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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Other than the safe/unsafe sex debate does anyone else have ‘Non Negotiables’ when it comes to agreeing to a meet?

Height is one of mine - Shallow maybe but honest including ‘real life’ relationships. Men must be taller around 5’10 plus however Females I’m not bothered.

Age - I put 30 but I would much rather older 40+ when comes to men women however 25+ x

I feel bad having criteria but we like what we like maybe? Or am I really shallow so interesting to see if others have any...

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"

Other than the safe/unsafe sex debate does anyone else have ‘Non Negotiables’ when it comes to agreeing to a meet?

Height is one of mine - Shallow maybe but honest including ‘real life’ relationships. Men must be taller around 5’10 plus however Females I’m not bothered.

Age - I put 30 but I would much rather older 40+ when comes to men women however 25+ x

I feel bad having criteria but we like what we like maybe? Or am I really shallow so interesting to see if others have any..."

Whatever floats your boat imho x

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"

Other than the safe/unsafe sex debate does anyone else have ‘Non Negotiables’ when it comes to agreeing to a meet?

Height is one of mine - Shallow maybe but honest including ‘real life’ relationships. Men must be taller around 5’10 plus however Females I’m not bothered.

Age - I put 30 but I would much rather older 40+ when comes to men women however 25+ x

I feel bad having criteria but we like what we like maybe? Or am I really shallow so interesting to see if others have any...

Whatever floats your boat imho x"

Same as being in a Club tbh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Own hair, own teeth, not ugly or overweight. Literate. Engaging. Charismatic. I mean, I don't think it's wrong to have high standards.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

No point fucking if not attracted to other person

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

No. I base it on a person by person basis. Being a decent person is the clincher.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Safer sex yes.

But nah nothing else, don't believe in it. If it feels right, it feels right, I don't like to constrain myself on boxes.

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By *mmsiebeeCouple
over a year ago

Falkirk

each to their own.. Had experiences with what I consider my "ideal" and it's been shit, had experiences with the exact opposite and it's been amazing...

We as a couple find a mental attraction is much more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it if they have anything referencing 420.

If you want to do that I won’t judge you, it’s your choice likewise it’s my choice not to be anywhere near that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

Other than the safe/unsafe sex debate does anyone else have ‘Non Negotiables’ when it comes to agreeing to a meet?

Height is one of mine - Shallow maybe but honest including ‘real life’ relationships. Men must be taller around 5’10 plus however Females I’m not bothered.

Age - I put 30 but I would much rather older 40+ when comes to men women however 25+ x

I feel bad having criteria but we like what we like maybe? Or am I really shallow so interesting to see if others have any..."

why do you feel bad?

I see plenty of profiles stating that meets must fulfil certain criteria, we're here for fun and at base this is quite a shallow activity anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine:

- at least my height for men, doesn't matter much for females

- age wise- almost the same as OP, men preferably between 40 and 65

- distance- no more than an hour drive, unless we are meeting in a club.

Only those available in the evenings, or at weekends if they don't mind meeting with myself and my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it’s anyone with a English accent.......

There is nothing more off putting than hearing a person from the UK speak.....

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By *siancouplehantsCouple
over a year ago

K-PAX

Filming

We have put on our profile that all potential meets must be ok with being filmed but we do not allways adhere to it

and should remove it from our profile really.

But I cant help feeling a lot of timewasters and fakes,married men will run a mile when reading that so have left it there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they're only looking for HnH..no, thanks. Or if they say I must be shaved (face or down below). And obviously things like distance.

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It's more about the 'chemistry' for me, rather than physical attributes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk who only full swap.

Pushy people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it’s really the height thing that made me feel bad as someone was quite pushy asking why I didn’t want to meet them, I was honest and said height as I’m 5’7 they were 5’5 and was given a bit of a hard time about it...

I’m a bigger girl so understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand the chemistry over physical attraction but anything can b a non negotiable.

Racist or deviant ‘jokes’ - get tae fuck x

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I understand the chemistry over physical attraction but anything can b a non negotiable.

Racist or deviant ‘jokes’ - get tae fuck x"

Each to there own

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Didn’t mean deviant haha

Sexist*

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"Didn’t mean deviant haha

Sexist*"

Same applies

You are who you are...

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I understand the chemistry over physical attraction but anything can b a non negotiable.

Racist or deviant ‘jokes’ - get tae fuck x"

Clearly some types of people float people's boats more than others- being a racist isn't sexy, nor are a lot of seemingly acceptable male values and beliefs.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal


"I understand the chemistry over physical attraction but anything can b a non negotiable.

Racist or deviant ‘jokes’ - get tae fuck x

Clearly some types of people float people's boats more than others- being a racist isn't sexy, nor are a lot of seemingly acceptable male values and beliefs. "

I really do value your opinion

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 5ft9, good hygiene, not bald, pleasant personality, nice face and smile, under 50, bareback only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely no anal, no filming.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely no anal, no filming."

Filming/Pics a def no for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over 5ft9, good hygiene, not bald, pleasant personality, nice face and smile, under 50, bareback only."

Dam I am 5ft7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group stuff is a no for me. Any toilet sports is a no and drugs is a super no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age limit, i wouldn't want to meet anyone. my kids age eeekkkk. Obviously facial attraction has to be there, just being honest

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Filming

We have put on our profile that all potential meets must be ok with being filmed but we do not allways adhere to it

and should remove it from our profile really.

But I cant help feeling a lot of timewasters and fakes,married men will run a mile when reading that so have left it there"

Good idea

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By *unguy_4_uMan
over a year ago

Kettering

it looks as if you are a bald, fat bloke over 55 you are fucked (and I don't mean that in a literal way)

Fortunately I don't fit into those categories....!!

Personal Hygiene is key, I had to walk away from a meet once due to this (how do you politely say, sorry but you smell)

All about the personality for me and sexual attrcation

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