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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

May seem a strange question but hear me out!

So I’ve never been turned on by the thought of sex with a woman and don’t consider myself bisexual but I am happy to play with another woman if it turns on hubby and means I get to see him have sex with another woman.

I’m intrigued to know if theirs a term for this and if so what that would be? I suppose I could be described as cuckqueen but I’d want to play as well not just watch, and I don’t consider myself as a unicorn because I wouldn’t meet couples on my own!

Any thoughts gratefully received

Minnie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hetero-flexible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hetero-flexible"

Hetro-flexible people find themselves attracted to people of the same sex but I’ve never been attracted to women, I just find it rude in the moment when I know it turns hubby on and means I’ll get to watch him play as well x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Bi playful

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By *ora 123Man
over a year ago

Basildon

Why put a label on it just enjoy yourself

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We dont really like labels ...Sue likes boys ......& girls ..Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it feels good and it's consensual, go with it

No need to label yourself. And even if you did, there's always someone who wouldn't agree.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try-sexual perhaps? That's what my gay friends call me

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

Taking one for the team?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just more intrigued tbh and would like to be able to explain ourselves better when we are chatting to people. Some people are only looking for bisexual females in a couple and may be put off if they don’t think I’m fully bi, if that makes sense lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try-sexual perhaps? That's what my gay friends call me "

That sounds like a good one lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it feels good and it's consensual, go with it

No need to label yourself. And even if you did, there's always someone who wouldn't agree.

X"

Can’t please everybody I suppose, and as long as we have fun that’s the main thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hetero-flexible

Hetro-flexible people find themselves attracted to people of the same sex but I’ve never been attracted to women, I just find it rude in the moment when I know it turns hubby on and means I’ll get to watch him play as well x "

Not quite - yes some heteexible people have a very weak attraction to same gender, but most do exactly what you describe, ie. have sex with same gender situationally or circumstantially, and in general can take it or leave it/mostly leave it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try-sexual perhaps? That's what my gay friends call me "

Haha like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pleaser!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not attracted to men but I'm happy to do things involving men to further a scene I'm attracted to, which most men would consider "gay".

I would consider myself straight. It's almost impossible to get a label to apply to yourself though, and if there was then not enough know about it to avoid just having to explain anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a fluffer... Haha! Warming them up for your Mr.

As long as your honest with the people you plan to meet then nothing wrong with that.

For me, nothing worse than someone stating they are bi and love women when actually it's for their husbands pleasure not their own, its really awkward and feel like a show pony which I'm not, but I respect the fact you're honest about your actual intentions Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hetero-flexible

Hetro-flexible people find themselves attracted to people of the same sex but I’ve never been attracted to women, I just find it rude in the moment when I know it turns hubby on and means I’ll get to watch him play as well x

Not quite - yes some heteexible people have a very weak attraction to same gender, but most do exactly what you describe, ie. have sex with same gender situationally or circumstantially, and in general can take it or leave it/mostly leave it "

That does describe it a little better then, just wasn’t sure I could consider it that if it meant being attracted to a woman, which although it doesn’t repulse me I wouldn’t say it does anything for me other than in the moment lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're a fluffer... Haha! Warming them up for your Mr.

As long as your honest with the people you plan to meet then nothing wrong with that.

For me, nothing worse than someone stating they are bi and love women when actually it's for their husbands pleasure not their own, its really awkward and feel like a show pony which I'm not, but I respect the fact you're honest about your actual intentions Xx "

We’d never meet anyone and not want it to be about mutual fun for all. If we are meeting a woman or couple we’d want it to be what we all wanted and make sure all three/four got exactly what they wanted out of it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're a fluffer... Haha! Warming them up for your Mr.

As long as your honest with the people you plan to meet then nothing wrong with that.

For me, nothing worse than someone stating they are bi and love women when actually it's for their husbands pleasure not their own, its really awkward and feel like a show pony which I'm not, but I respect the fact you're honest about your actual intentions Xx

We’d never meet anyone and not want it to be about mutual fun for all. If we are meeting a woman or couple we’d want it to be what we all wanted and make sure all three/four got exactly what they wanted out of it x"

Ahh! Makes sense maybe just as others have said a pleaser, I know many women who can play with women but don't see themselves in a relationship either, but as others have said fudge labels, way too many, as long as you and the others are enjoying it then who cares about labels Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why put a label on it just enjoy yourself "

This

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Taking one for the team?"

Good answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it feels good and it's consensual, go with it

No need to label yourself. And even if you did, there's always someone who wouldn't agree.

X

Can’t please everybody I suppose, and as long as we have fun that’s the main thing "

Exactly. A few of my gay friends (who know I'm on here) were rather offended that I listed myself as Bisexual. Their argument being that I've never dated a woman. I changed it to bi-curious and then a few couple's assumed that I wasn't overly into women

Can't win! Lol.

I've since changed it back to bisexual as I've played with women solo a fair bit since.

Sometimes I look for couples, sometimes women, mostly guys though. If it feels good, just roll with it

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it feels good and it's consensual, go with it

No need to label yourself. And even if you did, there's always someone who wouldn't agree.

X

Can’t please everybody I suppose, and as long as we have fun that’s the main thing

Exactly. A few of my gay friends (who know I'm on here) were rather offended that I listed myself as Bisexual. Their argument being that I've never dated a woman. I changed it to bi-curious and then a few couple's assumed that I wasn't overly into women

Can't win! Lol.

I've since changed it back to bisexual as I've played with women solo a fair bit since.

Sometimes I look for couples, sometimes women, mostly guys though. If it feels good, just roll with it

x"

We thought we’d leave ours as bisexual because like you, we don’t want it to seem like I won’t play when I will, and not as if I’m looking to date or anything lol

Next time you are looking for a couple then feel free to drop us a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly. A few of my gay friends (who know I'm on here) were rather offended that I listed myself as Bisexual. Their argument being that I've never dated a woman. I changed it to bi-curious and then a few couple's assumed that I wasn't overly into women

Can't win! Lol.

I've since changed it back to bisexual as I've played with women solo a fair bit since.

Sometimes I look for couples, sometimes women, mostly guys though. If it feels good, just roll with it

x"

Were you only allowed to call yourself straight once you started dating men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Taking one for the team?

Good answer "

Happy too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same! I don't class myself as fully bi and would be unlikely to meet a woman alone but I'm of the option if it feels good in the moment then do it! I do know what you mean about it being difficult explaining to potential meets xx

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By *exy penWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

There are far too many labels and I sometimes have to ask what they mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly. A few of my gay friends (who know I'm on here) were rather offended that I listed myself as Bisexual. Their argument being that I've never dated a woman. I changed it to bi-curious and then a few couple's assumed that I wasn't overly into women

Can't win! Lol.

I've since changed it back to bisexual as I've played with women solo a fair bit since.

Sometimes I look for couples, sometimes women, mostly guys though. If it feels good, just roll with it

x

Were you only allowed to call yourself straight once you started dating men? "

Fuck knows

I'm sure that whatever I put, someone would disagree lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Same! I don't class myself as fully bi and would be unlikely to meet a woman alone but I'm of the option if it feels good in the moment then do it! I do know what you mean about it being difficult explaining to potential meets xx "

We are of the opinion that if we are meant to meet it’ll easily come up in conversation and if it’s difficult to explain is it really worth the effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it feels good and it's consensual, go with it

No need to label yourself. And even if you did, there's always someone who wouldn't agree.

X

Can’t please everybody I suppose, and as long as we have fun that’s the main thing

Exactly. A few of my gay friends (who know I'm on here) were rather offended that I listed myself as Bisexual. Their argument being that I've never dated a woman. I changed it to bi-curious and then a few couple's assumed that I wasn't overly into women

Can't win! Lol.

I've since changed it back to bisexual as I've played with women solo a fair bit since.

Sometimes I look for couples, sometimes women, mostly guys though. If it feels good, just roll with it

x

We thought we’d leave ours as bisexual because like you, we don’t want it to seem like I won’t play when I will, and not as if I’m looking to date or anything lol

Next time you are looking for a couple then feel free to drop us a message "

Seems like a good move if you're looking to both meet women sometimes. I don't think there's a right or wrong. I'm sure you'll discover yourself what floats your boat over time.

My preferences are always changing and I just update y profile accordingly.

Ahh thank you, I'm very flattered

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey

Heteexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation, which may or may not distinguish it from bisexuality. It has been characterized as "mostly straight".

That's the definition I found when googling.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"May seem a strange question but hear me out!

So I’ve never been turned on by the thought of sex with a woman and don’t consider myself bisexual but I am happy to play with another woman if it turns on hubby and means I get to see him have sex with another woman.

I’m intrigued to know if theirs a term for this and if so what that would be? I suppose I could be described as cuckqueen but I’d want to play as well not just watch, and I don’t consider myself as a unicorn because I wouldn’t meet couples on my own!

Any thoughts gratefully received

Minnie x"

Don’t worry too much about the description, Minnie. Just try and enjoy whatever it is that excites you. That’s one of the pleasures of Fab

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

If you want to be, I hope that no one cares. I mean that in a good way! Be what you want x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider yourself "open to suggestions"

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

A fun girl....labels mean nothing. Just do what feels like fun for all present.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I like hetexible and pansexuality both I feel are closer to how I see myself. I feel I’ll always be in relationships with women and cannot see a time when I’d want to be in a fully committed relationship with a man.

That’s why I can no longer claim to be fully bi and I’m definitely not curious

Labels are created to help others understand a range of sexualities, but within those labels there is an amount of flexibility so you maybe closer to heterosexual than homosexual, depending on the moment an opportunity arises.

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