FabSwingers.com forum: Just Watching??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

After a few months of having socials and having now visited Liberty Elite my wife has decided that she dont want to swap.

She has said that she is happy for us to visit Liberty again as we enjoyed playing with each other in the main play room and have our own fun watching and being watched.....

I have now got the "hump" and caused an atmosphere at home.....

What should we do?

Have any of you guys had this??

Would anyone be interested in meeting to have sex with their own partners and just watch and be watched??

Looking for some advice.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a few months of having socials and having now visited Liberty Elite my wife has decided that she dont want to swap.

She has said that she is happy for us to visit Liberty again as we enjoyed playing with each other in the main play room and have our own fun watching and being watched.....

I have now got the "hump" and caused an atmosphere at home.....

What should we do?

Have any of you guys had this??

Would anyone be interested in meeting to have sex with their own partners and just watch and be watched??

Looking for some advice.....

If she is happy going and playing with you then that has to be better than sitting at home picking up your teddies.

If you do continue to go then maybe she will eventually get the desire to try swapping but as it stands, that aint never going to happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is that not what soft swap is?

and if you get the hump cause yu not getting yur leg over elsewhere... think maybe going to clubs will only put temptation in your way.

and finally, if she says no to anything you should respect that and no huff...

wish yu both well for the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or same room, canna remember correct term sorry ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done that woman, what more could you ask of her.

She has considered a new concept to your marriage.

She has taken huge steps to overcome her prejudices against the lifestyle and through social meets and entry to a club, "seen it for herself".

She has washed away other peoples opinions of the lifestyle and taken the bull by the horns.

She has now made a consious and informed descision that it is not for her.

Well done that woman, if only there were more people like her.

Now for you, you have your choices now, respect what she has done and enjoy the style of swinging she is comfortable with and enjoy it together or push her beyond her comfort zone and get her playing.

Enjoying the voyeuristic and exhibitionist side of the scene can bring you both a lot of pleasure and in time you may find she wants to take it further.

Push her limits and she may enjoy it in the end, but it may put her off the lifestyle and perhaps you forever.

There are many couples who enjoy a "none swap" swinging lifestyle and we are sure you will both find a lot of enjoyment in that, at least for now.

You asked for advice, ours is to appreciate what you have, swinging is fun but never worth losing the relationship you have for

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

very sound advice JednSasha its exactly how we see it, both parties in a partnership have to be happy with the situation.

We have 2 golden rules one of which is that the other has to be happy, if not we don't do it, no question and no recriminations.

Its now worked for us for 4 1/2 years so not going to change it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice that you have already posted.

To reply to 1 or 2, i feel that the temptation may be too much for me but also feel a bit like whats the point.....

It does sound more appealing though if she was to get the urge one day to swap by being at a club......

Question to those already replied then....If you saw someones profile and you liked the look of them would you be interested in a watch and be watched scenario??

Thanks again for your advice..

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"is that not what soft swap is?

and if you get the hump cause yu not getting yur leg over elsewhere... think maybe going to clubs will only put temptation in your way.

and finally, if she says no to anything you should respect that and no huff...

wish yu both well for the future.

hi view soft swap as we know it is everything but actual sex, ie no penetration, and same room is swapping in the same room, as opposed o different rooms where you swap but not in the same room as your partner.....or at least i think it is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quote "Question to those already replied then....If you saw someones profile and you liked the look of them would you be interested in a watch and be watched scenario??" unquote

We are happy with full swap, in our opinion that means full sex with other partners and we are also with soft swap, soft swap for us means playing with each others partners, oral, touching, masturbation etc but it does not include anyone having penetrative sex with anyone but thier own partner.

Soft swap for us is not watching or being watched though we accept that many people get a great deal of enjoyment out of this form of swinging.

So the answer from us is, no we wouldn't meet anyone who only wanted to watch and be watched but we wouldn't think bad of them either, we should all be doing what we are happy and comfortable with or not doing it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice that you have already posted.

To reply to 1 or 2, i feel that the temptation may be too much for me but also feel a bit like whats the point.....

It does sound more appealing though if she was to get the urge one day to swap by being at a club......

Question to those already replied then....If you saw someones profile and you liked the look of them would you be interested in a watch and be watched scenario??

Thanks again for your advice..

xx"

That's all we're offering at the moment, and frankly, we see nothing wrong with that.

A&C xx

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

"Thanks for the advice that you have already posted.

To reply to 1 or 2, i feel that the temptation may be too much for me but also feel a bit like whats the point.....

It does sound more appealing though if she was to get the urge one day to swap by being at a club......

in my view you have to respect and then accept her wishes on the matter ..not go with almost an expectation that by putting her back in a club situation she'll "change her mind" ...and if you think you're going to find temptation too much then I'd question whether you should be doing this together anyhow.

there are many couples who like either ( or both ) the voyeur or exhibitionist side of swinging. But it has to work for both of you

making you do less or her do more for it to work ...well its both sides of the same coin , one of you is not going to be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

respect her!Simple really.

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