FabSwingers.com forum: Opening line of a message?

By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

Okay, I fully appreciate and understand the frustration people on here have when (mainly us blokes) open a message with the likes of..

Hi, how are you?

Hi, hope you are well?

But I can't for the life of me think about how not to open the message with something similar.

I'd you start with details about yourself that send for too direct.

Any clues, assistance, comments on what are good openers?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Your opener is fine, just follow it up with something good

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By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

"Your opener is fine, just follow it up with something good

Something like...

Hi, hope you are both good?

I'm not as I've just stubbed my toe on the bed leg..

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By *piritualSFCMan
over a year ago

london

No point overthinking it.. most wont get read.

Just say what you see/feel

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

First message received, you read a ‘hi how are you doing’ almost immediately I’d look at the profile, if that’s lacking in photos and/or content so basically not attractive at all.

Why bother replying, just like many others I’ll check in stealth so you’ll never know it’s more about the profile than the message.

This isn’t aimed at you Op or your profile, but a reason I won’t bother

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Can't see a problem with it myself. Personally "hi how are you? My name is Jo Bloggs" seems fine as an opener. It's the content of following messages that counts.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

As a woman I hate recieving the "How are you" or even worse "wanna meet" my ultimate hate is "Hows Use" that's an instant block lol.

The problem on fab is many guys don't seem to know how to talk wo women. The best way to open up dialogue is to comment on why you are sending a message. That way a woman knows the man has taken time to read her profile and what he finds attractive about it.

Mrs N x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your opener is fine, just follow it up with something good

Something like...

Hi, hope you are both good?

I'm not as I've just stubbed my toe on the bed leg..

That'll do

Not laughing about your toe, that hurts like anything

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By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

"Your opener is fine, just follow it up with something good

Something like...

Hi, hope you are both good?

I'm not as I've just stubbed my toe on the bed leg..

That'll do

Not laughing about your toe, that hurts like anything "

I'm running with this one. If nothing else it'll get a laugh!

But the way, I've copyrighted it so all you other single guys.. Get your own opener!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a woman I hate recieving the "How are you" or even worse "wanna meet" my ultimate hate is "Hows Use" that's an instant block lol.

Mrs N x"

I find that most women wont reply even if you put a joke or some witty remark in the message i go with hi & then mention something they like if i xant find anything i turn to comedy or i ask if they know the name of schrodingers cat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per our profile we reply to all messages as it’s as far as we are concerned polite but a message with no content will just get a reply with no content.

Personally I’d read the profile and go from there.

Best of luck op.

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By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

"As a woman I hate recieving the "How are you" or even worse "wanna meet" my ultimate hate is "Hows Use" that's an instant block lol.

Mrs N x"

I'm guessing..

Hello Mrs X, I'm sat here in my summer house (£99 B&Q shed) nursing an erection as I've just seen a picture of your left boob on Fab and as I don't get out much I thought I might chance my arm that you're in the market for a sad individual like me. I've got enough bus fare to travel 6 stops so hopefully you love within 3 miles of the lunatic asylum where I often stay? If you are interested, or indeed if you are not, please send me a message back. Thank you. Mr chips.

.. That this won't cut it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This’s funny af hahaha

Not sure what women will think about it some may think it’s creepy

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Read the profile

Think with your head and not your dick

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By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

"Read the profile

Think with your head and not your dick

I always think with my head and not my dick. It's just a pity though as my head always says...

Fuck now fuck now fuck now!!!!!

He he he...

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Maybe see if your dick has better thoughts then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Major top on opening messages... don't start off with " What's the huge scar?".

I had this sent to me on Sunday and was enraged by total lack of compassion or consideration.

For those now curious I will explain it was reconstruction after cancer but this is me offering the information openly and I am open and ok to chat about it. As an opening line though from a random I was uncomfortable.

It took a lot for me to post the image and says a lot about where I am confidence wise now.

You wouldn't approach someone in a bar/ cafe, beach wherever and ask such rubbish.

Messages I like are ones where the person tried to stand out but not overly so. And I know you boys are proud of your genitalia but if we want to see we will ask.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I've had four messages from the same person now (over a couple of weeks).

Each of them have simply said "Hi" or "how are you doing?".

If they wish to connect with me, they really need to put some effort into starting a conversation. I'm not going to do it for them.

Just a brief comment on something in my profile would get the ball rolling, I don't expect War and Peace!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd go along the lines of:

Hi, how are you? I've had a read of your profile and like what I see.. I see you like "xyz"

Carry it on from there x

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

OP there's no magic answer. Everyone on here is different. Read their profile & be yourself

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By *voryforebony OP Man
over a year ago

boogie town

"I'd go along the lines of:

Hi, how are you? I've had a read of your profile and like what I see.. I see you like "xyz"

Carry it on from there x"

An excellent suggestion.

But what if they don't like xyz?

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I'd go along the lines of:

Hi, how are you? I've had a read of your profile and like what I see.. I see you like "xyz"

Carry it on from there x

An excellent suggestion.

But what if they don't like xyz?

Think you will find its not in your opening line as already been said and mentioned a lot on these forums its the profile and your quality of pics first thing I do is look at the profile if there is no effort and vile cock pics shoved in my face its instant block x

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Nothing worse than openinin a msg

With

1) Just a piccy of a dick

2) Wat u wearing

2) Wat u doing now

4) Im by your way now

5) Im in bed lying nxt to the wife/gf who is asleep, if i ribg u on silent cant u finger urself whilst watching me wank over ur piccys

6) fancy a play now and some sniff

7) go on kik n watch me wank

THESE ARE SUCH A TOTAL TURN OFF OF MSG I GET

ie last minute quick ones just cos i come on line n expect me just to drop everythin just to go n fuck a sad desperate bastards like a lot of em there n then

DO ONE im not desperate id rather b patient n wait

Sorry but i find kik used for all you lyin cheatin 2timin shits who are just looking for a quick fuck behind ur partners backs

Fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a cracker

Nobody is getting it though. Sorry.

It works.

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