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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... category of people who are called cheaters not a swingers

Your opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is a real swinger except me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... category of people who are called cheaters not a swingers

Your opinion? "

Loads of them on here.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We assure most people are in relationship or married single men who can't accommodate in 90 percent of cases will have a partner at home obviously a little different for single ladies who might not want to give address to people security etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We assure most people are in relationship or married single men who can't accommodate in 90 percent of cases will have a partner at home obviously a little different for single ladies who might not want to give address to people security etc "

A bit sexiest, I think that 90% of the women who can’t accom are married as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should all know honesty is the best policy,but there’s male and female cheaters on here but that’s their choice and lives. Don’t agree with it at all but that’s upto them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... category of people who are called cheaters not a swingers

Your opinion? "

If they're no throwing stones at me I have no desire to throw anything at them.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"We assure most people are in relationship or married single men who can't accommodate in 90 percent of cases will have a partner at home obviously a little different for single ladies who might not want to give address to people security etc

A bit sexiest, I think that 90% of the women who can’t accom are married as well. "

I guess I'm in the other 10% then. I can't (choose not to) accommodate because I'm a single parent and this is my children's home, even if I didn't have kids I would be unlikely to accommodate the due to safety concerns.

I'm very happily not married nor am I in a relationship. I just don't want strangers from the Internet coming to my home or knowing where I live.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Making broad sweeping statements condemning entire groups of people, with little or no knowledge of their individual circumstances or motivations......

A group of people I refer to as bigoted and judgemental.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... category of people who are called cheaters not a swingers

Your opinion?

Loads of them on here."

And that is for sure

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Can't stand cheaters in every day life after watching the destruction it can cause so why would I tolerate them here?

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

You get one life and that's yours to lead how you see fit. Whilst I in no way condone cheating it's completely up to them and as long as they are honest on here about it then that's up to some else who'd be comfortable playing with that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Making broad sweeping statements condemning entire groups of people, with little or no knowledge of their individual circumstances or motivations......

A group of people I refer to as bigoted and judgemental......."

Whilst the group that the OP is referring to are dishonest and disrespectful if their partners don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it count as cheating if you tell him afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it count as cheating if you tell him afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree honesty is the best policy.

We also however recognise that expecting and demanding full honesty from others is probably too high a bar for many if not most.

For us, if we are interested in meeting you, we arent especially concerned with whether you are married or not. We have played with married women who had partners who knew, and who didnt. Its not our concern.

We offer sexual exploration and fun, if you are taking such offers up when you shouldnt be then that is your concern and your consequences to bear. Neither our business or our problem. If you dont tell us we arent going to ask, if you do tell us we arent going to judge. We arent in your marriage, perhaps you have your reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We agree honesty is the best policy.

We also however recognise that expecting and demanding full honesty from others is probably too high a bar for many if not most.

For us, if we are interested in meeting you, we arent especially concerned with whether you are married or not. We have played with married women who had partners who knew, and who didnt. Its not our concern.

We offer sexual exploration and fun, if you are taking such offers up when you shouldnt be then that is your concern and your consequences to bear. Neither our business or our problem. If you dont tell us we arent going to ask, if you do tell us we arent going to judge. We arent in your marriage, perhaps you have your reasons. "

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama "

Couldn't of put that better myself.

I'm in exactly the same position. Though not having much luck (and I can't blame them!), I find this is my little escape from a sexual desert.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama

Couldn't of put that better myself.

I'm in exactly the same position. Though not having much luck (and I can't blame them!), I find this is my little escape from a sexual desert. "

Just for interest, what would you think if the lady was on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it’s deceit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect "

What would happen if they were?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"We assure most people are in relationship or married single men who can't accommodate in 90 percent of cases will have a partner at home obviously a little different for single ladies who might not want to give address to people security etc

A bit sexiest, I think that 90% of the women who can’t accom are married as well.

I guess I'm in the other 10% then. I can't (choose not to) accommodate because I'm a single parent and this is my children's home, even if I didn't have kids I would be unlikely to accommodate the due to safety concerns.

I'm very happily not married nor am I in a relationship. I just don't want strangers from the Internet coming to my home or knowing where I live. "

Yup, we're a happily married couple but don't accommodate at home for all the above reasons. Hotels and clubs yes (under normal circumstances). Would go to someone else's house if invited but only together (safety). Us not accommodating has nothing to do with us being a genuine etc, but everything to do with us having kids at home and safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama

Couldn't of put that better myself.

I'm in exactly the same position. Though not having much luck (and I can't blame them!), I find this is my little escape from a sexual desert.

Just for interest, what would you think if the lady was on here?"

Honestly? It would be a relief.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama

Couldn't of put that better myself.

I'm in exactly the same position. Though not having much luck (and I can't blame them!), I find this is my little escape from a sexual desert.

Just for interest, what would you think if the lady was on here?

Honestly? It would be a relief."

As much as talking to her about it?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

YOU'RE all rotten end of lol

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Could care less about what category people fall into.

As far as cheating goes if the person wants to meet us and tells us they are married, be they man or woman and their partner does not know, then we are not interested.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I tell my husband. Just afterwards when he’s balls deep in my ass listening to the filthy details.

I’m glad I’m lucky enough to not have to ‘cheat’ it must be awful feeling you have to sneak around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a nice position to put someone in. I had to delete because some woman got a vendetta against me for meeting her boyfriend, even though she was on here to, and I didn't actually know he had a gf when I met him the once. Horrible time, actually still have dreams about it now.

Don't fetch innocent people into your messy situations unawares

... it's not fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tell my husband. Just afterwards when he’s balls deep in my ass listening to the filthy details.

I’m glad I’m lucky enough to not have to ‘cheat’ it must be awful feeling you have to sneak around "

I love that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect "

Go and buy it in another just as you say.

But if you do not care for her enough to treat her with respect and honesty, well then you should show her the dignity of walking away.

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Im here and my husband doesnt know. Was a knee jerk reaction to him cheating and in my defence I havent met anyone since I joined. I talk to people and chat on the forums and never hide that Im married. Dont think Ive ever had a negative reaction tbh. Might not be right to some and I understand that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here and my husband isn’t aware. I’m very honest about it on my profile, that way people can make their own choice if they would like to chat and get to know me. It’s so easy to throw stones and cast aspersions while sat behind a keyboard, however nothing is ever black and white. My reasons for being here are my own, and I very much go by the fab cliché of I won’t judge others and expect the same in return. And contrary to what some believe - I’m not scum of the earth or a horrible person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect

Go and buy it in another just as you say.

But if you do not care for her enough to treat her with respect and honesty, well then you should show her the dignity of walking away.

"

Take it your not married or with a partner

Not as easy as you suggest

She perfect in many other ways except the bedroom

I can live with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a relationship, she's on here as well though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuck your wife you fuck my wife anything esle is not swinging

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama "

Same here...

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Isn't it strange how 'Drink me' and 'Alis' are unscathed by the ladies in this thread who have slated us males!! Lol

Fair play to both you ladies for your honesty, I know how you feel. X

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m here and my husband isn’t aware. I’m very honest about it on my profile, that way people can make their own choice if they would like to chat and get to know me. It’s so easy to throw stones and cast aspersions while sat behind a keyboard, however nothing is ever black and white. My reasons for being here are my own, and I very much go by the fab cliché of I won’t judge others and expect the same in return. And contrary to what some believe - I’m not scum of the earth or a horrible person."

Great summary and very open and honest.

Everyone has their reasons for being here. In the same way that everyone has different kinks and interests. There is no one right answer, and I’d hope there’s enough people on here for everyone to find the kind of chat / meet etc that they want.

(Single males with profiles full of cock pics excluded from this )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect

Go and buy it in another just as you say.

But if you do not care for her enough to treat her with respect and honesty, well then you should show her the dignity of walking away.

Take it your not married or with a partner

Not as easy as you suggest

She perfect in many other ways except the bedroom

I can live with that "

We are married, surely you can see that on our profile?

It is great that you have made the conscious choice and live with the fact that she is perfect in every other way.

Such a shame though that you don't respect her enough to allow her to choose whether SHE wants to live with what you are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexless marriage

Can’t get bread in one shop you go to another

Everyone has needs

Please don’t judge nobody is perfect

Go and buy it in another just as you say.

But if you do not care for her enough to treat her with respect and honesty, well then you should show her the dignity of walking away.

Take it your not married or with a partner

Not as easy as you suggest

She perfect in many other ways except the bedroom

I can live with that

We are married, surely you can see that on our profile?

It is great that you have made the conscious choice and live with the fact that she is perfect in every other way.

Such a shame though that you don't respect her enough to allow her to choose whether SHE wants to live with what you are doing."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll probably get shot down for saying this...Sadly, not everyone has the happy marriage that so many on here claim.. I'm honest about being married and on here without my other half's knowledge. I don't have sex at home, so love the opportunity to explore with sexy women and couples on fabs without the drama

Couldn't of put that better myself.

I'm in exactly the same position. Though not having much luck (and I can't blame them!), I find this is my little escape from a sexual desert. "
Yep exactly the same situation for me. I'll just put this out there, us married people who don't get sex at home what are we supposed to do if we don't "cheat" live sex less lives forever?

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south


"Im here and my husband doesnt know. Was a knee jerk reaction to him cheating and in my defence I havent met anyone since I joined. I talk to people and chat on the forums and never hide that Im married. Dont think Ive ever had a negative reaction tbh. Might not be right to some and I understand that too "

Except the 1 female you met 5 months ago?

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"Yep exactly the same situation for me. I'll just put this out there, us married people who don't get sex at home what are we supposed to do if we don't "cheat" live sex less lives forever? "

We're usually told that we should leave our wives - regardless of what the exact circumstances of each individual situation may be - and often vilified to the extreme...

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I’m a cheater. I have my reasons of course and If ever there was a site where people generally don’t judge then thankfully this is it.

I’m honest with people that I contact and respect preferences....

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Im here and my husband doesnt know. Was a knee jerk reaction to him cheating and in my defence I havent met anyone since I joined. I talk to people and chat on the forums and never hide that Im married. Dont think Ive ever had a negative reaction tbh. Might not be right to some and I understand that too

Except the 1 female you met 5 months ago?"
Actually I didnt meet her 5 months ago. Shes a "real life" friend of mine who verified me

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

You tell him girl....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Making broad sweeping statements condemning entire groups of people, with little or no knowledge of their individual circumstances or motivations......

A group of people I refer to as bigoted and judgemental......."

See what you did there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads always make me giggle

Majority of the condemnation comes from couples.... I've lost count of the amount of guys in couples who've messaged me asking to meet behind their partners back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These threads always make me giggle

Majority of the condemnation comes from couples.... I've lost count of the amount of guys in couples who've messaged me asking to meet behind their partners back!! "

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

What others do is none of my business. I do not judge anyone’s situation. My personal preference is to have relationships with single men but I’ve broken that rule before (unknowingly and knowingly).

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is refreshing to hear!

Lots of others will be in a similar position. Actually meeting up is a big step, but exploring fantasies with others is actually really helpful if you're otherwise not getting what you want or need.

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By *ikeandmollyCouple
over a year ago

swindon

I think life is way to short to not live it and not be happy or true to who you are, if your unhappy with what ever situation you in walk away from it. You are not responsible for someone else’s happiness and no one is for yours. But don’t hurt people and by not be open about how you feel. As that just leads to all kinds of mess. Yes I am married and yes we are very happy but we haven’t always been and we went though some really bad times and had a sexless marriage for 3 years but we kept talking and are stronger and better now and have the most amazing sex life ever now away from swinging, that’s just a added bonus.

What I’m saying is talk people all relationships need trust and communication or what’s the point.

Molly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you, but think women are viewed and judged differently on here.

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By *av501TV/TS
over a year ago

Mancetter?


"We assure most people are in relationship or married single men who can't accommodate in 90 percent of cases will have a partner at home obviously a little different for single ladies who might not want to give address to people security etc

A bit sexiest, I think that 90% of the women who can’t accom are married as well.

I guess I'm in the other 10% then. I can't (choose not to) accommodate because I'm a single parent and this is my children's home, even if I didn't have kids I would be unlikely to accommodate the due to safety concerns.

I'm very happily not married nor am I in a relationship. I just don't want strangers from the Internet coming to my home or knowing where I live. "

I agree with this young lady too..... I do accom on occasion which has in the past helped me meet ......but i live with a grown up family member and cannot 100% commit to accomodating.

Cheaters maybe ...but i see a few married Men and Woman who are stuck in sexless and loveless marriages, mainly for financial and family reasons, and just need a release?? You may never judge another person until you have walked a mile in their shoes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are in a sexless marrage, it may be partly your fault, instead of spending time on fab, maybe spend time with your wife/husband, you might find they are as frustrated as you, and if that doesnt work then leave, life is to short. so im sorry but not buying that argument, cheating is cheating what ever way you put it, how would you feel if your oh was doing it to you, swining is all about honesty, without that it doesnt work, only our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you are in a sexless marrage, it may be partly your fault, instead of spending time on fab, maybe spend time with your wife/husband, you might find they are as frustrated as you, and if that doesnt work then leave, life is to short. so im sorry but not buying that argument, cheating is cheating what ever way you put it, how would you feel if your oh was doing it to you, swining is all about honesty, without that it doesnt work, only our opinion "
. Replies like this make me smile, yea just walk away like it's that simple! Don't you think some of us have'nt already tried talking and things are still no better as I've personally already said in another thread, what if you can't leave for financial, family reasons or the rest of the marriage is fine but just the sex is missing? Life isn't always black and white, I bet theirs alot of couples on here would do exactly the same if they were in a sex less relationship. Yes cheating just for the sake of it isn't nice but for some people it's the only way to get some sort of intimacy in their lives and splitting up divorce may not be the answer or practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you are in a sexless marrage, it may be partly your fault, instead of spending time on fab, maybe spend time with your wife/husband, you might find they are as frustrated as you, and if that doesnt work then leave, life is to short. so im sorry but not buying that argument, cheating is cheating what ever way you put it, how would you feel if your oh was doing it to you, swining is all about honesty, without that it doesnt work, only our opinion . Replies like this make me smile, yea just walk away like it's that simple! Don't you think some of us have'nt already tried talking and things are still no better as I've personally already said in another thread, what if you can't leave for financial, family reasons or the rest of the marriage is fine but just the sex is missing? Life isn't always black and white, I bet theirs alot of couples on here would do exactly the same if they were in a sex less relationship. Yes cheating just for the sake of it isn't nice but for some people it's the only way to get some sort of intimacy in their lives and splitting up divorce may not be the answer or practical. "

if you arent happy then leave, i have, all the money in the world isnt worth a unhappy life, grow a pair and go on your own, like i said, i have, im worse off in the bank, and lost a house, but im happy, you cant put a price on that, there are too many people in the world convince themselves that they have to stay, its the easy way, but those that leave are way happier, i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheaters are the best people to meet.....

They never waste time with a no sex social....

They usually have to plan things in advance, so you have time to rearrange your schedule.....

Their main goal is great sex , not swinging drama.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These threads always make me giggle

Majority of the condemnation comes from couples.... I've lost count of the amount of guys in couples who've messaged me asking to meet behind their partners back!! "

this 100% the amount of messages i used to get from couples profiles were the guy asks to meet without his partner knowing was unreal and the reason i blocked couples from contacting me anymore ... meeting couples is a club thing only now and with hubs with me and i still get the odd hey fancy meeting with out my partner or yours...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... category of people who are called cheaters not a swingers

Your opinion? "

Not sure why its anyone's business but those involved. We don't have to justify it to anyone. If you don't like it then jog on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one really has a clue who married or not .. apart from the obvious couples profiles its the same with bi guys you'll never know the truth 100%

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