FabSwingers.com forum: If you discovered your daughter is on fabswinger without your knowledge. Your reaction as mom or dad

By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

Wao. As a father, it depend on her maturity. Personally swinging at the prime age of maturity is not good. Because swinging can hinder her ability of stable relationship in the future that is my fear. What will you do as mom or dad if you discovered daughter profile on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without your knowledge??????

As if she would have to ask!!!

She’s an adult and it’s her life and we are here to guide not plan her life for her.

Bit of a strange one op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block her and move on.

Unless i found any of my daughters breaking the law or doing something dangerous ect I would not interfere.

It's their life let her live it as you live yours unhindered

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Wao. As a father, it depend on her maturity. Personally swinging at the prime age of maturity is not good. Because swinging can hinder her ability of stable relationship in the future that is my fear. What will you do as mom or dad if you discovered daughter profile on fab"

Why would you have needed to know about it ?

Adult site, adult decision to be on it

I have to be honest, having got 2 teens and a 20+ , and them being able to talk to me about anything, the readily available sex on all the other sites , tinder, SC, insta is probably higher than on here

I think you would be naive to think anything different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we all know what Donald Trump would do.....get himself banned from fab for inappropriate suggestions

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Well we all know what Donald Trump would do.....get himself banned from fab for inappropriate suggestions"

"Do you wanna grab each other's private parts and then inject each other with bleach?"

Also yeah, bit of an out there question for OP; are you asking because it's happened to you, or just out of curiosity?

It's not really applicable to me as I don't have children, but being a liberal person in general (as I assume most people here are given the nature of the site) I'd never judge anyone for their personal life choices. Equally however, it would be my personal choice not to see anything intimate from them and I'd block them immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

Son and his partner are on here it's up to them they are old enough we just blocked them

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By *edHeadedFunWoman
over a year ago

Didsbury

Does she know you are on here?

I think regardless of your experience of swinging and this site as with all things in life the decision would be hers to make as an adult.

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By *inkyfun2013Couple
over a year ago

lewisham

If my mum knew we were on here I wouldn't expect her to try to stop us (and would ignore her if she did). I would treat my (adult) daughter and son the same.

What would your parents say or do, OP?

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much "

I don't have son. I have four daughters.that’s why. So Don’t turn this to gender bashing.

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

To be candid I will be worried as a dad because of safety issues.

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

"To be candid I will be worried as a dad because of safety issues. "

So out of respect for other dads would you refrain from playing with their daughters?.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

As long as she is of age and maturity then it's her life.

Id obviously block her so we couldn't see each other's profiles but other than that, I would respect her choices.

I don't believe swinging has to have a negative impact on stable relationships though. I actually believe it can help people know and accept themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for her, hope she's enjoying herself...

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"To be candid I will be worried as a dad because of safety issues.

So out of respect for other dads would you refrain from playing with their daughters?.

No disrespect to other dad. Just fatherly instinct.

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

I wish have son.I will be equally worried as well.Because swinging can be addictive to male. The inability to socialise and interact with female outside this life-style will be my worries as well.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"I wish have son.I will be equally worried as well.Because swinging can be addictive to male. The inability to socialise and interact with female outside this life-style will be my worries as well. "

Is that a problem you have OP?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Since my daughters know I am on here & that I attend swingers clubs I personally wouldn't worry, although I'd block their profiles.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Op didn't you recently post that your daughter wouldn't approve of you being here? I imagine the likelihood of you finding her here is fairly remote

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Weather it was our son or daughter. As long as they were old enough and responsible enough then we would block them and let them get on with it. We are all entitled to our sexual fantasies and preferences

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

I think it's worse that you'd want to involve yourself in your child's sexlife

It also amazes me that even in the swinging world theres men who think women shouldn't be allowed to enjoy sex

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
over a year ago

horsham

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much "

Hear hear , well said .. alright for boys and not girls .. And then comes the endless bleat that there are not enough women around ..

Social progression can be so annoyingly slow at times

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

It's not a great way to view the men on here is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

Hear hear , well said .. alright for boys and not girls .. And then comes the endless bleat that there are not enough women around ..

Social progression can be so annoyingly slow at times "

Slow? Its almost non existent at times

The double standards on here make me feel like Ive been transported back to 1954

Why would swinging hinder someones ability to have a stable relationship, OP?

And why is it ok for you to be on here?

But not an adult daughter?

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

None of my business, block profile and live and let live

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

Hear hear , well said .. alright for boys and not girls .. And then comes the endless bleat that there are not enough women around ..

Social progression can be so annoyingly slow at times

Slow? Its almost non existent at times

The double standards on here make me feel like Ive been transported back to 1954

Why would swinging hinder someones ability to have a stable relationship, OP?

And why is it ok for you to be on here?

But not an adult daughter?"

The sooner 'females' realise they are nothing more than a free, disposable sex toy, the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

Hear hear , well said .. alright for boys and not girls .. And then comes the endless bleat that there are not enough women around ..

Social progression can be so annoyingly slow at times

Slow? Its almost non existent at times

The double standards on here make me feel like Ive been transported back to 1954

Why would swinging hinder someones ability to have a stable relationship, OP?

And why is it ok for you to be on here?

But not an adult daughter?

The sooner 'females' realise they are nothing more than a free, disposable sex toy, the better.

I know, right

All this equality nonsense

Sex is for men

Everyone knows that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab the gash pics and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on her age and previous experience of sexual relationships, I might be concerned as I don't think here is a healthy way of learning about such things at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd go Mental

especially seen as I didn't even know I had a daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this asked as a father who has found his daughter on here, or some kind of fantasy? ?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Adult child-their sex life is their business.

I would already have had the convo about safe sex / sexual responsibility etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares? Did you consider your parents when you created an account? Doubtful.

Meeting on here is no diff to a one night stand from a club apart from your probably not going to be d*unk when you meet off here and you can find similar interests etc.

It's an adult choice regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not one rule for you and another for her, it's her life, her choice.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I would feel better about here being on here rather than going home d*unk with someone. My girl is very open with me ( maybe too much at times lol ) I think she would tell me if she did. In which case I think I would likely tell her. Still block each other. No idea about the how I could carry on here tho. What if were spoke to the same person...noooo. At least I could talk to her properly about it. Obv not about some stuff. But I also the emotional side. I see what OP means about that. There are some women unfortunately who use places like this who can either use it in a desperate way for attention to sort of validate themselves..to themselves mostly. Some women can start out condident and become crushed on here. I have also come across a women friend here who after a few years just developed a kind of cold attitude towards sex. But that's the very few among the many. You never know, may find herself a swinger bf. Maybe she meets the right " vanilla" guy, maybe she wants to be a bit wild and free and discover herself abit..That dosnt mean she dosnt understand the difference between swinging and a relationship.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I would say if you have all of these concerns...

That a) fab isn't a place for you as you're not equipt to handle it yourself

And b) i would suspect you've not given your daughter's the most healthy upbringing towards sex that that could have had.

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"As long as she is of age and maturity then it's her life.

Id obviously block her so we couldn't see each other's profiles but other than that, I would respect her choices.

I don't believe swinging has to have a negative impact on stable relationships though. I actually believe it can help people know and accept themselves

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

hmm. Interesting OP and I'm 100% sure about this, that sex is NOT only for 'men'. as some have suggested here....

As a Man I take slight offence to that coming up but there's more to worry about that that today! Pick battles etc blah... Onwards!

Isn't sexual gratification for at all humans? For every identity, beit M, F, LGBTQ+ - freedom is the thing here - let's not loose sight of that - if my daughter was on here, or son, Mum or Father - I'd not block them, but actually bring it up in conversation one day - we are all adults, if safety is you concern OP, 'fess up, erm.. 'saw you here and it's fine'... be that cool Parent and ask her/him about their safety approach. Done, move on (I wouldn't read any veris or view galleries though..) - yet be available if there was any problem..

Just be safe and Adult, I'd suggest that of us all. Fabswinging everyone

xxxxx

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

hmm. Interesting OP and I'm 100% sure about this, that sex is NOT only for 'men'. as some have suggested here....

As a Man I take slight offence to that coming up but there's more to worry about that that today! Pick battles etc blah... Onwards!

Just be safe and Adult, I'd suggest that of us all. Fabswinging everyone

xxxxx"

James, when you are privvy to inboxes full of messages that treat you as nothing but a free, disposable sex toy, you'll understand our comments.

All along the lines of 'I've not read your profile/I've read it but completely ignored it and I'm not someone you would ever meet but I have a cock and I want it wet so open your legs'.

Over and over again.

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By *amesoflondonMan
over a year ago

London

Thank you.

It must be something close to hell being here as a lady. For the record, in my opinion, almost every 'man' on here is an embarrassment to my sex given disrespectful conduct.

That being said, if my son/daughter/mother/father we're here.... More reason than ever to be clear and make sure that they were safe in their meets.

Very best to you x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Equality of freedom to enjoy what I do is important. I'm happy to support and educate my kids, including about here. But having personal space is important too. Let them learn as they want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess initial thought would be ‘wow, why is she or he here’ but then realising I’m here doing all sorts of debauchery I’d have to think rationally about it and maybe try to address my safety concerns somehow.

I’m not sure if I’d approach and ask because that seems like it would be one hell of an awkward convo.

Not sure why so many people are arguing in some SJW vibe whether it’s ok for boys and not girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much "

Well said

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Depending on her age and previous experience of sexual relationships, I might be concerned as I don't think here is a healthy way of learning about such things at times "
thank you. Well said. A lot ve turn the thread to gender bias

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"To be candid I will be worried as a dad because of safety issues. "
hope you're parent's are alive what would they say about you being on here ain't it the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not one rule for you and another for her, it's her life, her choice. "

Doesn’t mean he can’t be concerned as a father

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"It's not one rule for you and another for her, it's her life, her choice.

Doesn’t mean he can’t be concerned as a father"

Thanks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't be on fab as a single woman and if I saw our daughter on here I'd be concerned from a safety point of view. I always warned her about getting in cars with people she didn't know, remaining sober, getting into situations that were possibly dangerous etc etc. Guess what, she still did it all. If I saw her on here I think I'd probably just hope she'd taken my previous advice on board and was meeting in clubs only and block her profile.

She's pretty clued up on how *some* men are so she'd deal with that aspect of it OK I think.

If I saw our son on here I'd do the same but I wouldn't be quite so worried because as a single man he'd probably struggle.

The truth is it *is* different on here for women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

I don't have son. I have four daughters.that’s why. So Don’t turn this to gender bashing."

Oh so this is about you now when you have posted it as a hyperthetical question for others to answer, maybe you need to grasp the English language better. Nothing to do with gender bashing

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"It's not one rule for you and another for her, it's her life, her choice. "

This. ...

My daughter used to be on here. My father used to attend Kestrels.. I was aware but we didnt discuss it. I had my daughter blocked..and we would try to avoid going to the same clubs. In fact for a while as I could drive and she couldn't. I started going to the NW clubs a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone you care about wants to jump out of a plane, teach them how to pack a parachute.

Not sure why the question attracted so many negative remarks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like to see a son or daughter of mine on here either. I think it's the wrong view for young people to have sex.

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

her life her choices, and as she is gay we probably wouldnt see each others profiles, but id block her just in case.

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"If someone you care about wants to jump out of a plane, teach them how to pack a parachute.

Not sure why the question attracted so many negative remarks."

Thank you.

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By *ieutenant OP Man
over a year ago

london

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much

I don't have son. I have four daughters.that’s why. So Don’t turn this to gender bashing.

Oh so this is about you now when you have posted it as a hyperthetical question for others to answer, maybe you need to grasp the English language better. Nothing to do with gender bashing"

Really.Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did this have to be just daughter? Why not son? Does he get a pat on the back instead?

This is the side of fab that makes me cringe so much "

couldn’t agree more and the safety thing imo is a pile of crap and a way of making the double standard seem noble

i tend to find “protective” men are the prime examples of the type of people they feel they need to protect us from

... you know the “i know how men can treat women “ really translates to i know how i treat women

i read the line about problems in her future relationships as “i see women on here as sex toys ... good enough to fuck but too damaged to date... cant have my daughter exchange her purity for pleasure or no guy will want her”

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Smacks of double standards if you're on Fab and a relation is on Fab you just block them and move on regardless of the family connection...

It only shows you have no respect for females on the site if it's not good enough for your daughter.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"To be candid I will be worried as a dad because of safety issues. "

The question needs to be asked are you a danger to women on the site.

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