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By *eaford2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Seaford

We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

I dont think so. We are really new to this but I totally get off on the idea of sharing her with another man which works for her also.

She get no sexual satisfaction from the idea of sharing me with another women, and as this isn't something I need or want it's just not an issue.

Give us a few years of this and out numbers will probably be close to yours, well I hope so anyway lol.

Daddy

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

If it works for both of you and you are both happy with that situation, its not odd at all. Whatever works for ye as a couple.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto, same here.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

No, If you are both happy then play as you want. It’s the “Happy” part you need to ensure though on a constant basis.

S

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Exactly the same here, his cock too small to please a woman anyway lol.xxx

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By *eaford2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Seaford

We’re both happy with this arrangement - but most of the couples we’ve spoken to at a local sauna/club find it very odd - we make sure that our profile says males only, and only meet males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

Not odd in anyway shape or forum

I am bi so like both woman and guys and got two separate rules if I ever swing with a fuck buddy or girlfriend or boyfriend

If fuck buddy or boyfriend

Then yes I am the same as yous he’s mine and mine alowen but I do expect him to share me with uther guys and watch me get fucked and suck uther guys off

If fuck buddy is a woman or girlfriend

Then the rules are pretty much I don’t meet other woman but both off us can meet guys

Even share guys if she likes

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a nice arrangement for all. Its in some women's nature too be with different men, it's biology. Sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're the same, I play alone and as well as a couple of regulars I do sleep around quite a lot too (although I'm still very picky). He doesn't mind. I'm just not comfortable with him doing lone meets, which is one sided I know. Clubs and groups/gangbangs are another story I'm fine with that. But obviously covid is ruining everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes perfect arrangement

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

If one of you likes ice cream and the other doesn’t particularly... it doesn’t mean that you both have to eat ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

Does this work for you? Surely that's all that matters...

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth


"We’re both happy with this arrangement - but most of the couples we’ve spoken to at a local sauna/club find it very odd - we make sure that our profile says males only, and only meet males"

Other people are allowed their own opinions & preferences, but they don't have a say in how your relationship works. If you are both happy with how things are then ignore what other people say & just continue doing what works for you.

K

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It wouldn't work for us, but what works for you is your own business. As long as both of you are happy with that arrangement it's fine,and hopefully you are both good with it.

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

We started that way , I male could do all but penetrate, them things moved on now we have a 3 date rule , if we meet the same couple 3 times then I am allowed to fuck , but she is my wife my lover my mistress and she is in charge and long may it last

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's no right or wrong way of doing this within consensual and legal boundaries. There are quite a few people who like to behave as if their way is the only way and they aren't afraid to say it, that's quite rude and narrow minded in my opinion

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
Hey if it works for you both enjoy having a hot wife .....Ben does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't sound like you're all that happy with the arrangement. Understandably.

Many swinging relationships are unbalanced, ours is too, though not to a 100:0 ratio like yours. We have played with maybe 4x as many females as males. And males only ever as part of a couple. But it's a balance we both believe is right for us.

If it's not right for you, you need to do something about it. If it is, enjoy, no judgement.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not odd if you both are happy with this

Wouldn't be my cup of tea as I like to watch my partner with another woman, whilst I'm with the hubby/boyfriend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

If it works for you both then that's all that matters,

We're pretty much the same, Martha is 110% straight I'm Bi so we only meet bi guy's and all play together,

Neither of us play alone,

I have no interest in playing with any other women, Martha is more than enough woman for me.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

As a single female i find this strange but obviously you are happy to live by her rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my wife plays with couples or singles but don't let me play. Im ok with tjis as it gets me off watching her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an imbalance at the moment. Just simply because it's easier to find guys than females or couples. Though we're trying to change that.

If it works for you than great! .

If not, like us. You're gonna have to work at it.

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By *edexcitementCouple
over a year ago

Blackwood

That’s your preference, I would find it rude though if you were to message a couple and try and get the male with no intention of the female being able to play.. other than that its what makes you happy! We had this in chams once where a really attractive couple were there and she approached us and wanted Mr but made it very clear that her man was now allowed to play and she wanted both her Mr and me to watch which for us was a big no!

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By *ekyllnHideCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"my wife plays with couples or singles but don't let me play. Im ok with tjis as it gets me off watching her. "

Perfect situation its great

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

As others have said if it works for you then great, we are semi in that situation, but do have the added bonus that she will happily watch me with another guy.

My wife can't see me with another woman. However she realises the imbalance and is happy for me to go off on my own, she doesn't want to know details other than when I meet. But as you can imagine arranging a meet is easier said than done.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It wouldn’t work for us but it is surprisingly common. We been find some couples meet primarily for the woman to have sex with Mr and her MR isn’t that interested in playing. More couples should be honest , if the woman has a higher sex drive and the man is fine chaperoning her or being cuck that’s up to them and not for anyone to judge , but they shouldn’t pretend to want full swap just to get dates with couples

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

The sharing of loved ones is an intricate balance that only you both know what works for you as a couple.

Your set up is quite common in bdsm couples and cuck couples and if it works then everyone is happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.

I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.

For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.

I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.

We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.

Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

No not off at all

There are no set rules as to how you have to swing it’s entirely up to you

In fact myself and my bf play pretty much the same. He had no interest in playing with others but likes to see me play with others and him

Do what is a turn on for you and fuck what anyone else thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw an article about this the other day and apparently the hotwife thing is a massive growing trend in the UK

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Not strange at all. It's how Char and I work....I don't get much at all out of putting my cock anywhere, and I have no desire to play with another woman. Char can, and does, play with guys, girls and couples and I will watch, maybe help out, sometimes play with the guy, sometimes not even be there, but it works for us - I get all my pleasure from seeing (or knowing about) Char's enjoyment.

We do know that there are some girls and couples who only want a full swap couple, so we have a guy that Char can call on if the need arises.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partner is happy to share me but I am not happy to share him. My partner was the one who wanted me to be a hotwife and we spoke for years before agreeing to do it. It's so important to go through every scenario together. I remember questioning why would he want to share me but not have another woman in return? But because we communicated openly, I could see that this wasn't what swinging was about for him.

I think if your view is you should get a woman because she has a man, then that isn't healthy and it is only going to cause issues for you both since she doesn't want to share you. So, you need to find a compromise or stop swinging all together if you are going to hold it against her. Who's idea was this? Did she bring this up? Why were no boundaries established earlier? Why did you go into this if you are now unhappy with the situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP, I read the post as though you weren't happy with the situation! But it's a very normal dynamic to be in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry OP, I read the post as though you weren't happy with the situation! But it's a very normal dynamic to be in this situation. "

Totally agree in everything you say

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.

I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.

For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.

I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.

We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.

Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us. "
In a word "compersion" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy "

———

Thought about this a lot. I am developing the view that it takes us back to our teenage years, and gives us a chance to replay those roles which were key in our adult lives.

Don’t have time at the moment to extend this but will follow up at some point.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think this is a lot more common than the other way around to be honest. I'm interested as to why that is, maybe women are more prone to jealousy? Differing sex drives? If it's a dynamic that works for you, great but it's not that rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.

I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.

For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.

I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.

We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.

Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us. In a word "compersion" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?

As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation."

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"

Nothing odd about it no swinging is about whatever your comfortable with, look to please yourself not anybody else

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

Very similar here. I think it’s pretty common among cuckold couples really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was in a swingers relationship. Either both play or no play.

She can have all the fun and I cant do nothing. No thanks not for me.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Normal, op. I (he) don't play only she does with me being present. Was my idea initially as I wanted to see her from the third person perspective and she wanted me to see her also. If I get involved I lose that element which is our driving dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do what suits you both the best and at anytime you explore more x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't think it's odd at all, there are many couples that do this.

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

Not odd every couple I have played with it’s been mainly mmf and the Male gets off on the sharing and the fact he’s helping please his wife I guess. Although some meet other couples I don’t think any I have met, the guy plays solo.

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By *rofessionalCuckoldCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Florida

yes what you describ e is exactly how we participate too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are the same so not odd at all. We have had some people rather aggressively tell us it's wrong but we do this because when I'm with another man both of us get off on it not just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?

As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation."
Yes if your happy with that fine, but if it was me I'd find it very selfish to say the least.

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I was in a long-term relationship with a straight woman who regularly fucked other guys.I would estimate that she fucked at least 30 other men during our time together.She made it quite clear to me that I would never be allowed to play with another woman and this arrangement suited both of us just fine.No,I don't think that you're odd.

Mike

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Sounds pretty much how we used to be

I’m a cuckold she used to play away

When she stopped I got into men and dressing

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

No but id like to me

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

*like to be

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's quite common to be a hotwife couple. Where the woman plays but the guy does not play with other women. We found we get a lot of pleasure playing this way. I'm uncomfortable with hubby playing with other women. He gets more satisfaction watching me with other guys. So it works all around. We also love cuckold play putting hubby in his cock cage xx

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd?

are there any other males in the same position?"

We are also in a similar situation and you are definetly not odd.

My wife started this journey by exploring her bisexual side and was adamant she wanted no other involvement with other guys no matter how much i encouraged her.She does not permit or do i want to have another female..Im her cuckold now.She now has found her position as a hotwife now preferring to fuck young guys in their 20s .This evolving was purely of her own making..

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Not odd if you both are happy with this

Wouldn't be my cup of tea as I like to watch my partner with another woman, whilst I'm with the hubby/boyfriend "

Exactly this. My fwb and I like to meet couples to have fun with, for us it’s about 4 enjoying sex, pre Covid.

Each to their own though.

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