FabSwingers.com forum: Are women just to fussy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You read all the time from women/couples about how men dont make an effort when mailing, how they dont reply to one liners and how they dont like cut and paste mail etc so i thought id conduct an experiment

Yesterday i mailed 10 single guys with a cut and paste message that simply said hi

And i just got reply number 10 back a few mins ago

So are women just bloody fussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You read all the time from women/couples about how men dont make an effort when mailing, how they dont reply to one liners and how they dont like cut and paste mail etc so i thought id conduct an experiment

Yesterday i mailed 10 single guys with a cut and paste message that simply said hi

And i just got reply number 10 back a few mins ago

So are women just bloody fussy?

Some yes - other's just too busy doing nails/hair/washing up to answer every message they get!

The ungrateful little harlots!

(Goes into hiding somewhere dark!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we make a effort mailing couples and single fems, and they are just as bad at not getting back even if just a thx no thx, hate it when states if i dont get back to you its because i/we dont like you, we dont mail them why should we take time to write a mail to not even have the decency to say thx no thx, simples

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yes you are.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"yes you are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe men are equally fussy

just more polite

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yes you are.....

im not, i take what i can get

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"yes you are.....

im not, i take what i can get

keep up your good work x

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Some are not fussy at all .....i'm not a virgin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yes you are.....

im not, i take what i can get

now that made me giggle!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Some are not fussy at all .....i'm not a virgin

senga fae the gorbals wasn't fussy, she deflowered many

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

"Some are not fussy at all .....i'm not a virgin

senga fae the gorbals wasn't fussy, she deflowered many"

She did indeed but she gave great gummies

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Yesterday i mailed 10 single guys with a cut and paste message that simply said hi

And i just got reply number 10 back a few mins ago

So are women just bloody fussy?

I applaud you for taking the time to at least see things from the other side of the fence.

In answer to your question, there are fussy people in every group, be it women, couples and males. Some are polite about it, others are rude, and some actually don't have the time to be either. Each to their own i guess.

Given the ratio of men to other groups on most sites, i guess it is understandable to a degree. But hey....what do i know?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Some are not fussy at all .....i'm not a virgin

senga fae the gorbals wasn't fussy, she deflowered many

She did indeed but she gave great gummies

she had no choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol"

do them in a oner, save time

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol"

You might get branded "a timewaster", lmao.

(for the record, that was a joke. i know sometimes that doesn't translate well through text)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol

do them in a oner, save time"

ohh now theres an idea

i did only mail guys i would be interested in just incase i did get any replies so i guess i best start working my way thro them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol

You might get branded "a timewaster", lmao.

(for the record, that was a joke. i know sometimes that doesn't translate well through text)"

oh im already branded one of them, by every guy i say no thanks to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waiting for my message...... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it seems to us that alot of single fems arent rally into meeting, im sure some are but there are alot who have no verifications by meeting, would love to be proved wrong tho

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I know what I want, compromised when I was married, the thought of doing so for a casual playmate is unimaginable to me. I find it amusing that some men think they're so irresistible I'm going to change my mind, bless them.

All the relevant information as to who I'm looking for is on my profile. I'm helpful in also stating if you don't meet what I'm looking for I won't reply...and I don't.

If they can't read and assimilate...oh well!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think as guys tend to get less messages then women they are more likely to reply. Might test it out myself

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Was your message to these guys a nice chatty one with a few likes and dislikes in, and maybe a suggestion on how to meet? Or was it a story copied from an erotic website, or an explicit wankfest starting off by calling them the wrong name?

Women might be fussy, but if I got the first message I would probably respond, regardless of whether it was copied & pasted. Unfortunately I get the second sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i understand that woman get fed up with all the mail and the type of mail they recieve.

but i have noticed an increasing angry or aggressive type of profiles females seem to have.

lots of rules,regulations,must this,must that etc, than a court of law which is sad because this is mean't to be fun.

ok so you only want to meet who you want and everyone in that is the same.

but Large text looks like your shouting or angry and if your doing that because of the standard of mail your getting just _elete it.

maybe those using anger and large text are attention seeking?

shame because im sure behind that is a nice woman.

ok girls, beat me up now for expressing an honest _iew

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol

do them in a oner, save time

ohh now theres an idea

i did only mail guys i would be interested in just incase i did get any replies so i guess i best start working my way thro them

Tis a hard life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it seems to us that alot of single fems arent rally into meeting, im sure some are but there are alot who have no verifications by meeting, would love to be proved wrong tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im not, i take what i can get

Why do women like you always live so far away from me? Also, in what freakish parallel world are you 'ample', the planet of the size zeroes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that woman get fed up with all the mail and the type of mail they recieve.

but i have noticed an increasing angry or aggressive type of profiles females seem to have.

lots of rules,regulations,must this,must that etc, than a court of law which is sad because this is mean't to be fun.

ok so you only want to meet who you want and everyone in that is the same.

but Large text looks like your shouting or angry and if your doing that because of the standard of mail your getting just _elete it.

maybe those using anger and large text are attention seeking?

shame because im sure behind that is a nice woman.

ok girls, beat me up now for expressing an honest _iew

I won't beat you up it's a fair point. The problem is that single fems get bombarded with mail from single blokes all the time. Sometimes the mails are nice but most of the time they are rude/ one line 'fancy a fuk' etc type mails.

If you don't reply, you sometimes get a mail saying 'how rude why didn't you reply'. If you do reply and say sorry you're not my type/ too far away etc, you get an abusive mail back saying you're a timewaster/ cocktease/ ugly bitch etc.

You can't win. After being nice to the blokes that mailed me and getting a torrent of abuse from the ones I didn't want to meet, I got fed up and it put me off meeting anyone for ages. I did consider putting up an abusive profile like the one you describe as I was totally and utterly fed up... but as you say, it achieves nothing.

So errr I put some other crap up instead.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I am way too fussy, with too many rules. I know I don't do myself any favours with this approach. But then bad sex is worse than no sex for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finally........someone tells it like it is!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect that many (not all) just want an easy meet.

As a bloke I struggle to get meets. Then laugh at many statuses bang on about, how crap they are at picking meets, obviously they are picking flash harry, fuck and go, in a relationship types rather then my type, good company, not looking for traditional relationship, good shag and love 'kinky' That's for me and them to agree

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man
over a year ago

Solihull

lol - great experiment!

I reckon they are often - but its in their nature and with a flood of messages anyone would get like that.

Better experiment would be to get a couple of average looking photos as a single guy and try getting on the pull ladies! See what its like for us...

however, that's a fake profile and not encouraged. Shame. I remember seeing fab through a gal's eyes...she let me - completely different experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why fussy is almost thrown around as an insult in this context - I'm in the same boat as pretty much every other single female on here but I can say that I've always been fussy when it comes to who I liase with, let alone who I let near my body. I don't see why I should let someone be intimate with me unless I really want them to be. Yes there are more men on here hence women find it much easier to be picky, but I would say that even if on here women outnumbered men by 10-1, I would still maintain the same standards I always do.

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By *rokengirlWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

To be quite honest I think anybody be it couples men or women should be fussy!!

Just because we are all part of the swingers website does not mean we should drop our knickers for anybody that asks

Surely the point of this is mutual satisfaction for me that means I have to find you attractive both mentally and physically do yes that means I an picky who I choose to sleep with.... Let's face it if women weren't fussy and slots with anybody then she would be branded a tart! Can't win really lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still waiting for my message...... Lol"

it must have got lost in the post hunk

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By *elMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"question now is

do i actually have to meet these 10 guys that i mailed? lol"

I didn't get a mail, should I start a thread stating that fab is not allowing emails to be sent to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are all so different, not just looks wise.

In the past i have had sex with some men who where not my type, even though they had good verifications.

The other women they met realy liked them, but for me it was a bad experience.

So now i am a bit more wary, i like sex a lot but it has to be with the right person.

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"yes you are.....

im not, i take what i can get

Take me I'll come quietly well maybe not quietly but you know what I mean!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

niks not fussy,she just has a standard.

she does spot men on here she would love to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i understand that woman get fed up with all the mail and the type of mail they recieve.

but i have noticed an increasing angry or aggressive type of profiles females seem to have.

lots of rules,regulations,must this,must that etc, than a court of law which is sad because this is mean't to be fun.

ok so you only want to meet who you want and everyone in that is the same.

but Large text looks like your shouting or angry and if your doing that because of the standard of mail your getting just _elete it.

maybe those using anger and large text are attention seeking?

shame because im sure behind that is a nice woman.

ok girls, beat me up now for expressing an honest _iew

So errr I put some other crap up instead.

i do understand that woman get tons of mail a day. yet i do see angry profiles and nice ones which say they wil only respond to well thought messages and not the 'lets fuck' type of ones.

and also i suspect many guys do send honest and well wrote messages, i have yet it seems you get a response if you are not detailed as the woman wants.

if your a nice guy you get binned over someone who makes bugger all effort and treats woman like dirt.

i see plenty of woman complaining about the standard of men yet seem to enjoy repeating mistakes with the bad ones.

but sending abusive bad mouthing messages isnt on and although i have recieved them from couples and some females in the need i just feel sorry for them as they are displaying an attitude which is less than attractive.

you cant win i agree with you on that.so we keep on trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get why fussy is almost thrown around as an insult in this context - I'm in the same boat as pretty much every other single female on here but I can say that I've always been fussy when it comes to who I liase with, let alone who I let near my body. I don't see why I should let someone be intimate with me unless I really want them to be. Yes there are more men on here hence women find it much easier to be picky, but I would say that even if on here women outnumbered men by 10-1, I would still maintain the same standards I always do. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im glad women are fussy!! Its better to be fussy than not!!

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