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"Agreed 100% It’s just sex isn’t it?! And if others not for it then most if not all bi men can & will play straight" See yes I’m bi but I play straight when not with other bi people and even at times when am it’s about attraction not sure why such a stigma on here | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. As a bi woman I'm sure there are people who are out off meeting me for the same reason, and that's fine. To each, their own." I guess I could understand that but now I understand why so many on here pretend to be straight then message asking to suck my cock lol | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. As a bi woman I'm sure there are people who are out off meeting me for the same reason, and that's fine. To each, their own." Meet them for sex I should say, I'll meet for a club social with anyone I get along with. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. As a bi woman I'm sure there are people who are out off meeting me for the same reason, and that's fine. To each, their own. I guess I could understand that but now I understand why so many on here pretend to be straight then message asking to suck my cock lol " That's up to them, you can only take what people say at face value and hope they're being honest. But for every one person that isn't looking to meet a bi man, there'll be another looking specifically for that. So it's better just to be upfront about it, I feel. | |||
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"Hi everyone I’m not sure if this had been asked before but recently seen this being posted more and more by people on here. Can I ask what is issue with meeting a bi guy especially why is it such a turn off or is there something that I’m missing This isn’t to judge end of day we all have preferences but just curious to why such a stigma" There's nothing wrong with bi guys if that is what you are in to. We find the idea that a guy had sex with another guy a turn off. We were not aware of any stigma, but we guess we haven't looked. We have no problem in spending time with anyone of any inclination whatsoever and have no prejudice because of sexuality, however if we play it will be with the type of people who turn us on. | |||
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"Hi everyone I’m not sure if this had been asked before but recently seen this being posted more and more by people on here. Can I ask what is issue with meeting a bi guy especially why is it such a turn off or is there something that I’m missing This isn’t to judge end of day we all have preferences but just curious to why such a stigma There's nothing wrong with bi guys if that is what you are in to. We find the idea that a guy had sex with another guy a turn off. We were not aware of any stigma, but we guess we haven't looked. We have no problem in spending time with anyone of any inclination whatsoever and have no prejudice because of sexuality, however if we play it will be with the type of people who turn us on." That’s very understandable again I don’t have a bee in my bonnet as we all have preferences was just curious to peoples we so thank you for giving me yours seems to be a common thing the thought of 2 males together being off putting | |||
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"We understand fully what you are saying. We felt the need to say something, we hope you don't mind. We do not find it off-putting whatsoever. We are presently sat in Cap d'Agde and are about to head off to the famous part of the beach. As we all know, the French are a bit more liberated than us, and we have seen two guys openly having sex together on the beach quite often. It is not off-putting whatsoever. Just two consenting people having some fun together and we see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Whilst we all have our preferences, it is sad that people are sometimes shunned because of their own preferences. Take it easy." Well thank you for being honest I massively respect that and off putting may have been the wrong term as don’t insinuate your disgusted by the act just it is something you would not look for in a gentleman who joins you. And that sounds like a fun resort I may need to take a holiday | |||
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"I love sexy bi guys send them in my way " Hi there I’m bi I can drive | |||
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"I feel I am bi curious as at first I meant it as I wouldn't run out screaming if there was any contact with M in mmf. now it has developed further so I am comfortable with more contact but I personally draw the line after oral. I have no interest in anal either way. Just my 2 pennies lol" Great pennies 2 add and I was the same to begin with I have now done anal but was after a couple years of just oral It’s not for everyone a lass pegging me started me down that path though ha | |||
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"I feel I am bi curious as at first I meant it as I wouldn't run out screaming if there was any contact with M in mmf. now it has developed further so I am comfortable with more contact but I personally draw the line after oral. I have no interest in anal either way. Just my 2 pennies lol Great pennies 2 add and I was the same to begin with I have now done anal but was after a couple years of just oral It’s not for everyone a lass pegging me started me down that path though ha " I do have pride in my never say never attitude so who knows what the future holds | |||
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"If your into bi guys nothing wrong with them but if your not nothing wrong with that too it's everyone's own choice to make as you have made the choice to be a bi man it's your choice to make simples as that " Absolutely spot on. | |||
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"PS in Angus’s experience most women love to watch and participate in soft bi play between blokes..." Most men enjoy two women enjoying 'bi play'... It is about whatever turns you on.. Pleasure is universal.. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. As a bi woman I'm sure there are people who are out off meeting me for the same reason, and that's fine. To each, their own." Oh yes, two women together disgusting | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. As a bi woman I'm sure there are people who are out off meeting me for the same reason, and that's fine. To each, their own. Oh yes, two women together disgusting " Hey, it's happened. Everyone has preferences =) | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. " It’s not a prejudice though. I wouldn’t have sex with a woman/man that has sex with other ‘things’ I’m not into either. Chickens, for example... | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It’s not a prejudice though. I wouldn’t have sex with a woman/man that has sex with other ‘things’ I’m not into either. Chickens, for example... " I might have spotted a flaw in your argument there. | |||
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"Yeah nothing wrong with bi guys... except they've slept with other men. Yuk we're not prejudice though... just a preference " | |||
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"Unlike many preferences you can see, like guys with or without hairy bodies, colour of skin or attracted to hair colour or not. Bi guys (or even Women) all you get is their profile and (if) any verifications from past meets to know if they’ve shown any attraction to the same sex. Then it’s the act, how bi is bi ? As bisexuality is an attraction to both sexes, is finding a cock attractive but not the guy who has it, really bisexual ? If you ask the guys in the factory or building site, is wanking next to another guy a bit gay, I’d no doubt they would say yes. But is it really ? If it was, plenty of guys who go to clubs are now ‘gay’ in other men’s eyes. As plenty of straight men in rooms with their cocks out happily wanking together over some act they are either a part of or watching. Then the honesty on this site, of all the messages I’ve had this week, so far the majority are from ‘fab’ straight guys (12 messages 8 from straight guys) so if one of these guys meets me then sleeps with a woman or couple, unfortunately they have met a guy who’s had a bisexual experience. They just wouldn’t know it. If you touch another guys cock even once in your life are you bi ? and those guys now, can’t meet with those with anti bi preferences or is that ok as it was only once ? Remember touching could be with the hand or tongue. Nobody should be castigated because they have preferences, but thinking you come on to this site and not eventually sleep with a guy who’s had some sort of same sex experience is naive, in my opinion. " Like anyone, you're entitled to an opinion. As I said above, of course some men will lie about whether or not they've been with another man, but all anyone can do is make a decision based on the information they have. Whether it's based on a visible characteristic or not, it's still a preference and people are still allowed to have them. | |||
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"Nothing wrong with bi guys at all I married one so maybe I'm biased " you both got lucky then | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It’s not a prejudice though. I wouldn’t have sex with a woman/man that has sex with other ‘things’ I’m not into either. Chickens, for example... " | |||
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"Do ALL bi guys have sex with other men ???????if they dont does that mean they are not bi ?" I would say they were bi if they had oral sex with another male. | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. " It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. | |||
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"Do ALL bi guys have sex with other men ???????if they dont does that mean they are not bi ? I would say they were bi if they had oral sex with another male." I ask as my hubby is bi but doesnt have sex with men ,kiss,suck ,etc but so far so sex and no one has had sex with him either .. | |||
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"Unlike many preferences you can see, like guys with or without hairy bodies, colour of skin or attracted to hair colour or not. Bi guys (or even Women) all you get is their profile and (if) any verifications from past meets to know if they’ve shown any attraction to the same sex. Then it’s the act, how bi is bi ? As bisexuality is an attraction to both sexes, is finding a cock attractive but not the guy who has it, really bisexual ? If you ask the guys in the factory or building site, is wanking next to another guy a bit gay, I’d no doubt they would say yes. But is it really ? If it was, plenty of guys who go to clubs are now ‘gay’ in other men’s eyes. As plenty of straight men in rooms with their cocks out happily wanking together over some act they are either a part of or watching. Then the honesty on this site, of all the messages I’ve had this week, so far the majority are from ‘fab’ straight guys (12 messages 8 from straight guys) so if one of these guys meets me then sleeps with a woman or couple, unfortunately they have met a guy who’s had a bisexual experience. They just wouldn’t know it. If you touch another guys cock even once in your life are you bi ? and those guys now, can’t meet with those with anti bi preferences or is that ok as it was only once ? Remember touching could be with the hand or tongue. Nobody should be castigated because they have preferences, but thinking you come on to this site and not eventually sleep with a guy who’s had some sort of same sex experience is naive, in my opinion. Like anyone, you're entitled to an opinion. As I said above, of course some men will lie about whether or not they've been with another man, but all anyone can do is make a decision based on the information they have. Whether it's based on a visible characteristic or not, it's still a preference and people are still allowed to have them. " That's the big joke on fab . The amount of straight guys who message me is unreal . Just because their profile says straight .. it's meaningless. Chances are you've fucked a bi guy and had no idea .. | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. " but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ? | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ?" I don’t think so. A prejudice isn’t based in reason or experience, and is fairly synonymous with holding a negative opinion of the subject matter. A preference by contests is a subjective determination of interest based in persons experience/and or logic and reasoning, and does not usually go hand in hand with a negative opinion of the subject at hand. | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ? I don’t think so. A prejudice isn’t based in reason or experience, and is fairly synonymous with holding a negative opinion of the subject matter. A preference by contests is a subjective determination of interest based in persons experience/and or logic and reasoning, and does not usually go hand in hand with a negative opinion of the subject at hand. " Contrast* | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ? I don’t think so. A prejudice isn’t based in reason or experience, and is fairly synonymous with holding a negative opinion of the subject matter. A preference by contests is a subjective determination of interest based in persons experience/and or logic and reasoning, and does not usually go hand in hand with a negative opinion of the subject at hand. Contrast*" but that requires honesty from within ... How do you prove another person's preference / prejudice? Isn't having a preference a kind of informed prejudice? | |||
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"when we first got into the swinging lifestyle 25+++ years ago everyone was str8 the fems were bi the men were str8 but very very quickly we realised most guys were bi too as we told every one we were both bi alot of guys were telling us not to be too open about it lol how can you hide something youve known since teens hubs has always been bi as ive been too ... nothing wrong with any sexuality but people still do have a choice and it needs to be respected just like everything else you cannot force your bi self onto those who are not interested ... " you are bi, do you force yourself on other women, i bet not, and nore do men, but if thats your preferance, then we are all alowd that, above all have fun | |||
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"when we first got into the swinging lifestyle 25+++ years ago everyone was str8 the fems were bi the men were str8 but very very quickly we realised most guys were bi too as we told every one we were both bi alot of guys were telling us not to be too open about it lol how can you hide something youve known since teens hubs has always been bi as ive been too ... nothing wrong with any sexuality but people still do have a choice and it needs to be respected just like everything else you cannot force your bi self onto those who are not interested ... you are bi, do you force yourself on other women, i bet not, and nore do men, but if thats your preferance, then we are all alowd that, above all have fun" ive not had fun with a woman for quite a while very fussy and have to fancy alot so bi is rare for me so i jump on no one .... by force i mean opinions not psychical force | |||
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"when we first got into the swinging lifestyle 25+++ years ago everyone was str8 the fems were bi the men were str8 but very very quickly we realised most guys were bi too as we told every one we were both bi alot of guys were telling us not to be too open about it lol how can you hide something youve known since teens hubs has always been bi as ive been too ... nothing wrong with any sexuality but people still do have a choice and it needs to be respected just like everything else you cannot force your bi self onto those who are not interested ... you are bi, do you force yourself on other women, i bet not, and nore do men, but if thats your preferance, then we are all alowd that, above all have fun" So long as all agree ... we go where the mood takes us... simple | |||
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"Nothing wrong in Bi guys atall,as long as Bi,we are now both Bi curious and would like to try more sexual things,so not adverse to it one bit....it seems on here it's ok for women to be bi,but Not men..?...makes no sense,but as long as everyone all happy in the situation.....but certainly Not Anal with guys....we all hàve our limits.. " | |||
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"I would actually prefer to meet bi guys over straight" Pity I can’t send you a message lol x | |||
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"Just prefer to be upfront and honest, many on here are not... Each to their own but prefer honesty x K x" this in spades,whether you like bi or not, or bi that will play staight, each to their own at the end of the day its all about enjoying the fun, and we can all have a preferance, like we wont meet staight guys, and the amount who have straight on thier profile but plead that they are bi really, instant block | |||
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"Just prefer to be upfront and honest, many on here are not... Each to their own but prefer honesty x K x this in spades,whether you like bi or not, or bi that will play staight, each to their own at the end of the day its all about enjoying the fun, and we can all have a preferance, like we wont meet staight guys, and the amount who have straight on thier profile but plead that they are bi really, instant block" Now THAT is a great Fab philosophy | |||
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"Just prefer to be upfront and honest, many on here are not... Each to their own but prefer honesty x K x this in spades,whether you like bi or not, or bi that will play staight, each to their own at the end of the day its all about enjoying the fun, and we can all have a preferance, like we wont meet staight guys, and the amount who have straight on thier profile but plead that they are bi really, instant block" Best to be upfont and honest i think as well | |||
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"but do hate that its ok for women to say bi, but not men, double standerds" Actually don’t give a shit as to be honest it will never change xx | |||
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"If i was bi, instead of spending my time wondering why certain people choose not to meet me, id concentrate on the ones who will. Lots of people wont meet bi people for whatever reason and that is their right and they shoukdnt have to explain themselves. There are however a huge amount of people on here who are specifically looking for bi sexuals (male amd female) so its all swings and roundabouts. " Its a forum, he can write what he wants, if people want to respond and give a view/opinion, then thats their choice. Nobody has to explain themselves. Whats with all the angry people on here. If you dont like the post scroll past! | |||
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"but do hate that its ok for women to say bi, but not men, double standerds Actually don’t give a shit as to be honest it will never change xx " unfortunatly not, there is still a stigma attached to it, like all by guys are aids riddled shag anyone people, its a shame | |||
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"If i was bi, instead of spending my time wondering why certain people choose not to meet me, id concentrate on the ones who will. Lots of people wont meet bi people for whatever reason and that is their right and they shoukdnt have to explain themselves. There are however a huge amount of people on here who are specifically looking for bi sexuals (male amd female) so its all swings and roundabouts. Its a forum, he can write what he wants, if people want to respond and give a view/opinion, then thats their choice. Nobody has to explain themselves. Whats with all the angry people on here. If you dont like the post scroll past!" Never said he couldnt write what he wants, just think personally id spend more time concentrating on people that did want to meet me than ones that dont, oh and im far from angry | |||
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" but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ?" A preference is something you prefer over another. A prejudice is a preconceived opinion about something making you treat it differently to how you would otherwise. For instance , im prejudice against people who bare back. I may well have wanted to meet them until i found out they bareback. Even though i would be using protection i still wouldnt want to meet them. | |||
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"I do feel bad as my profile states straight men only and probably due to the fact i want my body worshipped by someone who adores woman. If i was with a bi man i would feel as if i was a disappointment in some way and that is not a good feeling. " You know bisexuals generally love both sexes equally physically | |||
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"I do feel bad as my profile states straight men only and probably due to the fact i want my body worshipped by someone who adores woman. If i was with a bi man i would feel as if i was a disappointment in some way and that is not a good feeling. You know bisexuals generally love both sexes equally physically " | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . " I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. " we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. " Each to their own like i said... pity we don’t live in a world of honesty as that way no person has a chance of been ‘mugged’... it risks health if not done right so it’s not right imho x | |||
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" but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ? A preference is something you prefer over another. A prejudice is a preconceived opinion about something making you treat it differently to how you would otherwise. For instance , im prejudice against people who bare back. I may well have wanted to meet them until i found out they bareback. Even though i would be using protection i still wouldnt want to meet them." Think you're a bit off on the definition. Barebacking does increase your chance of getting an std, so even if you use protection, sleeping with someone who is more likely to have an infection is more risky than sleeping with someone who doesn't. Yes, what you do individually will have a greater effect but this to me is a preference based on your attitude to risk. I'm wondering about this thing where some women don't like a guy who at some point in the past has slept with another guy. Lot's of people must have slept with someone and regretted it later, do you check all previous sexual partners in case one of them is someone you find distasteful? It's fine that everyone can make their own decisions but I'm not sure I buy the reasons being given. What is it about a guy who may have had sex with another guy at some point that is off putting? | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us" No one can ever know if someone is 100% honest about things. So many people lie about their sexuality/marital status/age/name etc. Most are none the wiser to it, for some it's totally irrelevant. Others get super upset by it. I'm not saying it's right. But I do understand why people tell certain lies here and there | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us No one can ever know if someone is 100% honest about things. So many people lie about their sexuality/marital status/age/name etc. Most are none the wiser to it, for some it's totally irrelevant. Others get super upset by it. I'm not saying it's right. But I do understand why people tell certain lies here and there" we cant, we couldnt trust someone who isnt honest, our choice, and we are entitled to that | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us No one can ever know if someone is 100% honest about things. So many people lie about their sexuality/marital status/age/name etc. Most are none the wiser to it, for some it's totally irrelevant. Others get super upset by it. I'm not saying it's right. But I do understand why people tell certain lies here and there" Agree, but why not be honest... you don’t hurt anyone by telling the truth x | |||
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"Bit weird isn't it. The prejudice, I mean. It's amazing how easily some people can pretend a preference is a prejudice. People can pick and choose who they want to meet on whatever terms without having to justify it to anyone. but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ?" A prejudice is a preconceived opinion that is not based on reason or actual experience. Neither of those things apply. | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us No one can ever know if someone is 100% honest about things. So many people lie about their sexuality/marital status/age/name etc. Most are none the wiser to it, for some it's totally irrelevant. Others get super upset by it. I'm not saying it's right. But I do understand why people tell certain lies here and there Agree, but why not be honest... you don’t hurt anyone by telling the truth x" Because some will say whatever just to get their leg over lol I maybe should've written my last comment a little differently. I meant that I can understand the reasons WHY people lie. I'm not saying it's right at all. Cheating guys saying they're single because they want to meet a specific couple (who prefer not to meet attached men) People fibbing about their age to get around filters. Some don't wish to give their real names as they like to be discreet I've been told all sorts of lies over the years. Some I've brushed off. Some have upset me. Some I'm not bothered by. And probably loads I'm unaware of. X | |||
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"The big elephant I have seen over the years is that still so many people presume bi men are walking hiv / Sti factories . I find this! At sexual health/GUM clinics I'm asked if I've slept with men who have sex with other men. And have been reminded by staff a few times that I'm more at risk of catching certain STI'S if I do. One nurse actually said to me "It's less risky for you to have sex/oral with straight guys". As if you'd EVER know who's straight or not lol. I just get checked. I have a couple of mates who won't meet bi men. The main reason being that it makes them feel a little insecure, feeling that they're in competition with the opposite sex for his attention. Personally, I get turned on by watching guys play. I've played with "straight" guys and when I've mentioned MMF, they've been well up for it. I never used to like the dishonesty from "straight" guys in the past but I can see why some hide their sexuality. As long as everything is safe, fun and consensual, I'm happy. we cant see why people hide thier sexuality, swinging is all about hoesty, if you cand do that then not for us No one can ever know if someone is 100% honest about things. So many people lie about their sexuality/marital status/age/name etc. Most are none the wiser to it, for some it's totally irrelevant. Others get super upset by it. I'm not saying it's right. But I do understand why people tell certain lies here and there Agree, but why not be honest... you don’t hurt anyone by telling the truth x Because some will say whatever just to get their leg over lol I maybe should've written my last comment a little differently. I meant that I can understand the reasons WHY people lie. I'm not saying it's right at all. Cheating guys saying they're single because they want to meet a specific couple (who prefer not to meet attached men) People fibbing about their age to get around filters. Some don't wish to give their real names as they like to be discreet I've been told all sorts of lies over the years. Some I've brushed off. Some have upset me. Some I'm not bothered by. And probably loads I'm unaware of. X" What she said... best be honest xx | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. To each, their own." : Now oddly enough as a bi guy I hadn't actually thought of that. But now its mentioned I can understand the position and accept its a legitimate personal choice. | |||
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" but what is the difference between a preference and a prejudice? Genuine question ... Aren't all preferences prejudice ? A preference is something you prefer over another. A prejudice is a preconceived opinion about something making you treat it differently to how you would otherwise. For instance , im prejudice against people who bare back. I may well have wanted to meet them until i found out they bareback. Even though i would be using protection i still wouldnt want to meet them. Think you're a bit off on the definition. Barebacking does increase your chance of getting an std, so even if you use protection, sleeping with someone who is more likely to have an infection is more risky than sleeping with someone who doesn't. Yes, what you do individually will have a greater effect but this to me is a preference based on your attitude to risk. I'm wondering about this thing where some women don't like a guy who at some point in the past has slept with another guy. Lot's of people must have slept with someone and regretted it later, do you check all previous sexual partners in case one of them is someone you find distasteful? It's fine that everyone can make their own decisions but I'm not sure I buy the reasons being given. What is it about a guy who may have had sex with another guy at some point that is off putting?" why do you deduce that ppl sleeping with others maybe same sex regret it later ? Is this your own experience ? | |||
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"why do you deduce that ppl sleeping with others maybe same sex regret it later ? Is this your own experience ? " Normally you wouldn't question who someone had slept with in the past, so I was asking why it would be different if on of those people happened to be another guy? So maybe once you slept with someone who was an arse, does that mean no one else will ever want to touch you? Of course not. We normally accept that you won't like all your partners exes, it doesn't change anything, so there must be more to it when women / couples don't like bi guys. | |||
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"OP, at least you are honest about your sexuality. We have endless messages from couples where the profile states the guy is 100% straight. They still want to meet us and he wants to get into Abby’s knickers. Swingers Clubs.....Ive witnessed piles of bodies on beds. Did anybody check their sexuality before they jumped in? Of course not. You will attract the right people for you OP, you don’t need the ones who won’t admit to who or what they are x" Just meet honest people xx | |||
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"why do you deduce that ppl sleeping with others maybe same sex regret it later ? Is this your own experience ? Normally you wouldn't question who someone had slept with in the past, so I was asking why it would be different if on of those people happened to be another guy? So maybe once you slept with someone who was an arse, does that mean no one else will ever want to touch you? Of course not. We normally accept that you won't like all your partners exes, it doesn't change anything, so there must be more to it when women / couples don't like bi guys." this is my theory , couples maybe of the opinion that bi guys have sex with gay guys so therefore they will be riddled with disease , the actual reality is that women in Thier 40 s are more likely to have STDs including hiv , I have a friend who works in a gum clinic and the incidence of women versus gay men far out numbers gay men with std infections | |||
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"why do you deduce that ppl sleeping with others maybe same sex regret it later ? Is this your own experience ? Normally you wouldn't question who someone had slept with in the past, so I was asking why it would be different if on of those people happened to be another guy? So maybe once you slept with someone who was an arse, does that mean no one else will ever want to touch you? Of course not. We normally accept that you won't like all your partners exes, it doesn't change anything, so there must be more to it when women / couples don't like bi guys.this is my theory , couples maybe of the opinion that bi guys have sex with gay guys so therefore they will be riddled with disease , the actual reality is that women in Thier 40 s are more likely to have STDs including hiv , I have a friend who works in a gum clinic and the incidence of women versus gay men far out numbers gay men with std infections " It could be that old perception about stds and hiv is still hanging around. I thought it might be that some women want manly men and they saw bi men as less manly in some way, though I've not heard anyone say that. | |||
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"why do you deduce that ppl sleeping with others maybe same sex regret it later ? Is this your own experience ? Normally you wouldn't question who someone had slept with in the past, so I was asking why it would be different if on of those people happened to be another guy? So maybe once you slept with someone who was an arse, does that mean no one else will ever want to touch you? Of course not. We normally accept that you won't like all your partners exes, it doesn't change anything, so there must be more to it when women / couples don't like bi guys.this is my theory , couples maybe of the opinion that bi guys have sex with gay guys so therefore they will be riddled with disease , the actual reality is that women in Thier 40 s are more likely to have STDs including hiv , I have a friend who works in a gum clinic and the incidence of women versus gay men far out numbers gay men with std infections It could be that old perception about stds and hiv is still hanging around. I thought it might be that some women want manly men and they saw bi men as less manly in some way, though I've not heard anyone say that." if I was you I certainly wouldn't let couples and fems bully you into what they seek , be yourself and own your sexualality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? | |||
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"if I was you I certainly wouldn't let couples and fems bully you into what they seek , be yourself and own your sexualality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? " I agree, was interested to know what the reasoning behind it was though. Being in the curious bracket, I find it weird that something you might only do once would be a permanent mark on your record as far as some people are concerned. Is it that people know where they are with straight men (or think they do) and that introducing the complexity of real sexuality is what they don't like? | |||
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"I was you I certainly wouldn't let couples and fems bully you into what they seek , be yourself and own your sexualality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? " And this right here is a prime example of everything wrong on Fab. If a couple or single fem isn't interested in meeting Bi guy for their own reasons there is nothing wrong with that in the least (as long as they are polite about it). But somehow in your head, they're the bully's of the story? At what point did no stop meaning no? | |||
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"I was you I certainly wouldn't let couples and fems bully you into what they seek , be yourself and own your sexualality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? And this right here is a prime example of everything wrong on Fab. If a couple or single fem isn't interested in meeting Bi guy for their own reasons there is nothing wrong with that in the least (as long as they are polite about it). But somehow in your head, they're the bully's of the story? At what point did no stop meaning no? " be yourself and own your sexuality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? I agree with this,if my sexuality puts people off me then so be it but no need to be rude about it. live and let live and love to all | |||
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"If your into bi guys nothing wrong with them but if your not nothing wrong with that too it's everyone's own choice to make as you have made the choice to be a bi man it's your choice to make simples as that " 'Chose to be bi?' Do we have a choice in determining our sexusuality? I (he) can't ever remember choosing to be straight, there was never a moment when I had to choose. Surely this is the same for gay and bi people? | |||
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""I just find it a turn off" What someone did without you with another partner turns you off? Or are you Afraid of HIV? be honest" The thought of a man having had sex with a man (oral, anal, whatever) simply turns me off- it puts me right out of the mood and off the idea of sex... I don't know how else to explain it to you. It's got nothing to do with sti risk (for me at least). I don't know why everyone gets so worked up about this. Like if someone had a particular fetish, that might turn you off, or if they chose to play bareback. Different things put people off, and anyone can choose to exclude anyone from their sex life for any reason. Its really not that complicated. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. " It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? " "Orally" bi is still bi.It's still a sex act with someone of the same gender. I'm not sure why the oral part makes it different? If your husband is not into the idea of being penetrated by another guy that's fine but he's still bi. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? " I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. " Got you . | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. " So you never ‘kissed a girl’ | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. So you never ‘kissed a girl’ " I'm bisexual so obviously I've kissed and slept with women, it still doesn't mean I'd have sex with a bisexual man. As I stated in an above comment, I've had people say they'd prefer not to meet me because I'm bi too. I just move on and find those I'm compatible with. People are allowed to choose who they want to fuck, based on whatever characteristics or criteria they like. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. So you never ‘kissed a girl’ I'm bisexual so obviously I've kissed and slept with women, it still doesn't mean I'd have sex with a bisexual man. As I stated in an above comment, I've had people say they'd prefer not to meet me because I'm bi too. I just move on and find those I'm compatible with. People are allowed to choose who they want to fuck, based on whatever characteristics or criteria they like. " Just curious, how would you feel if you only found out after the fact? Say you were already in a relationship with someone. Would that then put you off them? Personally I like to be upfront about it as it does put some people off. I guess I don’t really understand the reasoning behind that, but its probably quite similar for anyone who’s into something that puts others off - it’s your thing and you can’t understand why everyone doesn’t love it! In terms of some women feeling insecure if a guy likes both, I guess the only way I could describe it is you almost don’t see the gender, just the smile and pretty eyes of someone you fancy. In the opposite scenario, so say two girls you don’t really focus or compare the two in that scenario, you just think ‘oh my god, this is amazing’. And that’s exactly what goes through your head in the reverse scenario with another guy and a girl. In both cases you just appreciate how frickin’ awesome the people involved are for inviting you to take part in such an amazing experience So I guess to summarise, we appreciate the honesty of people who identify as bi openly, get why some don’t, understand that some aren’t (and you shouldn’t expect close proximity to a girl/guy to change that) and respect that it will put some people off us... just like my curly hair and beard could! M | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. So you never ‘kissed a girl’ I'm bisexual so obviously I've kissed and slept with women, it still doesn't mean I'd have sex with a bisexual man. As I stated in an above comment, I've had people say they'd prefer not to meet me because I'm bi too. I just move on and find those I'm compatible with. People are allowed to choose who they want to fuck, based on whatever characteristics or criteria they like. " Each to their own | |||
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"Some funny answers and misconceptions of bi men in here. My man is bi but he doesn't fancy men at all. He just likes the cock. He says he doesn't look at men and go "phwoarr" like he does with women. He wouldn't date of enter a relationship with a man as he simply doesn't find them attractive at all.Its purely the cock that excites him. I guess you could say TV's are his thing, a hot chick with a dick. Nothing wrong with bi men at all. " A few bi guys on here have said similar. I wonder if the thing that puts some women off bi guys is also what makes it exciting for "bi" guys who aren't really into other guys, breaking taboos isn't much fun if you stop them being taboo | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. So you never ‘kissed a girl’ I'm bisexual so obviously I've kissed and slept with women, it still doesn't mean I'd have sex with a bisexual man. As I stated in an above comment, I've had people say they'd prefer not to meet me because I'm bi too. I just move on and find those I'm compatible with. People are allowed to choose who they want to fuck, based on whatever characteristics or criteria they like. Just curious, how would you feel if you only found out after the fact? Say you were already in a relationship with someone. Would that then put you off them? Personally I like to be upfront about it as it does put some people off. I guess I don’t really understand the reasoning behind that, but its probably quite similar for anyone who’s into something that puts others off - it’s your thing and you can’t understand why everyone doesn’t love it! In terms of some women feeling insecure if a guy likes both, I guess the only way I could describe it is you almost don’t see the gender, just the smile and pretty eyes of someone you fancy. In the opposite scenario, so say two girls you don’t really focus or compare the two in that scenario, you just think ‘oh my god, this is amazing’. And that’s exactly what goes through your head in the reverse scenario with another guy and a girl. In both cases you just appreciate how frickin’ awesome the people involved are for inviting you to take part in such an amazing experience So I guess to summarise, we appreciate the honesty of people who identify as bi openly, get why some don’t, understand that some aren’t (and you shouldn’t expect close proximity to a girl/guy to change that) and respect that it will put some people off us... just like my curly hair and beard could! M" If I were looking to get into a relationship with someone it's a question I'd ask early on, to avoid that scenario, because no, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a bisexual man. If it were a fab meet, then of course I'd be unhappy that they were dishonest, but I'd simply avoid meeting them again and move on. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all love it..." What she said. | |||
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"There's nothing wrong with bi guys at all. I just personally find the idea that they've had sex with another man a turn off so I wouldn't be looking to meet them. It's a turn for us too but what if they are just orally bi,like my hubby? I'm mean, it's still a sex act with a man, so the same applies. So you never ‘kissed a girl’ I'm bisexual so obviously I've kissed and slept with women, it still doesn't mean I'd have sex with a bisexual man. As I stated in an above comment, I've had people say they'd prefer not to meet me because I'm bi too. I just move on and find those I'm compatible with. People are allowed to choose who they want to fuck, based on whatever characteristics or criteria they like. Just curious, how would you feel if you only found out after the fact? Say you were already in a relationship with someone. Would that then put you off them? Personally I like to be upfront about it as it does put some people off. I guess I don’t really understand the reasoning behind that, but its probably quite similar for anyone who’s into something that puts others off - it’s your thing and you can’t understand why everyone doesn’t love it! In terms of some women feeling insecure if a guy likes both, I guess the only way I could describe it is you almost don’t see the gender, just the smile and pretty eyes of someone you fancy. In the opposite scenario, so say two girls you don’t really focus or compare the two in that scenario, you just think ‘oh my god, this is amazing’. And that’s exactly what goes through your head in the reverse scenario with another guy and a girl. In both cases you just appreciate how frickin’ awesome the people involved are for inviting you to take part in such an amazing experience So I guess to summarise, we appreciate the honesty of people who identify as bi openly, get why some don’t, understand that some aren’t (and you shouldn’t expect close proximity to a girl/guy to change that) and respect that it will put some people off us... just like my curly hair and beard could! M If I were looking to get into a relationship with someone it's a question I'd ask early on, to avoid that scenario, because no, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a bisexual man. If it were a fab meet, then of course I'd be unhappy that they were dishonest, but I'd simply avoid meeting them again and move on. " Fair enough. We all have soft limits, hard limits and red lines and our general rule of thumb is it’s better to put this all out there at the start so we can make informed choices beforehand, rather than only discovering something quite fundamental about a person during or (god forbid) after a meet. If it turns out we’re not compatible I’d rather know that ahead of time rather feeling either party had to hide something about themselves. As this threads already shown, there’s plenty of people who have a very definite preference for bi guys as it is M | |||
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"I fully understand people are turned on and off by different things but it's the yuk and disgusting comments that I find un called for " Absolutely, I don't think anyone should be derogatory about anyone else's preferences, and no one should be made to feel bad just for being who they are. | |||
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"I fully understand people are turned on and off by different things but it's the yuk and disgusting comments that I find un called for Absolutely, I don't think anyone should be derogatory about anyone else's preferences, and no one should be made to feel bad just for being who they are. " It just shows why guys feel like the can't advertise the fact they are bi unfortunately x | |||
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"The only thing we have found wrong with bi guys, is that some can't seem to get their head around the fact some women and couples just aren't into bisexual men. Nothing wrong with being bi, but thst doesn't give you an entitlement to be favourable to everyone on the site. Someone for everyone on fab, not everyone for someone " | |||
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"Would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who commented I have read all and feel some real helpful information I always know it’s everyone’s right to have likes and dislikes and I never have or will have issue with being rejected to my sexuality to be fair that stings less than being rejected for my looks lol But I do feel this was valuable as one or two comments where quite shocking to read as shows still in some eyes is a negative stigma to male on male play which I sort of understand as what’s such a big thing for so many years To everyone posting I hope you have an amazing time on fab and have plenty of fun with those who are your type Happy fanning everyone " . Yes it's been an interesting read, some like bi guys, some don't, nothing new there, it's like everything else on here lol To be fair to those who didn't, I don't see much knocking of bi guys though, mostly folks saying they just weren't turned on by it which is fair enough | |||
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"Would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who commented I have read all and feel some real helpful information I always know it’s everyone’s right to have likes and dislikes and I never have or will have issue with being rejected to my sexuality to be fair that stings less than being rejected for my looks lol But I do feel this was valuable as one or two comments where quite shocking to read as shows still in some eyes is a negative stigma to male on male play which I sort of understand as what’s such a big thing for so many years To everyone posting I hope you have an amazing time on fab and have plenty of fun with those who are your type Happy fanning everyone " Nice Summary | |||
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"Update. I now see one of the biggest issues on fan in regards to guys and sexuality I’m openly bi and put on my profile knowing will affect opportunity with some women and couples however it’s my integrity and think is not right to hide that truth Since this post I have had more than 20 lads message who state are straight telling me how much would love to suck my cock or have me suck there’s. The best part a lot of so called straight in here have profiles on fab guys and seem to not be curious as had plenty of experience lol. Not attacking those lads as appreciate the messges and some great cocks but just find it funny how many of them are verified by straight only women and couples lol " my hubby is on Fab guys too and it helps out opertunists etc ,we tend to ignore the only who cant bi on profile that is our choice ,makes the endless ing though a bit easier,not always though | |||
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"Would like to say a massive thank you to everyone who commented I have read all and feel some real helpful information I always know it’s everyone’s right to have likes and dislikes and I never have or will have issue with being rejected to my sexuality to be fair that stings less than being rejected for my looks lol But I do feel this was valuable as one or two comments where quite shocking to read as shows still in some eyes is a negative stigma to male on male play which I sort of understand as what’s such a big thing for so many years To everyone posting I hope you have an amazing time on fab and have plenty of fun with those who are your type Happy fanning everyone " More than welcome. No stigma from me, I’m happy for anyone to do whatever they want, and hope that respect is afforded to everyone whatever their sexuality and preferences. It can get a bit frustrating as a straight guy I think, because some people assume that all ‘straight’ male profiles here are likely bi, bi-curious, or can be converted. Not everyone is hiding a secret sexuality. | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke?" Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. | |||
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"I personally have no problem meeting or playing with a couple where the guy is bi,I simply make it clear I'm straight and not interested in any bi play.I've also found that couples with a curious or bi male are much more comfortable with close male contact" Orally bi and will fuck a guy but put down bi as prefer to be honest with everyone. Just not into getting fucked lol x | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke? Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. " Yep | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke? Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. " This pretty much sums up the thread tbh. We’ve had the reverse with guys pretending to be bi for the sole purpose of sleeping with F. Honesty and openness should be the minimum we should all expect. I don’t really understand why hiding a latent part of you to sleep with someone is worth it. Surely it would be quite stressful trying to keep yourself from accidentally saying the wrong thing all through a meet. For you I imagine being a bi woman means some couples wouldn’t meet you if you being bi turned them off. It’s just one of those things. There’s nothing wrong with straight or bi guys. We generally prefer bi guys, but if the right straight guy came along well, I wouldn’t lie or play straight (I’m not) but I’m quite capable of treating them as a straight guy who doesn’t want to be touched. But some of them may feel uncomfortable in that situation and prefer not to meet us, and that’s totally fine too. Also, amazing bum pic M | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke? Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. This pretty much sums up the thread tbh. We’ve had the reverse with guys pretending to be bi for the sole purpose of sleeping with F. Honesty and openness should be the minimum we should all expect. I don’t really understand why hiding a latent part of you to sleep with someone is worth it. Surely it would be quite stressful trying to keep yourself from accidentally saying the wrong thing all through a meet. For you I imagine being a bi woman means some couples wouldn’t meet you if you being bi turned them off. It’s just one of those things. There’s nothing wrong with straight or bi guys. We generally prefer bi guys, but if the right straight guy came along well, I wouldn’t lie or play straight (I’m not) but I’m quite capable of treating them as a straight guy who doesn’t want to be touched. But some of them may feel uncomfortable in that situation and prefer not to meet us, and that’s totally fine too. Also, amazing bum pic M" Guess best bet is to check Veris first as that s most ‘wasters’ out tbh. Can’t think of another way atm xx | |||
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"I was you I certainly wouldn't let couples and fems bully you into what they seek , be yourself and own your sexualality , if they can't see past that then are they really worth your time ? And this right here is a prime example of everything wrong on Fab. If a couple or single fem isn't interested in meeting Bi guy for their own reasons there is nothing wrong with that in the least (as long as they are polite about it). But somehow in your head, they're the bully's of the story? At what point did no stop meaning no? " absolutely have no idea do you ? But that's very typical ! | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke? Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. " I get that and recognise that Honesty is importaint, i suppose what i was trying to get at is relavence. If the guy is not playing bi with someone why does that person need to know? Being bi has no place in that play. Its a bit like do you need to know what political party they vote for? Frankly i dont want to kiss a tory but if they make me cum like a guiser do i really care? | |||
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"I put Bi-Curious down on my Profile when clearly i am more than curious hell iam down right experienced. The reason for that is the sight does not have omni sexual as an option. If people actually read my profile everything that people NEED to know is there, upfront no messing. I do find it odd however that people have said if thry found out after a meet the person was Bi that would be bad. While i accept honesty is importiant if you had a good time and thought the person worthy of meeting in the forst place what has changed? Did they lick your pussy bit your tits and fuck you like a machine? Than who gives a crap if they left you to have thier dick licked clean by some bloke? Because, for many of us, honesty is very important and the key to enjoying the swinging lifestyle. And if they can lie about their sexuality, they could've easily lied about other things too. That's without going into how bad it can make someone feel to be deceived for the sake of sex. This pretty much sums up the thread tbh. We’ve had the reverse with guys pretending to be bi for the sole purpose of sleeping with F. Honesty and openness should be the minimum we should all expect. I don’t really understand why hiding a latent part of you to sleep with someone is worth it. Surely it would be quite stressful trying to keep yourself from accidentally saying the wrong thing all through a meet. For you I imagine being a bi woman means some couples wouldn’t meet you if you being bi turned them off. It’s just one of those things. There’s nothing wrong with straight or bi guys. We generally prefer bi guys, but if the right straight guy came along well, I wouldn’t lie or play straight (I’m not) but I’m quite capable of treating them as a straight guy who doesn’t want to be touched. But some of them may feel uncomfortable in that situation and prefer not to meet us, and that’s totally fine too. Also, amazing bum pic M" Exactly. Again i recognise honesty is importaint but respect for peoples wishes and desires seams much more so. | |||
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"Yeah nothing wrong with bi guys... except they've slept with other men. Yuk we're not prejudice though... just a preference " I do wonder if people actually read what they write sometimes. It's quite clearly a prejudice when you see how they react to it Oh well, makes it easy to decide who isn't worth my time! | |||
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"Yeah nothing wrong with bi guys... except they've slept with other men. Yuk we're not prejudice though... just a preference I do wonder if people actually read what they write sometimes. It's quite clearly a prejudice when you see how they react to it Oh well, makes it easy to decide who isn't worth my time!" exactly | |||
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