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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else given up trying to speak to new people on fab, because it is a waste of time.

I read everyone's profile and write a lovely message.

99% of messages dont get read never mind a reply.

Clubs so many nice friendly people to speak to but on here, nearly impossible for single guys.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like it’s like that mostly because you have to either be

1) an exceptionally, super attractive male (over 6ft, super big dick, jacked af)

2) Have a profile super interesting enough that people respond

Before when I first joined I didn’t get much replies (though I have met people, and on my old account I met some and had verifications)

You need to find what makes you stand out and what makes your profile have a talking point, with me it’s the mask and the bdsm/kink get up that gets the people interested in that for girls to talk to me, some aren’t in to that, just have to find what works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I stopped searching ages ago!

I'm just not feeling this at the mo!

Ahhh well...

Roll on next year!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again. "

Yeah true but even before the lockdown, wasn't great.

Women get so many messages so they will not read every one and just mass delete, delete tons of great messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again.

Yeah true but even before the lockdown, wasn't great.

Women get so many messages so they will not read every one and just mass delete, delete tons of great messages. "

If the club thing works for you... And it clearly does going by your verifications then just be content with that, can't always have it all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel like it’s like that mostly because you have to either be

1) an exceptionally, super attractive male (over 6ft, super big dick, jacked af)

2) Have a profile super interesting enough that people respond

Before when I first joined I didn’t get much replies (though I have met people, and on my old account I met some and had verifications)

You need to find what makes you stand out and what makes your profile have a talking point, with me it’s the mask and the bdsm/kink get up that gets the people interested in that for girls to talk to me, some aren’t in to that, just have to find what works "

I disagree with 1. People of fab that attend clubs just all round want a guy who's confident, loves to have a laugh and an all round nice guy. Well I think that's why I do well at clubs lol.

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By *eeds Horny BuggerMan
over a year ago

Leeds

You got to think how hard it is for the women on here. They get inundated with messages each day majority are the usual “fancy a fuck?” message with added cock pictures. So you can’t blame them for mass deleting at times. Like some have said they can’t answer ever message they receive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again.

Yeah true but even before the lockdown, wasn't great.

Women get so many messages so they will not read every one and just mass delete, delete tons of great messages.

If the club thing works for you... And it clearly does going by your verifications then just be content with that, can't always have it all "

Yeah true think it is easier face to face, well is for me anyway.

I set up a female account not along ago just to see what it's like. 50 messages within 30 mins.

I definitely send better messages than all them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience you need to be under 50,hung like a donkey,have a gym fit musclular physique & black ! All of which does not apply to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have to mass delete - then maybe its time to alter their filters...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my experience you need to be under 50,hung like a donkey,have a gym fit musclular physique & black ! All of which does not apply to me."

That's if they are asking for a BBC.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they have to mass delete - then maybe its time to alter their filters...

"

No filters will stop guys saying fancy a fuck and sending dick pics.

I dont do that I look at their profile and find something interesting to say to start the ball rolling. But messages hardly get seen, but hay ho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You got to think how hard it is for the women on here. They get inundated with messages each day majority are the usual “fancy a fuck?” message with added cock pictures. So you can’t blame them for mass deleting at times. Like some have said they can’t answer ever message they receive "

Messages missed for mass deleting I presume.....

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"In my experience you need to be under 50,hung like a donkey,have a gym fit musclular physique & black ! All of which does not apply to me."

Surely you don’t believe that’s the criteria for every woman on here do you? From what I’ve gathered if you’re polite, respectful and can hold a conversation you’ll go far.

I fit two, maybe 3 of the descriptions you’ve mentioned (black, under 50 and somewhat in shape) and yet my inbox isn’t flooded with messages daily. Gotta bring something of value to the table and be patient in my honest opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again. "

Agree hunny x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my experience you need to be under 50,hung like a donkey,have a gym fit musclular physique & black ! All of which does not apply to me.

Surely you don’t believe that’s the criteria for every woman on here do you? From what I’ve gathered if you’re polite, respectful and can hold a conversation you’ll go far.

I fit two, maybe 3 of the descriptions you’ve mentioned (black, under 50 and somewhat in shape) and yet my inbox isn’t flooded with messages daily. Gotta bring something of value to the table and be patient in my honest opinion. "

Go far in the clubs definitely, but on fab mmmmm dont know about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like it’s like that mostly because you have to either be

1) an exceptionally, super attractive male (over 6ft, super big dick, jacked af)

2) Have a profile super interesting enough that people respond

Before when I first joined I didn’t get much replies (though I have met people, and on my old account I met some and had verifications)

You need to find what makes you stand out and what makes your profile have a talking point, with me it’s the mask and the bdsm/kink get up that gets the people interested in that for girls to talk to me, some aren’t in to that, just have to find what works "

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience you need to be under 50,hung like a donkey,have a gym fit musclular physique & black ! All of which does not apply to me."

That’s probably true for some women, but definitely not all.

HC

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Ffs.. just chill... what will be will be....It’s all good should you decide to persevere .... lot’s of girls and couples think the same as you but hey.. be lucky xx

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Anyone else given up trying to speak to new people on fab, because it is a waste of time.

I read everyone's profile and write a lovely message.

99% of messages dont get read never mind a reply.

Clubs so many nice friendly people to speak to but on here, nearly impossible for single guys."

Play to your strengths mate; stick to the clubs as they work so well for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else given up trying to speak to new people on fab, because it is a waste of time.

I read everyone's profile and write a lovely message.

99% of messages dont get read never mind a reply.

Clubs so many nice friendly people to speak to but on here, nearly impossible for single guys.

Play to your strengths mate; stick to the clubs as they work so well for you "

Yeah definitely mate. Love the club seen. Meet loads of amazing people, have a laugh with and no shortage of orgies, mmf, gangbangs, foursomes and bit of the kinky stuff. Just thought it would be nice to try and speak to some nice people of here. But not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bumble is pretty good, just be honest with what you’re after and you can’t go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's wrong with speaking to those people you have met and they verified you? Not worth a chat anymore?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You got to think how hard it is for the women on here. They get inundated with messages each day majority are the usual “fancy a fuck?” message with added cock pictures. So you can’t blame them for mass deleting at times. Like some have said they can’t answer ever message they receive "

Rubbish! If I’m lucky I get 1 message a day!

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By *eeds Horny BuggerMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"You got to think how hard it is for the women on here. They get inundated with messages each day majority are the usual “fancy a fuck?” message with added cock pictures. So you can’t blame them for mass deleting at times. Like some have said they can’t answer ever message they receive

Messages missed for mass deleting I presume..... "
Wasn’t referring to what I’d experienced thats from chatting to single female friends on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on fab for many a year and met only a few couples. I agree with everyone’s comments and I think it’s a waste of time for single blokes. Unfortunately there aren’t any other sites like fab. I was thinking of sending out a message to any genuine ladies / couples who really wanted to meet up. Maybe a WhatsApp group for non-pushy, ppl who are genuinely interested in meeting. Maybe as a social group for nights out, few drinks, and see how it goes. There would only be a limited amount of ppl invited, men ladies and couples. What does everyone think ?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Anyone else given up trying to speak to new people on fab, because it is a waste of time.

I read everyone's profile and write a lovely message.

99% of messages dont get read never mind a reply.

Clubs so many nice friendly people to speak to but on here, nearly impossible for single guys.

Play to your strengths mate; stick to the clubs as they work so well for you

Yeah definitely mate. Love the club seen. Meet loads of amazing people, have a laugh with and no shortage of orgies, mmf, gangbangs, foursomes and bit of the kinky stuff. Just thought it would be nice to try and speak to some nice people of here. But not worth it "

You could always give me some advice which nights to choose to visit a club, as I have found being a single guy in them quite the opposite to you, and use the term “not worth it” for the club scene......

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Gave up months ago, couldn’t give a fuck any more... just fab a few pics and wank fodder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very very difficult as a single guy of any age to get anything going on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again. "

A fair comment, are you reaching out to compatible profiles OP or bombarding profiles you haven’t even read?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again.

A fair comment, are you reaching out to compatible profiles OP or bombarding profiles you haven’t even read?"

This is a very good point. I have no problem getting replies and I'm having some great chats on here but I am selective when it comes to messaging. From what I'm hearing there's a hell of a lot of people pushing to meet which is leading to deleted messages and the women I am speaking to are fed up with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are still dealing with a pandemic... very few are looking to get to know new people at the moment.

Maybe wait until things are back to normal again.

A fair comment, are you reaching out to compatible profiles OP or bombarding profiles you haven’t even read?"

No I read all the profiles and then send a nice message, if I fit what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then just be patient methinks, activity in the forums might be better for now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else given up trying to speak to new people on fab, because it is a waste of time.

I read everyone's profile and write a lovely message.

99% of messages dont get read never mind a reply.

Clubs so many nice friendly people to speak to but on here, nearly impossible for single guys.

Play to your strengths mate; stick to the clubs as they work so well for you

Yeah definitely mate. Love the club seen. Meet loads of amazing people, have a laugh with and no shortage of orgies, mmf, gangbangs, foursomes and bit of the kinky stuff. Just thought it would be nice to try and speak to some nice people of here. But not worth it

You could always give me some advice which nights to choose to visit a club, as I have found being a single guy in them quite the opposite to you, and use the term “not worth it” for the club scene......"

The nights I go on are fridays, which is anyone welcome, curvy girls nights.(women dont have to be curvy). Somes go during the day on a Wednesday aswell.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Then just be patient methinks, activity in the forums might be better for now x"

Yeah definitely. I have been on here just over a year and only just started to go on the forums lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, you have 27 verifications. I don't see that you are anywhere near giving up. Please remember we are in the middle of a pandemic. Perhaps you need to be a little more patient.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, you have 27 verifications. I don't see that you are anywhere near giving up. Please remember we are in the middle of a pandemic. Perhaps you need to be a little more patient. "

Hahahaha about 25 of them are from the clubs. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like it’s like that mostly because you have to either be

1) an exceptionally, super attractive male (over 6ft, super big dick, jacked af)

2) Have a profile super interesting enough that people respond

"

Agreed

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