FabSwingers.com forum: What’s your view on winking?

By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

Personally I think it’s a great idea to show some initial interest and see if there’s any in return! Call it a little smile across the bar. I’ll nearly always wink first before sending a message to see if i get a wink back. Saves typing a message out which goes unread list in the inbox 80% of the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here

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By *ature watcherMan
over a year ago

lichfield

"Personally I think it’s a great idea to show some initial interest and see if there’s any in return! Call it a little smile across the bar. I’ll nearly always wink first before sending a message to see if i get a wink back. Saves typing a message out which goes unread list in the inbox 80% of the time! "

100% agree ! Can't really understand people that are offended by a wink ? I don't consider it lazy at all, as you said, just a polite, acknowledgement that your profile had been noticed and liked ! I always thank people for a wink and ask if they would like to chat ? Then things either progress or not ?

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I like winks. I prefer someone has made a bit of effort on their profile rather than a long cut and paste message.

I mostly have my message filters on, but if I like the look of a profile then I can wink at them. The ball is then in their court.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We’ve had meets that have started with a wink, if we’re interested we’ll wink back. Worse is a pasted message.

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I like winks. I prefer someone has made a bit of effort on their profile rather than a long cut and paste message.

I mostly have my message filters on, but if I like the look of a profile then I can wink at them. The ball is then in their court."

Yes 100% that! If I receive a wink and I like the profile I’ll defo follow up with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like winks. I prefer someone has made a bit of effort on their profile rather than a long cut and paste message.

I mostly have my message filters on, but if I like the look of a profile then I can wink at them. The ball is then in their court.

Yes 100% that! If I receive a wink and I like the profile I’ll defo follow up with a message "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No dont get winks at all so just delete them,although it is on our profile we wont respond to them many still continue to send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here"

Same

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"We’ve had meets that have started with a wink, if we’re interested we’ll wink back. Worse is a pasted message."

Exactly. I’ll also happily send face pics in a message to someone I get a wink from providing they’re what I’m looking for, verified and have photos themselves

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here"

I leave mine sat there so they can't re-wink for a few months.

Personally I think if you are interested then say so, a wink is just pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I start nearly every single conversation after a wink or mutual wink. Like previously said it’s a good way to acknowledge you like the look of the profile and may be interested and if you receive one back I tend to follow up with a message

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here

I leave mine sat there so they can't re-wink for a few months.

Personally I think if you are interested then say so, a wink is just pointless "

What if you like that persons profile though?

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I start nearly every single conversation after a wink or mutual wink. Like previously said it’s a good way to acknowledge you like the look of the profile and may be interested and if you receive one back I tend to follow up with a message

spot on

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's not really like a smile across a bar because you can't see who's winking, so we tend to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to ignore them and ask people to message instead as I much prefer PMs. But loads of people still winked anyway so I do check them every so often. Most get deleted though xx

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I used to ignore them and ask people to message instead as I much prefer PMs. But loads of people still winked anyway so I do check them every so often. Most get deleted though xx"

Yeah I agree messaging is preferred but so many go unread I just think it’s good to know if someone is interested or not x

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

"It's not really like a smile across a bar because you can't see who's winking, so we tend to ignore. "

this sums it up for us too.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I never look at the winks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waste of time. Just send a message to say hi even

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s good most of my meets have been from

The initial wink

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By *aya_69Woman
over a year ago

Stoke/Cheshire

I always bulk deleted, maybe I ought to pay more attention to them

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I tend to view the profiles I'm winked from but more often than not it's someone who's not read my profile and only have cock pictures which I specifically say don't interest me

I have sent a few winks just to test the water so to speak but don't do it very often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like a wink but not ftom profiles with no pics or any bio, what's the point?

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

I understand you ladies prob get lots from profiles not verified and only pictures are some grotty hand with dirty finger nails throttling the head off it but some of us are genuine

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I definitely get more winks than messages..

I wink back and generally get a message then ..

A good system..

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

my view on winking? Depends what eye I'm using to wink with coz if it's my right then my view is pretty blurry

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I definitely get more winks than messages..

I wink back and generally get a message then ..

A good system.."

Bloody hell pal share your secret with the lads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink if I like what I see, what confuses me is why people wink then hide?

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

"I like winks. I prefer someone has made a bit of effort on their profile rather than a long cut and paste message.

I mostly have my message filters on, but if I like the look of a profile then I can wink at them. The ball is then in their court.

Yes 100% that! If I receive a wink and I like the profile I’ll defo follow up with a message "
same here

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"I definitely get more winks than messages..

I wink back and generally get a message then ..

A good system..

Bloody hell pal share your secret with the lads! "

No secret to all this ..

It’s the same as a night in the pub .. chat to people, don’t be desperate, don’t chat about sex.. find common ground..

Never be pushy and always be a gentleman..

It’s truly not rocket science

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By *reative CapturesCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We like using winks, will happily wink back if we're interested. Will always expect the profile who initiated the wink to message there is a mutual wink though.

K&G x

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By *ongueTwister OP Man
over a year ago

"I definitely get more winks than messages..

I wink back and generally get a message then ..

A good system..

Bloody hell pal share your secret with the lads!

No secret to all this ..

It’s the same as a night in the pub .. chat to people, don’t be desperate, don’t chat about sex.. find common ground..

Never be pushy and always be a gentleman..

It’s truly not rocket science "

I mean your secret to receiving all these winks and first messages. Wish my fab life was that easy!

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By *lirtwithmeWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I like a wink. It’s a way for me to say ‘hey, i might be interested in you, what do you think’

When someone winks I think it’s them saying the same. I’ll usually click on the profile and see if they’re into the same stuff, and it’s a way of breaking the ice. Potentially a way of saving having to write a message to say ‘I’m interested’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a wink. It’s a way for me to say ‘hey, i might be interested in you, what do you think’

Winked you just two days ago

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"I like a wink. It’s a way for me to say ‘hey, i might be interested in you, what do you think’

Winked you just two days ago

Then obviously you don’t float her boat ..

Move on

Desperation is ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like winks. I prefer someone has made a bit of effort on their profile rather than a long cut and paste message.

I mostly have my message filters on, but if I like the look of a profile then I can wink at them. The ball is then in their court.

Yes 100% that! If I receive a wink and I like the profile I’ll defo follow up with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a wink. It’s a way for me to say ‘hey, i might be interested in you, what do you think’

Winked you just two days ago

Then obviously you don’t float her boat ..

Move on

Desperation is ugly "

And arrogance just makes you look like an even bigger tool

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

i prefer wanking

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here

I leave mine sat there so they can't re-wink for a few months.

Personally I think if you are interested then say so, a wink is just pointless

What if you like that persons profile though? "

I don't look at winks. If I come across the profile and like it then I message them, that simple

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By *randMrsPipCouple
over a year ago

Alfreton

I like a wink

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

the idea is sound though most of my winks come from people with empty profiles, 400 miles away or just no common interests

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Algarve

I can understand why women don’t have time for them with the amount of messages they receive but I do think they’re a good way to test the water.

Some women forget that a lot of men put a good amount of time into a good message only for them to get no reply at all, so a wink is a good way to see if there’s any mutual attraction which can be followed up with a more detailed message - that’s how I see them, anyway.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I used to think just winking was lazy but I’ve spent so long typing out different styles of messages only for them to be left “unread”

It’s got to the point where the chance of a wink back is as likely as a reply to a message. Both very unlikely. I’ve excepted my role as forum contributor and pic fabber

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By *ertsguy2000Man
over a year ago

hertford

We are regularly told how women on this site have hundreds/thousands of messages, far too many to handle, to the point that do not have the time to be polite and reply to every single message. Therefore I feel winks are a ‘non time consuming’ way to show an interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sending and receiving winks - a wink is a good start especially if you are sending to a blank profile

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

We love wink... shows someone has seen us and thinks...hello...

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By *allgirthyMan
over a year ago

Algarve

"We love wink... shows someone has seen us and thinks...hello..."

In that case...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I bulk delete winks same as lots of ladies on here"

Same

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We like a wink, can help filter out who might be interested or not

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"We’ve had meets that have started with a wink, if we’re interested we’ll wink back. Worse is a pasted message."

i agree pasted is worst. i always try to write something refelcting a profile but some woman dont make it easy they put "looking for fun"(derrr ! ). Tricky!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will always message anyone who winks at me. It’s only the polite thing to do x

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We got sick of replying to a wink with a nice message to get no reply. That happened 90% of the time. We don't even look at them now. It does say this on our profile, a message is best we say. If people wink us it just shows the lazy people couldn't even be bothered to read our profile. Why would we even want to meet folk who just can't put in the effort to read our profile. So it doesn't work for us but everyone has their own way on here so if it works for you wink away at folk but read profiles first as that's where a great encounter could start, not with the wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might have a winkathon later and see what comes back, purely in the name of science

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Don't see the point no one looks at them anyway, they're not reciprocated. A decent message I'll send if I've found that someone has looked at my profile more often once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we like them for some people effort goes in to messaging not just the usual. So seeing someone wink at you is a sign they are interested and worth a message

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

York

Im quite shy at first so a wink is me saying hello

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

Rather have a polite message of introduction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay absolutely no attention to winks I receive and have never sent one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It breaks the ice and shows interest. The winked can then decide if they like me or want more.

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By *yspicysalsaCouple
over a year ago

London

"It breaks the ice and shows interest. The winked can then decide if they like me or want more.

This is what we use it for too.

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By *eeds Horny BuggerMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I like the idea of winks but as few women have stated now on the post they mass delete them. It’s a catch 22 position to be fair, you can take your time to send a message and see it unread or deleted. Obviously some women get loads of messages a day so mass delete them as well. Think lots of guys will have had that over the years so sometimes a cheeky wink can work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I think they're a good idea, if I receive one and like the look of their profile, I'll either send one back or send them a message.

If not I'll just ignore them...

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We don’t mind them, we’ll keep the ones we like the look of then message them if we decide to.

It’s a bit like the “we’ll keep you on file” reply to an unsuccessful job application

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We use it to show interest in the profile, it gives the other person/people an option to respond or ignore, I know singles get a lot but each to their own. X

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Happy to get winks, see no harm in them. And if the winker peaks our interest, we'd send one back. Wink away

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By *itch74Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"my view on winking? Depends what eye I'm using to wink with coz if it's my right then my view is pretty blurry "

Best one so far lol

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

A waste of the facial muscle for us, a nice message on the other cheek though....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like them

I always send one if its someone I'm interested in x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually ignore esp if I don't match what their profile says they want

Odd one I may follow up with a message but if don't get a reply assume they were not serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually wink as a non intrusive way of saying we're interested. If we don't get a reply it's no great shakes.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Show some interest not allway some a just been polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a great feature

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