FabSwingers.com forum: Does it take you forever to orgasm too?!

By *olidOak85 OP Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Morning!

As someone who seems to take quite some time to orgasm, I'm interested to see how many of you have similar experiences...

I think that sometimes I want to orgasm so bad that in a way I kinda try force it - which means it takes even longer! Don't get me wrong, my other half knows exactly what he's doing (he seems to know my body better than I do!) - hells bells he often gives me huge, long orgasms!

Everyone is different I guess, and it'd depend on things like how horny you are to begin with, how much time you have available etc...

How long does it take you, and do you get frustrated? Oh, and just out of curiosity (I'm sure someone will know!) - can everybody actually physically 'squirt'?! I have so many different types of orgasms, I've definitely felt like I should've squirted, but just haven't?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends on the moment and how horny i am.

I need my clit stimulated to cum and even then it needs to be a vibrator. However on rare occasions when I am really horny I can cum through Oral.

With my vibrator i can cum in 20 seconds though.lol

I have never squirted and to be honest its something I never want to do.

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By *olidOak85 OP Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"For me it depends on the moment and how horny i am.

I need my clit stimulated to cum and even then it needs to be a vibrator. However on rare occasions when I am really horny I can cum through Oral.

With my vibrator i can cum in 20 seconds though.lol

I have never squirted and to be honest its something I never want to do. "

Haha vibrators are amazing aren't they!

I'm the same in that my clit needs to be stimulated to get turned. Before my partner came along, I'd only ever had little clitoral orgasms... He's introduced me to a whole host of different ones now!

I'm so intrigued by squirting - watching squirting videos doesn't half turn me on

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I take a long time to get to climax, sometimes it doesn't happen but the sex is still amazing, I try not to worry about it, but yes I can squirt but not often great fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how wound up i am. Sometimes it happens really fast, other times it can take a while to build up but i know that when it does arrive its going to be a huge one.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

It often takes me upwards of forty minutes. Sometimes I can't reach orgasm at all. That's not to say I don't enjoy sex – I really, really do – it just means that I don't have to stop until a partner wants me to.

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah.

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By *olidOak85 OP Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"It often takes me upwards of forty minutes. Sometimes I can't reach orgasm at all. That's not to say I don't enjoy sex – I really, really do – it just means that I don't have to stop until a partner wants me to.

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah. "

That's interesting to see that a bloke takes a bit to orgasm!

It's the same for me - I can really really enjoy sex without orgasming, I just often feel the need to x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

u would hate me. i can cum in 40 seconds from cold

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah.

That's interesting to see that a bloke takes a bit to orgasm!

It's the same for me - I can really really enjoy sex without orgasming, I just often feel the need to x"

I do have partners who enjoy edging and purposely wait for ages to orgasm

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

If I'm with someone I've not been with before, almost always quite quick although fortunately I make up for it with subsequent rounds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can do, I love to edge when I play so I find that with a guy it can take a while, especially if I've played a lot myself lately.

I try to abstain before a meet so he doesn't tire himself out lol

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

I'm the opposite OP. I'm polyorgasmic I orgasm too often during sex. I can cum thru nipple play. I have squirted in the past but don't like the sensation so I tell the person that I'm with (some men take it as a challenge though). I can cum with my wand in about 30 seconds

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By *ickey40Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I've never cum during sex ever so I wouldn't care how long it took me personally.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

Hours! But they are so much better. In all honesty I am very very glad I don't cum quickly, it's never looked all that exciting an experience.

I used to be quicker but I like edging. Eventually I think I just forgot how to cum quickly. It means I need a longer amount of time set aside for sex, but that's no bad thing

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It would be nice to have a chat at the first place

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

If he’s big enough I can cum in 30 seconds. With the tongue 60 seconds. If I’m on top and he’s a big boy 20 seconds

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

Solo.... I can be super quick

With others..... forever .... maybe not ever.... I still enjoy sex but I am used to sex with no O.

One guy made me squirt a few times.... but I think maybe that was a fluke too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you taking anti depressants op?

That can affect the ability to orgasm.

I don't take long to organs alone, but nobody has ever succeeded in doing it to me

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By *olidOak85 OP Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"u would hate me. i can cum in 40 seconds from cold"

40 seconds?! Wow!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If I’ve been with a woman who hits subspace in a rolling orgasm, If I enter her, Usain Bolt would have to speed up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the wife is in the right mood it can take a couple of minutes for her to orgasm.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

When I am alone and I want to cum it takes under a minute if I choose. When playing I rarely cum easily. It’s part of the fun.

Yes I can squirt. I only discovered I could a couple of years ago and I much prefer it to a clitoral orgasm during play. The key is to completely relax.

I can also have multiple orgasms.

As long as you are enjoying yourself, does it really matter?!

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By *ickey40Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I'm taking anti- depressants yeah. I'm fine on my own. Fireman's power hose then. But when with someone, not a drop.

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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago

wiltshire

It varies on person I'm with and their technique but generally I orgasm fairy quick. When I solo play I can orgasm in a minute with sex toys.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

I used to have a vibrator that made me cum almost instantly. They were the most shit orgasms ever. It was really annoying! I stopped using it in the end. I think I really must like edging. I'd be seriously pissed off if I was orgasming that quickly.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

I can't cum with toys at all, so I don't even bother playing solo as it just turns into an edging session and I wind up even more frustrated and grumpy than I was before!

My current play partner seems to have magic fingers, he can make me cum multiple times through oral, finger play and penetrative sex...not something I'm used to!

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Morning!

As someone who seems to take quite some time to orgasm, I'm interested to see how many of you have similar experiences...

Everyone is different I guess, and it'd depend on things like how horny you are to begin with, how much time you have available etc...

I sometimes hold back to delay the cum for me and partner.

The result is more intense , really satisfying

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I'm the opposite OP. I'm polyorgasmic I orgasm too often during sex. I can cum thru nipple play. I have squirted in the past but don't like the sensation so I tell the person that I'm with (some men take it as a challenge though). I can cum with my wand in about 30 seconds

dam i need to practice for 25 seconds

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Depends on how they handle my cock. Often I can go numb and will just give up. It might also be a psychological issue.

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over a year ago

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I orgasm very quickly and very easily, and once I've had one orgasm it tends to roll into more for as long as I'm being stimulated.

It's great in many ways, but I have been accused of faking before, and it makes edging or orgasm denial all but impossible with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am partially undressed I can cum in less than 5 minutes. The feeling of my clothing brushing against my body with a slight cool breeze touching my exposed skin makes me feel incredibly horny and helps me cum when I want to, but for some reason when I'm completely naked I just don't feel horny and it can take me up to 2 hours to cum. I think the reason is because when I'm naked I'm either in a swinger's sauna club which can feel warm and sweaty or I'm on a nude beach abroad and my skin feels so hot all over that I don't even feel naked. Several times at clubs I've had to wear my towel over my shoulder just to feel like I'm partially dressed, and when the room gets too hot I have to pour a cup of cold water over my chest, cock, and legs just to feel the temperature difference and make myself aware I'm naked. My pubes are always shaved when I'm with someone and that also makes it harder to cum because the sensation of my pubes brushing against my skin helps me cum, but I want to look clean shaven when I'm having sex which means I'm always shaven which makes it harder to cum. I've seen other guys with the same issue. One thing that sauna clubs really need is a fan in the playrooms. I had a threesome with a charming married couple but the heat in that small room made it extremely difficult to stay erect and cum at a convenient time. I had to leave the room several times just to throw cool water on myself and blow cool air down my body and then come back in. The room was so hot that I didn't even feel naked. I gets more difficult when there are five of us in the same small room with too much body heat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I orgasm very quickly and very easily, and once I've had one orgasm it tends to roll into more for as long as I'm being stimulated.

It's great in many ways, but I have been accused of faking before, and it makes edging or orgasm denial all but impossible with me."

Great comment x

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

On my own I can cum pretty quickly, throw another person in & it takes me ages

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Bit of friction ‘hair’ helps a bit xx

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By *ttis669Man
over a year ago

I can take a while, even when solo, and have never cum through oral on me. I love the feelings of sex and foreplay, but i wouldnt describe it as edging. It never feels like im on the edge of cumming until just before it happens, and i doubt at that point it could be prevented to effectively edge me.

Its reassuring to hear other guys say the same, as i always thought i was strange not being on a hair trigger, to the point where ive probably built some psychological delay in too now worrying i was the odd one out or broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning!

As someone who seems to take quite some time to orgasm, I'm interested to see how many of you have similar experiences...

Everyone is different I guess, and it'd depend on things like how horny you are to begin with, how much time you have available etc...

It takes me quite a while to orgasm I too need lots of clotoral stimulation I've never cum through penetration alone. I rarely orgasm with anyone new either I have to be completely comfortable and mega horny to cum. My FB knows how to get me going though and push all the right buttons, I just relax now and go with it I forced it a lot in the past but not anymore it's much nicer when I relax and enjoy the sensations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not clotoral

Clitoral lol damn autocorrect

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I can usually orgasm quite quickly. Particularly from my wand on my clit and/or fingers in my pussy.

I have different types of orgasms. Mega ones (which build up in intensity and spread all over my body) only seem to happen when I am cowgirl and having nipples stimulated too.

I discovered I could squirt about 4 years ago and I love doing it with the right partner.

I like to cum lots during a session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can control my orgasm.

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By *olidOak85 OP Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Wow, it's so interesting reading these comments and seeing how everyone's experiences are just so different!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah.

That's interesting to see that a bloke takes a bit to orgasm!

It's the same for me - I can really really enjoy sex without orgasming, I just often feel the need to x

I do have partners who enjoy edging and purposely wait for ages to orgasm"

It's not so much that I enjoy edging; I think there are a couple of different things going on.

Firstly, I'm ridiculously insensitive; it's almost impossible to get me off through oral, and although I like having my testicles handled, people are almost always far too gentle to make it worthwhile.

Secondly, I'm acutely aware that women are all sick of "Three pumps and done" guys. I want to make them happy, so I've turned my insensitivity into a unique selling point. I'm not handsome, charming or rich, but I've got a reasonably big dick and I can go FOR HOURS if a partner wants me to.

Thirdly, orgasms are amazing and I want everyone to have as many as possible, but a) not everybody can have orgasms, and b) sometimes that includes me. There's a whole bunch of unnecessary cultural pressure on both men and women to have performative porn star climaxes, and it just makes people unhappy.

I'm particularly thinking of a partner from a few years ago. She was wonderful and we were involved for a while, but the first time I was unable to cum with her, *she* burst into tears - because every partner she'd ever been with before me had trained her to think that it was her fault if they didn't reach orgasm. It was heartbreaking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah.

That's interesting to see that a bloke takes a bit to orgasm!

It's the same for me - I can really really enjoy sex without orgasming, I just often feel the need to x

I do have partners who enjoy edging and purposely wait for ages to orgasm

It's not so much that I enjoy edging; I think there are a couple of different things going on.

That makes an interesting read.

My ex sometimes struggled to orgasm though penetrative sex or hand job/ bj and I took it personally, yet to him it wasn't a big deal.

Equally I also cannot climax with anyone else, and it doesn't bother me at all, yet partners are disappointed.

Sex certainly is complex.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Great post

I can’t cum as quick as I used to ..

I wonder if too much masturbation is to blame as I like to edge for ages ..

My female fuck buddy thinks using her vibrator so much is having a similar effect as she finds it hard to cum without it

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Sometimes takes ages for the first one then they keep coming other times it's like in an instant

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By *DGF20Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Ladies...do u always continue sex after orgasm? Meet girl recently and had sex few times with her and was amazing, she won't cum quickly and she have really intense orgasm but after that she is done with sex or at least she wants take a break

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I've not had many orgasms and non recently. I'm talking about the full body, involuntary muscle clenching, muscle shaking, energy saping, massive smile ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female ejaculation (squirting) is all about techniques

find the right spot and it’s 30 seconds flat first orgasm and squirting not long after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

K is like Jasmine 40 secs from oral, fingering snd fucking. She has many orgasms in a single session.

From my point of view over the years i have been able to control when i cum most of the time but on occassion e.g sometimes i have to stop dead for a few seconds because i have got to close to thst point of no return.

Ive also in recent years become able to fuck cum and stay hard and go again straight away. I find i can do this most when with K and others in a swinging club. My best evening was 5 orgasms in 4 hrs in the club with an hour break after the first 3. That was supported by viagra though lol.

On a final note so many medications can fuck with a guys sex drive, ablity to get hard / stay hard and ability to cum. Theres been many tablets I wont take unless absolutely necessary for those reasons.

KJ x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Female ejaculation (squirting) is all about techniques

find the right spot and it’s 30 seconds flat first orgasm and squirting not long after "

Female orgasm and squirting are two entirely different things. You don't need to climax to squirt.

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

Sometimes

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Yep. Don't really mind though if it doesn't happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we meet. I am a different woman when I meet and feel more free x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes a long time for me to cum . (Man) Have to be really in the mood or put into the mood by my partner, only sex that makes me cum is taking them doggy fashion. Wife used to orgasm in 30 seconds but now takes anti depressants and only gets there when it’s sex in the afternoon. ? She does now have some shatteringly good orgasms that last a long time though.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Weirdly, a partner *ordering* me to climax can really help tip me over the edge. Hah.

That's interesting to see that a bloke takes a bit to orgasm!

It's the same for me - I can really really enjoy sex without orgasming, I just often feel the need to x

I do have partners who enjoy edging and purposely wait for ages to orgasm

It's not so much that I enjoy edging; I think there are a couple of different things going on.

That makes an interesting read.

My ex sometimes struggled to orgasm though penetrative sex or hand job/ bj and I took it personally, yet to him it wasn't a big deal.

Equally I also cannot climax with anyone else, and it doesn't bother me at all, yet partners are disappointed.

Sex certainly is complex."

The cultural expectations certainly are. We're all conditioned to believe there's only one way of having sex, and that it has to unfold and conclude in specific ways. It's just not true, though.

Different people experience and express pleasure differently.

I had a partner who could climax spontaneously just by thinking about it.

I had a partner who could no longer experience orgasm at all due to neurological damage.

I had a partner who could only cum in one specific position using one specific toy, regardless of who else was present and what they were doing.

I had partner who came so much that she had a panic attack and had to call "red".

It took me longer than I'd like to admit to understand and accept that none of the above was anything to do with me at all, let alone my "fault". Different people's bodies do different things.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

"Female ejaculation (squirting) is all about techniques

find the right spot and it’s 30 seconds flat first orgasm and squirting not long after "

Oh good, another squirting 'expert'...just what this forum has been lacking of late

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