FabSwingers.com forum: Flattery

By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I struggle to give out compliments but when I do, I sincerely genuinely mean it.

How important and often should we as sexual partners give out compliments to eachother?

Part of the initial flirting stage,is it good to dish out compliments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to give out compliments but when I do, I sincerely genuinely mean it.

How important and often should we as sexual partners give out compliments to eachother?

Part of the initial flirting stage,is it good to dish out compliments?

Not just the initial bit in my experience

Throughout the whole relationship (friends or otherwise)

We all need a lift and to hear a lil positivity in life.

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By *anny197097Man
over a year ago

knob Creek

Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

I agree with this completely...

As a curvier, bbw, plus size whatever you want to call me lady, I get some messages full of compliments on my figure but these are also the sort of people that wouldn't take one look at me in a pub or on a dating site.

Although I will be some people's cup of tea, I tend to take all compliments with a large pinch of salt.

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By *anny197097Man
over a year ago

knob Creek

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

I agree with this completely...

Although I will be some people's cup of tea, I tend to take all compliments with a large pinch of salt. "

That’s my point exactly.,

It saddens me because I feel ladies come on here and sometimes believe the hype, which is false and I find that really dishonest..

Because once the guys had his shag they won’t see him again.. and if he saw you out I doubt he’d admit to even knowing you to his mates .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

I agree with this completely...

Although I will be some people's cup of tea, I tend to take all compliments with a large pinch of salt.

That’s my point exactly.,

It saddens me because I feel ladies come on here and sometimes believe the hype, which is false and I find that really dishonest..

Because once the guys had his shag they won’t see him again.. and if he saw you out I doubt he’d admit to even knowing you to his mates ."

It is so disheartening.

I was talking to a Fab friend last night about the difficulty of finding properly genuine people that there's an attraction too. I only reply to very few messages compared to what I receive in a week and even then, things might not work out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

Agree, and I see quite a few guys like this on this forum too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I struggle to give out compliments but when I do, I sincerely genuinely mean it.

How important and often should we as sexual partners give out compliments to eachother?

Part of the initial flirting stage,is it good to dish out compliments?

See I don’t struggle to give them out where they’re due. Any compliments are genuine. Sadly I struggle to initially connect to that person (but that’s another issue) and it’s not always good to open with a compliment in the environment on here.

Fab can sometimes be quite toxic in that regard, and can taint the view of perception of other users who are trying to be nice.

Example, if, out of the blue, I saw a picture on my updates feed of a pair of great legs or a set of underwear that makes a lady look good. I might message and tell them as such, but that could easily be seen as coming on to strong and result in getting blocked by somebody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flattery is so much more than insincere fickle compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we compliment and flatter each other daily - sometimes subtly and gently in a word or gesture, sometimes in a jokingly OTT way. It's important to us to let each other know...things like that can slide away from you so easily.

Flattery on here is a whole other kettle of fish. We don't give compliments lightly and if we do it will be sincere. There's no chance of me getting carried away and actually believing even a portion of what I'm fed on here. I (Mrs) could go out every night of the week dolled up to the nines for 3 months solid IRL and not even get a second glance so I take attention and flattery on Fab with a huge pinch of salt

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes, for the first few weeks on here I thought I was one of the sexiest Tgirls on here. However over time I’ve realised those compliments may not be totally genuine.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

"I struggle to give out compliments but when I do, I sincerely genuinely mean it.

How important and often should we as sexual partners give out compliments to eachother?

Part of the initial flirting stage,is it good to dish out compliments?

I think it should be every day. Keep the spark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely give a guy a compliment when it’s due on here & mean it but the guys that give me compliments I find very hard to believe & also knows men will say anything to get there leg over to

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Most of the time on fab it seems to consist of guys telling women whose face they can’t see that they are beautiful. All pretty cringe making.

When we’re out, we absolutely will give specific genuine complements to guys and girls, all part of a fun flirty night.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I pay a lot of compliments on here. Sometimes it's about pics that I find pleasing, sometimes it'll be about something I've read on the forum, sometimes it's just that their profile has made me smile. I sent one this morning to tell someone their user name made me laugh and it was a clever pun.

I'm the same in real life - I'm quicker to compliment than I am to criticise.

99% of the compliments I pay are to people I have no intention of meeting. They're outside my age group, or we're looking for very different things. To me that's a compliment, not flattery.

Where I find flattery false and jarring on here is when someone is using compliments to get into my knickers. I'm perfectly aware of how I look thanks, and no amount of ridiculous overblown flattery will make me think better of someone (quite the opposite).

It must work for some, boost their ego or whatever, and more power to them. I'm not here for validation or for an ego-boost. Flattery just makes me feel uncomfortable, that someone would think I was daft enough to go along with it. If I ever find it swelling my head I've only to look in mirror to bring myself back to reality!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always give them out when they are needed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's very important to compliment others. It's always a boost to find out someone appreciates your pics or profile, even if it's nothing more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give out compliments but they always fall on deaf ears unfortunately but i always feel that when women say your fit etc i struggle to believe them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

false Flattery is creepy and yet so many use it instant turn of for me and messages with it in are just deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only give compliments if I mean them and I tend to choose carefully when I give them. Timing and content are really important if they are to help build self esteem rather than be taken with a pinch of salt. If you can fake sincerity you have got it made, I’ve not met anyone who can for long, besides ‘you can’t kid a kidder’.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

wow most people on fab call me fake or arrogant so definitely take that compliment. But definitely yes, I quickly realised people say anything to get a shag... however, I can't believe how difficult it is to get a shag here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it is very difficult more so if you are a single man

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"I struggle to give out compliments but when I do, I sincerely genuinely mean it.

How important and often should we as sexual partners give out compliments to eachother?

Part of the initial flirting stage,is it good to dish out compliments?

To your partner... Many and often I would say

Always happy to compliment fellow fabbers but they would be genuine rather than trite

I'm the opposite to you though, I struggle with receiving compliments more than giving them lol

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

I tell my wife every day how beautiful she is, how much I love her and how sexy she is...even if she doesn't feel sexy herself.

When we meet ladies or couples I always make a point to say how attractive they look, how nice their make up or clothes are. I say it sincerely because I mean what I say. EVERYONE had attractive facets to either their personality or looks etc. We should always compliment them, especially as they've made the effort to meet us, dress nicely, wear make up etc.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

It’s important on here as well as in real life to be genuine and sincere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tell my wife every day how beautiful she is, how much I love her and how sexy she is...even if she doesn't feel sexy herself.

That would make me feel very awkward

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

A sincere compliment should be received gracefully.

People seem to struggle with that in this country.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever you mean them.

I have a bunch of sexy friends, and just in case I haven't said it in a while and you're reading this...

You're gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give out compliments when they are true and deserved. I tend to compliment women more than men.

The false flattery is a turn off, I know many men who message me also wouldn't approach me in the real world, hasn't stopped me shagging the odd one though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that, I must say though I’ve always been drawn to bbw type women, in bars and clubs as well as here... I don’t really care what anyone thinks or anything. I do give compliments to ppls face too though I wouldn’t do it at random. Needs to be a connection first / something about the particular person imho x

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've always felt that if you're attractive you're attractive, there's no sliding scale. If you're so pretty i want to sleep with you, why on earth wouldn't I be proud to be seen with you?!

I do like to pay compliments to beautiful people, it certainly makes me happy on the rare occasion people have nice things to say about me and I like to make people happy if I have the power to do so. Does it make me insincere to be liberal with compliments? I certainly don't think so. I can see how some might feel that way, but just because person A blows me away doesn't mean that persona B, C, X and Z don't also drop my jaw. You're all beautiful, and you should all be told that you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know many men who message me also wouldn't approach me in the real world, hasn't stopped me shagging the odd one though

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me. I don't know why but just to keep myself feeling good about me. I need to to be told a compliment. I know I'm no where near the best looking man on here. But we all need to be flattered now and again. It doesn't happen often but when it does it really picks up my self-esteem.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I do think some people are sincere with their compliments but unfortunately because I know the majority are insincere then I don't tend to believe them.

A compliment from a woman means a lot more to me than from a man.

It is nice to give out compliments when they are really meant and that's when I do it.

Mrs x

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Sheffield, Brighton

I don't message that many people on here anyway, but if I do send a compliment then it's usually sincere. I don't say stuff just for the sake of hearing my own voice.

I had someone compliment me once. They said I'm "not bad". Pretty obvious fake flattery and just trying to get me into bed I thought.

I'd say my complimenting skills are excellent:

"Does my bum look big in this?" ... "No bigger than it usually does"

"I look a mess" ... "You look totally fine"

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Unfortunately on this site flattery is insincere and usually bulshit, guys tell ladies anything they want to hear for the sake of sex ..

Out in bars and pubs in the real world the same guys wouldn’t give these ladies the time of day..

It’s such a shame we act like this simply for sex ..

We’ll dine op for being one of the rare sincere people on here ..

Why are you here then if you wouldn't give fab women the time of day in a pub or bar?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I know many men who message me also wouldn't approach me in the real world, hasn't stopped me shagging the odd one though

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i don't get either.

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