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What's wrong with chatting to see if we click

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By *illing and hung OP   Man
over a year ago

rochford

Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Absolutely nothing wring with chatting to see if you both click. If the lady or fella declines, it could be that they feel they have enough peeps to chatting with or that there may be some geographical distance between you that they feel time would be wasted if they knew you were never going to meet. Could be that they don't want endless chat with someone new. Lots of reasons perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Absolutely nothing wring with chatting to see if you both click. If the lady or fella declines, it could be that they feel they have enough peeps to chatting with or that there may be some geographical distance between you that they feel time would be wasted if they knew you were never going to meet. Could be that they don't want endless chat with someone new. Lots of reasons perhaps. "

Totally agree with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Absolutely nothing wring with chatting to see if you both click. If the lady or fella declines, it could be that they feel they have enough peeps to chatting with or that there may be some geographical distance between you that they feel time would be wasted if they knew you were never going to meet. Could be that they don't want endless chat with someone new. Lots of reasons perhaps. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t chatting what we are meant to do ?

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By *r_Jake70Man
over a year ago

London


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

There’s nothing wrong with it. All my fab friends have started with chatting, sometimes for months, sometimes just for a few days. Can I surmise that you’ve been declined the chance?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Nothing if the other person likes to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Nothing

.. What's prompted the post?

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Absolutely nothing wring with chatting to see if you both click. If the lady or fella declines, it could be that they feel they have enough peeps to chatting with or that there may be some geographical distance between you that they feel time would be wasted if they knew you were never going to meet. Could be that they don't want endless chat with someone new. Lots of reasons perhaps. "

Detailed but true x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Isn’t chatting what we are meant to do ? "

Yes but we can not chat to everyone who asks.x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There's nothing wrong with it but there's nothing wrong with not wanting to either.

If someone doesn't want the same thing you do it doesn't mean either of you are wrong

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Due to high volume of chats leading nowhere I personally filter through profiles, I can tell if we will click from that. I personally don't waste my time with guys who profiles have zero appeal to me.

So nothing wrong with chatting of theres something of interest

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Nothing and there's no ban on chatting, which others may or may not wish to reciprocate with. Check first that people are interested in this and that you likely match their requirements. Further, it's wise to assume that they will looj at the profile of the person messaging them, before they read it.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"There's nothing wrong with it but there's nothing wrong with not wanting to either.

If someone doesn't want the same thing you do it doesn't mean either of you are wrong"

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

The wrong is when all ends to become boring all the converdation and all time same theme

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By *nthony m1974Man
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Chatting s great get know people not all about attraction defo helps but meeting new people all around is great opens new worlds xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s good to work out details and stuff but uther than that I don’t chat much as to meny keyboard wankers who like to fantasy and wank over they keyboard to things than do what they talking about

I always say after the first meet I happy mindless chat away as I know it’s not all bs

But a nother reason is I not hear for dateing I hear for dirty nsa sex

If you want date mode me then date mode me dose not put out till after the 3rd date

If you want dirty slag mode me well ur in the right place a gust off wind and a show off cock will have my knickers at my ankles xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you ask, OP?

Nobody wants to chat? They all just wanna meet straight away?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Are you getting no reply to messages OP? No reply means not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "
if you dont have the "look" women want unfortunately they wont talk to you even if you are the nicest kindest bloke on the planet

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Nothing at all, as long as the other person wants to chat back to you.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I click with everyone as i am easy to get on with but do not have time to chat to all who ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatting is a two way street and doesn’t work if only one person of the two enjoys the chat which then means that you havnt clicked which then means no replies to your chat or even a block.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I click with everyone as i am easy to get on with but do not have time to chat to all who ask."

^ what this lady said also applies to me too.

What I've learned over the years here, everyone appears compatible online when the chat is good - it's the eventual meeting in person is where it becomes apparent that you are or definitely are not compatible!

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"I click with everyone as i am easy to get on with but do not have time to chat to all who ask."

Can i invite you for a chat lol

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Chatting is a two way street and doesn’t work if only one person of the two enjoys the chat which then means that you havnt clicked which then means no replies to your chat or even a block.

T"

I agree. I've put effort into a conversation (on fab, and other sites) and got two word replies.

Not just random conversation, but when they have asked for sexting.

I get the numbers disparity

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Who says it's wrong?

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Completely agree, you need to have a connection and a chat. We do anyway. Have avoided going any further with some really attractive couples because the messages are just one word and just not engaging

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Absolutely nothing wring with chatting to see if you both click. If the lady or fella declines, it could be that they feel they have enough peeps to chatting with or that there may be some geographical distance between you that they feel time would be wasted if they knew you were never going to meet. Could be that they don't want endless chat with someone new. Lots of reasons perhaps. "

Absolutely this.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Who says it's wrong? "

I haven't said anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything wrong with chatting either... I got a bitchy status about me because the bloke didn't want to chat, clearly he was of the belief this is Instashag.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

stockport

I love chatting with other people and trying to get to know them. It's called social interaction.Dont ask me what I'm wearing though as you will be ignored.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Nothing wrong with chatting if you can find someone who has time on their hands to chat and you interest them enough to be the one they want to chat to.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

nothing at all. that's all i do

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

preston

for those of us that can string a sentence together without the words "cock" or "fuck now", I think it's a great thing to do. Shows more about your character as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's annoying when you can't even get to the chatting stage, but you can't force it so just accept it and move on

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Always good to chat we reckon anyway !! but sadly most chats do take a turn for the worse or it does down here ?? so that puts most of ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't you hate it when someone starts a thread then never comes back it it?

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Absolutely nothing wrong with chatting, however, there has to be an initial spark of interest from either the profile or first message. If a message is along the lines of "how you doing?", & the profile has absolutely nothing to capture my interest, then I'm very unlikely to be prepared to chat further, I'll just move on to someone else who has put a bit of effort in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a wise old company used to say "it's good to talk"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a problem with chatting, but 40plus messages a day asking to chat takes its toll,

1 it's impossible to chat to everyone and geographically it doesn't make sense, I get offers from all over the UK. Why? I am never going to travel to London or wouldn't dare ask someone to travel to Glasgow. I also if I refuse have looked at the profile and have decided for a variety of reasons this person or couple are not for me. Happy Fabbing

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

How else are you going to get to know people if you don't chat lol

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'd say if people don't engage in chat then it's safe to assume that they aren't interested & just move on.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Nothing. But some don't want to give out numbers

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

You might be dull.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’ve had some really nice chats on here, recently with a woman from a forum post. Not too long ago with a couple and guy I’d like to meet after lockdown, but sometimes I reply because they’ve complimented me in some way, but as I don’t think we’ll ever meet (for sex certainly) I just don’t carry the conversation on.

It’s difficult as I know what it’s like to send a message and not get a reply or turned down, but I also don’t want to lead anyone on or waste that person’s time.

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

Chatting to see if you click?

I thought that was the point of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click "

Absolutely nothing???!!

There is no way I will meet if we didn't chat and flirt for a good while. its a must...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can some explain to me what is wrong in chatting to see if we click

Absolutely nothing???!!

There is no way I will meet if we didn't chat and flirt for a good while. its a must..."
This

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We'll happily chat but we usually decide within the first message or two if we'll click or not. This is largely based on the profile of the other person and how much content there is in their opening message to respond to.

So if your profile is a dick pic and one sentence and your message us 'hey how's you?' then were not going to get very far.

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