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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto

*Apologies if this has been discussed before. I tried every iteration of search terms possible and came up with nothing.*

So anyway, as the title states, i've never cum from a blowjob, ever. Is this quite widespread, or am i alone in this one?

I don't even derive all that much pleasure from the act either. There have been times where i've started to lose my erection. I'd much rather go down on a woman than get a blowjob. I kinda do want to enjoy them more. Anyone have any "tips" or advice? Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get someone who teases you a lot

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I have found, with a couple of exceptions, that it is the idea of a blowjob that is more exciting than the event itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have not tried that hard with your search

I have just put " never cum " ito search and found 2 threads about the very thing

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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"You have not tried that hard with your search

I have just put " never cum " ito search and found 2 threads about the very thing "

My apologies. My search focused on the term "blowjob"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You haven't found the right girl to tease and torment you and also who loves to take her time over a bj

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was surprised when i met men who didnt cum when i gave them a blow job, because my hubby always does.

I dont mind doing it for a long time, not if a man has a big cock though cos it makes my jaw ache.

Its the same when men go down on me.

With some men it feels good, then with others, i dont feel much at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have not tried that hard with your search

I have just put " never cum " ito search and found 2 threads about the very thing

My apologies. My search focused on the term "blowjob" "

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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I was surprised when i met men who didnt cum when i gave them a blow job, because my hubby always does.

I dont mind doing it for a long time, not if a man has a big cock though cos it makes my jaw ache.

Its the same when men go down on me.

With some men it feels good, then with others, i dont feel much at all."

I guess its a mental thing for both men and women. I did have an ex that was determined to make me cum, but wasn't pushy about it. She always tried to make me relaxed. Spent nearly half an hour once before she gave up from jaw ache, bless her, lol

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By *xonswingersCouple
over a year ago

Close to Oxford

I've never cum from one either.

Still like them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread and for once I will write a serious reply on here. Your not alone m8 in the last 10yrrs I have also found it impossible to cum from a blow job and just cant seem to cum at all no matter how good or bad lol mind you ive never admitted to having a bad one

When I was younger I used to beable to cum from having a blow job but as I say for last 10yrs I ave not been able to. Maybe its due to getting older im not sure but one thing I do no for certain is that the end of the penis is no were near as sensetive as it used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here never cum from a bj after several trials ihave come to a conclusion that it might have to do with being circumsised but nt sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me either...unless they cheat n use hands.

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By *haroninlondonWoman
over a year ago

Bromley

It's about getting right pressure to underside of the cock! I'm a pro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my best one, with a cpl who are friends...shes brill...still took her 55mins...and some hand work ...my toes finally curled and hey presto!

I do hate people who boast tho that they can make u cum, its not something I claim i can do with others.I'd prefer if everyone treated anothers genitalia as uniquely as possible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's about getting right pressure to underside of the cock! I'm a pro"

lol were the feck is enfield then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my best one, with a cpl who are friends...shes brill...still took her 55mins...and some hand work ...my toes finally curled and hey presto!

I do hate people who boast tho that they can make u cum, its not something I claim i can do with others.I'd prefer if everyone treated anothers genitalia as uniquely as possible!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby is 70, he always has been one to cum quick though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come to think about it I haven't since I split from gf at beginning of year ... She had great technique (read that as best bj ever) but I think emotional involvement is probably key.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Now there is a challenge for some...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've never had one from me

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"my best one, with a cpl who are friends...shes brill...still took her 55mins...and some hand work ...my toes finally curled and hey presto!

I do hate people who boast tho that they can make u cum, its not something I claim i can do with others.I'd prefer if everyone treated anothers genitalia as uniquely as possible!"

Agreed,don't blow your own trumpet and all that.......

Everyone has a unique feel about them and its fun to find out what makes it work for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my best one, with a cpl who are friends...shes brill...still took her 55mins...and some hand work ...my toes finally curled and hey presto!

I do hate people who boast tho that they can make u cum, its not something I claim i can do with others.I'd prefer if everyone treated anothers genitalia as uniquely as possible!

Agreed,don't blow your own trumpet and all that.......

Everyone has a unique feel about them and its fun to find out what makes it work for them"

u shuttit HPC, u cum when u move ur legs...xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had lots of blowjobs and find it hard to cum with some but i tend to find concerntrating on watching them does it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

has been discussed before.

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By *elestial NavigatorMan
over a year ago

The moon

i have to agree with others who say you just havent found right person...i was the same..(could have a blowjob for ages and nothing)

Then met a lady who was great fun and full of naughtiness...and, quite simply i had the best and second best blowjobs of my entire life..in one evening...she was amazing...and i didnt have much choice in the matter...lasted 10 minutes first one..3 or 4 the next....blew me away (pun intended).

so dont give up hope and dont let it be on you`re mind if you are lucky enough to be getting one...whne it happpens it will happen naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"has been discussed before.

"

Like a 100 other subjects on here and its allowed to be discussed again,different people different responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*Apologies if this has been discussed before. I tried every iteration of search terms possible and came up with nothing.*

So anyway, as the title states, i've never cum from a blowjob, ever. Is this quite widespread, or am i alone in this one?

I don't even derive all that much pleasure from the act either. There have been times where i've started to lose my erection. I'd much rather go down on a woman than get a blowjob. I kinda do want to enjoy them more. Anyone have any "tips" or advice? Thanks in advance."

If you don't really like blow jobs your not going to cum thro one are you

If they're not for you don't do it, to be honest I'd sooner a guy tell me he didn't like what I was doing than just lay there out of kindness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*Apologies if this has been discussed before. I tried every iteration of search terms possible and came up with nothing.*

So anyway, as the title states, i've never cum from a blowjob, ever. Is this quite widespread, or am i alone in this one?

I don't even derive all that much pleasure from the act either. There have been times where i've started to lose my erection. I'd much rather go down on a woman than get a blowjob. I kinda do want to enjoy them more. Anyone have any "tips" or advice? Thanks in advance.

If you don't really like blow jobs your not going to cum thro one are you

If they're not for you don't do it, to be honest I'd sooner a guy tell me he didn't like what I was doing than just lay there out of kindness "

I'd take matters into my own hands and make matters onto ur face/mouth/boobs

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Neither have I. Some guys are just less sensitive to blowjobs than others i think. It's a shame, but there are plenty of other ways to cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't even try to make a guy cum thro a blow job, its not the time or Place I want them to cum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To be honest I don't even try to make a guy cum thro a blow job, its not the time or Place I want them to cum "

I'd be especially pissed off if they came via BJ then rolled over for a snooze.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

I think its a combination of technique and what's in the mind. I had a great BJ today from a gorgeous woman but couldn't cum until she finished me off with a hand job and some lube. At other times with the same woman, I have cum from having just a BJ. Today, I think I was just too desperate and didn't relax enough. Still nice though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have trouble cumming from a blow job until I learned to relax and stop thinking that cumming was the sole point. After that hey presto!

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

Yeah it's strange I've always struggled. Only one woman as ever made me cum via a BJ. It was a great BJ *sigh*

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I've never cum from giving a blowjob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to have trouble cumming from a blow job until I learned to relax and stop thinking that cumming was the sole point. After that hey presto!"

it shouldn't be seen as a problem...unless they get lockjaw

I like someone who particularly likes giving oral as much as I do...its the sensations I'm more interested in, than having to cum quick!-I dont mind my female partner cuming as much and often as she likes

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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"If you don't really like blow jobs your not going to cum thro one are you

If they're not for you don't do it, to be honest I'd sooner a guy tell me he didn't like what I was doing than just lay there out of kindness "

Totally agree, but at the same time, it is give and take right? I mean, just like i find giving women oral a massive turn on, so do some ladies find giving a blowjob the same. For me, i usually oblige if the lady wants to give me a blowjob, but after a few minutes, i just flip things over and focus on her instead.

For the most part it works, but a few women have either taken offence to that or been a little hurt afterwards. There's no easy way to explain in that situation that it isn't a reflection of their oral skills as opposed to a mental block, without sounding like you are saying it out of kindness. So it can be a tough spot to be in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't really like blow jobs your not going to cum thro one are you

If they're not for you don't do it, to be honest I'd sooner a guy tell me he didn't like what I was doing than just lay there out of kindness

Totally agree, but at the same time, it is give and take right? I mean, just like i find giving women oral a massive turn on, so do some ladies find giving a blowjob the same. For me, i usually oblige if the lady wants to give me a blowjob, but after a few minutes, i just flip things over and focus on her instead.

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but the biggest turn on in giving oral is knowing your turning on and giving pleasure to the other person, if they arnt enjoying what im doing whats the point in me doing it? would you enjoy giving head so much is you knew the women was getting nothing from it?

What turns me on about giving blow jobs isnt the act of sucking a cock its the act of giving plesure and im just as happy doing anything to do that if a guy dont like what im doing id sooner hom tell me so i can focus on what he does like and give him pleasure elsewhere

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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"but the biggest turn on in giving oral is knowing your turning on and giving pleasure to the other person, if they arnt enjoying what im doing whats the point in me doing it? would you enjoy giving head so much is you knew the women was getting nothing from it?

What turns me on about giving blow jobs isnt the act of sucking a cock its the act of giving plesure and im just as happy doing anything to do that if a guy dont like what im doing id sooner hom tell me so i can focus on what he does like and give him pleasure elsewhere"

Fair point. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same I've never come from a blow job either. Only one girl came close and that was the best one I've ever received.

I do like the initial sensation of a bj, but i dont like it to drag out.

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By *ong_legs2Couple
over a year ago

essex

Same here, not to say that i don't love receiving them though, just never came from one. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same here, not to say that i don't love receiving them though, just never came from one. x"

same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too

Sometimes though it's just a little boring hence why I prefer a good 69

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By *tensonSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Stenson Fields

Same here....never cum from a BJ....I like the sensation but would rather have my balls and shaft licked with a little tonguing over 'Biffins bridge' towards my ass than a full on blowjob. I don't feel like I'm missing out by not cumming either, as cumming/ejaculation is just a bi-product of the whole sex/lovemaking act. I get more pleasure and stay harder through giving rather than receiving as its the mental pleasure over the physical act everytime for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you don't really like blow jobs your not going to cum thro one are you

If they're not for you don't do it, to be honest I'd sooner a guy tell me he didn't like what I was doing than just lay there out of kindness

Totally agree, but at the same time, it is give and take right? I mean, just like i find giving women oral a massive turn on, so do some ladies find giving a blowjob the same. For me, i usually oblige if the lady wants to give me a blowjob, but after a few minutes, i just flip things over and focus on her instead.

but the biggest turn on in giving oral is knowing your turning on and giving pleasure to the other person, if they arnt enjoying what im doing whats the point in me doing it? would you enjoy giving head so much is you knew the women was getting nothing from it?

What turns me on about giving blow jobs isnt the act of sucking a cock its the act of giving plesure and im just as happy doing anything to do that if a guy dont like what im doing id sooner hom tell me so i can focus on what he does like and give him pleasure elsewhere"

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Same here never cum from a bj after several trials ihave come to a conclusion that it might have to do with being circumsised but nt sure"

.

It must be a black guy thing lol

I've never cum from a BJ either, and really only met one girl who gave me one I enjoyed, but still never came as much I'd love to have

Funny you mention being circumcised, I'm not and always put it down to being over sensitive at the head of my penis with the foreskin pulled back-I guess circumcised guys are not so sensitive, so maybe that's my theory out the window!

Needless to say, Im not one to complain when any of the lovely ladies out there want to give me a BJ, feel quite privileged in many respects

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"*Apologies if this has been discussed before. I tried every iteration of search terms possible and came up with nothing.*

So anyway, as the title states, i've never cum from a blowjob, ever. Is this quite widespread, or am i alone in this one?

I don't even derive all that much pleasure from the act either. There have been times where i've started to lose my erection. I'd much rather go down on a woman than get a blowjob. I kinda do want to enjoy them more. Anyone have any "tips" or advice? Thanks in advance."

i had an ex who this also happened to...when ever i gave him a bj it would become so sensitive hed make me stop lol very dissappointing for me as i love giving them and had never had this problem before ;-p suppose if your not that bothered bout them then just find other ways to tease u and make you cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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but the biggest turn on in giving oral is knowing your turning on and giving pleasure to the other person, if they arnt enjoying what im doing whats the point in me doing it? would you enjoy giving head so much is you knew the women was getting nothing from it?

What turns me on about giving blow jobs isnt the act of sucking a cock its the act of giving plesure and im just as happy doing anything to do that if a guy dont like what im doing id sooner hom tell me so i can focus on what he does like and give him pleasure elsewhere"

Exactly this.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

I'm like blackshadow - I don't cum from BJs although I love the attention, they're an essential part of foreplay, especially when 69ing. On the occasions when my partner has wanted me to cum in her mouth I've had to finish by hand.

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By *exymixedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

london

Thank god for this subject! As when I first meet Jules he told me he's never cum by blow jobs alone and thought he was lying as I've never encountered this ever. So made it my mission to be the woman that does that and 4 years later still haven't managed it! Was really worried maybe it was me or my technique. So and tips would be greatfully received. Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same here never cum from a bj after several trials ihave come to a conclusion that it might have to do with being circumsised but nt sure

.

It must be a black guy thing lol

I've never cum from a BJ either, and really only met one girl who gave me one I enjoyed, but still never came as much I'd love to have

Funny you mention being circumcised, I'm not and always put it down to being over sensitive at the head of my penis with the foreskin pulled back-I guess circumcised guys are not so sensitive, so maybe that's my theory out the window!

Needless to say, Im not one to complain when any of the lovely ladies out there want to give me a BJ, feel quite privileged in many respects "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'I don't even derive all that much pleasure from the act either. There have been times where i've started to lose my erection. I'd much rather go down on a woman than get a blowjob. I kinda do want to enjoy them more. Anyone have any "tips" or advice? Thanks in advance.'

So why bother...no point doing something if you get no pleasure from it?

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth

i like getting them as i like the feel and the pleasure of them, however i have never had some one bring me to the point of cumming, i thought i was weird lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay OP .... so how many have volunteered to make it happen?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Okay OP .... so how many have volunteered to make it happen? "

Are you implying young lady the op started this thread in the hope some ladies who can suck like Dyson's will offer to empty his sacs?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay OP .... so how many have volunteered to make it happen?

Are you implying young lady the op started this thread in the hope some ladies who can suck like Dyson's will offer to empty his sacs?!! "

Moi? .... as if!

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Hubby finds it difficult to cum from a BJ, and much prefers going down on me.

Given him a few lately though, and he can cum - but only if he 'fucks my face' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

* whispers to Miss .... used to be a standard chat up line when I was in the forces.*

shhhhhhh.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats right, you never came from a bj, you came from the other end, if your mum had swallowed you wouldn't be here!

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By *lackshadow7 OP   Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Okay OP .... so how many have volunteered to make it happen? "

2 people, haha. Although having looked through your other response, i did not in fact make this thread as a cover for asking for a blowjob.

There's a messaging system in place for such things, and i'd have used that if that was the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be gutted if a bloke didn't cum after I gave him a blow job, I just love the suprise at the end when he fills my mouth and let's me swallow the lot x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Answered this somewhere else im sure???

as much as being sucked/licked turns me on i vert rarely have found anyone who came take me all the way with thier mouth - whereas i can always make them cum with my mouth/tounge -- odd that i guess lol

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I do not ejaculate from a bj . I used not to enjoy them prefering as said before to flip the lady over and use my tongue. However I am learning to enjoy understanding just how much pleasure a woman can get if I'm genuiney enjoying. I will say I will enjoy less if the woman s only goal is to make me squirt I'm enjoying sensual orgasmic bj s .where I become rock hard and swollen may even have a couple of orgasms .

my point is with a caring woman you and time you can change your perspective and enjoy a bj and the journey of a good bj imo is far better than a 3 second ejaculation

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I also find it really hard to come from oral, have only managed it a couple of times in my life and it took considerable efforts on the female part - not that I was begging them to keep at it, they were just determined! I just don't like the sensations from oral that much, not fussed about it at all. One exception was when I tried viagra just one time, then a bj felt incredible and I suddenly knew what all the fuss was about. Still didn't come though.

Feels a bit selfish to me, to just receive pleasure and get off without giving in return anyway. I like the idea of coming in a woman's mouth after she's had her fill of orgasms first though. Just wish I could do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too find it pretty impossible to cum through a BJ. Sure if I am close through sex and I get sucked I will cum, but straight oral just doesnt do it. think I can count on two fingers the times in my life I have come through oral alone.

dont know if its because I am cut and lost some sensitivity or something else

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By *reenonionsMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

It's happened to me once and it took her over 45 mins before I got there.

I cum heavily and she nearly choked but hell, the earth moved!!!

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