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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please would it be possible to ask for some advice, how do you get people interested in meeting without been pushy because I don’t want to come across like that , I send out polite messages & some go unread for weeks. I always feel like it’s me that’s doing something wrong , what can I do to get a meet ? any advice would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please would it be possible to ask for some advice, how do you get people interested in meeting without been pushy because I don’t want to come across like that , I send out polite messages & some go unread for weeks. I always feel like it’s me that’s doing something wrong , what can I do to get a meet ? any advice would be appreciated "

Honestly mr Mike I wouldn’t even attempt to ask for a meet at this present time but I would look at building up a connection for when/if life returns to near normal.

Stay safe and best of luck.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not you, it's them

You've done your bit, sent the first message, it's now up to them whether they respond or not.

I would also advise deleting sent messages after you have sent, there's nothing more you can do till they respond

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou so much for your advice ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand what your saying , these are really trying times , I’m really trying to stay positive but it has been messing with my mental health, it’s a real struggle , I’m wanting to get professional help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand what your saying , these are really trying times , I’m really trying to stay positive but it has been messing with my mental health, it’s a real struggle , I’m wanting to get professional help. "

I agree, these are trying times for us all. We are all wanting to be out and about, meeting people and having fun. Its simply not safe or recommended that we do so, as you are fully aware. If lack of response on Fabs is affecting your self esteem then I strongly suggest you either shut down your account and step away from the site for a while or delete it altogether. This is not a place to find positive emotional strokes when you are feeling vulnerable.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"I understand what your saying , these are really trying times , I’m really trying to stay positive but it has been messing with my mental health, it’s a real struggle , I’m wanting to get professional help. "

There are a lot of fun posts in The Lounge area of the forum Mike. Come and get involved? It’s a nice way to meet some interesting people from Fab, and have some interaction. Forum games etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please would it be possible to ask for some advice, how do you get people interested in meeting without been pushy because I don’t want to come across like that , I send out polite messages & some go unread for weeks. I always feel like it’s me that’s doing something wrong , what can I do to get a meet ? any advice would be appreciated "

Just hit the clubs. Some are open for socials and going to clubs is the best way to meet people.

I send really nice messages and the same happens to me. Happens to us all men. Women get 100s of messages and mass delete without checking so definitely hit the clubs mate.

I am going to head to a club soon since one near me is open for socials

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand what your saying , these are really trying times , I’m really trying to stay positive but it has been messing with my mental health, it’s a real struggle , I’m wanting to get professional help.

There are a lot of fun posts in The Lounge area of the forum Mike. Come and get involved? It’s a nice way to meet some interesting people from Fab, and have some interaction. Forum games etc "

This i agree with.

Wholeheartedly

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"Please would it be possible to ask for some advice, how do you get people interested in meeting without been pushy because I don’t want to come across like that , I send out polite messages & some go unread for weeks. I always feel like it’s me that’s doing something wrong , what can I do to get a meet ? any advice would be appreciated "
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Clubs and socials are the only way for single guy . You will only get out of swinging what you put in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please would it be possible to ask for some advice, how do you get people interested in meeting without been pushy because I don’t want to come across like that , I send out polite messages & some go unread for weeks. I always feel like it’s me that’s doing something wrong , what can I do to get a meet ? any advice would be appreciated .

Clubs and socials are the only way for single guy . You will only get out of swinging what you put in "

Definitely clubs are the way and some are open for socials.

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Well your profile doesn’t sell you does it,

3 words ......

Maybe you should put more effort in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand what your saying , these are really trying times , I’m really trying to stay positive but it has been messing with my mental health, it’s a real struggle , I’m wanting to get professional help.

I agree, these are trying times for us all. We are all wanting to be out and about, meeting people and having fun. Its simply not safe or recommended that we do so, as you are fully aware. If lack of response on Fabs is affecting your self esteem then I strongly suggest you either shut down your account and step away from the site for a while or delete it altogether. This is not a place to find positive emotional strokes when you are feeling vulnerable."

Well said, I completely agree with this comment, and find it worrying that mental health is deteriorating x

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By *y93Man
over a year ago

London


"Well your profile doesn’t sell you does it,

3 words ......

Maybe you should put more effort in

"

Hi OP Mike. defo agree with his comment, you should try and flesh out your self intro, 3 words is not much to be honest. your photos are good though, shows nice smiling face as well as full body pix. Much better than mine! Also, as with other comments, clubs are where I met most people from fab, give it a try when they open up again in your area. Dont be put off by non replies, we all get those. Keep fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you could advise what I should be saying to make me stand out more it would be appreciated , I don’t want to come across as arseole as it’s not who iam , I prefer to respect everyone .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you could advise what I should be saying to make me stand out more it would be appreciated , I don’t want to come across as an arseole as it’s not who iam , I prefer to respect everyone . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you could advise what I should be saying to make me stand out more it would be appreciated , I don’t want to come across as an arseole as it’s not who iam , I prefer to respect everyone . "

Looks like you been to clubs already so definitely keep going to them. Clubs are the best mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I went to Pandora’s months ago but I haven’t been in ages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you by 3 words ? could you advise me on what I should be putting ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you mean by 3 words ? could you advise me on what I should be putting ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I went to Pandora’s months ago but I haven’t been in ages. "

I heard quest is open. Also in Leeds. I have been before, great club. They are open for socials. Club more near me is open so going to go there on a Saturday sometime.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"What do you by 3 words ? could you advise me on what I should be putting ? "

I think they mean that in your profile, your description/blurb reads just:

“Genuine fun only”

The problem with that, is it’s like a ship window. It’s your place to sell yourself, and you’re doing yourself a disservice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I really do want some fun but I’ve got to be extremely careful with been on kidney transplant medication , my shielding as finished but still got to be careful

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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I heard quest is open. Also in Leeds. "

Quest isn't open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wish to speak out to line, but if you are struggling with your mental health then maybe you should look for other activies to make friends and connections. Swinging is very fickle, as most women will look for how fit the guy is, and there are a lot of exceptionally fit guys on here.

Maybe you could join a gym and do some classes, or enrol on a part time evening course.

Well done for slimmer of the week by the way, a fantastic achievement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember if someone doesn't reply back to you just move on to the next one Don't send them a message after message after message because then you will get blocked and then you will get not liked by many people you've got to remember mental health don't push and push and push only when you're having a baby

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