FabSwingers.com forum: What’s wrong with some people

By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have your expectations and they have theirs. Nobody is obliged to dance to someone elses tune.

I always meet for social only first. Most of my meets were without exchanging face pics first. Whatever makes everyone comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

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By *rindiMan
over a year ago

chester

Our profile pics nor public photos show our faces however if after a couple of messages its requested we are happy to provide it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work....."

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Just because I choose not to show my face is my choice and if you're not comfortable with that, there's others who happily do so but I do have reasons why I don't show my face and I can't see how it's affected me adversely

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By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

So far like we see most people have approach not to show face.

From other hand how you recognise people when you meet?

How many people not showed on meet then?or passed meet even not sending message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

My face is on my profile but as I tend to meet people only in the club scene so people have met me already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude..."

You sure about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far like we see most people have approach not to show face.

From other hand how you recognise people when you meet?

How many people not showed on meet then?or passed meet even not sending message?"

It's the guys who don't show up whether they show their face or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

You sure about that? "

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work....."

This. We wouldn’t meet without exchanging face pics and verifying them ourselves first. Probably why we've never been messed around yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

You sure about that?

Touché "

There you go. Occasionally I do wear a dressing gown but generally I'm recognised without sending my face pictures to random people

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna"

You do what works for you.

Others will do what works for them.

No problem

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude..."

I've had 3 social meets where I've not seen the person's face before. 1 of the socials we realised we'd not seen each other's faces 10 minutes before the meet time.

In each case we'd chatted for some time beforehand.

How did I recognise them? Easy, they were sitting/standing exactly where they said they'd be, wearing exactly what they said they'd be wearing.

Having said that, I suspect it's more important for a single woman to see a face beforehand, for safety reasons if nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

I've had 3 social meets where I've not seen the person's face before. 1 of the socials we realised we'd not seen each other's faces 10 minutes before the meet time.

In each case we'd chatted for some time beforehand.

How did I recognise them? Easy, they were sitting/standing exactly where they said they'd be, wearing exactly what they said they'd be wearing.

Having said that, I suspect it's more important for a single woman to see a face beforehand, for safety reasons if nothing else."

Sounds exactly right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

I've had 3 social meets where I've not seen the person's face before. 1 of the socials we realised we'd not seen each other's faces 10 minutes before the meet time.

In each case we'd chatted for some time beforehand.

How did I recognise them? Easy, they were sitting/standing exactly where they said they'd be, wearing exactly what they said they'd be wearing.

Having said that, I suspect it's more important for a single woman to see a face beforehand, for safety reasons if nothing else."

Chatting to someone without seeing a face pic or meeting someone without seeing a face pic is a concept lost to youth......

It’s like asking a 25 year old to write a check or use a rotary phone....

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

I've had 3 social meets where I've not seen the person's face before. 1 of the socials we realised we'd not seen each other's faces 10 minutes before the meet time.

In each case we'd chatted for some time beforehand.

How did I recognise them? Easy, they were sitting/standing exactly where they said they'd be, wearing exactly what they said they'd be wearing.

Having said that, I suspect it's more important for a single woman to see a face beforehand, for safety reasons if nothing else.

Chatting to someone without seeing a face pic or meeting someone without seeing a face pic is a concept lost to youth......

It’s like asking a 25 year old to write a check or use a rotary phone...."

Very true. There's a YouTube clip of parents giving their kids and old rotary phone and asking them to make a call. They've got no idea. It's very amusing.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I had a guy say "hey don't you recognise me from fab" 1 evening at work....so I replied sorry no.....he then whipped his cock out, spun around and said proudly "what about now".....not realising there was many people (luckily all adults as it was around 3am) stood around.....I still had no clue and he's never made himself known and he was so embarrassed at the cheer he got he couldn't run away quick enough

Face pics do make for easy identification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say on my profile that I need to see a face picture, and I'll tell them that in a message. If they're not going to do that then they can do one. I am speaking to a couple at the moment about a future meet, not seen a face pic yet but made it clear I will need to see this if we are to meet - and if I don't like what I see at that time, it's not my fault if I don't like what I see

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only ever meet people that we have met via arranged group socials .It filters out the fakes from the genuine people and there are no surprises.We find this works for us ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No face pic no meet for me, but it states that in my profile so if someone doesnt want to send one, they can save their energy and not message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t entertain it personally - if you can’t trust me with a picture of your face (baring in mind, most people will give you a fake name ANYWAY)

Then why would I want to be in a room naked with you?... can’t be so uptight

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna"

I always get a voice call, video call and face pictures before a meeting. If they say no then I do not do the meet.

You are entitled to see who you are meeting. Common sense. May be they don't have to send pictures but can do a video call

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Face photos for me are exchanged on the day of the meet once we have connected and organised a meeting. Each to their own rules no problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree op. I've turned 2 people down on face pics, and someone has turned me down on my ugly mug too. You need to see their face, we all aren't for everyone.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"You have your expectations and they have theirs. Nobody is obliged to dance to someone elses tune.

I always meet for social only first. Most of my meets were without exchanging face pics first. Whatever makes everyone comfortable."

Exactly. Fab is many things to many people. Let folk use it as they want, and if their profile doesn't meet your expectations simply move on.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

.....and interestingly, other than your tiny avatar, there isn't a clear face pick of either of you on your profile, OP.

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By *othin 2 proveCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces..................Some people on here (as in us) may have quite a busy social life and run businesses,we get daily requests for face pics but know we only send face pics if we are really interested. It just may save some future embarressment for us it's nothing underhand or sneaky.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna"

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

Not always. I don't because I don't want to be accosted in the street as I may be in company with people that are not aware of my fab life especially siblings etc.

Point taken..... Now I have never done the blind date thing.... So how do you recognize the person you’re meeting without a face picture?

I’m sure you don’t show up to meeting nude...

You sure about that? "

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna"

Just pass them on by?

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By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

".....and interestingly, other than your tiny avatar, there isn't a clear face pick of either of you on your profile, OP."

If someone ask us we provide and maybe we have in our friends gallery,simple.

We not saying put on public profile but be ready show in private messages

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We had a glory hole meeting advertised. We had a chap insisting in face pics.

. That's the point of a GH, annon sex. Needless to say he didn't get his pics, and he didn't get a meet.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I think they’re might be guys on here who would meet without a pic, some come across as pretty desperate and it can be hard on here for some guys ..

But I’d never meet without a face pic .. I’d rather see a face pic than the soft porn pics ..

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By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Thanks all for sharing their point of view.

Looks like everybody have own approach and we need to try balance between them.

Everyone like different things,one is up to face,one up to body and another up to cock/pussy only.

Thank you all again

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Thanks all for sharing their point of view.

Looks like everybody have own approach and we need to try balance between them.

Everyone like different things,one is up to face,one up to body and another up to cock/pussy only.

Thank you all again

lol, everyone's different is what you've found I'm sure

Do your own thing at all times, you'll find it less exasperating in the long run

Discretion is a big thing for a lot of people in the swinging world so you can't really blame people for taking all the precautions they feel they need to

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Ive had a couple of meets where I haven't seen a face pic first. But it is why I do a social meet first anyhow.

I also won't show a face pic when first chatting to someone but if we chat for a while and get on then I will. I also don't ask for face pics as I find it happens anyhow if ye get on that you do exchange pics.

Also recently seeing a there are quite a few people on here now showing other peoples face pics etc off on other sites. For that reason alone I now am a lot more wary about who I share pics with.Anyone who gets pushy about it can jog on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We send face pictures once we build a rapport, can't say we would meet anyone for a social or other without a picture.

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By *eeds Horny BuggerMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Obviously everyone has different ways of arranging meetings and some have no problem sending a face picture. I get some people do like to keep there swinging background secret, possibly from work or families. Think just got to accept that really. You can always send a message on fab with a face picture and tick option for it to be removed when other person has seen it tho

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

I keep face pics on my profile, every message I send, has a face pic, I'm proud of who I am, I don't see fab as my "dirty little secret". I find being upfront and honest the best policy

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Sometimes i keep my face sometimes the legs depends the weather and the moods

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Sorry i forgot , sometimes my breast also

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Sorry i forgot , sometimes my breast also

Oops !

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I’m wondering what is wrong with some people here.

When we chat we always expect to see faces cause for us this is main thing building attraction,not body but face( where is fun when you need to use maccies bag on head ??)

But.. seems like most people here do civil service,professional jobs etc and not want show faces.

How come do they expect meet even for social??

Is it blind date or what??

What is your approach to this matter dear users?

Anna"

We don't show our faces to the world on here but if we have a proper conversation, especially if it has the potential of us meeting, then we would share face photos ASAP. A face we're not attracted to is a deal-breaker (for intimacy anyway, not for just chatting) so we get that bit done as early as possible so we know if there's any point in carrying on.

Our rule is if we contact somebody then we go first and if somebody contacts us they go first. If somebody doesn't trust us enough with a face photo it's unlikely to go anywhere so we'd drop the whole thing. If somebody won't share a photo after they initiated contact we would consider that unreasonable and we wouldn't go further.

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By *unandlaughter69Couple
over a year ago

Boston

This is a massive site, just move on and find someone else, it really is that simple

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"I keep face pics on my profile, every message I send, has a face pic, I'm proud of who I am, I don't see fab as my "dirty little secret". I find being upfront and honest the best policy

Ah see, that's all part of the excitement for some couples James lol

We like clubs as it's your own wee world to escape to,

nobody else's in your circle of family and friends, just yours together

And... If it wasn't clandestine, would it be half as much fun lol

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By *ature friendly coupleCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We would never meet without seeing a pic first and it saves a lot of messing about if you then find your not attracted to them..if they wont show pics then it doesnt go any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anything, being open about my sexuality and my face on my profile is part of the allure of this place for me. And if that gets me in trouble in my daily profession, well fuck it. Probably not a company I would want to stay in anyway in that case considering they would be massive hypocrites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a glory hole meeting advertised. We had a chap insisting in face pics.

. That's the point of a GH, annon sex. Needless to say he didn't get his pics, and he didn't get a meet. "

amazing! Should have sent him a picture of plywood with a smiley drawn on it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Our profile pics nor public photos show our faces however if after a couple of messages its requested we are happy to provide it. "

This.

We also tend to share face pics that are already on the web, fb etc, you need to exercise a little caution and discretion sharing face pics on a sex site, you cant know for sure someone is legit and we all have family, neighbours, work colleagues etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our profile pics nor public photos show our faces however if after a couple of messages its requested we are happy to provide it.

This.

Exactly

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

There are that many fakes, why leave yourself vulnerable to nut jobs

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work....."

(we hide our faces because someone once tried to bl**kmail us said he would show our pics to our kids.) we do have them in private though.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

(we hide our faces because someone once tried to bl**kmail us said he would show our pics to our kids.) we do have them in private though.

Wow, there's some lowlifes about. Fortunately my son's grown up, and would just say "tell me something I don't know"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

(we hide our faces because someone once tried to bl**kmail us said he would show our pics to our kids.) we do have them in private though.

Wow, there's some lowlifes about. Fortunately my son's grown up, and would just say "tell me something I don't know"

You're probably fortunate but many can't and aren't in your position. Yeah, you're happy to have your picture on your profile but you obviously don't require discretion.

However, I do tell guys and couples that the position and it hasn't done me any harm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who don’t want to show you face pics before agreeing to a meeting , are hiding their face for a reason.... and it has nothing to do with work.....

(we hide our faces because someone once tried to bl**kmail us said he would show our pics to our kids.) we do have them in private though.

Wow, there's some lowlifes about. Fortunately my son's grown up, and would just say "tell me something I don't know"

You're probably fortunate but many can't and aren't in your position. Yeah, you're happy to have your picture on your profile but you obviously don't require discretion.

However, I do tell guys and couples that the position and it hasn't done me any harm "

Honest question...... How many times were you disappointed on a blind meet compared to pleasantly surprised?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has got to be a level of attraction otherwise whats the point. We would never consider meeting someone without a face pic

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