FabSwingers.com forum: Popularity in clubs and FAB

By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Hey guys, Do you get the same amount of attention in clubs as you do on fab online? Or vice versa. If not, why you think that is? For example, someone may know how to take amazing photos but haven't got the similar confidence or personality to attract many people in clubs? Or they can't take good photos but they're very charismatic and chat to many people in clubs.

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good question we only do one place paradise swingers hotel in Blackpool i know where your coming from meeting in a real environment is totally different

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Considering single ladies and couples hey hundreds of messages a day on average, I think it's safe to say we all get considerably less attention in clubs than on Fab.

Funnily enough for confident, non-creepy single guys I wouldn't be surprised if they did better in person simply because they can have a conversation and not get lost in a sea of horrific dick pics.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I think we get more approaches online than in clubs. We're usually the ones to strike up a conversation at a club.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I do significantly better in clubs.

Firstly, I'm actually in the club; I get the impression that a lot of the single guys on here won't take that step.

Secondly, I'm invariably the tallest person present. It might not count for much, but I stand out in a person in a way I cannot on here.

Thirdly, in my local swingers club, I'm the only male with long hair. I know that counts against me for some, but fortunately a lot of people are more open-minded than that.

On here, I'm invisible; in the flesh, people see me, whether I like it or not.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We have always had fun in clubs.

Unfortunately, I the male, have dry sense of humour, which comes across well face to face.

In text, can be so misread. Which is a good filter in an odd way.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Hey guys, Do you get the same amount of attention in clubs as you do on fab online? Or vice versa. If not, why you think that is? For example, someone may know how to take amazing photos but haven't got the similar confidence or personality to attract many people in clubs? Or they can't take good photos but they're very charismatic and chat to many people in clubs.

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

The contrast between the attention I receive in Fab, to that when I've been in a club, couldn't be greater. I've often felt like someone threw Harry Potter's invisibility cloak over me, coupled to choosing the wrong night to be a single guy in a club

Meeting genuine people for actual fun through Fab, has never really been a problem for me, and while many of those meets have been one-offs, many have remained friends and been repeats

OP; you will have an amazing time in a club setting! I would advise you to take a shitty stick with you though.....

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

That poses a really interesting question.

Most of the time on fab I find the messages very disposable, I presume they are copy and paste and sent to everybody so I don't consider myself popular just one of many recipients of a message (apart from with my friends who I know in person) and do keep in touch, but it is a mutual friendship.

In clubs I ( usually but not always) feel and somewhat more popular, as I think if somebody comes to talk to me or we are having a conversation it is much more genuine.

I'm not sure if any of that makes sense on textbox but it does in my head.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Clubs are a more level playing field..

So everyone has the same chances of playing..

Although many people ( mainly couples) are there for the social side ..

Sometimes clubs have cliques going on and so you need to look out for those ..

And OP is perfectly correct about well taken pictures.. some pictures can take upto 5 stone of a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only been to 1 club but got absolutely no interest at all.. not a single person approached me (with the exception of a couple I'd planned to meet there). So maybe I'm uglier in person than my photos lol.

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By *oner HornCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've always had a good time in clubs, (particularly when we've been with others) but I'd say we fund the social side hard.

We're not natural extroverts, wouldn't strike up a conversation with strangers in a bar...so we have the same challenge in a club.

Having said that, we've had some fantastic anonymous sex. We've played with people in dark rooms and orgy rooms we wouldn't expect to find attractive and found they're fantastic lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally think face to face is so much better, I’ve seen pics of people via FAB n thought they’re not really my type, but completely opposite when met face to face, there is also the flip to that scenario where I’ve thought they were ok on FAB but didn’t click with them when met.

A single picture (or a few) on a screen doesn’t really portray someone’s character and mannerisms.

Try the club thing OP, it’s better than any virtual experience, in my opinion at least.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

I would say for me it’s about the same although I am actually quite shy in real life surprisingly

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

It’s similar. We’ve got filters on blocking Men (sorry Lads), in a club one half of us gets a lot of attention

Peoples profiles generally reflect their personality, so in a club you shouldn’t be too shocked at someone. Just remember most people put their best pics up, so go with realistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are definitely the best way to meet people.

Women and couples get swamped with dick pic messages and the nice messages that I send get lost, so basically there is no point, so I just stick to the clubs.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

I find that it's massively easier to meet face to face, in a club etc. But on fab it's quite difficult, for a single guy. Tbh, fabs addictive, and I love the competition, thrill of the chase etc, so I got a feeling, I'm always going to be on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some nights like that in clubs. Just depends what nights you go.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

About the same.

Generally we only ever play in clubs, and there I've never been disappointed whether its with other couples, a single guy or several guys. My only minor complaint is that there never seem to be enough single girls to play with.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say I am significantly more lucky in clubs than looking for couples and single ladies on fabs

I would say I have met maybe 10 people based on fan alone; where as clubs I have met easily 10’in 2 or 3 nights

My photos don’t help me and I chat more in real life

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Well we're not charismatic nor flamboyantly outgoing lol, but we've always had a really good night out when we've gone to clubs.

If anything folks are friendlier and easier to talk to than anywhere else as you've all got something in common by being in there in the first place

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you

WAY MORE attention in clubs than on here!

I’m practically anonymous here.

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By *etsplay68Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield

"That poses a really interesting question.

In clubs I ( usually but not always) feel and somewhat more popular, as I think if somebody comes to talk to me or we are having a conversation it is much more genuine.

I'm not sure if any of that makes sense on textbox but it does in my head."
if your a sociable person Clubs are fantastic as there is nothing like face to face interaction where as its more about pics and Veri's on here , love clubs hence why i'm heading to VA next Wed

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Mrs isn't short of attention in clubs or on fab.

Mr benefits from the clubs, although this may be because the females are generally what garner attention on fab.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

met all my verifications and friends in clubs... very rare I get a message from a stranger on here.. heard its different for females though and that they are blitzed with messages for meets

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I Red get bugger all attention on fab and very little in clubs, unless it's people we have met before. Dick gets far more in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think everyone gets more attention in clubs apart from the single girlies who constantly get both, maybe not always good but a form of attention x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never been to a club before so fascinated by how it all works compared to FAB on-line

I went to two clubs got very little attention & when i did it was just to make fun of me & i get no attention on here either so ive come to the conclusion its time to just take it all on the chin & give up

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its an interesting question.....

in a club I am going to have a blast whether i am playing or not, playing isn't the be all and end all for me so i suppose i come across as chilled and socialable (people will tell you i am far too laid back for me own good!) rather than some who come across as desperate

I suppose by going to a club (or a social) you are already standing out because people can see what you are like in person! I would like to think that i am on here exactly the way i am in person, but you do get a better sense for someone in person....

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I do seem to get more attention at socials and club that I attend than on Fabs via messages I am not the most photogenic and my pictures aren’t the best which maybe one of the reasons.One thing that has surprised me at times a lot of people recognise me from the forums and seem to think I come across quite well and generally quite positive which pleases me.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I'm only the most shy one in the clubs , they told me that's why i call the atention

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

It’s harder work on Fab if you want play it’s easier to get at clubs parties in our opinion

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Mrs isn't short of attention in clubs or on fab.

Mr benefits from the clubs, although this may be because the females are generally what garner attention on fab. "

A public pic on your profile of Dan might help him in here?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"It’s harder work on Fab if you want play it’s easier to get at clubs parties in our opinion "

Don't think is hard work on Fabs if someone wants to play at all the diference i would say is the atmosphere between both

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and socials are definitely our preferred options as you can get to see people in person and get an idea of any 'spark' between you.

Results are usually based on effort, so if you are outgoing and chat and interact with others then you will have a much better time than if you just sit or stand around expecting people to approach you.

From experience most people who complain about socials or clubs being 'crap' haven't put any effort in themselves but somehow expected others to be all over them.

Just our findings.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Clubs and socials are definitely our preferred options as you can get to see people in person and get an idea of any 'spark' between you.

From experience most people who complain about socials or clubs being 'crap' haven't put any effort in themselves but somehow expected others to be all over them.

Just our findings. "

Defenitly i agree with you and staff at clubs always are very friendly and always make everybody feel comfortable and welcoming i had that experience and alway recommend the clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs and socials are definitely our preferred options as you can get to see people in person and get an idea of any 'spark' between you.

From experience most people who complain about socials or clubs being 'crap' haven't put any effort in themselves but somehow expected others to be all over them.

Just our findings.

Defenitly i agree with you and staff at clubs always are very friendly and always make everybody feel comfortable and welcoming i had that experience and alway recommend the clubs "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've only been to a club once, and was more popular there as people actually talked to me!

But I was with a woman, so not sure if that counts

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"Well I've only been to a club once, and was more popular there as people actually talked to me!

But I was with a woman, so not sure if that counts

If you put that in the play scenario probably but otherwise couples or singles staff always make sure everyone feels comfortable and is welcome is my experience of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've only been to a club once, and was more popular there as people actually talked to me!

But I was with a woman, so not sure if that counts

If you put that in the play scenario probably but otherwise couples or singles staff always make sure everyone feels comfortable and is welcome is my experience of course

Yes, I got that impression - everyone at a club is friendly regardless of whether they want to play with you or not. Fab can be a lot tougher to make connections, depending on your approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have been to two clubs and got well more attention there. Felt easier to talk to people, you can use / read body language in a visual environment. And I don't mean walking round with viagra in my tank

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"About the same.

there's more opportunity to play with women here on fab?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I've only been to 1 club but got absolutely no interest at all.. not a single person approached me (with the exception of a couple I'd planned to meet there). So maybe I'm uglier in person than my photos lol."

or they too intimidated by your looks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It maybe the case, clubs I go to most people talk to the new people and, I definitely try and talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indeed I can't take a pic to save my life usually my eyes are closed not sure how it happens but 99% of the time it does so when I'm out I find it much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are definitely the best way to meet people. 99% of people are really friendly, up for a laugh.

I will definitely be going to the clubs when they open back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always seem to meet some nice people in clubs we find it hard work on the site

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"About the same.

there's more opportunity to play with women here on fab? "

Not really. Most play has been with the female half of a couple in clubs, or strangely with a vanilla friend who crossed over (see pics!).

The trouble with fab is that most single women are wary of being brought in as a plaything or as a voyeuristic fantasy for the male of the couple, whereas we see it as threeway enjoyment. In a club that problem doesn't seem as prevalent.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

As a single woman I obviously get lots of attention on here - at least 90% of it is from people that don't fit what I'm looking for or is the usual copy and paste stuff that everyone gets.

I rarely go to clubs, but I do get a lot of attention when I go - that may be my good looks and sparkling personality, or it may just be because I'm fresh meat. I don't go often enough to test that theory, but I'd hazard a guess that it's a bit of both.

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By *ovelock4Man
over a year ago

Croydon

Things for me are much easier in clubs than online. It’s so much easier to be yourself and make a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that I get similar in both situations to be honest. For a lot of the guys I feel that I only get any attention because I'm one of quite a small number of single women and they want to get their dick wet

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By *entcouple69Couple
over a year ago

London/Kent

If I’m honest, I don’t feel like I get much anywhere. The mr is always saying people look at me and what not but I simply don’t see it. I have fairly low confidence too which doesn’t help. That’s also a hindrance with us wanting to take the next step in a club and play with others!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"If I’m honest, I don’t feel like I get much anywhere. The mr is always saying people look at me and what not but I simply don’t see it. I have fairly low confidence too which doesn’t help. That’s also a hindrance with us wanting to take the next step in a club and play with others! "

I can imagine you need alot of confidence and charisma to do well in clubs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most on fab I definitely come across better in person... I can't take a decent picture of myself for poop lol

I haven't been to a club yet. As a lone wolf it's a little daunting first time around and I hope to make it to one soon enough so people can actually judge the real me away from here... Heck, I'd even settle for a cam meet nowadays lol

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've met more play partners in person than online. I tend to find it easier to guage attraction in person. It's not as easy to know if the spark is there just online.

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By *entcouple69Couple
over a year ago

London/Kent

I can imagine you need alot of confidence and charisma to do well in clubs? "

Absolutely. Personally, I (the Mrs), is more than happy to chat with people and what not but I’m not sure on what I’d need to do to take it to the next level so to speak. We’ll work it out one day I’m sure!

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