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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why do people do all the chasing and when you finally agree to meet they dissappear! What's the point? now i'm left here alone frustrated and horny. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one of lifes minor frustrations unfortunately

always seems worse when ur balls are full !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to happen a lot unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess because they achieved what they wanted. They got chased and succeeded!

Very frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess because they achieved what they wanted. They got chased and succeeded!

Very frustrating. "

Yeah but how about the ones that do the chasing, ask for a meet then dont turn up?

What's that about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i was the one getting chased, thats why i'm so pissed off !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was the one getting chased, thats why i'm so pissed off !"

you obviously weren't in a position to meet before they finished their wank

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Tons of reasons, including other commitments, maybe they even got a better meet. Most of this is inexcusable, and just reeks of people being disrespectful.

As other threads show, people have families, jobs, partners etc, and these all have an influence upon how people can meet, sometimes even communicate.

What's worse is when someone isn't even told that they're being stood up - and we've all heard of this on here.

Respect needs to be improved upon for a lot of people, and communication skills would help too.

Sorry you've been let down. There are others who'll likely help you out though. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess because they achieved what they wanted. They got chased and succeeded!

Very frustrating.

Yeah but how about the ones that do the chasing, ask for a meet then dont turn up?

What's that about? "

same probably just the other way around! They get satisfaction in chasing and knowing that they've got the guy/girl. That's all they need and they're happy just knowing that they could have....

Just a theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess because they achieved what they wanted. They got chased and succeeded!

Very frustrating.

Yeah but how about the ones that do the chasing, ask for a meet then dont turn up?

What's that about?

same probably just the other way around! They get satisfaction in chasing and knowing that they've got the guy/girl. That's all they need and they're happy just knowing that they could have....

Just a theory"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How sure were you that they were genuine from the start?

I'm always a bit concerned when an unsolicited mail arrives!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant. "

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the more rushed the meets, the more likely they won't show up. So if you really want to be sure, go on cam to verify they who they are, talk to them on the phone beforehand.

Have to say though, I arranged a coffee meet yesterday afternoon with someone who's new, not verified and all. For some reason I didn't even think of cam/phone call. It was when I left the house that I realised "OMFG, we didn't even exchange phone numbers! What am I like???" I expected a no show, but oh behold, there he was, on time, smiling at me. Phew!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think "

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do? "

Block 'em and move on to pastures new dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do? "

Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

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That's where people go wrong they don't get it in writing before hand (sorry i know it's a typo but couln't help meself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

Block 'em and move on to pastures new dude. "

Done that and felt better for it!!

Onwards and hopefully upwards!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets "

Done just that and have been invited to someones place, been there, had the pleasure and got invited back!! Got another invite and meet for later this week. Proves not all on Fab are timewasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets

Done just that and have been invited to someones place, been there, had the pleasure and got invited back!! Got another invite and meet for later this week. Proves not all on Fab are timewasters! "

Showing off now lol hehehhehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets

Done just that and have been invited to someones place, been there, had the pleasure and got invited back!! Got another invite and meet for later this week. Proves not all on Fab are timewasters!

Showing off now lol hehehhehe"

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do people do all the chasing and when you finally agree to meet they dissappear! What's the point? now i'm left here alone frustrated and horny. LOL "

yes it's frustrating and soooo pointless. pop out to a club and cure the frustration.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

some play silly games

rise above it and you will have fun on here.

good luck for the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some play silly games

rise above it and you will have fun on here.

good luck for the future"

Been there, done it and got the pleasure!! Cheers m8

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

seriously, i dont ever think ive been messaged by a time waster. Well not one ive replied back to. I use a method of sorting the wheat from the chaff. Im sure by %, i will get one one day or a no show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do? "

how did you go on after them points in arranging everything? if its down to yourself then maybe its the volume of messages or stuff u sent them after making the arrangement which put them off

just if all 3 you spoke to them on the phone it would seem strange that all 3 wouldnt work out,

not saying it is you, just trying to give you ideas where to look incase it was yourself, like i say 3 meets with so much contact is strange for not one to work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets "

no, if they arrange to come to your house then they still have to come to your house and show though lol, so still can no show haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant.

strange most people make excuses or its obvious they arnt coming by lack of contract,

only one thing though is consistant in all 3 instances and thats yourself, maybe you could of done things differently or acted differently and some or all of them would of happened.

bad lucks one thing, but constant bad luck you got to look to yourself i think

Fair points but spoke to them all via msn and on the phone. When spoken to on the phone all seemed genuine and wanting to meet. So, what else to do?

how did you go on after them points in arranging everything? if its down to yourself then maybe its the volume of messages or stuff u sent them after making the arrangement which put them off

just if all 3 you spoke to them on the phone it would seem strange that all 3 wouldnt work out,

not saying it is you, just trying to give you ideas where to look incase it was yourself, like i say 3 meets with so much contact is strange for not one to work out"

Strange indeed, but never mind, time to move on and carry on meets with some of the very genuine people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

plenty about mate, i get people arrange stuff, usuaully last minute that dont happen, its just part and parcel of the game.

good ya getting some fun, they will always be let downs.

usually most have decentcy though to cancel/make excuses, just dont go to meet someone somewhere unless they in contact not long before then u know its legit still

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics


"Was contacted by 3 people in same week and I made arrangements with all 3 to meet up - on separate nights I hasten to add!! - and none showed up, none of them called to say why and none have been in touch since. All 3 are members on this site. I won't name and shame in case they've made arrangements with others on here and kept them. If they can't show up for whatever reason, or even bottled out, a quick phone call or email or private message on FAB would be perfectly acceptable. Just to not turn up is rude and ignorant. "

You were set up. You have annoyed somebody, somehow and this is their revenge. For a single guy to be contacted by 3 people, all want to meet up in the same week and then all not show....too much of a coincidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Try arranging meets with couples and singles who can accommodate(and like to accommodate), that way the only possible no show would be yourself. You seem to be getting enough interest so will have no problems finding such meets

no, if they arrange to come to your house then they still have to come to your house and show though lol, so still can no show haha

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You missed my point or I didn't explain myself properly. What I was getting at was don't arrange meets at your place, instead seek out couples who accom and arrange meets at their place. This way the only way to get let down is by not showing up yourself......or them hiding behind the sofa, pretending not to be in, after they got a proper look at you coming to their front door

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


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or them hiding behind the sofa, pretending not to be in, after they got a proper look at you coming to their front door "

There's been a few posts on here about poor people driving hours to meet people at their houses to find them gone out/hiding/moved away. So not entirely fool proof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for once when you get someone mailing you put them on the spot.

grill them and tell them you think they are just a pic collector if they ask for one and dont have any on there profile.

tell them you think they are a time waster until you meet.

and if you get a pic from them say it isnt them.

if they get the huff doesnt matter, you'll get other offers from more time wasters lol.

stuff em.dont worry about them.

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