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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

How come you don't have a couple profile? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just both use this x

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By *eykatCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

we have never done this but fantasised lots about doing it

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By *andy cane321Couple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Then swinging isn't for you

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

Then swinging isn't for you "

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

You'll struggle as very few people will believe you're a couple while you're using a single Male profile.

Your best bet is probably to attend a party or club - as we did - so you can be in control, have no pressure and even just watch if you wish.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Seems a lot of guys join here just to see what real swinging is all about . I am guessing your wife as no idea about your profile its your massive fantasy to watch her with another guy but she will not entertain it so you use fab to indulge your fantasy. Just accept she as said no and use porn and leave this site to genuine people who want to use it for what it was intendid for .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Just both use this x"

That's not an answer to why you as a couple would use a single male profile, which is what you were asked. So trying again, why use a single male profile if you are a couple?

I agree you will struggle. Single males have the hardest time on here and that's how you have chosen to present yourselves, if indeed there are two of you. I think you will find people are very doubtful there is a woman on the scene with you, and why shouldn't they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just both use this x

That's not an answer to why you as a couple would use a single male profile, which is what you were asked. So trying again, why use a single male profile if you are a couple?

I agree you will struggle. Single males have the hardest time on here and that's how you have chosen to present yourselves, if indeed there are two of you. I think you will find people are very doubtful there is a woman on the scene with you, and why shouldn't they? "

Absolutely this, unfortunately after being on here years we hardly believe a thing we see or hear so your profile definitely wouldn't cut the mustard, effort in sometimes reaps rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just both use this x"

Yeah right lol, pull the other one will you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

Then swinging isn't for you "

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full of sh*t

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Take it slowly. Social. Then maybe soft play. Plenty of time so don’t rush in xxx

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Wear blindfolds ?

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

It really shouldn't be a struggle. Watching your lady /man having the time of lives is a kink. I always knew that's what I wanted. If you both already have doubts, I don't think it's for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the green arrow, 8 weeks ago you was looking for a group meet saying you was single so congratulations on your wedding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love the green arrow, 8 weeks ago you was looking for a group meet saying you was single so congratulations on your wedding. "

rumbled

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Separate rooms

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Hatfield

I just don't see it - What you say is a big obstacle. As has been said before, maybe swinging is not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

Seems a lot of guys join here just to see what real swinging is all about . I am guessing your wife as no idea about your profile its your massive fantasy to watch her with another guy but she will not entertain it so you use fab to indulge your fantasy. Just accept she as said no and use porn and leave this site to genuine people who want to use it for what it was intendid for . "

At first I though ouch maybe harsh but then checked the green arrow and your right.

OP was single just 8 weeks ago and somehow met somebody and got married during lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did giggle...............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 11/07/20 12:56:51]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh balls I must read threads and green arrows alot more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging

INFORMAL

engage in group sex or swap sexual partners within a group, especially on a habitual basis.

Here is the dictionary definition OP.

Any use?

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

You obviously don’t know what swinging really means OP. I would also say that you’re not a couple on a single profile as genuine people don’t do that. I would agree with previous comments that you’re on here as a single because your gf won’t entertain the idea. So by being on here, behind her back, with sexual intentions makes you a cheat!! People like you grind my gears!!! If you’re not genuine get off the site and leave it to people who are genuine.

*Beryl now climbs down off her soap box**

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By *nB23Man
over a year ago

London

Hahahahaha poor OP. The couples in here definitely won't tolerate any hint of bs. Your comments have left me in stitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "
Why on earth would you entertain the idea of swinging if you think you would both struggle seeing the other with others ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

Seems a lot of guys join here just to see what real swinging is all about . I am guessing your wife as no idea about your profile its your massive fantasy to watch her with another guy but she will not entertain it so you use fab to indulge your fantasy. Just accept she as said no and use porn and leave this site to genuine people who want to use it for what it was intendid for . "

All right mystic meg, calm down.

Maybe his wife is scared of her pictures being nicked and posted all over the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You obviously don’t know what swinging really means OP. I would also say that you’re not a couple on a single profile as genuine people don’t do that. I would agree with previous comments that you’re on here as a single because your gf won’t entertain the idea. So by being on here, behind her back, with sexual intentions makes you a cheat!! People like you grind my gears!!! If you’re not genuine get off the site and leave it to people who are genuine.

*Beryl now climbs down off her soap box**"

Right, which one is mystic meg? Give the bloke a break. He is obviously new to this and maybe his wife is scared to just dive straight in and post herself all over a swinging site.

Why people feel the need to judge someone straightaway is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You obviously don’t know what swinging really means OP. I would also say that you’re not a couple on a single profile as genuine people don’t do that. I would agree with previous comments that you’re on here as a single because your gf won’t entertain the idea. So by being on here, behind her back, with sexual intentions makes you a cheat!! People like you grind my gears!!! If you’re not genuine get off the site and leave it to people who are genuine.

*Beryl now climbs down off her soap box**

Right, which one is mystic meg? Give the bloke a break. He is obviously new to this and maybe his wife is scared to just dive straight in and post herself all over a swinging site.

Why people feel the need to judge someone straightaway is beyond me."

I agree, it's hard to jump in and ask a question...

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Watching each other is the main thing for us.. well after the mind blowing sex following a swing meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You obviously don’t know what swinging really means OP. I would also say that you’re not a couple on a single profile as genuine people don’t do that. I would agree with previous comments that you’re on here as a single because your gf won’t entertain the idea. So by being on here, behind her back, with sexual intentions makes you a cheat!! People like you grind my gears!!! If you’re not genuine get off the site and leave it to people who are genuine.

*Beryl now climbs down off her soap box**

Right, which one is mystic meg? Give the bloke a break. He is obviously new to this and maybe his wife is scared to just dive straight in and post herself all over a swinging site.

Why people feel the need to judge someone straightaway is beyond me."

He was single 8 weeks ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx "

Try starting at a club (when they open) with voyeurism/exhibitionism and take it from there, you will soon know if its for you or not without any damage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'll struggle as very few people will believe you're a couple while you're using a single Male profile.

Your best bet is probably to attend a party or club - as we did - so you can be in control, have no pressure and even just watch if you wish. "

Well said..That is by far the best way to start.

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"Never swung before but the wife and I want to start, but both think we’ll struggle seeing each other with other people? Xxx any ideas ? Xxx

Try starting at a club (when they open) with voyeurism/exhibitionism and take it from there, you will soon know if its for you or not without any damage."

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth


"Just both use this x"

Interesting approach given the huge number of single male profiles you will be competing with. Its fairly common for a single male to use a couples profile to attempt to increase the chances of getting a meet, but a couple using a single male profile is basically decreasing their chances drastically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You obviously don’t know what swinging really means OP. I would also say that you’re not a couple on a single profile as genuine people don’t do that. I would agree with previous comments that you’re on here as a single because your gf won’t entertain the idea. So by being on here, behind her back, with sexual intentions makes you a cheat!! People like you grind my gears!!! If you’re not genuine get off the site and leave it to people who are genuine.

*Beryl now climbs down off her soap box**

Right, which one is mystic meg? Give the bloke a break. He is obviously new to this and maybe his wife is scared to just dive straight in and post herself all over a swinging site.

Why people feel the need to judge someone straightaway is beyond me.

He was single 8 weeks ago."

Because the green arrow to his previous posts shows he clearly is a bullshitter and that doesnt fly with most people on the forum and the scene.

New people who are honest from the start, who dont lie are embraced and welcomed into the forums. Over time they build up trust and a good reputation both online and in the real life swinging community via clubs, parties and events.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow a lot of hate and reading to much in to words, ok she’s not my wife she is someone that I’ve been seeing and our relationship is developing! Also she’s the one into bdsm and being degraded! I had this profile way befor we started anything and she’s fully aware of it and has also put comments on here, I can add pics proving she’s ok ? So please dont be so judgemental? And what I know I would struggle with is her sucking a cock or kissing anyone else, but could do a dp? X she’s very jealous and maybe would struggle watching me doing anything? X

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Wow a lot of hate and reading to much in to words, ok she’s not my wife she is someone that I’ve been seeing and our relationship is developing! Also she’s the one into bdsm and being degraded! I had this profile way befor we started anything and she’s fully aware of it and has also put comments on here, I can add pics proving she’s ok ? So please dont be so judgemental? And what I know I would struggle with is her sucking a cock or kissing anyone else, but could do a dp? X she’s very jealous and maybe would struggle watching me doing anything? X"

If you really want to do this then don't add her photos to your profile - just create a couple's profile. You will get virtually no interest on a single male's profile.

But from what you are saying about it being difficult for you both, I don't understand why you would want to be even considering this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow a lot of hate and reading to much in to words, ok she’s not my wife she is someone that I’ve been seeing and our relationship is developing! Also she’s the one into bdsm and being degraded! I had this profile way befor we started anything and she’s fully aware of it and has also put comments on here, I can add pics proving she’s ok ? So please dont be so judgemental? And what I know I would struggle with is her sucking a cock or kissing anyone else, but could do a dp? X she’s very jealous and maybe would struggle watching me doing anything? X

If you really want to do this then don't add her photos to your profile - just create a couple's profile. You will get virtually no interest on a single male's profile.

But from what you are saying about it being difficult for you both, I don't understand why you would want to be even considering this. "

Well she’s had a dp before with a toy and we’ve spoke about maybe a mmf but I said I may struggle then asked her about either a 4 way or ffm and she says she couldn’t see me with anyone so maybe it’s just to be left as a fantasy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow a lot of hate and reading to much in to words, ok she’s not my wife she is someone that I’ve been seeing and our relationship is developing! Also she’s the one into bdsm and being degraded! I had this profile way befor we started anything and she’s fully aware of it and has also put comments on here, I can add pics proving she’s ok ? So please dont be so judgemental? And what I know I would struggle with is her sucking a cock or kissing anyone else, but could do a dp? X she’s very jealous and maybe would struggle watching me doing anything? X"

It's not been judgemental.

You started a thread saying me and my wife now after been called on how you got married in just 8 weeks since been single by your admission on your previous threads and all during a pandemic lockdown.

Now your saying she is not your wife it's not just words, it's not just words it's lying cant you see that?

The little green arrow allows people to see your posting history it's how people who lie or change their stories ultimately get found out.

Back to your post please don't post her pictures on a single male profile.

If your serious and she is as well then set up a couples profile and both get photo verified together.

In answer to what your saying that you couldn't handle her kissing or sucking cock and she would be potentially very jealous of you then it does seem swinging isn't suitable for you both and that's ok it's not everyone.

Imagine say if you met another couple then one or both of you had a melt down or kicked off during play because you weren't in the right place for swinging. That wouldn't be fair on the other couple and worse it could potentially end up a dangerous situation.

As your relationship is only 8 weeks old I would focus on each for now anyway.

Good luck

KJ x

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