FabSwingers.com forum: Straight guys

By *loppysucker OP Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Do straight guys actually like doing anything with bi or gay guys, whether it’s a one off or on the dl. I am not out and pretty discreet myself but I’m into pleasing a guy. I’ve met ‘straight guys’ before but it makes me wonder.

Is this just another problem with labels or are these men another mythical creature?

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

It’s depends on the individual really, I’m not into solo with guys, but if with a couple then I’m up for things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s depends on the individual really, I’m not into solo with guys, but if with a couple then I’m up for things."

then you are not straight

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

"It’s depends on the individual really, I’m not into solo with guys, but if with a couple then I’m up for things.

then you are not straight"

I don’t really think of straight/ bi as a label, fun is fun in this world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man who does "things" with another man is not straight!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its called fab straight..men on here pretend they straight as cant admit to themselves...as most STRAIGHT men are meeting and messaging other men..funny old world..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider my self striaght wouldn't want a releation with a guy but if a guy wants to wank me or suck me off i have no problem with that

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By *ess n BenCouple
over a year ago

Didcot

It’s funny when a straight guy as it states on their profile message you

You return the message saying we only meet bi guys then get a message saying they are actually bi

The excuses they use for not putting bi on their profile is quite funny, from my mate is on here, don’t want my family to know I am bi and the best one we ever had, my mum is on here and I don’t want her to know I am bi ffs

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By *rHandsomeHunkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I’m straight and tbh would never do anything with a guy but would have a 3some with a guy and a women but obvs not into doing stuff with guys

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By *axwellCouple
over a year ago

south lakes

"A man who does "things" with another man is not straight!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A man who does "things" with another man is not straight!! "

Non Sense....I’m a smoking , non - smoker on Fab....

If Men on Fab can play with other men on Fab and claim they are straight...

Then all occasional smokers can put not smoker on their profiles.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

as a bi guy I do weary of straight guys being constantly questioned as to 'is there any scenario, a wee hint of bi, only 6 pints away' to doing something with us.

Yes there are truly straight guys and I for one respect that.

Yes there are bi guys hiding behind straight profiles to hoodwink couples/females into meets, I for one don't respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I consider my self striaght wouldn't want a releation with a guy but if a guy wants to wank me or suck me off i have no problem with that"

At least you have the decency to have Bisexual on your profile ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a bi guy I do weary of straight guys being constantly questioned as to 'is there any scenario, a wee hint of bi, only 6 pints away' to doing something with us.

Yes there are truly straight guys and I for one respect that.

Yes there are bi guys hiding behind straight profiles to hoodwink couples/females into meets, I for one don't respect that."

Exactly ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s depends on the individual really, I’m not into solo with guys, but if with a couple then I’m up for things."

Such as?what things would you allow to do or happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve spoke to a straight man on here , he meets up. With a straight couple and he gets to fuck the wife whist he is doing this , the straight husband fingers and then fucks the straight man , and I’m the gay one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's binary. You are either straight or you are not.

If you like doing things with men as well as women you are bi full stop.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

I think a lot of men who consider themselves straight in normal life would never consider a relationship with men do sometimes seek men on here to get their dick sucked often purely because its easier to find a willing man than it is a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a bi guy I do weary of straight guys being constantly questioned as to 'is there any scenario, a wee hint of bi, only 6 pints away' to doing something with us.

Yes there are truly straight guys and I for one respect that.

Yes there are bi guys hiding behind straight profiles to hoodwink couples/females into meets, I for one don't respect that."

^^^^^^^This will do for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men who consider themselves straight in normal life would never consider a relationship with men do sometimes seek men on here to get their dick sucked often purely because its easier to find a willing man than it is a woman "

They are not straight then.

This is simply a common fantasy of a gay or bi man. Forbidden fruit, etc.

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By *loppysucker OP Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Thanks. I was just curious as to what others thought. On the whole label thing I think there’s too many now anyway. Everyone can do what they like with whoever they want. I considered myself bi for ages despite the fact I hadn’t actually done anything with a woman. Not because I was afraid but because I still had some interest in women. After nothing happened (not that I tried) I just went for gay. Made more sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how outraged people get at this... on a supposedly open minded forum... and is there anywonder men aren't comfortable exploring their sexuality.

I'm not homophobic but I must have your sexual history clearly expressed in a label... you know... heaven forbid you've ever touched a penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't feel comfortable to have fun with a couple knowing that male half is bisexual or bicurious. Even though I've been told several times that male half doesn't have to follow this "path" I had to refuse every offer of this kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like things up my arse, not sure it matters that much if it’s a woman pegging me or a cock, is there such a difference? It’s just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't feel comfortable to have fun with a couple knowing that male half is bisexual or bicurious. Even though I've been told several times that male half doesn't have to follow this "path" I had to refuse every offer of this kind. "

What makes you think he would want to do anything with you?!

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

I think rather than fab straight the term should be fab bi

I totally understand that once you’ve joined this site the more you might push your boundaries & you may do things you wouldn’t do previously, especially in group situations & that you might not be physically attracted to someone of the same sex it’s purely sexual in the heat of the moment

But as others have said if in the right situation you’ll play with someone of the same sex there’s definitely a bi element there

I’m always weary when guys with straight in their profile message us and say they are into bi play as I think they are just saying it as a way to start a conversation & to have more chance of having a meet, where in actual fact they go to the back of the queue as I just think be honest put it in your bio

& then there’s the straight guys that on a meet offer bi play, why? just why not be honest from the start, MrB is hot but come on lol

MrsB X

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Most of the buddies I have casual fun with are married. Once they get going they’re passionate and really into it, very adventurous and willing to experiment. I’ve said to a couple of them “are you sure you’re not bi?” I think they feel that once they put bi on their profile it puts some people off. I’m happy to meet any guy who has an interest in some horny man fun - labels don’t mean a lot in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think he would want to do anything with you?!"

Probably nothing but that's how I feel. We all have rights to choose our sexual partners and the way we play. I guess I couldn't be myself thinking that other guy is finding me attractive during sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a reason why don't do couples unless I can meet the female counter part 1-2-1. The male may be straight on fab but during the meet he could make a move on you and it could get awkward.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

No from me, never found a mans body a turn on.

Do t mind being around other men, just don’t cross my boundaries.

Sorry if this isn’t what you wanted to hear, thought the thread was for straight men.

Should have known better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No from me, never found a mans body a turn on.

Do t mind being around other men, just don’t cross my boundaries.

Sorry if this isn’t what you wanted to hear, thought the thread was for straight men.

Should have known better."

That's exactly how I feel

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"as a bi guy I do weary of straight guys being constantly questioned as to 'is there any scenario, a wee hint of bi, only 6 pints away' to doing something with us.

Yes there are truly straight guys and I for one respect that.

Yes there are bi guys hiding behind straight profiles to hoodwink couples/females into meets, I for one don't respect that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think he would want to do anything with you?!

Probably nothing but that's how I feel. We all have rights to choose our sexual partners and the way we play. I guess I couldn't be myself thinking that other guy is finding me attractive during sex. "

You do know that bi guys aren't attracted to every single man dont you? And that they're perfectly capable of containing themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think he would want to do anything with you?!

Probably nothing but that's how I feel. We all have rights to choose our sexual partners and the way we play. I guess I couldn't be myself thinking that other guy is finding me attractive during sex.

You do know that bi guys aren't attracted to every single man dont you? And that they're perfectly capable of containing themselves? "

Lol exactly my point, it’s quite incredible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes you think he would want to do anything with you?!

Probably nothing but that's how I feel. We all have rights to choose our sexual partners and the way we play. I guess I couldn't be myself thinking that other guy is finding me attractive during sex.

You do know that bi guys aren't attracted to every single man dont you? And that they're perfectly capable of containing themselves? "

And You do know that straight guy may feel uncomfortable having sex next to guy who may be attracted to him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been at a number of group sessions organised by a mf couple where they invite bi guys, but Jo always tells them she insists the play starts with the her hubby and the men all together and her watching, tends to out a few! But we have had a couple of instances where guys have turned up and tried to avoid the cocks!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"as a bi guy I do weary of straight guys being constantly questioned as to 'is there any scenario, a wee hint of bi, only 6 pints away' to doing something with us.

Yes there are truly straight guys and I for one respect that.

Yes there are bi guys hiding behind straight profiles to hoodwink couples/females into meets, I for one don't respect that.

I was just thinking about you the other day, I hope you are well

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By *eavy Metal BallzMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It's binary. You are either straight or you are not.

If you like doing things with men as well as women you are bi full stop.

It’s not at all binary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight guy's on here are just

Men that can't get a woman

But they are so desperate they will shag anyone

No doubt some cheeky bastard will say I wouldn't shag you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve seen today lots of straight men in here talking about double penetration , and how much they enjoy it , that’s really straight having your cock rubbing against another , balls slapping together , and another post About there wife’s sucking off men then kissing them with there cum , again very straight , there’s not really much difference between gay and straight men after all

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"This is a reason why don't do couples unless I can meet the female counter part 1-2-1. The male may be straight on fab but during the meet he could make a move on you and it could get awkward."

I'm sure you don't mean to sound 'rapey' but the whole point of fab is consenting adults. If someone doesn't like something, they say NO.

If you made an unwanted move on a lady, and she said no, you would stop, wouldn't you?

Likewise, if anybody you are playing with makes an unwanted move on you, you can say no, too.

Consent is the basis of everything.

Communication is key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love how outraged people get at this... on a supposedly open minded forum... and is there anywonder men aren't comfortable exploring their sexuality.

I'm not homophobic but I must have your sexual history clearly expressed in a label... you know... heaven forbid you've ever touched a penis.

Completely agree with this.

Why do guys get such a hard time exploring there sexuality and yet it's a pass for females?

I've never seen a post questioning females on whether they are bi or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. The clue is in the title and if you disagree then you’re not straight

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

"I’ve seen today lots of straight men in here talking about double penetration , and how much they enjoy it , that’s really straight having your cock rubbing against another , balls slapping together , and another post About there wife’s sucking off men then kissing them with there cum , again very straight , there’s not really much difference between gay and straight men after all "

Well don’t they say that the difference been a straight and a bi man is about six pints? Lol

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By *scarsexMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

Personally, I think it’s a choice you make. I won’t say it’s like choosing something material (like a car, house, etc); what I mean it’s something intangible you choose for yourself. A kind of sexual behaviour towards your preferred match, being a straight guy.

I guess for some guys it’s no very clear: bi-curious.

Some can they it doesn’t matter: bisexual, pansexual and all the terms that evoke similar circumstances.

For some it’s very clear: heterosexual.

I’ve been many times in gay ambient, Soho and similar, and have had a good time speaking and laughing. Nothing else. But it’s true that gays or bisexual used to say: “How do you know you don’t like it if you haven’t tried it?”

And in a way, they are right. But if you have a clear idea about what you fancy in sex, the rest can be very good for the rest of the world but not for you. If you’re not into it, why try it?

In other aspects of life, we act similarly: in a job with tasks that aren’t normally ours, do we do them or not? If you think you “can” do it, or it won’t hurt you, then do it. But if you’re sure about your limits, you’ll pass. If someone tries to push you, then “do as you please yourself, but I won’t”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's binary. You are either straight or you are not.

If you like doing things with men as well as women you are bi full stop.

It’s not at all binary

Why is it not binary? You are either straight or you are not.

It's not an insult, nor is there any negative connotation.

Your sexuality is absolute, like your eye colour.

If you experiment from time to time with the same gender then you are bi, not 'part time' straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying it's a choice is like saying you choose to be gay, which is obviously not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Few of us are 100% straight.

If you have had any form of sexual activity with a man, you are likely to be bisexual.

Bisexual is not spoken about much in society, as often bisexual men get labelled into being closeted homosexuals. A lot of guys will project their own homosexual desires with homophobia, as if their own desires were known it would create shame for them. I have had experience of this, and it was unpleasant.

The reality is sexuality is a spectrum. I prefer women, however have had homosexual relationships.

Your sex life should be private, so long as you are not hurting anyone and it is with consent it is your business, and no one elses.

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By *scarsexMan
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Saying it's a choice is like saying you choose to be gay, which is obviously not true."

I think you should read it again.

But let me try another approach: a gay guy who hasn’t tried a heterosexual intercourse in all his life. If a woman comes to him and ask for sex, what do you think will be his thoughts??

He’ll choose one of the two options: No or Yes.

He may try with the woman, but if it’s not what he fancies, his choice will be the “No”.

Sexuality is very complex. It’s like being right handed , left handed, and capable of using both hands. If you can do it, it’s right because you feel you can do it (it won’t hurt your feelings nor your personality). If you have doubts, maybe you’ll try for the experience or maybe not. It’s a choice you make.

Some have a tendency since they are kids. And it can be the same all their life.

But maybe they experience another way and they enjoy it too. So they become bisexual or bi curious.

Men and women have both the same hormones, and many other cels. The difference is in the balance of them. Look when you have a baby and have to wait a bit to know the sex. It’s because it’s yet to be defined.

And look about genders: you may have a physical body but your brain, thoughts are more into the opposite side. And you need to undergo surgeries and psychological therapy as well.

Resuming, what I meant is you choose one thing or another according to how you feel about it, if you think it won’t hurt trying it, if you think you can do it, and balancing your natural choice with something new.

I hope it clarifies my point of _iew.

I’m not trying to convince you, but only to make my thoughts more clear.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Saying it's a choice is like saying you choose to be gay, which is obviously not true.

I think you should read it again.

But let me try another approach: a gay guy who hasn’t tried a heterosexual intercourse in all his life. If a woman comes to him and ask for sex, what do you think will be his thoughts??

He’ll choose one of the two options: No or Yes.

He may try with the woman, but if it’s not what he fancies, his choice will be the “No”.

Some have a tendency since they are kids. And it can be the same all their life.

But maybe they experience another way and they enjoy it too. So they become bisexual or bi curious.

And look about genders: you may have a physical body but your brain, thoughts are more into the opposite side. And you need to undergo surgeries and psychological therapy as well.

I hope it clarifies my point of _iew.

I’m not trying to convince you, but only to make my thoughts more clear. "

Sexuality isn’t complex, over analysis is just a cognitive way of not having fun.

I’m not interested in the male form... simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying it's a choice is like saying you choose to be gay, which is obviously not true.

I think you should read it again.

But let me try another approach: a gay guy who hasn’t tried a heterosexual intercourse in all his life. If a woman comes to him and ask for sex, what do you think will be his thoughts??

He’ll choose one of the two options: No or Yes.

He may try with the woman, but if it’s not what he fancies, his choice will be the “No”.

Some have a tendency since they are kids. And it can be the same all their life.

But maybe they experience another way and they enjoy it too. So they become bisexual or bi curious.

And look about genders: you may have a physical body but your brain, thoughts are more into the opposite side. And you need to undergo surgeries and psychological therapy as well.

I hope it clarifies my point of _iew.

I’m not trying to convince you, but only to make my thoughts more clear. "

If a gay man has never had sex with a woman it's because he isn't attracted to women, not because he's never had the opportunity to have sex with a woman.

Sexuality isn't defined by your experiences. It's something hard wired into your brain and body.

It's like saying virgins have undefined sexuality because they've never been intimate with someome

What you're saying just sounds like the messages I used to recieve from bi/gay men saying "You never know if you'd like a BJ from a man until you try it". I already know because I'm comfortable with my sexuality and know I'm straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys would secretly like to try something a wink at least with another guy but compared to women are so much shyer about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems a lot of guys presume all straight guys would be up for a discreet meet with another guy-certainly going by the amount of messages I get from guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems a lot of guys presume all straight guys would be up for a discreet meet with another guy-certainly going by the amount of messages I get from guys!"
Just seems strange to me, the huge number of couples profiles where she is at least b-curious but so un-commone for the man to say that. Are men less adventurous or really just straight, who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems a lot of guys presume all straight guys would be up for a discreet meet with another guy-certainly going by the amount of messages I get from guys!Just seems strange to me, the huge number of couples profiles where she is at least b-curious but so un-commone for the man to say that. Are men less adventurous or really just straight, who knows?"

It’s nowhere near as acceptable in society for a man to say he’s bi-curious though?

Which is daft in this day and age, but I think other women are much more accepting of it then guys are.

Can you imagine one of the lads you play footy/rugby with saying he was curious about sex with another guy? The reaction wouldn’t be as accepting for sure!

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

It’s nowhere near as acceptable in society for a man to say he’s bi-curious though?

Which is daft in this day and age, but I think other women are much more accepting of it then guys are.

Can you imagine one of the lads you play footy/rugby with saying he was curious about sex with another guy? The reaction wouldn’t be as accepting for sure!"

Guys don’t talk about it but it doesn’t stop them from doing it. I’ve met a few guys who said they were trying it for the first time and they seemed to take to it like a duck to water. As long as you meet someone who respects limits it’s not as bad as it seems. I’ve not met anyone yet who started and then stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me

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By *andyblokeMan
over a year ago

birmingham

we love to put things into pigeon holes but lifes isnt black and white its 50 shades of grey. So not all straight are 100% straight etc

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

To me if a guy wants to do anything sexual with another man then by definition he is at least bi curious. Bi sexual is not a swear word and if people can't be honest about what they like or want to try on here, then where can they be

. If you like to suck cock it doesn't make you any less of a person, just own it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me if a guy wants to do anything sexual with another man then by definition he is at least bi curious. Bi sexual is not a swear word and if people can't be honest about what they like or want to try on here, then where can they be

. If you like to suck cock it doesn't make you any less of a person, just own it."

I agree.

I don't understand why there's this hesitation to call yourself bisexual?

It's not a label, it's a fact that if you're attracted to both men and women you are bi. There is no sliding scale you are either bi or you are not.

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By *exyguy76Man
over a year ago

lancashire

Thought I was straight after watching loads of straight porn then started venturing on gay porn got curious then secretly turned on. Eventually plucked courage to join fab guys/swingers been with a few guys has plenty of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do straight guys actually like doing anything with bi or gay guys, whether it’s a one off or on the dl. I am not out and pretty discreet myself but I’m into pleasing a guy. I’ve met ‘straight guys’ before but it makes me wonder.

Is this just another problem with labels or are these men another mythical creature?"

If you mean like participating in MMF then I've got no issues so long as he's happy that I'm straight and not playing with the guy. But as for one on one meets, no I wouldn't because men aren't sexually attractive to me.

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By *exyguy76Man
over a year ago

lancashire

I've been with gf for 12 yrs & still been with a few guys separate occasions had plenty of fun all clean and safe. I have to be in the mood & horny to go with A guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. If you like to suck cock it doesn't make you any less of a person, just own it."

bang on

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

since I changed my profile to Bi-curious it is surprised how many more single male profiles who identify as straight have messaged.

That said, its just a label and I put no real weight into what it means.

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