FabSwingers.com forum: Do women message men?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a thought but do women ever message men first.

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Yes

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks just wanted to know

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
over a year ago

Kirkella

"Yes"

Message Me please Dee xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yrs sometimes

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Yeppity doo dah!

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
over a year ago

Kirkella

"Yrs sometimes"

Message Me please Midnight xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all of your replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rare but I have had a couple

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Yes. Sometimes

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if someone tickles my fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we are looking forward a single guy at that time, then yes...i message

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I, the male, have received messages from ladies.

All were from ladies who knew what they wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have received some lovely messages from women

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By *orkshireBeef26Man
over a year ago

Kirkella

"Yes if someone tickles my fancy

Can I Tickle your Fancy please xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never received an unsolicited message from anyone on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first. "

So here's a Q... Would a man turn a woman down if she messaged first? Or is a meet then a given??

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I will message a guy first either from the forums if they seem to have good chat on there or if their profile/pics are actually fun and make me want to get to know them a bit better

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first.

So here's a Q... Would a man turn a woman down if she messaged first? Or is a meet then a given?? "

Of course you might choose to turn a woman down, and I have, on a number of occasions. Or she might turn you down once you start chatting. If you aren’t a match why wouldn’t you?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never have done x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I await one with baited breath

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I've received messages from ladies.

Not common but not unheard-of.

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By *ovelock4Man
over a year ago

Croydon

It does happen from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first.

So here's a Q... Would a man turn a woman down if she messaged first? Or is a meet then a given??

Of course you might choose to turn a woman down, and I have, on a number of occasions. Or she might turn you down once you start chatting. If you aren’t a match why wouldn’t you?"

On that's good to know

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Yes

Message Me please Dee xx "

That would mean you messaged first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely ... I'm shy

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By *lovisMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

Yup. If you have the right profile then it can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has happened OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first.

So here's a Q... Would a man turn a woman down if she messaged first? Or is a meet then a given?? "

Neither and both

Always nice to have a message but sometimes you arent attracted or the chemistry fizzles or life happens. I would never assume because we are messaging that we are going to meet

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

we covered this many times over... i rarely send initial messages unless i really really interested. I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking forward to it!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i find men more likely to be interested in you if they "found you"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

indeed we do

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Rarely ... I'm shy

yeah me too.. i hate rejection

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Yes, if someone catches my eye on the forums, or something about their profile interests or intrigues me, then I will happily send a first message. That often results in some interesting conversations, sometimes leads to a social meet and occasionally more.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."

Yep! Next question?

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first.

Yep! Next question?

Yes every day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was messaged when I first joined the forums but I haven't recieved another message for months now

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first.

Yep! Next question?

Yes every day

I bloody love your Easter pic!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."
yes I often do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do but only once or twice a day for me.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes, I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, I do

A man can only dream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No have not experienced an initial message approach by a female but would love to receive and am genuinely available

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first.

Yep! Next question?

Yes every day

I bloody love your Easter pic!

Thankyou , I’m a huge fan of yours

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Yup.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I, the male, have received messages from ladies.

All were from ladies who knew what they wanted."

Love a woman who knows what she wants!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Especially during lockdown.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Yes

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Yes if they want you

They won't hesitate

My inbox is proof

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Indeed they do, ironically have received one just this morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but in my experience they don't want to meet just chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."

Yes if they look like someone from a hollywood movie

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

No well not in my experience

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By *ishygirlWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I do once I’ve had a read of their profile and like what I see/read.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Yep. "

Wish you would message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

The very few people I actively talk to off the forums I messaged first or got introduced to.

The only issue with that is I sometimes don’t message because I assume they’re out of my league! I’ve missed months of flirting that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I do .. a lot. To be honest I don’t really read many of the unsolicited messages I get at they’re mostly ‘hey’ or a whole page of what they’d like to do with me - both a turn off. If I like the sounds of them usually on forums I message ..... tends to be easier than trawling through all the messages that women get.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Yes.

The very few people I actively talk to off the forums I messaged first or got introduced to.

The only issue with that is I sometimes don’t message because I assume they’re out of my league! I’ve missed months of flirting that way

How could anyone be out of your league. You are a straight 10/10

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman."

Hahah don’t message men who have cock shots on their profile, nor gym bunnies

Most definitely a women ....

I guess the real answer is ‘some do and some dont’

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman."

Which one of these am I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I? "

Well I've seen your penis, so...

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so..."

True.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so...

True. "

It is a lovely penis though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

The very few people I actively talk to off the forums I messaged first or got introduced to.

The only issue with that is I sometimes don’t message because I assume they’re out of my league! I’ve missed months of flirting that way

How could anyone be out of your league. You are a straight 10/10"

That’s very sweet, thank you

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

Yes, but not always wanting to meet.

Had a few meets from initial fem contact / would be delighted with more!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do but not often

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By *r.HMan
over a year ago

A gentleman never tells

It is rare granted but they do on occasions, I've received some so can personally testify it happens.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so...

True.

It is a lovely penis though

Aww thanks! Yours is rather nice too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so...

True.

It is a lovely penis though

Aww thanks! Yours is rather nice too

Can I sit on both please?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so...

True.

It is a lovely penis though

Aww thanks! Yours is rather nice too

Can I sit on both please?

Yes please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Which one of these am I?

Well I've seen your penis, so...

True.

It is a lovely penis though

Aww thanks! Yours is rather nice too

Can I sit on both please?

Yes please!

Like you even have to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No messages off any women as yet

Been told in the past that my penis is ‘attractive’ though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rare as Hens Teeth

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Of course I do if I'm interested - why wouldn't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience no.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Of course I do if I'm interested - why wouldn't I? "

Lucky men receiving messages off you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes... It's how I met my fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman."

So under what circumstances do i get messages then because as hard as you may find it to believe I do.

1 - I'm not VWE neither do I have model looks

2 - in the 4 years I've been on and off here I've had maybe 3 or 4 men pretending to be women message me

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I do message men usually to pay them compliments.x

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes had some nice messages from ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, sure every gender / profile type etc will message every other type.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I have a few women message me first however half of them have been fake or scammers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly women message to pay a quick compliment or if a status has piqued their attention and they’d like answers.

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do

Her x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Yes but where are they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully some will feel sorry for me and send me one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeap, more now that I have been on the forums.

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By *illie99TV/TS
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Yes it does happen, even for old gits like me

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By *az080378Woman
over a year ago

Cromer

Absolutely,if I find someone I like, I have no issues in sending a message

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Yes, all the time.

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By *ownhamguyMan
over a year ago

Battle

I get so many I can't answer them all

Sorry ladies??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, if they pique my interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rare but I do sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if i peak anyones interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has happened - being in the forums helps - gives some immediate common ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never. It’s a conspiracy

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By *ack-offMan
over a year ago

hertfordshire

No not on this site , I don’t think they have the option to or fab a pic, it seems they don’t do anything on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do. If something catches my eye on a profile or a good pic... I’ll send a message. Why not?

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

They message couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."

Yes. I do occasionally when I find someone with an outstanding profile that fits what I am looking for at the time.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Yes... It's how I met my fwb

"
this. I've found my most successful pairings have been with gents I've contacted first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 2 in over 6 months, nothing come out of it, they went ghost

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yes. I do.

V x

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

I’ve had a few, not as many as I send though

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I do if I’m attracted to them

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Absolutely. I know plenty of ladies who happily send first messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely do .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess I need to be patient then and wait for that first time sender. Lol.

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By *t3_jalapenoMan
over a year ago

darlo

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."

I rare occurence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep they do. I’ve been talking to a lovely lady for over a month now and she messaged first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol "

Looking at what lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been that lucky on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the occasional women msg me..

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum

I’m in!

(Is it not one of those threads!?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol

Looking at what lol x"

Whatever took their fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol

Looking at what lol x

Whatever took their fancy

Who's fancy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol

Looking at what lol x

Whatever took their fancy

Who's fancy x"

Casper the friendly ghost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course. Next you will be asking if women look at men's photos

Wait......you mean they do?! I thought it was just bi guys that checked them out

LOL, maybe you want this

I know who I’d prefer looking at them lol

Looking at what lol x

Whatever took their fancy

Who's fancy x

Casper the friendly ghost "

Does he have a profile on here that I can look at his photos? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages every now and then.

You can bet a lot of them are one liners. Some from those posting "message advice" on the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples mainly, but does happen and its a nice suprise

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

I have been known to message 1st. X

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Proud to say yes, but it has never led to anything though, on Fab at least.

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I don't usually but that's because I'm a big women and not many men like big women, I have winked a few guys just to let them know I'm interested though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."
I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do occasionally,yes

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By *odd4funnMan
over a year ago

Walthamstow Leyton

I dont or very rarely message anyone i Tend to wink and if the couple or woman are interested they can message me Works well and saves alot of wasted time sending loads of messages with no response Whats the point If they fancy some fun its there choice So wink and see

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

I get (mrs Legin) about 80 messages a day however if someone tickles my fancy, I will message !

Politeness goes a long way in my book

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By *intteaMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I had a message for a nice lady banning me from the forums once - but that it so far

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South

Not in my experience, so no.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Rarely ... I'm shy

yeah me too.. i hate rejection

That's really ironic!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Once or twice in six years - not exactly the definition of success. That being said it's no surprise. It's incredibly rare i message anyone now as you know the chances of any kind of response are way less than 1%. On the other hand why would a woman bother messaging when she's getting bombarded anyway - surely she's bound to find a few diamonds in there, even if as most say the vast majority of what they get is effortless crap? All that being said it's been a real thrill on the very rare occasion I have been contacted first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i find men more likely to be interested in you if they "found you" "

Really? I’m sure most men would love a message off a women that “found” them, my self included.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Occasionaly, if they are interesting enough.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Just a thought but do women ever message men first."

Yes they do and some message couples too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had replies, but never received one first from a woman.

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By *ob198XaMan
over a year ago

teleford

My inbox has received its share

. It’s empty right now though so don’t be shy ladies

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I do. But it’s generally more to chit chat about something I have seen on the forums profile. Not to meet.

That said I recently messaged one fella first and we have arrangements made for a weekend this month

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I’ve had nearly all of my more recent meets by being messaged first.

So here's a Q... Would a man turn a woman down if she messaged first? Or is a meet then a given?? "

No such thing as a given unless he's a "any holes a goal" kinda guy and logistics aren't an issue.

I would still want to feel an attraction before I would meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent messages on the back of forum threads but wouldn't ever proposition a guy. I don't have the courage for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're looking for a mfm then the wife likes to do the looking so she'll happily send the first message.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I've sent messages on the back of forum threads but wouldn't ever proposition a guy. I don't have the courage for that

Awwww that's a shame as you just never know if the guy you like could be everything you've dreamed of

It is hard to ask but what's the worst that can happen, they politely decline ?

I never told a stunning girl I liked her when younger and then at her funeral her best mate said she really liked me but didn't have the courage to approach me.

It properly messed me up for awhile and even now I occasionally think what if ?

So from that day I do approach women and of course you get thanks but no thanks and some are in relationships but at least I tried

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, when someone interests me

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I've sent messages on the back of forum threads but wouldn't ever proposition a guy. I don't have the courage for that

Awwww that's a shame as you just never know if the guy you like could be everything you've dreamed of

It is hard to ask but what's the worst that can happen, they politely decline ?

I never told a stunning girl I liked her when younger and then at her funeral her best mate said she really liked me but didn't have the courage to approach me.

It properly messed me up for awhile and even now I occasionally think what if ?

So from that day I do approach women and of course you get thanks but no thanks and some are in relationships but at least I tried

Good luck "

Really sorry to hear that buddy - thats a harsh lesson to have had to learn. Sometimes it's amazing to find out someone we thought was unattainable actually likes us back. All the best.

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I dont think I have ever messaged anyone I am so shy talkative but shy but once I get to know someone well thats for me and them to find out

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Yes.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Yes

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. The ones they fancy.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I've sent messages on the back of forum threads but wouldn't ever proposition a guy. I don't have the courage for that

Awwww that's a shame as you just never know if the guy you like could be everything you've dreamed of

It is hard to ask but what's the worst that can happen, they politely decline ?

I never told a stunning girl I liked her when younger and then at her funeral her best mate said she really liked me but didn't have the courage to approach me.

It properly messed me up for awhile and even now I occasionally think what if ?

So from that day I do approach women and of course you get thanks but no thanks and some are in relationships but at least I tried

Good luck

Really sorry to hear that buddy - thats a harsh lesson to have had to learn. Sometimes it's amazing to find out someone we thought was unattainable actually likes us back. All the best."

Cheer Buddy,

I changed my whole philosophy when I found out so at least something good came out of it(didn't seem like it at the time)

I'd beg anyone whether a guy or girl to build up the courage to just smile and say hi if they like someone

A moments embarrassment might just lead to something special

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes and when it happens it’s lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman."

Is the correct answer

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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago

Telford

"They do, but it takes an overwhelming power imbalance in terms of desirability.

Generally only two circumstances where it happens:

1: The guy is VWE and model standard, the woman is not

2: Its not really a woman.

Is the correct answer "

Boy is this accurate

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By *ince163Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

They do.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

They do but but usually it’s the usual “hi, you are sexy” or “wow” and then if you are lucky, one word or monosyllabic emails follow. Leaves one brain dead or uninspired most of the time.

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London

"They do but but usually it’s the usual “hi, you are sexy” or “wow” and then if you are lucky, one word or monosyllabic emails follow. Leaves one brain dead or uninspired most of the time."

Those aren’t women messaging you. Every single woman who has messaged me has had something more than that to say and then some.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

They do but if you filter out the fakes & forum users & only count those you’ve never conversed with or spotted before then it’s a very rare occurrence.

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

If they're interested

But it's always very much appreciated as even these days it's still such a rarity

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"I've sent messages on the back of forum threads but wouldn't ever proposition a guy. I don't have the courage for that

Awwww that's a shame as you just never know if the guy you like could be everything you've dreamed of

It is hard to ask but what's the worst that can happen, they politely decline ?

I never told a stunning girl I liked her when younger and then at her funeral her best mate said she really liked me but didn't have the courage to approach me.

It properly messed me up for awhile and even now I occasionally think what if ?

So from that day I do approach women and of course you get thanks but no thanks and some are in relationships but at least I tried

Good luck

Really sorry to hear that buddy - thats a harsh lesson to have had to learn. Sometimes it's amazing to find out someone we thought was unattainable actually likes us back. All the best.

Cheer Buddy,

I changed my whole philosophy when I found out so at least something good came out of it(didn't seem like it at the time)

I'd beg anyone whether a guy or girl to build up the courage to just smile and say hi if they like someone

A moments embarrassment might just lead to something special"

A moments embarrassment might just lead to something special, worth remembering

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"If they're interested

But it's always very much appreciated as even these days it's still such a rarity"

These days? Are you saying it was common in the past?!

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By *xmfrvnMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"If they're interested

But it's always very much appreciated as even these days it's still such a rarity

These days? Are you saying it was common in the past?! "

The opposite, even with more parity in society today, it's still incredibly rare for a woman to make the first move.

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