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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I'm submissive, and I honestly don't know! My first foray into reading erotica in my late teens lead me down that path.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started as sub, switched with ex and then back to sub

Interest started with reading American true crime mags and liking pictures of bondage on cover

Always felt natural to put other people's pleasure first esp sexually

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No idea and I tend not to analyse or justify it to myself (but I know other people find it interesting and useful). The idea of certain things appeals to me and actually doing them appeals even more .

Does anyone think certain personalities are more attracted to particular kinks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys? "
i just like to be the boss plain & simple

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Started very conservative and vanilla until a divorce and a connection with a very open and attentive couple, never looked back after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys? "

I was a very shy and inexperienced until my late 30s then a divorce and a realisation I like being in charge

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By *elboy321Man
over a year ago

Paisley

I started wearing my sisters panties when I was 13, she was 17 at the time. Now i love wearing stockings and suspenders and go once a month to a lady who dominates and humiliate me. I love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose my only kink is reactions. I enjoy getting them. I chase them and I love to please. I take great satisfaction in knowing my partner is having a good time. I also love the control that brings me. While to some I probably am a little bit somme, I'm in no way attracted to sub men, I find them almost too submissive.

I'd say a lot of it stems from getting married very young to a man who left me feeling I wasn't good enough.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't think I discovered kink, I think it found me.I used to have fantasies about spanking cute girls when I was very young.

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By *J wmcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm julie hya all I know why I'm so submissive but cant say on here.

Happy to reveal on kik though

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I suppose my only kink is reactions. I enjoy getting them. I chase them and I love to please. I take great satisfaction in knowing my partner is having a good time. I also love the control that brings me. While to some I probably am a little bit somme, I'm in no way attracted to sub men, I find them almost too submissive.

I'd say a lot of it stems from getting married very young to a man who left me feeling I wasn't good enough.

"

oh i hate when people have to go through such trauma like that... hugs... we should never give one person that power to try to destroy us. concentrate of all your beautiful qualities and screw the negative pricks... just not litterly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life is a long road of discovery, I met à Guy on a pebble beach naked literally and made me realise that I could be what I wanted, introduced me into a different lifestyle and I have kept in that journey of discovery ever since, love new experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys? "

One of my very first girlfriends got me in to many many kinks like water sports and swinging

which I continued with but she’s now a very frigid prude who hasn’t had sex with her husband in over 15 years which is a waste.

T

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"My life is a long road of discovery, I met à Guy on a pebble beach naked literally and made me realise that I could be what I wanted, introduced me into a different lifestyle and I have kept in that journey of discovery ever since, love new experiences "

naturism is so good

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I'm going to bring the mood down with mine unfortunately, due to some traumatic experiences, I now have a thing for being tied up and rough sex, my counsellor told me its a way of taking control back and trying to form positive experiences out of something negative. Honestly, i think it does work too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I can quite put my finger on, but I know that for as long as I can can remember I've had an adventurous curiosity when it came to sex, it lead to me being in the driving seat with most of the intimate relations I've encountered, wanting to experience new things with those persons, whether it be new to them or me, I've grown to be open minded and eager to further experience new things, as a result, I've found myself naturally in the role of a Dom, I have great respect for what a D/s dynamic represents, the trust and communication between those involved.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Weird but I found long nightdresses very erotic as a teenager watching Hammer Horror Films, especially and obviously Dracula

The women wearing them, obviously beautiful and often buxom so as a guy attracted to femininity I was drawn to the nightwear.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Got into swinging & MFM in particular after seeing the then GF give a guy a blowjob & it gave me a hard on & I just wanted to fuck her as she did it, which took us about 2 weeks to sort.....

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I blame reading Wilbur Smith, James Herbert and Anne Rice when I was young. As well as watching hentai porn as a teenager.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm going to bring the mood down with mine unfortunately, due to some traumatic experiences, I now have a thing for being tied up and rough sex, my counsellor told me its a way of taking control back and trying to form positive experiences out of something negative. Honestly, i think it does work too. "

i think some of my kinks are from negative experiences but thank you for being brave and open about it.. its good to talk and share

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Was told by a lady friend I had Dom tendencies, she drew them out of me.

Lot of research into the psychology and sensuality.

It all came together and made sense.

Just wish porn hadn’t taken up the mantle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mines spanking, need i say more its so addictive the more you get the more you want same goes for more you give!!! happy to chat with or meet any locals to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sub.

In my job and daily life I have to be 100% in control, so I like to hand that power over in the bedroom

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I'm going to bring the mood down with mine unfortunately, due to some traumatic experiences, I now have a thing for being tied up and rough sex, my counsellor told me its a way of taking control back and trying to form positive experiences out of something negative. Honestly, i think it does work too.

i think some of my kinks are from negative experiences but thank you for being brave and open about it.. its good to talk and share "

Definitely, some people find it abit odd that I would like stuff like that but it does make sense and handing over control has helped me deal with some of the issues I used to have with intimacy.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I'm sub.

In my job and daily life I have to be 100% in control, so I like to hand that power over in the bedroom"

The juxtaposition is a recurring theme.

Never met a sexually submissive lady who wasn’t in a strong position in the domestic world.

A byproduct of that is, I’ve never found an unintelligent sexually submissive lady.

Appears to me they are linked.

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By *assysaz40Man
over a year ago

chorley

I started off with wearing panties and felt so submissive I crave female domination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more submissive in the bedroom because in my day to day life I have to be quite firm & assertive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys? "

Do you not find though that as a domme some men are still only in it for them? I want equality I will gladly switch, but I still find it unbalanced. They just want to wear your knickers, be bossed about and be pegged and that can still be unfulling. Just eat my pussy good, play with me well, kiss me like you mean it and I will do anything and you can wear anything I have but can we have 50/50 foreplay before any serious play please?

Preaching loud so those at the back can hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it

"

I dunno weather thats a good or bad response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it

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misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it

misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

"

He has been vulnerable here, don't shame him. He hasn't said he hates women. Just that he has been hurt and he doesn't want to get hurt again so he 'acts domme' in the bedroom. As long as the woman play partner is consenting then they are both adults and choose how they play.

Lets be kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

He has been vulnerable here, don't shame him. He hasn't said he hates women. Just that he has been hurt and he doesn't want to get hurt again so he 'acts domme' in the bedroom. As long as the woman play partner is consenting then they are both adults and choose how they play.

Lets be kind "

Thank you & i dont hate women if i did i wouldnt be on here & id probably not have a job & men are women are equal in life but i feel that in the bedroom as a man i like to be in control due to being hurt alot i probably sound like a monster lol but im not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

He has been vulnerable here, don't shame him. He hasn't said he hates women. Just that he has been hurt and he doesn't want to get hurt again so he 'acts domme' in the bedroom. As long as the woman play partner is consenting then they are both adults and choose how they play.

Lets be kind

Thank you & i dont hate women if i did i wouldnt be on here & id probably not have a job & men are women are equal in life but i feel that in the bedroom as a man i like to be in control due to being hurt alot i probably sound like a monster lol but im not"

How you like to play is entirely up to you and who ever you play with, between consenting adults. You don't owe any explanation

There needn't be any drama or villainisation, especially on a thread when you were asked to explain your kink xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met an older guy when I was 22 and had a fantastic night. Ever since I have always had a thing for being seduiced by older guys xxx

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

I don’t think I have any kinks just totally open minded up for anything once other than pee or poo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

He has been vulnerable here, don't shame him. He hasn't said he hates women. Just that he has been hurt and he doesn't want to get hurt again so he 'acts domme' in the bedroom. As long as the woman play partner is consenting then they are both adults and choose how they play.

Lets be kind

Thank you & i dont hate women if i did i wouldnt be on here & id probably not have a job & men are women are equal in life but i feel that in the bedroom as a man i like to be in control due to being hurt alot i probably sound like a monster lol but im not

How you like to play is entirely up to you and who ever you play with, between consenting adults. You don't owe any explanation

There needn't be any drama or villainisation, especially on a thread when you were asked to explain your kink xxx "

Kink or psychological problem?...I know which one springs to my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How you like to play is entirely up to you and who ever you play with, between consenting adults. You don't owe any explanation

There needn't be any drama or villainisation, especially on a thread when you were asked to explain your kink xxx "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Kink or psychological problem?...I know which one springs to my mind "

Thank you

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Love to hear people's journeys of how they come to have certain kinks.

I'm a domme. One of the reasons why I like being a domme as too many experiences of bad sex where men don't like to do foreplay etc. I want a sub I can teach how to be amazing lover exploring foreplay sensually and excitingly.

How about you guys?

Do you not find though that as a domme some men are still only in it for them? I want equality I will gladly switch, but I still find it unbalanced. They just want to wear your knickers, be bossed about and be pegged and that can still be unfulling. Just eat my pussy good, play with me well, kiss me like you mean it and I will do anything and you can wear anything I have but can we have 50/50 foreplay before any serious play please?

Preaching loud so those at the back can hear! "

you go girl... yes most wanabee subs think its still all about them... definitely should be 50/50 foreplay where you in command of how it goes... one day I find a good obedient sub

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I guess mine steams from being hurt by women all the time so i like to be dominant & show a woman that im the boss makes me feel more manley but at the same time makes me feel good as i feel in control for once & not letting a woman walk all over me sorry if that sounds bad but thats just the best way i can put it

misogynist (noun)

a man who hates women or believes that men are much better than women

"

i don't think he hates women... i mean I hate men.. but that's another story to tell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sub.

In my job and daily life I have to be 100% in control, so I like to hand that power over in the bedroom"

I can switch around, and I think a lot of it depends on whether work (where like you I have to be full on in control) has been busy.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Funnily enough I have met subs who were not dominant in their day to day job and not controlling. The MD who wants to be a sub exists but submissives come from all walks of life in the same way as dom/mes come from all works of life.

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By *idnes17ladMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I love to sniff worn knickers and shoes. My first blowjob the young lady "forced" me to do it and it has stuck ever since

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I love to sniff worn knickers and shoes. My first blowjob the young lady "forced" me to do it and it has stuck ever since "

oh that's interesting reason.. yeah your first lovers can make a bigger impact than you imagine. my first love was very kinky so maybe that's why i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would have to say porn you know watch some then maybe came across something you wouldn’t normally watch but watch it then gets stuck in ur head before I know it there I am trying it

Bit like water sports use to have no interest in it

But love watching creampie gangbang porn and wanting to do one

Was watching one and once all the guys were finished cuming in the woman they all pissed all over her

was the first time watching something like that so next cupple off days watched more before you know it a week later I was on my knees with a guys pissing on my face/ in my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how do you feel about cheating and using children as weapons most people consider that a mental

Illness are you being honest with what you damage you ignorance has caused how much it’s damaged your children and how disconnected you are from reality perhaps I won’t sign those papers your a fucking cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do you feel about cheating and using children as weapons most people consider that a mental

Illness are you being honest with what you damage you ignorance has caused how much it’s damaged your children and how disconnected you are from reality perhaps I won’t sign those papers your a fucking cunt "

What the fuck are you drinking at this time in the morning.???

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do you feel about cheating and using children as weapons most people consider that a mental

Illness are you being honest with what you damage you ignorance has caused how much it’s damaged your children and how disconnected you are from reality perhaps I won’t sign those papers your a fucking cunt "

Eeekkkkk Wouldn't like to be on the other side of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you"

Maybe a good idear not to air dirty lander in public not a good look to be honest comes across as vindictive and can see why she sending devorce papers if that’s the way you talk to her maybe have respect for woman regardless off what’s went on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do you feel about cheating and using children as weapons most people consider that a mental

Illness are you being honest with what you damage you ignorance has caused how much it’s damaged your children and how disconnected you are from reality perhaps I won’t sign those papers your a fucking cunt

Eeekkkkk Wouldn't like to be on the other side of this "

Lol yes can see stright away why she’s sending him devorce payers fuck the woman should have ran a mile years ago with that kind off attitude

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you"

Maybe you should try and get abit of sleep?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you"

Nothing as I don’t drink and type or indeed drink

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you

Maybe you should try and get abit of sleep?"

Miss Keeley the voice of calm and reason.

T

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I’m drinking the damage she’s done how about you

Maybe you should try and get abit of sleep?

Miss Keeley the voice of calm and reason.

T"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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i don't think he hates women... i mean I hate men.. but that's another story to tell "

Thank you, i dont hate women i just disagree with them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s hoping that mr small has had a good sleep and has woken up in a happy cheery mood.

T

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