FabSwingers.com forum: stalkers in clubs

By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

Im not exactly moaning altho it was an uncomfortable evening but here is what happened and id like your opinions on how you would handle it or if its happened to you.

In chams last night (couples night) I was approached by a female of a couple who asked if she could touch my tummy which i found odd and refused then she came back and said i want to touch your boobs i think your lovely flattering as this was i wasnt attracted to her so turned her down she persisted until Sir stepped in and said we have said no she left us alone then for a little bit then every time we were anywhere for more than a few minutes they would come and stand on top of us. She even groped me once as i walked past her despite her telling me she wasnt gay or bi she seemed very keen. We managed to avoid them till the end of our time and i was in the shower while Sir packed up and her and her partner came and stood there wanking and playing with each other while i was in the shower despite me asking the to leave me alone i was then rescued by another couple who were coming to use showers. We did mention it to staff on way out but what else could i have done as we were leaving Sir stopped them from approaching us again it was relentless and worse than any single guys we have refused in there

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By *egs1770Couple
over a year ago

darlington

sounds like a good night ruined hope the staff do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should've reported them earlier, at the point of them groping you, not at the point of you leaving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very difficult to report unwanted advances in a club unless theyre aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being groped isn't offensive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being groped isn't offensive ?

Any unwanted physical sexual contact would be. Just coz in a club don't mean anyone can touch

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

After the first time you were made to feel uncomfortable, I would have said 'please don't do that, I am not interested.'

if they continued, I would have advised a staff member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I thought

I think the OP has a responsibility to other swingers to report the groping, especially after tell the groper to back off.

This persistent couple had ruined the OP's evening, how many other couples evening did they ruin ? Had it been reported earlier, perhaps the club may have known of other incidents by the same couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sir should have take better care of you.

He could have reported it to staff earlier, he could have told the person more firmly, he is a sir...

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"Sir should have take better care of you.

He could have reported it to staff earlier, he could have told the person more firmly, he is a sir... "
they waited until i was on my own im confident enough in the club to be left alone and am also suffering with a damaged ankle atthe moment so Sir would leave me to go get drinks to save me walking unnecessarily he took good care or me and if they approached when we were together he did step in but they waited till i was alone to really cross the line we did tell them no thanks also the staff were made aware of them and did comment they had noticed they were a weird couple and they would deal with them i didnt get anywhere near any staff until we left to say anything due to my ankle

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"sounds like a good night ruined hope the staff do something about it"

The staff are very good in there and did assure us they had clocked them as a very odd couple and would be keeping an eye on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have any issues with unwanted attention after I politely and assertively say no thanks once.

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"I never have any issues with unwanted attention after I politely and assertively say no thanks once.

we did that but they werent accepting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps I give up some kind of aura that shouts "don't mess with me" when I am in a club as a single fem!

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"Perhaps I give up some kind of aura that shouts "don't mess with me" when I am in a club as a single fem!

Maybe i need to perfect that then pearl i did tell her no politely at first then in the end told her to in no uncertain terms to do one but they were just over pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have experienced similar twice where people didn't listen to a polite not interested. Both times they were quite aggressively told to fuck off and asked which part of sorry I'm not interested did you fail to understand.

Arguably crossing the line to aggressive rather than assertive but I'd rather take the risk of being percieved in that way than take the risk of me or my partner feeling violated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely have reported to the staff after the groping incident. A word from the staff is usually enough to put people in their place.

Also if it was happening to other couple then the staff could deal with it.... never suffer in silence Xx

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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago

oldbury

"I would definitely have reported to the staff after the groping incident. A word from the staff is usually enough to put people in their place.

Also if it was happening to other couple then the staff could deal with it.... never suffer in silence Xx"

Thanks the groping happened about ten minutes before we reported it

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