FabSwingers.com forum: Polyamory

By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands Based But Travel

I understand that this isnt what "swinging" really is.

But are there any couples out there that are open to the idea.

Ive always been interested in wanting to get to know a couple as friends and I have always been open to the idea of getting into this kind of relationship.

And yes this is coming from the single guy perspective lol. But im genuine about the idea

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We have been talking about this, we'd be open to a relationship with a third person that goes beyond sex, but they'd have to be something else to date both of us, intelligent and into a combination of the things we both like, it'd be incredibly difficult to find someone with the right personality but we're intrigued by the concept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are partial polyamorous and we use the word partial as we wouldn't go as far as the "moving in together" bit "yet" as we have never found anyone we would feel comfortable enough with to take that next step.

We have experimented in all sorts of ways within the poly scene and it can be lots of fun as long as you're totally honest with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy with a permanent and very close FWB or even boyfriend/girlfriend in addition to my husband. But we'd not go to full ploy/triad, too complicated for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive always been interested in wanting to get to know a couple as friends and I have always been open to the idea of getting into this kind of relationship."

I've had a lifelong desire for this type of dynamic and I've experienced it a couple of times but only for a few months' stretch, I can't maintain it. The reality of it is that a triad requires the fine-tuning and balancing out of four different relationships. It's a lot of work, esp. if the people involved are working through issues or when there are more partners in the wider picture.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

We have semi permanent FBs couples and singles, some we have sex with , some we go clubbing with and just get d*unk and play about, some we do naked hot tub and drinks and some we do naked head banging with .....

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Not really for us.

But if its fits for you then go for it we say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive always been interested in wanting to get to know a couple as friends and I have always been open to the idea of getting into this kind of relationship.

That's always what makes me wonder about poly relationships...the work that's involved in maintaining it and I don't know how people can fit that in around work, friends, family and kids

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By *oxychick35Couple
over a year ago

thornaby

We have a girlfriend been a 3sum for 5 yrs now she doesn’t live with us but stays most weekends and we club party holiday as a 3 works great for us

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester

We are extremely lucky as we have evolved into this form of special relationship. It was never our original intention, we were simply so lucky to have developed an extremely deep and trusting friendship. Neither of us have absolutely any qualms with her spending a couple of date nights with her "friend" in a nice hotel etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive always been interested in wanting to get to know a couple as friends and I have always been open to the idea of getting into this kind of relationship.

That's always what makes me wonder about poly relationships...the work that's involved in maintaining it and I don't know how people can fit that in around work, friends, family and kids"

This is entirely a sidenote - but poly relationships are not demanding in the exact same way or level as mono relationships are. When someone says they have an unusual amount of partners - they don't have a set of obligations that is multiplied by said number, each relationship can be something entirely different. I think to a mono-minded person a lot of poly relationships would seem to be part-time. Also "extra" partners can be part of friends&family life, they are in your life, they don't have to fit around your life. But joining an established couple is a different level of intricate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's always what makes me wonder about poly relationships...the work that's involved in maintaining it and I don't know how people can fit that in around work, friends, family and kids"

It's not always hard work maintaining it, sometimes it just comes as natural as a none poly relationship

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By *elsh.couple1Couple
over a year ago

Swansea/neath

We've been talking about this a lot.

We would really love to find another female to join us within our relationship.

So hard to find females who are interested in this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been talking about this a lot.

We would really love to find another female to join us within our relationship.

So hard to find females who are interested in this.

Are you looking for the female to be romantically/intimately involved with you both, just male or just female? Xx

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By *elsh.couple1Couple
over a year ago

Swansea/neath

We would possibly be looking at both equal. But depending on the other person what route they were happy with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would possibly be looking at both equal. But depending on the other person what route they were happy with. "

I'd be happy to chat if you were interested? No pressure.. X

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Very interested in this as a relationship philosophy. True that it's different from swinging, but I believe that a lot of the modern day poly movement evolved out of the swinger LS, as well as the free love movement from the 60s.

I've come to believe that as animals our natural, default state is one of non-monogamy / polyamory (simply being able to love multiple people simultaneously)... and that monogamy is a practice, a dicipline we (ofen unconsciously) choose as our life / relationship model in modern, day-to-day living. Not saying one it better than the other, all relationship styles and models are valid, of course.

I've been listening to podcasts and reading the literature (Sex at Dawn, currently reading The Ethical Slut), and I'm definitely intrigued by the notion of being able to explore my wants, needs and desires outside my marriage - ethically, of course! Having FBs/FWBs, swinging and kink partners to explore and have fun with would be a dream come true. Not sure about having serious girlfriends or becoming a triad/thruple or anything... but with an open mind (and an open marriage to match), who knows what the future could hold?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been talking about this, we'd be open to a relationship with a third person that goes beyond sex, but they'd have to be something else to date both of us, intelligent and into a combination of the things we both like, it'd be incredibly difficult to find someone with the right personality but we're intrigued by the concept "

Very difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we are looking for the last two years xx

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We've had very close friendship with a couple of guys.

Meet socially, no sex, no banter etc then at the other end of the spectrum been on holiday together and lived as a family sharing everything whilst together.

A really interesting concept, one we'd like to explore but as has been said before, rather difficult finding someone totally on our wavelength and completely genuine in what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way a poly relationship will work is if 3 people met and dated at the same time......

Being the third person added to a relationship comes with many ground rules established by the couple that you as a third must follow for this to work.....

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By *aughtydante OP Man
over a year ago

Midlands Based But Travel

"I'd be happy with a permanent and very close FWB or even boyfriend/girlfriend in addition to my husband. But we'd not go to full ploy/triad, too complicated for us."

I think very close FWB or title of boyfriend in the relationship would interest me. Dont think i would go as far as living together etc

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

We are each poly. However we don't have additional relationships with the same person. I can have additional relationships and so does he.

Having tried a few situations each relationship being independant is easier for us it allows things to evolve more naturally.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

This is a concept I have had thoughts about and feel it would fit my personality as I see it as not just an intimate connection with two other people but a close friendship as well.

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By *eandCoCouple
over a year ago

Bourne

We would love to meet a poly bi female to join us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the sort of relationship that interests me. No idea where to begin though

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Grrrrrrrr

Can't stop singing What's the story in Balamory? Wouldn't you like to know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Grrrrrrrr

Can't stop singing What's the story in Balamory? Wouldn't you like to know? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're still in lockdown cause in Leicester, we really wish we could of been in lockdown with a 3rd person... how much fun we could of had!

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"This is the sort of relationship that interests me. No idea where to begin though"

What do you know about it so far? There's plenty on online info and resources to research, from YouTube videos, podcasts, books to read, you could try searching for nearby poly groups, etc.

Good luck on your quest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is the sort of relationship that interests me. No idea where to begin though

What do you know about it so far? There's plenty on online info and resources to research, from YouTube videos, podcasts, books to read, you could try searching for nearby poly groups, etc.

Good luck on your quest!

I know a bit, just never figured out the meeting like minded individuals!

And thanks!

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