

I’ve had meets and have never been asked for anything..

Went to a young ladies house once and she wanted some quick sex whilst her baby was asleep..

Needless to say I drank my coffee and left ..

Stupidity isn’t a turn on for me

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By *erdyCurvyInkedPervyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Thats all really well thought out. I do similar.

I tend to 'what3words' to my bestie most of the time though. I'll give him a time to call me too, pretending to be the babysitter to just check in with me. Also gives me a good get out if needbe. Always take note of car reg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

many years ago I met a naughty nurse from Brum, she mentioned to me she had told her best mate everything including the room number, others may have well done the same thing without saying, but I think its a good thing to let the guy know you have taken some sort of security measures, I felt safe because the wife knew all the details lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet for social only first in a public place. My husband knows the time and place I'm meeting at. Not that I've ever worried about that part.

When I meet for more - it's at their place. I ask for the address I'm going to. I look it up on streatview beforehand with husband, so he knows exactly where I'm going (leave the full address with him too). And then discuss the length of time I intend to be there, a message I would be sending if I'm ok or in trouble and at what intervals of time approximately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Very sensible..

I’ve had meets and have never been asked for anything..

Went to a young ladies house once and she wanted some quick sex whilst her baby was asleep..

Needless to say I drank my coffee and left ..

Stupidity isn’t a turn on for me

Thanks! I always tell the guy why I'm asking for the information and let him know on the date. I just think tinder is bad enough so a site like this you should be extra careful.

However! Having said that despite some odd requests most people are so respectful and lovely! On tinder ive come accross people that make me feel unsafe and verbally attack me. On here (despite the many messages) its a complete different story!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always meet for social only first in a public place. My husband knows the time and place I'm meeting at. Not that I've ever worried about that part.

Thats a really good idea! Im glad your safe and your husband is on standby ready to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i started in the kink world we were always told to arrange a safe call, where a trusted friend knew where you were going or who was coming to yours and how long etc

found it more difficult on here as many dont want to give out that sort of information or let someone else have it

led to a lot of meets not happening

though have taken chances and arranged meets without, mainly at mine but often have a social with a friend arranged after so they know something is up if dont show

its taking a risk but an educated one and maybe i have just been lucky so far

some do try to berate and abuse you on here if you ask for that type of info

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband always has the address of where I am meeting and I have a location tracker on my phone. I call him when I arrive, then text once I get a feel for the place and who I'm with. I also then text periodically so he knows I'm safe. I don't give out my address or risk my child. Xx

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

When Honey goes for solo meets I always know where she is, book in and book out and if it's a more secluded place (not a pub/coffee shop) she tells the gent shes taking a pic of his registration plate and sends it to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"when i started in the kink world we were always told to arrange a safe call, where a trusted friend knew where you were going or who was coming to yours and how long etc

found it more difficult on here as many dont want to give out that sort of information or let someone else have it

led to a lot of meets not happening

though have taken chances and arranged meets without, mainly at mine but often have a social with a friend arranged after so they know something is up if dont show

its taking a risk but an educated one and maybe i have just been lucky so far

some do try to berate and abuse you on here if you ask for that type of info"

Ive been quite lucky in that so far people have been really understanding about it. I think its because I ask for all this on the day of the meet whereas we could of been speaking for days or weeks even allowing the trust to build up.

I think having a social first is a good idea cause theres no pressure then if the chemistry isnt there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I couldnt imagine having someone at home though! What if they refuse to leave?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impressive set of safety measures!

Like any “requirements”, if people aren’t comfortable with them, then they shouldn’t meet. Don’t compromise.

That said, I’ve never gone that far with measures or been asked for that level of detail.

The main one is “first meet in a public place”.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Impressive set of safety measures!

Like any “requirements”, if people aren’t comfortable with them, then they shouldn’t meet. Don’t compromise.

That said, I’ve never gone that far with measures or been asked for that level of detail.

The main one is “first meet in a public place”.

Haha thanks! Yeah thats a good rule! Even publicly I think itd still want all that so i know i wasnt being catfished haha

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