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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "You have a stunning figure, absolutely nothing to be self conscious about | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. " awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something | |||
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You have a stunning figure, absolutely nothing to be self conscious about"beauty is in the eye of the beholder... I don't rate it that's for sure  | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something " You can wear whatever you want at all in the main areas, then it's 'dress down' upstairs, but you can choose whatever you feel comfortable in, I have a variety depending how fat I feel that day!! But honestly, everyone feels the same, no one cares or is judging, clubs are probably the most self affirming places I've ever been Xx | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something " My only such experience is at Eureka. A lot of people just wear a towel, I have seen people go around butt-naked, others wear lingerie, some just dress normally for an evening out like jeans and a T-shirt. A nice dress would be absolutely fine. If you are unsure about a specific club just give them a call. I'm sure you will find you don't need to be concerned. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I'm the same but I love the atmosphere in clubs, I wear lingerie under a long cardigan. People gravitate to those who stand out  | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something " People wear smart attire when at the bar so typical going out clothes and usually change into boxers and lingerie later and when heading to the play rooms. You could wear a nice dress all night if you wanted and you would fit in fine. | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something My only such experience is at Eureka. A lot of people just wear a towel, I have seen people go around butt-naked, others wear lingerie, some just dress normally for an evening out like jeans and a T-shirt. A nice dress would be absolutely fine. If you are unsure about a specific club just give them a call. I'm sure you will find you don't need to be concerned. " I always laugh when the dress codes mention dress to impress. In my view, it's whatever you fancy over there. Some dress like they're going raving, some dressed like they're at Butlins and some dressed like they're swinging. And to think, I made a special effort and got the iron out and made sure nothing would get creased on the car journey too! | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I’m totally the same but actually l found clubs sooo liberating .everyone is so chilled and excepting . I actually walked around in my underwear last time l went .l was thinking to myself ‘l never thought l’d do this’ I highly recommend them x | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ", You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem? | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?"Good point  | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "You are mind blowing gorgeous you have no need to be shy if you hide your body I should lock my lamp post figure away | |||
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You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?"because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm  | |||
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You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem? Good point "men desire sexy curves. I'm just althetic. just my perception about what others find desirable. I just happy to be covered up in a cute dress instead of pretty much naked in front of others | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm "Trust me... just go and chill at a club... nobody forces anything but you might want to bring a few tissues as can guarantee a lot will be droooooooooiling xx  | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm "You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more? | |||
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"I usually just wear a dress and heels. I am not a lover of fancy lingerie so just wear what i am comfortable in." Does it stay on long  | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?"i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
Trust me... just go and chill at a club... nobody forces anything but you might want to bring a few tissues as can guarantee a lot will be droooooooooiling xx "i love precum  | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again "You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles "Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track. "never been one for that sort of exercise. now lockdown easing i can do the sports i enjoy | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track. "its definitely the bad weather and covid affecting my moods. plus sex starved... my poor toys | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
Trust me... just go and chill at a club... nobody forces anything but you might want to bring a few tissues as can guarantee a lot will be droooooooooiling xx
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track.
never been one for that sort of exercise. now lockdown easing i can do the sports i enjoy"Is that what people call sex these days? Sport | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track. "I'm very motivated about looking after my health and body at home, but sadly there are some who aren't and hopefully they can soon get back to their classes to get back in shape | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track.
I'm very motivated about looking after my health and body at home, but sadly there are some who aren't and hopefully they can soon get back to their classes to get back in shape
"I'm not jabba the hutt so don't worry about that. I do plenty of exercise just not the ones i really enjoy. but its not even about feeling toned that makes me think omg i need to run around naked in a club. Just wana feel comfortable in a club wearing attire that i enjoy wearing in public. just wondered if that's possible. sounds like it is so thanks to all those who said encouraging and positive comments about the clubs rather than talk about my body | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track.
I'm very motivated about looking after my health and body at home, but sadly there are some who aren't and hopefully they can soon get back to their classes to get back in shape
I'm not jabba the hutt so don't worry about that. I do plenty of exercise just not the ones i really enjoy. but its not even about feeling toned that makes me think omg i need to run around naked in a club. Just wana feel comfortable in a club wearing attire that i enjoy wearing in public. just wondered if that's possible. sounds like it is so thanks to all those who said encouraging and positive comments about the clubs rather than talk about my body "More than welcome... enjoy your time | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem?
because I'm not curvy. Just althetic. less firm since lockdown. Got lockdown bod atm
You are curvy, as you go in and out in the right places. Luckily I've been walking more so no lockdown body here.Maybe exercise a bit more?
i don't like going out too much because of lockdown so been doing less. i can't do the sports i love so not doing enough. i think most people understand this feeling about lockdown exercises. just lost my mojo. but hopefully post lockdown i can get back to it and get really fit again
You can exercise at home if you don't want to go out. I do that too.I use bottles of water as weights and do sit ups to keep my tummy firm and dance to firm up my leg muscles Not sure, but I think many people find it hard to motivate themselves at home with all the distractions and sometimes bad weather being a factor. Many people find machines, instructors, classes and organised sports help them stay on track.
I'm very motivated about looking after my health and body at home, but sadly there are some who aren't and hopefully they can soon get back to their classes to get back in shape
I'm not jabba the hutt so don't worry about that. I do plenty of exercise just not the ones i really enjoy. but its not even about feeling toned that makes me think omg i need to run around naked in a club. Just wana feel comfortable in a club wearing attire that i enjoy wearing in public. just wondered if that's possible. sounds like it is so thanks to all those who said encouraging and positive comments about the clubs rather than talk about my body
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I have a lot of body hang ups after years of being in a nasty relationship (yes I left him 8 years ago) so I can understand exactly what you are saying I love to get dressed up to go to a club but very rarely have I stripped down to my underwear there unless I’m a room to play There are so many sexy outfits you can wear that doesn’t necessarily mean lingerie and you can look hot as but also feel comfortable in them Don’t be daunted, people wear all sorts of things and go to a club that doesn’t have a ‘dress down rule’ but allows you to wear whatever you like | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
I have a lot of body hang ups after years of being in a nasty relationship (yes I left him 8 years ago) so I can understand exactly what you are saying
I love to get dressed up to go to a club but very rarely have I stripped down to my underwear there unless I’m a room to play
There are so many sexy outfits you can wear that doesn’t necessarily mean lingerie and you can look hot as but also feel comfortable in them
Don’t be daunted, people wear all sorts of things and go to a club that doesn’t have a ‘dress down rule’ but allows you to wear whatever you like "There are many sexy outfits we can wear that look more sexy than lingerie, we should wear what we feel comfortable in | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "You look fantastic, try not to worry..if people stare it's because they are likely admiring you | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "You have a fantastic figure and would draw many admiring looks in a club setting for sure Just think of it a bit like being on a beach on holiday? Nobody really cares about body types when they’re worshipping the sun do they? | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "there is nothing wrong with your body , you look amazing | |||
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"It could be worse, you could be a male who doesn't have a mahoosive penis in a club "don't the guy with the 'little man' just covers up? I just don't like the idea of parading near enough naked in a sex club. that's all. i like to reveal my body to who ever I fancy. It been quite daring and liberating for me to post photos of me. So baby steps. I love to go to a club and flirt with who ever I like but not being totally exposed on show? If ya get what i mean | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I had the same thoughts as you, and was very self conscious going in (in a dress). However after having had a couple of glasses of wine and chatting to friendly people in there, I went to 'dress down' and just felt v sexy walking around in lingerie and heels - my other half was pretty astounded really as I do have a dislike for my body! Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a surge of confidence when you get there! | |||
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"I think it's difficult because we look at people and think they should be feeling very confident because of how they look, but it doesn't really work like that in my opinion. People feel how they feel, and even though we might admire their look, it doesn't mean that inside they are rocking it. People are comfortable wearing different things, and that can help them feel more confident if they are wearing clothes that they feel suit how they want to present themselves at that time." I hate being stared at, makes me even more uncomfortable. I doubt I get stared at much but even when one person does it, it creeps me out and I probably just wana go home. If i got a nice outfit on, I feel better. I be with my friends anyways so we protect eachother lol | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
I had the same thoughts as you, and was very self conscious going in (in a dress). However after having had a couple of glasses of wine and chatting to friendly people in there, I went to 'dress down' and just felt v sexy walking around in lingerie and heels - my other half was pretty astounded really as I do have a dislike for my body!
Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a surge of confidence when you get there! "Maybe I just need to drink alcohol. I rarely drink it so my own confidence is all natural but I think when I go to a club, I definitely be drinking then the naughty side of me comes out... this is why I don't drink  | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
I had the same thoughts as you, and was very self conscious going in (in a dress). However after having had a couple of glasses of wine and chatting to friendly people in there, I went to 'dress down' and just felt v sexy walking around in lingerie and heels - my other half was pretty astounded really as I do have a dislike for my body!
Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a surge of confidence when you get there!
Maybe I just need to drink alcohol. I rarely drink it so my own confidence is all natural but I think when I go to a club, I definitely be drinking then the naughty side of me comes out... this is why I don't drink "Haha the best place for it then if your naughty side comes out! | |||
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You have a fantastic figure and would draw many admiring looks in a club setting for sure Just think of it a bit like being on a beach on holiday? Nobody really cares about body types when they’re worshipping the sun do they? "humm I do have a peek at what other people look like naked in the nudist beach. tbh I hang out with the gay men which makes me feel more comfortable as they rarely ever look my way. Plus most are super sweet natured and chilled on the beach. You just think you're the only ones there | |||
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"It could be worse, you could be a male who doesn't have a mahoosive penis in a club
don't the guy with the 'little man' just covers up?
I just don't like the idea of parading near enough naked in a sex club. that's all. i like to reveal my body to who ever I fancy. It been quite daring and liberating for me to post photos of me. So baby steps. I love to go to a club and flirt with who ever I like but not being totally exposed on show? If ya get what i mean "Not so easy in an orgy room full of couples  | |||
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I had the same thoughts as you, and was very self conscious going in (in a dress). However after having had a couple of glasses of wine and chatting to friendly people in there, I went to 'dress down' and just felt v sexy walking around in lingerie and heels - my other half was pretty astounded really as I do have a dislike for my body!
Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a surge of confidence when you get there!
Maybe I just need to drink alcohol. I rarely drink it so my own confidence is all natural but I think when I go to a club, I definitely be drinking then the naughty side of me comes out... this is why I don't drink
Haha the best place for it then if your naughty side comes out! "Thats what I'm worried about. I embarrass myself!! Yes got to remember just have one or two to relax. I get extremely cheeky d*unk and expect all men to be tied, gagged and spanked  | |||
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"I wouldn't play with anyone d*unk " Exactly thats why i dont drink. I prefer to be myself. definitely not d*unk self. But the clubs have bars right? So are people intoxicated or not really? I'm clueless about clubs until i went on fab. so still clueless tbh | |||
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"Pick a club that allows you the time to dress down. Wear anything you like. I've gone in jeans, changed into a cover up sexy lace dress or a wet look covered-up outfit. No pressure to play either and you can leave any time. I think you'd enjoy it Jas x" yes I can't wait until they open again. Go back to the old fashion way of meeting people instead of online which is a total minefield | |||
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don't the guy with the 'little man' just covers up?
I just don't like the idea of parading near enough naked in a sex club. that's all. i like to reveal my body to who ever I fancy. It been quite daring and liberating for me to post photos of me. So baby steps. I love to go to a club and flirt with who ever I like but not being totally exposed on show? If ya get what i mean
Not so easy in an orgy room full of couples "eeek I never even had a threesome let alone an orgy. must be very exposed if you're not happy with your own bits | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk? "Depends on the night, who is in, is there an event on..... | |||
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"To be honest I’m like that but once everyone else is getting down to their small and lacey’s you feel a bit daft stood with your dress on. It’s a really freeing feeling, you sure get used to it " Maybe after several visits i get the confidence but first few times i prefer to wear my onesie... | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends on the night, who is in, is there an event on..... "do the d*unk people play alot or sit in the corner with their heads between their legs.. i often see men in night clubs doing that and feel sorry for them. When I meant d*unk, not someone can't even stand or talk anymore or gets aggressive. just merry relaxed d*unk like what you see people doing in pubs. I'm pretty T total these days tbh, I rarely go out socialising in the evenings. if i do, I always have virgin mojito or diet . | |||
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I had the same thoughts as you, and was very self conscious going in (in a dress). However after having had a couple of glasses of wine and chatting to friendly people in there, I went to 'dress down' and just felt v sexy walking around in lingerie and heels - my other half was pretty astounded really as I do have a dislike for my body!
Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a surge of confidence when you get there!
Maybe I just need to drink alcohol. I rarely drink it so my own confidence is all natural but I think when I go to a club, I definitely be drinking then the naughty side of me comes out... this is why I don't drink "Sheila always felt more at ease when she had a glass of wine before going | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk? "Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit "oooo the sex club mask... can I get mine in red please | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit "yup I join you drinking cocktails to drown my sorrows | |||
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"It could be worse, you could be a male who doesn't have a mahoosive penis in a club
don't the guy with the 'little man' just covers up?
I just don't like the idea of parading near enough naked in a sex club. that's all. i like to reveal my body to who ever I fancy. It been quite daring and liberating for me to post photos of me. So baby steps. I love to go to a club and flirt with who ever I like but not being totally exposed on show? If ya get what i mean
Not so easy in an orgy room full of couples
eeek I never even had a threesome let alone an orgy. must be very exposed if you're not happy with your own bits "Size never bothered me ( big enough to fill a pram ??) | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit
yup I join you drinking cocktails to drown my sorrows "Cocktails & shots, we will stagger around together | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit "Pmsl! I’m the opposite; if there’s no women I like there, I leave. I’ve usually left by about midnight | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I've never been to a club either, and it's basically for the same reason as yours. Planning to break myself in gently very soon, so if you want a 'date' for the night... | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin | |||
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"I worry about this too. I’m excited to go to a club after lockdown, but no idea what to wear to feel and look sexy. I’m guessing ‘rabbit in the headlights’ look isn’t going to look very sexy on me "I spent absolutely ages dithering/worrying about what to wear! I changed loads of times before leaving the house. Everyone seems so friendly (I've only ever been twice) & none-judgemental - as long as you feel good, don't worry about it! | |||
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how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit
Pmsl! I’m the opposite; if there’s no women I like there, I leave. I’ve usually left by about midnight "If I did that there would probably be no point going out | |||
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"Pick a club that allows you the time to dress down. Wear anything you like. I've gone in jeans, changed into a cover up sexy lace dress or a wet look covered-up outfit. No pressure to play either and you can leave any time. I think you'd enjoy it Jas x yes I can't wait until they open again. Go back to the old fashion way of meeting people instead of online which is a total minefield " Agreed hun Not all male or females drink at clubs and not all clubs sell alcohol. I've been plenty times night and day - never drink. | |||
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Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin "I think parading around naked in a room with bunch of strangers is totally different than showing some sexy photos which isn't that revealing compared to what I seen on fab. So best get your "facts" accurate before commenting. Plus if you followed the post properly, I mentioned fab given me the bravery to reveal photos I wouldn't normally take so baby steps. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
I've never been to a club either, and it's basically for the same reason as yours.
Planning to break myself in gently very soon, so if you want a 'date' for the night... "I wana go with friends. Maybe you should find a mate to go with for support. sounds like people don't have to walk around naked.. yay.. party time | |||
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I've never been to a club either, and it's basically for the same reason as yours.
Planning to break myself in gently very soon, so if you want a 'date' for the night...
I wana go with friends. Maybe you should find a mate to go with for support. sounds like people don't have to walk around naked.. yay.. party time "Very true, best to go with friends | |||
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You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem? Good point "With others on this. Athletic and good body and You seem confidant in your sexy videos and the singles guys are giving you the compliments your after. | |||
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"I wouldn't play with anyone d*unk Exactly thats why i dont drink. I prefer to be myself. definitely not d*unk self. But the clubs have bars right? So are people intoxicated or not really? I'm clueless about clubs until i went on fab. so still clueless tbh" The ones intending to play show more restraint and are sober as far as I can tell. The ones who simply want to socialise and dance with no intentions of play will be more relaxed about getting shit faced. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? ,
You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem? Good point
With others on this.
Athletic and good body and
You seem confidant in your sexy videos and the singles guys are giving you the compliments your after.
"its not even about that. Sure I want a lover who physically attracted to me. I just don't want to parade around virtually naked in a room with bunch of strangers so wondering if it was mandatory in clubs to do so. sounds like it isn't so Im definitely looking forward to going post lockdown.. with my clothes on and my friends with me | |||
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You class yourself as athletic, why do you have a problem? Good point
With others on this.
Athletic and good body and
You seem confidant in your sexy videos and the singles guys are giving you the compliments your after.
"I'm confident in sex, had many years experience in that. just never been in a club before! | |||
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"I'm the same, I've never been because I worry about being naked and so visible in front of a crowd. Also I'm very fussy and don't want to come across as rude either. Maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage! "Exactly. photos is way easier to show sexual confidence. But standing in a room naked is on a whole different level. Thank you for understanding kitty | |||
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"I wouldn't play with anyone d*unk A woman too d*unk to walk in her heels is an instant turn-off for me
how often does this happen in clubs, women being d*unk?
Depends, if there's no guys I like there I'll get d*unk instead. Ive been d*unk quite a bit
Pmsl! I’m the opposite; if there’s no women I like there, I leave. I’ve usually left by about midnight
If I did that there would probably be no point going out "Depends on who’s in the club doesn’t it? I’ll always give it a couple of hours, but if nothing’s happening you can always get a few beers in a vanilla pub on the way home, so the night isn’t totally wasted | |||
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"I'm the same, I've never been because I worry about being naked and so visible in front of a crowd. Also I'm very fussy and don't want to come across as rude either. Maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage! "And you’re another woman with absolutely nothing to worry about visiting a club! On the back of this post, I’ve hotlisted you just so I can see whenever you upload new pics....... | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin
Face to face and pics - you can't tell what the difference is... Really?
Have a think! "Face to face is 1 on 1 or at most, 100 or so in a club. Pics online, thousands of people see them and many will save them for personal wank use or for distribution to their mates. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin
Face to face and pics - you can't tell what the difference is... Really?
Have a think!
Face to face is 1 on 1 or at most, 100 or so in a club.
Pics online, thousands of people see them and many will save them for personal wank use or for distribution to their mates. "Maybe I need to get new mates. I have never been offered wank material before. Having said that, I have never offered it to anyone before either. Maybe I need to think about what type of friend I want to be. Hmmm... | |||
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I promise clubs will give you more confidence!
Just need them all to reopen fully again now, I miss it! | |||
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"I'm the same, I've never been because I worry about being naked and so visible in front of a crowd. Also I'm very fussy and don't want to come across as rude either. Maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage!
And you’re another woman with absolutely nothing to worry about visiting a club! On the back of this post, I’ve hotlisted you just so I can see whenever you upload new pics....... "Aw thank you, you're very sweet x | |||
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"I'm the same, I've never been because I worry about being naked and so visible in front of a crowd. Also I'm very fussy and don't want to come across as rude either. Maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage!
Exactly. photos is way easier to show sexual confidence. But standing in a room naked is on a whole different level. Thank you for understanding kitty "You're very welcome hun, I think people assume that because we get naked in a photo that we must have body confidence, but there are varying levels of confidence! There's also the ability to delete a dreadful photo!
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Exactly. photos is way easier to show sexual confidence. But standing in a room naked is on a whole different level. Thank you for understanding kitty "Just wear one of the 2 red dresses in your pic’s (or something similar). You look very sexy and they would be perfectly asseptable in a Club. Enjoy whenever you get the chance | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin
Face to face and pics - you can't tell what the difference is... Really?
Have a think!
Face to face is 1 on 1 or at most, 100 or so in a club.
Pics online, thousands of people see them and many will save them for personal wank use or for distribution to their mates. "My body photos on fab are too abstract. I am personally not too overly bothered about men using them as wank material as I just see it as a backhanded compliment. But being naked in front of bunch of strangers just freaks me out. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Says the person with 28 public pics and 5 public videos. Jus sayin
Face to face and pics - you can't tell what the difference is... Really?
Have a think!
Face to face is 1 on 1 or at most, 100 or so in a club.
Pics online, thousands of people see them and many will save them for personal wank use or for distribution to their mates. Maybe I need to get new mates. I have never been offered wank material before. Having said that, I have never offered it to anyone before either. Maybe I need to think about what type of friend I want to be. Hmmm... "The men I know just share porn pics they find on google with eachother  | |||
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"I'm the same, I've never been because I worry about being naked and so visible in front of a crowd. Also I'm very fussy and don't want to come across as rude either. Maybe one day I'll pluck up the courage!
Exactly. photos is way easier to show sexual confidence. But standing in a room naked is on a whole different level. Thank you for understanding kitty
You're very welcome hun, I think people assume that because we get naked in a photo that we must have body confidence, but there are varying levels of confidence! There's also the ability to delete a dreadful photo!
I hope you do go and enjoy it though, and maybe I'll see you there xx"Yes definitely I be the shy girl in the corner drinking with her mates. But I can put that evil fuck off look that put men off. I'm usually my friend's body guard when we go clubbing. Kitty, you're extremely popular on fab.. So you be fighting them off and have a harem of men when you go to a club. You will need bodyguards when you go! | |||
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"I used to be very, very, body conscious. Still am to a certain degree. Clubs have helped, A LOT, with this. No matter what size/shape you are, no one judges or cares. The whole vibe is of acceptance x" glad to hear clubs are non judgemental. Worried I wont be "sexy" enough because I have small boobies. I actually hate attention in real life. I had an animal print vest on today (I normally wear a coat when I go out walking) I was amazed how many men "really noticed and stared" at me just because my shoulders and arms were exposed | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "I feel exactly the same! We’ve only been to a club a couple of times and I felt very self conscious but to be fair, the lighting is usually flattering and you can wear whatever you’re comfortable in (maybe leave the fluffy dressing gown at home though ) | |||
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"I used to be very, very, body conscious. Still am to a certain degree. Clubs have helped, A LOT, with this. No matter what size/shape you are, no one judges or cares. The whole vibe is of acceptance x glad to hear clubs are non judgemental. Worried I wont be "sexy" enough because I have small boobies. I actually hate attention in real life. I had an animal print vest on today (I normally wear a coat when I go out walking) I was amazed how many men "really noticed and stared" at me just because my shoulders and arms were exposed "Sexy is an attitude more than what you look like. Sexy comes in all shapes and sizes and from what I've seen of your pics you are beautiful and sexy. I'd like smaller boobs. The grass is always greener on the other side as they say x | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Im self concious myself & ive been bullied about my body & how i look so i avoid clubs as a concequence"That's so sad to hear. I'm sorry you went through that. Clubs, for me, helped with my body image/confidence issues. So does taking lots of pictures and seeing myself how others see me x | |||
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" That's so sad to hear. I'm sorry you went through that. Clubs, for me, helped with my body image/confidence issues. So does taking lots of pictures and seeing myself how others see me x" It was at a club that i was body shamed all because of a large scar i have across my stummoch & because i dont have the mandatory six pack well i do but its in my fridge lol | |||
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" That's so sad to hear. I'm sorry you went through that. Clubs, for me, helped with my body image/confidence issues. So does taking lots of pictures and seeing myself how others see me x It was at a club that i was body shamed all because of a large scar i have across my stummoch & because i dont have the mandatory six pack well i do but its in my fridge lol "if it was only by one person then they an idiot and forget what they said. i read you don't have to take clothes off. its really good fun having clothes on having sex. i way prefer it | |||
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" if it was only by one person then they an idiot and forget what they said. i read you don't have to take clothes off. its really good fun having clothes on having sex. i way prefer it "I was by multiple people im socially awkward anyways but that just totally destroyed my confidence & made me feel so shit about myself the thing is the scar defines me its a part of me i cant get rid of it & i cant turn the clocks back & not have my kidney removed otherwise id have died lol but seriously sex is just as much fun wuth clothes on aswell as with out | |||
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" That's so sad to hear. I'm sorry you went through that. Clubs, for me, helped with my body image/confidence issues. So does taking lots of pictures and seeing myself how others see me x It was at a club that i was body shamed all because of a large scar i have across my stummoch & because i dont have the mandatory six pack well i do but its in my fridge lol "That's horrible, wtf?!! You may not wish to say where, but I can tell you that is unlikely to happen where I've been. Genuinely I ended up with someone at Sx (now play) who had a smaller sounding scar, absolutely no one was shit to him, and he definitely scored on his visits lol. Honestly all clubs have a mixture of people, but I love sx the most cos the people are more 'normal', relatable and mixed. It is about confidence though, I do hope you can build some and try again xx | |||
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" That's horrible, wtf?!! You may not wish to say where, but I can tell you that is unlikely to happen where I've been. Genuinely I ended up with someone at Sx (now play) who had a smaller sounding scar, absolutely no one was shit to him, and he definitely scored on his visits lol. Honestly all clubs have a mixture of people, but I love sx the most cos the people are more 'normal', relatable and mixed. It is about confidence though, I do hope you can build some and try again xx" I dont think i will ever have the confidence again tbh & lets just say its a popular club people go to it was my 1st & only & last time there i was that hurt i went home id only been there 45 mins aswell never again its put me off for life all because of having a scar from having a kidney removed & a dad bod the world we live in is a cruel one | |||
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" if it was only by one person then they an idiot and forget what they said. i read you don't have to take clothes off. its really good fun having clothes on having sex. i way prefer it
I was by multiple people im socially awkward anyways but that just totally destroyed my confidence & made me feel so shit about myself the thing is the scar defines me its a part of me i cant get rid of it & i cant turn the clocks back & not have my kidney removed otherwise id have died lol but seriously sex is just as much fun wuth clothes on aswell as with out" that's awful. I've only ever met 1 truly horrid judgemental person in a club & he won't be going back. He wasn't judgemental towards me but was really offensive & nasty to a few others.
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" That's horrible, wtf?!! You may not wish to say where, but I can tell you that is unlikely to happen where I've been. Genuinely I ended up with someone at Sx (now play) who had a smaller sounding scar, absolutely no one was shit to him, and he definitely scored on his visits lol. Honestly all clubs have a mixture of people, but I love sx the most cos the people are more 'normal', relatable and mixed. It is about confidence though, I do hope you can build some and try again xx I dont think i will ever have the confidence again tbh & lets just say its a popular club people go to it was my 1st & only & last time there i was that hurt i went home id only been there 45 mins aswell never again its put me off for life all because of having a scar from having a kidney removed & a dad bod the world we live in is a cruel one" I'm sorry that happened to you, those people are idiots and ignorant and not worth your time. Best of luck to you | |||
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" that's awful. I've only ever met 1 truly horrid judgemental person in a club & he won't be going back. He wasn't judgemental towards me but was really offensive & nasty to a few others.
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" I'm sorry that happened to you, those people are idiots and ignorant and not worth your time. Best of luck to you
Thank you sorry to the op i have kinda taken over your thread lol"no its fine as that's what great about discussions is opening your mind by hearing other people's opinions or experiences. You understand more this way instead of thinking only your way is correct. People shouldn't assume just because you're althetic or attractive, you love walking around showing off your body. I generally dress down in real life and hate unwanted attention so rarely dress up. Others seeing me walking around naked would totally freak me out. So my thread was started to find out if its possible to find clubs where I never have to strip off in public and wear a dress. Sounds like there are them clubs so looking forward to getting out of lockdown and partying again | |||
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"You might feel more at ease when you are in the environment and see others. Mrs Hot Notts was the same but after 1st visit wanted to undress in the club, it’s quite liberating seeing others just at ease with their bodies." Yeah I do get that as I go to Studland, its very liberating experience but I just don't have the confidence or feel comfortable doing it. My main issue is I hate people staring at me. | |||
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" no its fine as that's what great about discussions is opening your mind by hearing other people's opinions or experiences. You understand more this way instead of thinking only your way is correct. People shouldn't assume just because you're althetic or attractive, you love walking around showing off your body. I generally dress down in real life and hate unwanted attention so rarely dress up. Others seeing me walking around naked would totally freak me out. So my thread was started to find out if its possible to find clubs where I never have to strip off in public and wear a dress. Sounds like there are them clubs so looking forward to getting out of lockdown and partying again "im the same i always dress down & rarely make an effort & i dont think ill be going any clubs again after my experience it dont help that im socially awkward & struggle in large groups of people & i struggle with women too but we are all different at the end of the day. | |||
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" no its fine as that's what great about discussions is opening your mind by hearing other people's opinions or experiences. You understand more this way instead of thinking only your way is correct. People shouldn't assume just because you're althetic or attractive, you love walking around showing off your body. I generally dress down in real life and hate unwanted attention so rarely dress up. Others seeing me walking around naked would totally freak me out. So my thread was started to find out if its possible to find clubs where I never have to strip off in public and wear a dress. Sounds like there are them clubs so looking forward to getting out of lockdown and partying again im the same i always dress down & rarely make an effort & i dont think ill be going any clubs again after my experience it dont help that im socially awkward & struggle in large groups of people & i struggle with women too but we are all different at the end of the day. "ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning. | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning. "I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning.
I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try "PLEASE DO as I assure you there are good people in the world who won't judge you on your looks and or find things to nickpick to make them feel more superior and love you because you make them happy etc | |||
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" PLEASE DO as I assure you there are good people in the world who won't judge you on your looks and or find things to nickpick to make them feel more superior and love you because you make them happy etc "Thanks & the only people that dont judge me is my family & my daughter but they are always bias lol | |||
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Thanks & the only people that dont judge me is my family & my daughter but they are always bias lol"I've been where you are. It's a horrible feeling but trust me, we are our own worst critics. Your goodness will shine through. Believe when others compliment you. Happy to dm if you want. It's a hard road but you will get through it. It just takes time. Big virtual hugs to you x | |||
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Thanks & the only people that dont judge me is my family & my daughter but they are always bias lol"Scars are what make us the people we are, it’s all part of the journey, having children has left it’s toll on me but those are the greatest blessing. Be proud | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning.
I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try "it says "confident, genuine vwe male who is a great guy" are you saying this is not the case? also says you are not looking to meet single men but you do know you can make male friends on here without fucking them you know...more than once I have gone for a pint with a straight guy and never ever shagged them | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning.
I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try
it says "confident, genuine vwe male who is a great guy" are you saying this is not the case?
also says you are not looking to meet single men but you do know you can make male friends on here without fucking them you know...more than once I have gone for a pint with a straight guy and never ever shagged them "I'm glad you cleared that up you're not a raging nymphomaniac on heat.
Exactly you can always make friends on fab without wanting to shag them. I met recently some wonderful fabbers. I hope Pjh does too | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning.
I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try
it says "confident, genuine vwe male who is a great guy" are you saying this is not the case?
also says you are not looking to meet single men but you do know you can make male friends on here without fucking them you know...more than once I have gone for a pint with a straight guy and never ever shagged them
I'm glad you cleared that up you're not a raging nymphomaniac on heat.
Exactly you can always make friends on fab without wanting to shag them. I met recently some wonderful fabbers. I hope Pjh does too "nothing wrong with meeting up for a pint or 3 or a round of cod/streetfighter etc etc | |||
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" it says "confident, genuine vwe male who is a great guy" are you saying this is not the case? also says you are not looking to meet single men but you do know you can make male friends on here without fucking them you know...more than once I have gone for a pint with a straight guy and never ever shagged them "i dont meet single men as i work with men so its nice to have female company & as people say you have to make yourself stand out like your cv for a job interview im sure we have all made ourselves sound & look better than we are to get something & i dont go for pints with men i dont drink! | |||
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" PLEASE DO as I assure you there are good people in the world who won't judge you on your looks and or find things to nickpick to make them feel more superior and love you because you make them happy etc
Thanks & the only people that dont judge me is my family & my daughter but they are always bias lol
I've been where you are. It's a horrible feeling but trust me, we are our own worst critics. Your goodness will shine through. Believe when others compliment you. Happy to dm if you want. It's a hard road but you will get through it. It just takes time. Big virtual hugs to you x"thank you | |||
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" PLEASE DO as I assure you there are good people in the world who won't judge you on your looks and or find things to nickpick to make them feel more superior and love you because you make them happy etc
Thanks & the only people that dont judge me is my family & my daughter but they are always bias lol
Scars are what make us the people we are, it’s all part of the journey, having children has left it’s toll on me but those are the greatest blessing. Be proud"I am proud its my badge of honour as its my way of saying look i survived cancer when many others failed, i think scars can make you more distinguished they can also tell a story lol | |||
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Exactly you can always make friends on fab without wanting to shag them. I met recently some wonderful fabbers. I hope Pjh does too "Thank you i feel quite overwhelmed i never expected this kind of support usually people just tell me to shut up & go away & as for the fella offering a pint & gaming i dont game & i dont go for pints but each to their own | |||
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" I'm glad you cleared that up you're not a raging nymphomaniac on heat.
Exactly you can always make friends on fab without wanting to shag them. I met recently some wonderful fabbers. I hope Pjh does too
Thank you i feel quite overwhelmed i never expected this kind of support usually people just tell me to shut up & go away & as for the fella offering a pint & gaming i dont game & i dont go for pints but each to their own "i don't drink but i go to the pub with friends to socialise and drink cappuccino or diet try it and see what happens i say! its just nice to chat to others face to face you be pleasantly surprised | |||
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"You must be kidding you look amazing. I would want everyone to see me with a figure like yours.. Go to a club and see for yourself there will be lots of women there with all shapes and sizes Some bbw mum tums ect you have nothing to be embarrassed or shy about. As others have said you don't have to get naked but I'm sure when you see others naked around you you may relax and feel more confident " Thanks but seriously its nothing to do with looks. its to do with inner confidence and what i like to wear to make me feel comfortable. That i only can find in myself. its like telling someone who got depression to "just cheer up" its counter productive. I just don't want to be naked. but happy to go to a club if i can wear what ever comfortable for me | |||
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" ok this is my view about when crap brings you down.. i definitely experienced crap in my life. DONT EVER make your life miserable just because you met idiots. Don't ever let them win. There will always be idiots, learn your own self worth. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. IGNORE the others who don't. I'm sure there's great workshops you can go on to build up again inner confidence. Please say you try for me. I hate to see haters winning.
I can try & i would but i dont have any friends as i always fear ill be hurt or bullied by them so i tend to keep people at arms length unless its family then its different, i will do my best & try
it says "confident, genuine vwe male who is a great guy" are you saying this is not the case?
also says you are not looking to meet single men but you do know you can make male friends on here without fucking them you know...more than once I have gone for a pint with a straight guy and never ever shagged them "him saying he's confident and VWE doesn't mean he wants to parade around naked in public. There's definitely a key difference showing your body to someone you're attracted to than showing it to bunch of strangers in a club. like my photos, there abstract photos where its not full naked body exposure. You still feel you're keeping something to yourself that way. | |||
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" i don't drink but i go to the pub with friends to socialise and drink cappuccino or diet try it and see what happens i say! its just nice to chat to others face to face you be pleasantly surprised "I tend to socialise with people when i do my hobbies but also keep myself to myself its just the way i am i cant do my hobbies right now due to the pandemic but i hve people who i talk hobbies too i tend to talk about more pressing matters to the dog lmao | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "Let's go to Torture Garden together, you can wear latex or pvc from head to toe! Bobby | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Let's go to Torture Garden together, you can wear latex or pvc from head to toe!
Bobby"sorry really not my thing.. i get too hot too easily plus wearing that kinda clothing really shows off your body so definitely no. | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie? "You are beautiful young lady absolutely no need to worry x | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Im self concious myself & ive been bullied about my body & how i look so i avoid clubs as a concequence"That's just mean | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Im self concious myself & ive been bullied about my body & how i look so i avoid clubs as a concequence
That's just mean"sadly people do it to feel better about their own insecurities. imo everyones beautiful in their own way, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, for every person who isnt interested theres someone who thinks your amazing, and anyone who tells you otherwise. fuck em who needs em | |||
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"I'm actually really shy and self conscious about my body. I'm the type to want sex with the lights off. (Post lockdown thoughts) Would I hate going to a club because I don't like people looking at my body or can I cover up and not walk about in lingerie?
Im self concious myself & ive been bullied about my body & how i look so i avoid clubs as a concequence
That's just mean
sadly people do it to feel better about their own insecurities. imo everyones beautiful in their own way, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, for every person who isnt interested theres someone who thinks your amazing, and anyone who tells you otherwise. fuck em who needs em"This however not everyone has a thick skin & other peoples comments & actions can have a real negative effect on someone's mental health as well | |||
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"Most clubs will let you wear whatever you like. awesome. what do most people wear? I wana just wear a nice dress or something " Wear a nice dress to get in and maybe take a couple of spare ones to put in a locker. Confidence will come to you over time. Take a look at our pictures if that helps. | |||
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